When shame becomes one's identity... this is what we call toxic shame. Toxic shame is the deeply ingrained sense of be inherently flawed and unlovable and is the core wound of an adult children of alcoholic and dysfunctional families. Key Takeaways: Recognizing the difference between healthy shame and toxic shame The internalization process that causes shame to go from being an emotion we experience to an identity What happens when our true self goes into hiding (shameful acting out vs shameless...
Mar 14, 2024•45 min•Season 1Ep. 153
Today we are joined by Shitshow Easton who shares about his upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and his ongoing journey of healing & recovery. ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT...
Mar 09, 2024•36 min
Kenny’s healing journey began 20 years ago when he first stepped foot into Mike’s office. The two recount their therapeutic relationship the importance of feeling seen and heard by your therapist. Prepare to journey into the heart of therapy, growth, and the brain's remarkable capacity to heal. Key Takeaways – The importance of selecting a mental health professional who is emotionally invested, has personal therapeutic experience, and makes you feel understood The profound effects of neurofeedba...
Mar 06, 2024•1 hr 24 min•Season 1Ep. 152
Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group. ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild 🛍️ SHITSHOW MERCH 🛍️ www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop 🎙...
Mar 02, 2024•35 min
Jamie McCoy is a licensed integrative psychotherapist and trauma coach who shares her personal and professional insights into chronic illness, generational trauma, and the intricate dance of dysfunctional family dynamics. We explore the pervasive patterns of denial, the pain of being labeled the family scapegoat, and the liberating journey to somatic experiencing—the key to reconnecting the mind and body for genuine recovery. www.myintegrativetherapist.com ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD ...
Feb 28, 2024•58 min•Season 1Ep. 151
Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group where we discuss gratitude, including the below reading from Strengthening My Recovery - Progress “The ACA program has brought me the miracle of life. I am able to experience compassion, forgiveness, love, and gratitude, the emotions that make my life worth living.” BRB p. 140 Before ACA, many of us were so mired in our dysfunctions that if someone asked us how we felt, we usually just said, “Fine.” We probably didn’t even know ...
Feb 24, 2024•34 min
Jodi White is a licensed therapist who is an expert in Love Addiction, Attachment Trauma, a trained Mother Hunger Facilitator, and host of the podcast Journals of a Love Addict. www.jodiwhitetherapy.com instagram.com/jodiwhite_ ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR S...
Feb 21, 2024•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 150
Today we are joined by Shitshow Karie who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery. ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT ...
Feb 17, 2024•37 min
Dr. Kirk Honda, PsyD, LMFT returns to discuss the intricacies of narcissism, emotional development, and the journey of healing from trauma. Key Takeaways The challenges of addressing trauma in therapy, including the risks of re-traumatization and the importance of therapist expertise in complex trauma. Concerns regarding the widespread misuse of clinical terms like "narcissism" and the potential harm caused by misinformation in the mental health sphere. How early childhood experiences, particula...
Feb 14, 2024•1 hr 23 min•Season 1Ep. 149
⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild 🛍️ SHITSHOW MERCH 🛍️ www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop 🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️ How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2...
Feb 10, 2024•35 min
Terry Baranski is a trauma-informed Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner who focuses on root causes rather than symptoms. IFS is a non-pathologising, powerfully transformative, evidence-based model of psychotherapy that believes we are all made up of several parts. In today's episode, we dive deeper into the modality, specifically the concept of the True Self. Ep 129 - Internal Family Systems, Parts Work & Procrastination w/ Terry Baranski Terry’s Website ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADU...
Feb 07, 2024•53 min•Season 1Ep. 148
Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group where we discuss gratitude, including the below reading from Strengthening My Recovery - Gratitude “The ACA program has brought me the miracle of life. I am able to experience compassion, forgiveness, love, and gratitude, the emotions that make my life worth living.” BRB p. 140 Before ACA, many of us were so mired in our dysfunctions that if someone asked us how we felt, we usually just said, “Fine.” We probably didn’t even know...
Feb 03, 2024•29 min
Nora (@innerbutterfly) is a self-empowerment coach who has navigated the complex journey of personal growth and self-discovery. She takes us through her liberating decision to end a three-year relationship that triggered deep-seated emotional wounds, and how meditation and spirituality played pivotal roles in healing. With newfound gratitude and self-confidence, Nora shares her incredible transformation, shedding light on her past experiences of living in constant survival mode, her strategies f...
Jan 31, 2024•58 min•Season 1Ep. 147
Today we are joined by Shitshow Trish who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery. ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT ...
Jan 27, 2024•43 min
Codependency almost killed her… In today’s episode, returning guest Tiffany Carter joins us for a powerful and insightful conversation on how codependency and love addiction are just as powerful of addictions as the rest. Tiffany candidly shares about hitting rock bottom from love addiction and the havoc it wreaked on her life 🎧 Episode Highlights: Is it love addiction, codependency or both - and which do you address first The symptoms and stages of love addiction The intersection of codependen...
Jan 24, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Season 1Ep. 146
Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group where we discuss ACA Step 1 "Step One “We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable”, including the below reading from Language of Letting Go - Powerlessness and Unmanageability Willpower is not the key to the way of life we are seeking. Surrender is. "I have spent much of my life trying to make people be, do, or feel something they aren't, don't want to do, and choose not to feel. I have ma...
Jan 20, 2024•35 min
Kenny Weiss is coach, YouTuber, and creator of the Emotional Authenticity Method. His most recent book Your Journey To Being Yourself: How to Overcome the Worst Day Cycle & Reclaim Your Authentic Self with Emotional Authenticity which provides several advanced processes that go beyond elevating your EQ and self-awareness. Rooted in the latest neuroscience, psychology, and his own journey in overcoming his self-detachment, this cutting-edge Emotional Authenticity (EA) approach brings to light...
Jan 17, 2024•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 145
Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group where we discuss toxic guilt, including the below reading from Language of Letting Go - Letting Go of Guilt (January 11th) "There's a good trick that people in dysfunctional relationships use," said one recovering woman. "The other person does something inappropriate or wrong, then stands there until you feel guilty and end up apologizing." It's imperative that we stop feeling so guilty. Much of the time, the things we feel guil...
Jan 13, 2024•37 min
Physical symptoms were Ana Maria's wake-up call 10 years ago. A trip to the ER led to a therapist's couch, where she learned that the adrenal fatigue and other on-going medical concerns she had been suffering from were the somatic symptoms of her unresolved developmental trauma. She has spent the past 10 years healing the scars of her past and helps others to do the same as a life coach and healing strategist. In today’s episode, we discuss… - The pattern of seeking familiar yet unhealthy dynami...
Jan 10, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Season 1Ep. 144
Today we are joined by Shitshow Francis who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery. ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CA...
Jan 06, 2024•32 min
Members of The Shitsohw Community share the most valuable lessons this year on their healing journey. ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild 🛍️ SHITSHOW MERCH 🛍️ ...
Jan 03, 2024•58 min•Season 1Ep. 143
Today we are joined by Shitshow Jessica who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery. ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CA...
Dec 30, 2023•43 min
In today's episode, Andrea dives deep with author, speaker and Adult Child expert - Tian Dayton. Tian shares her wisdom on a variety of adult child topics - from how the movement began, the ACOA trauma syndrome, codependency and much much more! Tian's website ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussi...
Dec 27, 2023•53 min•Season 1Ep. 143
Today we are joined by Shitshow Todd who shares about his upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and his ongoing journey of healing & recovery. ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT E...
Dec 23, 2023•34 min
⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild 🛍️ SHITSHOW MERCH 🛍️ www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop 🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️ How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2...
Dec 21, 2023•5 min
Sandra K's Shitshow Saturday (Audio) Sandra K's Shitshow Saturday (Video) ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱 www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild 🛍️ SHITSHOW MERCH 🛍️ www.adultchildpodcast.com/sh...
Dec 16, 2023•25 min
Terry Real is a renowned psychotherapist, author, and speaker celebrated for his significant contributions to the field of relational trauma and adult child issues. In today's episode, we delve into... 🌟 Embracing Vulnerability: Terry's candidness about his childhood abuse and the journey from grandiosity to vulnerability teaches us the power of facing our past to shape a healthier future. 💪 Setting Boundaries: Learn from Terry's experience on setting strict boundaries with dysfunctional famil...
Dec 13, 2023•42 min•Season 1Ep. 142
Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group where we discussed abandonment and insight's from this past week's episode on emotional flashbacks . ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL &...
Dec 09, 2023•42 min
Emotional flashbacks are a hallmark symptom of complex PTSD and one of the most painful repercussions of growing up in dysfunctional family. Emotional flashbacks occur when our unconscious/unresolved childhood trauma is triggered causing us to experience painful emotions of the past. In today’s episodes we discuss common triggers, how to identify when you are in the midst of a flashback, and tools for coping and healing. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker 13 Steps for Managi...
Dec 06, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 141
Today we are joined by Shitshow Haley who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery. ⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️ https://theshitshow.mn.co 4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST) Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER 👩 HELP A GIRL & CAT ...
Dec 02, 2023•46 min
