Does He Need Help or Condemnation
Episode description
There’s a powerful question that A Course in Miracles suggests we ask ourselves anytime we’re tempted to be angry or upset with another person. And that question is this: “Does he need help or condemnation?”
When we’re with our ego, we see all the reasons why this person deserves our wrath. They did this awful, unkind thing to us. They are not a good person - at least not in a particular moment. They were unfair. They should feel bad for what they did.
And so on.
But when we step back and ask ourselves that question: “Does he need help or condemnation?” we realize the answer is always the former. He needs help.
In fact, every awful thing anyone does (including us) is a call for help. It’s an unconscious plea that essentially says, “I don’t feel that I’m worthy of love. I am not feeling loved. I am afraid, I feel all alone.”
When we can “hear” that plea from everyone - then we can respond in the most loving way - which is without condemnation but instead with healing help.