34. Being Neurotypical in a relationship with a ADHD person with Sharon Collon

Jane interviews Sharon Collin from 'The Functional Family' on relationships.

Sharon has a ADHD husband and three sons with ADHD, she herself is neurotypical.

Sharon has studied ADHD heavily and built a coaching business and family membership around it.

Highlights

- Sharon and Jane discuss the frustration, anger and common problems that occur between two different

brains managing a house hold.

- Sharon discusses the changes in her attitude over time, how she looks at her husband with curiosity not

frustration. There is always a danger to nag or 'mother' an ADHD person - this is a romance killer!

- What attracted Sharon to her husband

- What Sharon's husband went through as a child at school - being labelled 'naughty'

and the kid that no one wanted to hang out with. Sharon is determined this will not happen to her sons.

- Sharon talks on forgiveness and patience and learning to accept the whole person.

- Sharon talks on 'Predictable Problems,' what they are and how they impact a relationship.

- Jane and Sharon talk about dynamics that can eat away at your relationship.

- The invisible mother load and how having ADHD impacts this.

- Jane and Sharon talk about 'family meetings' once a week (template available on Sharon's website)

- Jane and Sharon talk about how different brains listen and solve problems.  

- What are you good at - let's all play to our strengths.

- Tap in and out with your husband or partner 

- Horrifying example of Sharon husband selling car out from underneath her LOLZ!!

- Jane shares a personal struggle she is struggling with and Sharon helps sorts her out. 

Serious question: Can Sharon marry me ?? Why is she so accepting? I need to be more like that.

Episode Notes

Check out Sharon at https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/

 https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/blog/letscallafamilymeeting (family meeting template)

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