You quit drinking to feel better — and you do. But you also feel... a little lost. Your old life doesn’t quite fit, and the new one still feels unfamiliar. Welcome to the identity crisis no one warned you about. In this episode, we’re talking about what really happens after you get sober — the part beyond the cravings and the willpower. Because when alcohol is no longer part of your life, it takes your old routines, confidence, and identity with it. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even recogniz...
Jul 02, 2025•20 min•Ep. 379
If you’ve been telling yourself, “I don’t think I need to quit completely—maybe I can just cut back…” This episode is for you. I’m sharing a story about a client—let’s call her Sarah—who had all the drinking “rules”: ✅only on weekends ✅never before 5 p.m. ✅only wine And still… every Monday, she felt ashamed. Not because she got blackout drunk—but because she broke yet another promise to herself. That’s when it hit me—what Sarah really wanted wasn’t moderation. She wanted to drink without consequ...
Jun 25, 2025•16 min•Ep. 378
If wine feels like the only way you can get through dinner, laundry, or one more bedtime meltdown—this episode is for you. In this powerful solo episode, I’m diving deep into the emotional truth behind mommy wine culture and why it’s not about the alcohol—it’s about the overwhelm, burnout, and emotional depletion so many moms are silently carrying. We’re breaking down: Why quantity doesn’t define a drinking problem—intention does The emotional load motherhood places on women (and what alcohol pr...
Jun 18, 2025•19 min•Ep. 377
What to Do When Cravings Hit and Drinking Feels Like the Only Option When a craving hits, it can feel instant and overwhelming. One minute you’re handling your day, and the next, your brain is screaming for a drink. But here's the truth: you don't actually want the drink—you want relief. And in this episode, I'm giving you the tools to get that relief without sabotaging your sobriety. We’re breaking down the C.A.L.M. Method, a 4-step, science-backed process you can use in the exact moment a crav...
Jun 11, 2025•21 min•Ep. 376
You don’t drink because you’re weak. You drink because you’ve been stuck in patterns no one ever taught you how to recognize. In this powerful solo episode, I’m walking you through five emotional patterns that quietly sabotage your sobriety—even if you’ve quit drinking before, even if you think you “should have this figured out by now.” These patterns are subtle, but they run deep… and they’re often the very reason women end up back at Day One. So if you’ve ever asked yourself: “Why do I keep do...
Jun 04, 2025•19 min•Ep. 375
You don’t actually want the drink.You want relief.You want to quiet your mind, slow your breath, and feel just a little more okay. But here’s what you may not realize:You don’t need alcohol to get there.You need tools—tools that work with your brain and your body, not against them. In this episode, I’m giving you 5 powerful, science-backed things you can do instead of drinking tonight—things that soothe your nervous system, break the craving loop, and help you feel proud of yourself when your he...
May 28, 2025•23 min•Ep. 374
Do you feel like your sobriety gets harder the second a family event hits the calendar? You’re not imagining it—family is one of the most powerful and underestimated sobriety triggers. The roles, the judgment, the pressure to be “fine”—it all adds up to stress, emotional regression, and the urge to escape. In this episode, we break down why family triggers hit so hard (even years into recovery), how your nervous system gets hijacked by old conditioning, and what to do before, during, and after t...
May 21, 2025•22 min
You’ve probably been here before… You say this time will be different. You make a plan, set your intentions, tell yourself you’re really going to do it. You’ll say no to the wine night. You’ll go to the meeting. You’ll open the journal, start the morning routine, follow through. But then… you don’t. And you tell yourself you’ll start tomorrow. Again. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep sabotaging your own progress — even when you desperately want to succeed — this episode is for you. We’re not ...
May 14, 2025•22 min•Ep. 372
Here’s what to do when you're trying to stay sober… and everyone around you is still drinking like nothing’s changed. Whether it’s your partner having a glass of wine with dinner, your friends pouring cocktails on the summer trip, or your coworkers heading out for happy hour—being the only one not drinking can feel isolating, awkward, and downright exhausting. And if you’ve quit drinking before (maybe more than once), you might be thinking, “I don’t even want to tell anyone this time.” If that’s...
May 07, 2025•20 min•Ep. 371
Early sobriety can feel like emotional whiplash—your brain is loud, your body is anxious, and you’re constantly wondering how to make it through the day without drinking. That’s why creating a daily sobriety routine isn’t just helpful—it’s essential. In this episode, we’re digging into the power of routine and how building just a few small, calming habits into your day can help reduce cravings, lower anxiety, and give you back a sense of control—without overwhelm or perfectionism. Whether you’re...
Apr 30, 2025•24 min•Ep. 370
You’ve been sober for a while now. The cravings are manageable. The routines are in place. But something still feels… off. You're no longer who you used to be—but you're not exactly sure who you are now. You’ve done the work of quitting alcohol… but no one prepared you for what comes next: The identity shift. In this episode, we’re talking about what happens after you stop drinking—when the buzz is gone, and you’re left with the question: “Who am I without alcohol?” I’ll walk you through the emo...
Apr 23, 2025•25 min•Ep. 369
You’ve said it before: “I don’t want to do AA,” or “I’ll figure this out on my own.” But if you’re stuck in the cycle—making promises, breaking them, and wondering why nothing sticks—this episode is your wake-up call. In this powerful conversation we break down the real reasons your past attempts to quit drinking haven’t worked… and what it actually takes to get and stay sober—with a program or without one. You’ll learn: Why success rates are low across all recovery paths (and what most people m...
Apr 16, 2025•20 min•Ep. 368
You quit drinking. People congratulated you. Maybe you posted your day count, joined a group, downloaded a tracker, even started journaling… But deep down, it still feels like you’re just barely holding it together. This is white-knuckling—where you’re sober, but not free. Surviving… not thriving. And what no one tells you is: that’s not recovery. That’s emotional burnout. You’ve heard me say this before: sober is quitting the substance. Recovery is healing so you don’t go back to the substance....
Apr 09, 2025•23 min•Ep. 367
If you’ve relapsed recently or had a drink after a solid streak of sobriety, I want you to take a deep breath and hear this: ✨ You are not broken.✨ You have not failed.✨ And you are absolutely not alone. Whether it’s a one-time slip or a full-on spiral, relapse doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It’s feedback. And it’s fixable. If you're feeling stuck in guilt, shame, or that voice in your head telling you, “You blew it,” this episode is your safe space to breathe, regroup, and move forward. 🎙️ In thi...
Apr 02, 2025•17 min•Ep. 366
People often ask me, “How do you stay sober when life gets stressful?” And my answer is always the same: I don’t just work on staying sober—I work on managing stress and anxiety every single day. Because here’s the truth: Your brain doesn’t actually want alcohol—it wants relief. When you’re overwhelmed, exhausted, or anxious, your first instinct is to reach for something that changes how you feel. And if alcohol has been your go-to coping mechanism for years, of course your brain still thinks th...
Mar 26, 2025•19 min•Ep. 365
Your sobriety isn’t determined by one big decision—it’s shaped by the small, daily choices you make. If you’re wondering why staying sober feels so hard or why you keep falling into the same patterns, it’s time to take a closer look at your daily decisions for sobriety. In this episode, we’re diving into the subtle habits that either strengthen or sabotage your recovery. Are you prioritizing your sobriety the way you once prioritized drinking? Are you still making excuses instead of real commitm...
Mar 19, 2025•19 min
Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of overeating, promising this time will be different, only to break that promise again? The guilt, the frustration, the feeling that you just can’t trust yourself—it’s exhausting. If you’ve ever wondered why food feels like it has power over you, this episode is for you. Today, I’m sitting down with Tim, who spent decades battling compulsive overeating while working in the high-pressure world of Hollywood. His mind was constantly consumed with food...
Mar 12, 2025•36 min•Ep. 363
Have you ever tried to control your drinking with rules like, only on weekends, only two drinks, only on special occasions… only to find yourself breaking them? Have you ever told yourself, "I'm not really an alcoholic," just to justify drinking? Or maybe you've struggled with the fear of labeling yourself but still felt deep down that alcohol had too much control in your life? The truth is, when alcohol is a problem, moderation is just a trap to keep you stuck. We stay stuck in the cycle becaus...
Mar 05, 2025•24 min•Ep. 362
Why do people flake? Why do they lie in their profiles? Why does it feel like no one is actually looking for a real connection? Dating apps promise endless possibilities, yet so many of us find ourselves endlessly frustrated. You swipe and swipe, hoping for a spark, only to be ghosted, breadcrumbed, or hit with yet another "Hey" that leads nowhere. It’s exhausting, discouraging, and sometimes downright infuriating. It’s easy to blame the apps, the algorithm, or the people on the other end of the...
Feb 26, 2025•38 min•Ep. 361
You have more power in your dating life than you think. The way we think about dating—our expectations, assumptions, and mindset—shapes our experience before we even meet someone. When we go in with pressure, self-doubt, or fear of rejection, dating feels hard, like a lost cause, and discouraging. But with a few small mindset shifts, dating can become lighter, more fun, and way less stressful. In today’s episode, I’m sharing the life-changing lessons I learned from my sponsor—lessons that helped...
Feb 19, 2025•29 min•Ep. 360
That rush of excitement when you meet or match with someone new—the butterflies, the spark, the hope that maybe this time it’s real. And then… it fizzles. They ghost. 🚫 They’re not who they said they were. 🎭 Their pictures were old or heavily filtered, and you don’t even recognize them in real life. 🤦♀️ Or worse—they seem amazing, but they don’t feel the same way about you. And just like that, excitement turns into disappointment, frustration, maybe even bitterness. Sound familiar? Let’s be ...
Feb 12, 2025•26 min•Ep. 359
Ever feel like you’re stuck in a cycle of attracting the wrong people? You keep finding yourself in confusing, frustrating, or downright toxic relationships and you’re left wondering: What is wrong with me? Why do I always attract liars, cheaters, or emotionally unavailable people? Are there even any good ones out there?! If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And in this episode, we’re breaking it all down. 👉 Why do we attract the same types of people over and over again? 👉 What subconsci...
Feb 05, 2025•28 min•Ep. 358
Everyone has compulsions or addictions, and needs relief from the discomforts of life. Whether you’re in a treatment center getting treatment for substance abuse, or the soccer mom who struggles with overeating that doesn’t resonate with typical alcoholic or addict, but can’t stop using food to feel better – to the people-pleaser that is causing major discomfort in their own life, and the lives of everyone around them - they're seeking support and could use the steps without the program because ...
Jan 29, 2025•47 min•Ep. 357
Have you heard the term dry drunk and wondered, “Is that me?” Can you be sober and be a dry drunk? Or you may think, what’s the difference between dry drunk vs. sober or in recovery. Today, I’m going to break down the ins and outs of dry drunk. From what does it mean and is it me all the way to how to avoid it and/or change it. This is a jam-packed episode and perfect for the newbie, just getting sober, or the seasoned old-timer who always needs a good reminder of the importance of emotional sob...
Jan 22, 2025•29 min•Ep. 356
Have you ever felt stuck in the shadow of your past, unable to move forward but unsure of how to start healing? In this transformative episode, we dive deep into the power of healing trauma and how it can unlock a life of clarity, confidence, and emotional freedom. Whether you’ve experienced a single event or the ongoing stress of circumstances like the recent California wildfires, or maybe you don't even know you have trauma because you had a great childhood - this conversation is here to remin...
Jan 15, 2025•51 min•Ep. 355
Happy New Year, my friend! I hope you are waking up today ready to tackle this thing HEAD ON. If this is your day 1... I'm glad you are ready to kick some a** and make big changes starting today. There's no way around it. Holiday season is ex-haust-ing. I'm right there with you. 🙌 If your head is a little fuzzy today, I want you to start with nourishing your body. Drink lots of water, get rest, and take a little time to do a gratitude list to start the first day of 2025 on the right foot. Don't...
Jan 01, 2025•10 min•Ep. 354
From the outside, it might look like everything is smooth sailing, but the truth is, even those of us thriving in sobriety encounter challenges. As we wrap up 2024, I’m pulling back the curtain to share some personal struggles I’ve faced this year. In this episode, I open up about what’s been going on behind the scenes, how I’ve coped, and the lessons I’ve learned about resilience and self-compassion. Recovery is about more than just quitting alcohol—it’s about learning to handle life on life’s ...
Dec 25, 2024•24 min•Ep. 353
Have you been trying to stay sober but find yourself back at square one? You’re not alone, and it’s not about lacking willpower. In this episode, we uncover the hidden roadblocks that could be sabotaging your sobriety. These challenges often fly under the radar, making it difficult to maintain progress. I'll share five of the most common roadblocks and offer practical strategies to overcome them. Get ready to identify these sneaky obstacles and take control of your sobriety journey. What You’ll ...
Dec 18, 2024•34 min•Ep. 352
True transformation happens when you fully embrace your identity as a non-drinking person and create a recovery lifestyle. It’s not just about quitting alcohol, it’s about stepping into a new lifestyle, taking responsibility, living with purpose, and feeling totally empowered by it all. When you want long-term sobriety, to feel confident in your recovery, and be happier… building a recovery lifestyle is the answer. So the question is, how do you do that? Especially in a world that is saturated w...
Dec 11, 2024•46 min•Ep. 351
Did you know that many people don’t realize they’re on the path to relapse until it’s too late? The truth is, relapse doesn’t happen in a single moment—it’s a slow buildup of emotions, stressors, and unchecked behaviors that compromise your decision-making over time. In this episode, we’re breaking down the early warning signs of relapse so you can recognize them before they get the best of you. From seemingly harmless triggers like work stress and family dynamics to emotional overwhelm and self...
Dec 04, 2024•21 min•Ep. 350
