Challenging Adoption Norms and Embracing Queer Parenting: A Conversation with Yomi
Episode description
Adoptee Origin Story: Ayomide Bee
Is Adoption Human Trafficking? With Ayomide Bee
Selling children is human trafficking, so why isn’t adoption considered human trafficking? It’s state-sanctioned trafficking with a paper trail.
Ayomide Bee shares her adoption story as a queer transracial adoptee.
Her take is not only that same-sex couples shouldn’t adopt - but that adoption should be abolished.
Listen to her origin story & views.
“Just because it's legal doesn't mean that it's not trafficking. Slavery was legal. The residential homes were legal. Legality doesn't mean a goddamn thing.” - Ayomide Bee
What We Discussed
(00:31) Story of Ayomide Bee
(02:32) Always being the topic of conversation OR Knowing yourself by how people talk about you OR Our story = other people’s stories of us?
(04:23) Coming out of the fog OR Finding wonky stuff in the adoption paperwork
(05:22) Being forced into adoption
(08:07) Decision to go no contact
(12:13) How she wants her adoptive parents to take accountability
(14:15) Should same-sex couples adopt?
(19:58) Is adoption human trafficking?
(25:24) Adoption alternatives
(28:48) Relationship w/bio grandma (who suggested adoption) OR Anger toward grandma
(37:19) What does abolishing adoption look like?
(40:30) Connecting with Ayomide
Links
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Credits
Special thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at Drumaboyiglobal@gmail.com