276 | Sanjay Pulver Today’s guest is Sanjay Pulver, an Indian adoptee who has become an outspoken adoptee advocate in recent years. We talk about the complexities of being adopted from an orphanage in a country that is not currently safe for him to return to as a queer trans man. We discuss the intersections between being transnationally and transracially adopted with being a trans person and Sanjay also shares about his experience with somatic therapy. Full Show Notes Here Join our adoptee comm...
Feb 23, 2024•55 min•Ep. 276
275 | Sara Docan-Morgan, Ph.D. Today’s guest is Dr. Sara Docan-Morgan, professor of communication studies and author of the book “In Reunion: Transnational Korean Adoptees and the Communication of Family”. Sara shares some of her personal story, and then we dig into her qualitative research from multiple Korean adoptees who have been in a relationship with their biological family for over a decade. There’s a treasure trove of reunion wisdom in this episode, including a new term that so perfectly...
Feb 09, 2024•56 min•Ep. 275
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Feb 02, 2024•10 min
274 | Julian Washio-Collette Today’s guest is Julian Washio-Collette, a writer and monastic spiritual seeker, whose story includes the rarity of being relinquished and adopted twice. Julian shares what he hears when someone says the term “forever family”, how building community was difficult here when seemingly no one else has had the same experience of being a double-adoptee, and we ponder what the spiritual implications of adoption may mean. Full Show Notes Here Join our adoptee community on P...
Jan 26, 2024•49 min•Ep. 274
273 | SunAh Laybourn, Ph.D. We are so excited to welcome professor and sociologist Dr. SunAh Laybourn today! Sunah’s brand new book is called Out of Place: The Lives of Korean Adoptee Immigrants and it is definitely one you’re going to want to add into your collection. Today we talk about SunAh’s research, the realization that heritage culture camps are prioritizing adoptive parents’ comfort, and the public’s perception of the still dire issue of adoptee citizenship. Haley finally gets to ask th...
Jan 19, 2024•56 min•Ep. 273
272 | James Cagney Today’s guest is award-winning poet, James Cagney. Author of Black Steel Magnolias in the Hour of Chaos Theory and Martian: The Saint of Loneliness, James is known for his absolutely dynamic live poetry readings, and we are honoured with a reading in this very episode! We discuss how James came to find out he was adopted, and as usual we’ve got questions about why parents keep these things a secret. Full Show Notes Here Join our adoptee community on Patreon here Check out our ...
Jan 12, 2024•59 min•Ep. 272
271 | Healing Series: Ask an Adoptee Therapist with Marta Isabella Sierra, LMHC Today’s episode is our last one before our holiday break. We’ll be back with brand-new weekly episodes on January 12, 2024. We wanted to bring you a Healing Series episode to make sure we all had a little extra support before the holiday rush takes over. This year we started a brand new event called Ask an Adoptee therapist, and it has been an absolutely amazing resource for the community. Today’s episode is a compil...
Dec 15, 2023•33 min•Ep. 271
270 | Sara Easterly Sara Easterly is back with us, she’s the author of Searching for Mom and the founder of Adoptee Voices. Today we’re talking about how Sara became friends with an adoptive mother and a birth mother in order to write a book called Adoption Unfiltered. It’s a hard conversation because when Haley got asked to endorse this book she had to say no, to a friend, who we value and deeply appreciate for her contributions to the adoptee community. So we got together to talk about it. We ...
Dec 08, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 270
269 | Dr. Liz DeBetta Today we welcome back Dr. Liz DeBetta, author of Adult Adoptees and Writing to Heal: Migrating Toward Wholeness. Liz shares some reunion updates with us, including some very sad news about her sister. We discuss what lead her to choose to remain childfree. And of course, we talk about how writing, re-writing and examining the stories that have been placed upon us can help reconnect us to ourselves. Today’s episode has mentions of sudden death, abuse and abortion. Full Show ...
Dec 01, 2023•58 min•Ep. 269
268 | Kimberly McKee, Ph.D. We are so excited to host critical adoption studies scholar, Dr. Kimberly McKee. She’s the author of the impactful book Disrupting Kinship, and her brand new release is Adoption Fantasies: The Fetishization of Asian Adoptees from Girlhood to Womanhood. We talk about Kim’s reunion with her family in Korea, where she’s currently living with her young son, and what it’s like parenting through reunification and reculturation. We talk about adoption in pop culture, and how...
Nov 24, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 268
267 | Jessica Hairston Today our guest is poet Jessica Hairston, author of Power of Our Wombs. Jessica shares her complex origin story, where both of her biological parents were struggling with addiction when she was born, apprehended and adopted soon after. We talk about “the traveling trauma” that has impacted her family system and the power of the word womb which features prominently in her poetry collection. Full Show Notes Here This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only...
Nov 17, 2023•43 min•Ep. 267
266 | Susan Kiyo Ito Today’s guest is the indomitable Susan Kiyo Ito. She has been writing, advocating, and leading in the adoptee community for decades and we are all the richer for it. Susan’s brand new memoir, I Would Meet You Anywhere, has just been released and it is fantastic. We talk about how Susan first discovered an adoptee memoir at her local library at age 13, and how that changed the course of her life. We’ve got adoptee activism history, relatable reunion problems, and the power of...
Nov 10, 2023•57 min•Ep. 266
265 | Louise & Sarah You might know today’s guests and recognize their voices from their podcast, Adoption: The Making of Me. Louise Browne and Sarah Reinhardt are here! Today we hear about how their friendship started, they dish about some of the fights they’ve had and how they’ve sustained their close friendship. We also talk about all the books they’ve read in community with their audience, and which ones have been most impactful on their understanding of the impact of adoption. *TW: We m...
Nov 03, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 265
264 | Healing Series: Adoptee Remembrance Day Adoptee Remembrance Day was first commemorated on October 30, 2020. We’ve done a variety of episodes over the last few years beginning in 2020 with an interview with the founder of Adoptee Remembrance Day, Pamela Karanova. We’ve had listeners submit recordings of their thoughts, their poetry and prose. In deciding what to do this year, we were considering what would be most impactful for our community and we chose to do a healing series episode about...
Oct 27, 2023•41 min•Ep. 264
263 | Stefany Valentine - When We Become Ours Today’s episode is a celebration for When We Become Ours: A YA Adoptee Anthology which releases on October 24, 2023. The first of its kind, edited by Shannon Gibney and Nicole Chung, with fifteen adoptee authors is cause for celebration. We’re going to hear from an emerging author, Stefany Valentine, who shares her story of being adopted at age twelve, while her biological father had a terminal illness. She is the first step-parent adoptee we’ve had ...
Oct 20, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 263
262 Healing Series: Difficult Relationships This is a special episode in our healing series where we talk to adoptees who are also therapists. We’re going to call this episode a sort of “tune-up” for anyone who is in a period of estrangement or separation from a close relationship, whether it's adoptive parents, bio parents, somebody close in your life. We’re talking through some of the things people don't talk about publicly and some things to consider that might be impacting your life and you ...
Oct 13, 2023•37 min•Ep. 262
261 | Lanise Antoine Shelley Today’s guest is actor, director, playwright and podcaster, Lanise Antoine Shelley. Lanise shares about being adopted from a Haitian orphanage at age 4 by her single white adoptive mother and how exploring the impact of adoption over the last three years has challenged her connections with her adoptive family. Lanise also tells us about when she realized that her removal from Haiti left a huge hole for her entire biological family that was left behind, including her ...
Oct 06, 2023•51 min•Ep. 261
260 Mike Hoyt Today’s guest is Mike Hoyt, a remarkable artist and author of the graphic memoir of Hanabata Days. We discuss his reunion and subsequent reunification process with his first father. Mike also shares how reunification has impacted his own identity and that of his daughters’. Full Show Notes Here This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please...
Sep 29, 2023•54 min•Ep. 260
Welcome back! Our first episode of Fall 2023 is a sampling of great advice from some of our favourite adoptee therapists about planning a first meeting with biological family, grieving the loss of an adoptive parent, and some relationship topics. Pam Cordano, MFT, Marta Isabella Sierra, LMHC, and Lesli A. Johnson, MFT are some of the therapists we’ve hosted on Ask an Adoptee Therapist events for Patreon supporters. We also don’t want you to miss our September book club, we’ll be hosting Mary Gau...
Sep 22, 2023•27 min•Ep. 259
258 | Nicole Chung We are so thrilled to welcome Nicole Chung back to the podcast. Nicole’s new memoir, A Living Remedy, is a heartbreaking pilgrimage where we walk with her through her grief in losing both of her adoptive parents within a few short years of each other. We talk a lot about grieving today: depression, avoidance, grief rituals, how our loved ones can show up for us, the joy pets can bring us in the worst of times. As an adoptee, Nicole has been one of the stalwart leaders in our c...
Jun 23, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 258
257 | Sarah Myer We are so excited to introduce you to Sarah Myer, author of the forthcoming graphic memoir, Monstrous. Today Sarah and I talk about their love of comics, anime, and cosplay and how it lead them to explore their own identity as a Korean adoptee and comic artist. We also talk about anger and violence and how it can be incredibly scary when it’s erupting out of ourselves. Full Show Notes Here This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, eit...
Jun 16, 2023•47 min•Ep. 257
256 Kira Omans We are so thrilled to talk with actor, audiobook narrator, and adoptee advocate, Kira Omans today. Kira shares how looking deeply at adoption over the past decade has changed her perspective. We talk about what it’s like to audition as an adoptee and to embody a new character and identity during a performance. Of course, we get to chat about adoptee representation in Hollywood and the media, including how watching just one documentary upended what Kira thought was her origin story...
Jun 09, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 256
255 Sarah Audsley We are thrilled to introduce you to Sarah Audsley today! Sarah’s debut poetry collection Landlock X is our June Adoptees On(ly) Book Club pick. Today Sarah shares about how a reunion with genetic family in Korea only opened up more questions for her. We talk about cultural differences, context that can be lost in translation, and how she may be an anomaly with accurate records from the adoption agency. We talk through several of Sarah’s poems and our excitement surrounding the ...
Jun 02, 2023•50 min•Ep. 255
254 [Healing Series] Adoptee Superpowers Today we are talking with Dr. Chaitra Wirta-Leiker about adoptee superpowers. Don’t worry, we’re not going to express gratitude for a traumatic experience over here, it’s more about understanding what are some common traits we hold and how can we embrace and make use of them to our advantage. We talk about perfectionism, empathy, people-pleasing, control, attachment, independence and more. We know you’re going to find something you relate to in today’s ep...
May 26, 2023•38 min•Ep. 254
253 Dr. Sam and Sandria We are thrilled to bring you two fellow podcasters today! Dr. Samantha Coleman and Sandria Washington are our guests from Black to the Beginning. They share their stories of being friends who just coincidentally found out a few years apart in adulthood that they also were both adopted. We talk about the lack of resources for same race black adoptees and how Dr. Sam and Sandria are working to build the community and supports they wish they had when they first found out the...
May 19, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 253
252 Anne Elise Today’s guest is our friend, Anne Elise. Anne lives abroad and we talk about some of the intersections she sees between living as an American expat and being an adopted person. Anne shares what it’s like growing up with an adopted brother who was keen to live out the defiant “acting out” adoptee stereotype. We also talk about our love of reading adoptee-authored work and rejection from our birthmothers. Full Show Notes Here This podcast is for educational and entertainment purpose...
May 12, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 252
251 Cam Lee Small, MS, LPCC Full Show Notes Here This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated....
May 05, 2023•47 min•Ep. 251
250 | [Healing Series] Pet Loss and Grief If you’ve been around the show for a while, you may remember that almost exactly one year ago Haley said goodbye to her dog, Lucy. We had so many people reach out during that time who had also lost a pet companion and so we started this conversation as a community about how especially weighty the grief can be for an adopted person. Today’s guest is Laura Summers, LMFT, an adoptee and therapist, and we are talking how pet loss is a form of disenfranchised...
Apr 28, 2023•54 min•Ep. 250
249 Angela Tucker Today’s guest is Angela Tucker, one of the most well-known adopted people in our community, subject of the documentary Closure, now turned author of You Should Be Grateful: Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption. Angela shares about her time as a caseworker in private adoption, and about the difficulties of balancing the tightrope act of critiquing adoption and still being invited back into adoption spaces. We also chat about how the subject of adoption shows up in...
Apr 21, 2023•52 min•Ep. 249
248 Jeff Nyhuis & Amy Geller, LCSW If you are someone who is looking to have a relationship but have struggled to connect with past partners, or you are feeling misunderstood in your current relationship whenever you start talking about adoption, I think this conversation will be extremely helpful for you. Today we are joined by Amy Geller, LCSW, an adoptee and therapist, and her husband Jeff Nyhuis. Amy found herself repeating some self-sabotaging patterns in romantic relationships and when...
Apr 14, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 248
