136 // 10 ways to get out of a rut and back into routine

00:02 - Jess Martin (Host)
Welcome to the Abundant and Aligned podcast, where we welcome women who are ready to live the life of their dreams. So if that's you, I'm so glad you're here. I'm Jess, your host and your new bestie, here to remind you to dream big, live with intention and believe that actually, yes, you can. Here we talk all things mindset and personal development. We are on a mission to create abundance in all areas of our life, and playing small just isn't our jam. So if you're ready to expand your mind to the possibilities, turn off autopilot and start showing up with intention. Buckle up for the ride. We are Abundant and Aligned. Hello everyone, and welcome back to the Abundant and Aligned podcast. Thank you for tuning in to another episode and I hope you're having a beautiful start to your week. 

00:50
I am coming to you well, as I'm recording this first day back in the office after being away camping with family down in Wollongong and then I went and had some time at my parents' house in Canberra. So I did the big drive back from Canberra up to the Gold Coast yesterday, which is a 12 hour drive, and everyone always calls me crazy when I do it, but I actually enjoy it. I would obviously not do it if I was just going for the weekend, but if I'm going for at least a week, I don't know. I just like the freedom to be able to get in my car when I want and just head off when I want, stop when I want, and just use that time to catch up on telegram messages with my mastermind in the academy, like have some thoughts for the business, listen to podcasts like when do you get 12 hours to just sit and do nothing? But those kinds of things. It's a vibe and, to be honest, I'm going through an era where I can't stand airports and flying. I don't get anxious or scared or anything like that, but just the whole getting there, sitting in the airport for an hour, the flights delayed, I don't know, like by the time I get a flight to Canberra, if I just sat in the car for an extra four hours, which seems like a lot, but I would be there. 

02:04
Anyways, I digress, that's where I've been, but I'm back in the office today and excited to sit down and record an episode for you all today and, as the title says, this episode is all about getting out of a rut and back into a routine and I'm going to be sharing 10 things that I would suggest doing. That has come from personal experience, because I never thought I would sit and record the episode from the point of view of being in a rut because I do have really good routines and it's kind of thrown me off a little bit, because I honestly don't remember the last time I have felt like this, just so out of whack and in a bit of a rut. So I thought why not get on here and just share what has been going on for me behind the scenes, what I'm personally doing to get back into my mojo and my vibe, for anyone else who is going through a rut goes through a rut. I mean, it happens to all of us. I'm not saying I have never been in this situation before, but it's been a long time and it took me a while to realize why it was happening. So, yeah, anyways, I'm going to unpack all of that with you today in terms of kind of what's been going on for me and, as I said, 10 things that I'm really honing in on to help me get back into my routines and out of this weird thing that I've been in. And, yeah, I feel like you guys will really take a lot away from it Before I do, as usual, just some housekeeping. 

03:30
So the Manifestation Morning Bundle is now available on my website for you guys to go and grab. I will be talking about that a lot today because it includes all of the practices that I do in my morning routine which I have really been ramping up to get out of my rut. So if you want to get access to literally everything I do in my morning routines, then go and grab that bundle. You get four masterclasses which include the manifestation basics masterclass, so just a general masterclass about what manifestation is, the concepts and principles behind it, how to actually be an intentional manifester. And then you dive into a manifestation morning masterclass which is going to help you curate a morning routine that hits the main points that we want to hit when it comes to a morning routine and that is making you feel good, raising your vibration and upgrading your subconscious mind, and you'll get a whole bunch of ideas that you can throw in and figure out what you like best. Then you also get two masterclasses really helpful for those who are like I'm seeing everyone journal on social media and have no idea you like best. Then you also get two masterclasses really helpful for those who are like I'm, seeing everyone journal on social media and have no idea what to write. 

04:29
I give you four different practices that are really, really powerful. All of the practices I've used to bring the pages of my journal to life and I've kind of shared this over the last couple of years, going back and actually reading my journal and seeing how much of that has manifested. So a really cool practice to master. And then you also get a masterclass on how to meditate, to manifest. And again I'll take you through a couple of practices that are really powerful in mostly upgrading your subconscious mind, which is obviously key because the subconscious is literally running your show. Everything you see in your life is coming from your subconscious programs, not what you're consciously choosing. So it's really important that you're getting in there and picking out the old seeds and putting in some new ones so that you can create a different life and different results. So that's the bundle. And then you also get, I think, seven or eight meditations, manifesting tracks, a worksheet actually a pretty good bundle and you have it forever so you can go back and listen to all of that as much as you need and you get all of the meditations for as long as you need. So that's now available. I've linked it in the show notes below but, as I mentioned, I will be referring to that a lot in our episode today. 

05:40
So let's have a chat about getting out of a rut and back into a routine, and I have a bit of a structure that I wanted to follow today just to make sure that I'm hitting all of the points that I wanted to get across Because, as I said, this has literally come from my diary, like my journal, in terms of what I've been navigating and going through to help me get back on track. The first step to getting out of a rut and back into routine is, of course, establishing why you're in the rut. So what's happened for you to fall off the bandwagon or get out of your routines? And I've come up with three or four pointers to consider to find your answers as to why you've been in a bit of a rut and just kind of felt a bit off. The number one thing is what did you stop doing so? 

06:25
Likely the reason we are in a rut and we've really lost the momentum is because we've stopped doing everything that helped create the momentum and help create that feeling of just feeling really good. And if you go and do a bit of an audit, there will be one or multiple things that you've stopped doing that you can really pinpoint of like, okay, yeah, for example, I've stopped going to the gym, I've stopped meditating, I've stopped eating good whole foods, I've stopped enforcing boundaries, like there'll be something clearly that you have stopped doing. In order to answer that first question, so really just establishing what it is that you've stopped the next question is what have you changed? What it is that you've stopped? The next question is what have you changed? So maybe you have been away on holidays and your usual morning routine or your usual routines have been interrupted because you've been sipping cocktails on an island. Maybe you've had visitors staying at your house, so that's kind of like got in your way and thrown again your usual routines out of whack. Maybe you've literally just had a baby. Maybe you've changed jobs, so your schedule is different, really just taking a look at what in your life has changed and ultimately kind of thrown you out of what was normal for you before feeling the way that you've been feeling. 

07:42
The next question to establish why you're in a rut and create that awareness piece is what do you need to change? So, no longer looking at what did you change, but flipping that and saying what do you need to change? So, particularly with women, we need change, we need creativity, and this goes against all principles that will tell you you need to stay consistent and routines need to look exactly the same in order to build a habit While, yes, you need to have, obviously, an element of consistency in order to turn a task or routines into a habit that you can kind of do on autopilot, but I am the biggest believer in still having change within those consistent habits. So little things like doing your morning routine from a different location. You know these are micro things you can do, obviously, changing your environment in terms of where you're working, wearing different clothes to the gym, changing the gym that you're going to or the type of exercise that you're doing. And then, of course, there's macro changes you could make. So changing jobs, creating a new direction in your business, talking about things differently on your social media, moving to a different city these are some macro changes that you could look at implementing to ultimately bring some creativity in. So, again, it could be really simple for you. 

09:07
Maybe you're just bored of the routines. Maybe the exercise regime and the journaling and the meditating and the routines and the foods and the things you've been doing up until this point. Maybe you're just bored of them, and that's okay as well. And I think we're so quick to judge ourself, we're so quick to say I'm unmotivated, I'm lazy, I always do this. Why can't I stick to things? Sometimes you just need to trust that maybe it's just not lighting you up anymore and it's time for a redirection. So the invitation is there Like, stop labeling yourself with things like lazy, unmotivated, I can't do this. Why can I never do this and be inspired, almost listen to the nudge that's going on within you of like, okay, it's just time for change. That's all this is. We're just a little bit bored. The feminine in us needs that creativity. How can we do that? How can we make micro or macro changes to feel excited again and to find purpose behind all of the routines and the things that we do on a day-to-day basis to ultimately make ourselves feel good? 

10:14
And then the final point to this is self-sabotage is a huge, huge reason why we fall off the bandwagon, why we stop doing tasks that did create the momentum, why we stop creating or following routines, it's because we're simply self-sabotaging. So something that I want you guys to have a think about is if you have recently reached a new level in your business or career whether that's in terms of your finances or your level of success or the amount of responsibility you have, or maybe you have been really consistent with eating healthy and working out, etc. Etc. If you have just unlocked a version of you that you've never lived before, then your subconscious mind is going to try and pull you back, because remembering change, according to the subconscious, is a threat, because it can't make its assessment in terms of whether or not you'll be safe, because you've never done it before, you've never reached that level in your business, you've never made that kind of money, you've never been in that role, you've never followed a routine for this long, you've never felt this healthy, you've never felt that energized before. So the subconscious is like doing its scan of being like hold on a second. You're feeling a way you've never felt before. You're doing things you've never done before. Therefore, that's unfamiliar. Therefore it's a threat and the self-sabotage will kick in to pull you back to the tired, unhealthy, broke, struggling version that's so familiar to you. 

11:45
So this is probably like an encompassing thing. Honestly, it's likely you probably have stopped something because it's self-sabotage or something's changed because maybe you're getting in your own way. And again, remember, a lot of this is subconsciously happening or unconsciously happening to you. But of course, we need to turn our conscious awareness over to what's actually going on instead of again immediately just jumping to oh there's something wrong with me. I can never do this, I will never be able to do this Like. This is just what I'm like. Like that's not true. You can be anyone you want, you can do anything you want. It's just about kind of pulling back a little bit and going it's just my subconscious trying to pull me back into my old, familiar, but of course that's where you need to go. No, I'm going to continue to push forward, and this is where visualization practices and consistently embodying the new identity is so important, because each time you show up as someone different and you just push through that resistance and you be that woman you want to be and you keep at the things that would represent the new version of you, your subconscious is making that assessment and going oh, we survived, it's actually okay, we will allow you to stay in this level now because we know we're going to be safe. And you can do that again through visualization. So remembering the brain doesn't actually know the difference between a mental rehearsal and you actually living out an experience. So if you have just got to a new level in your life, spend as much time visualizing you doing different things at that level to show your brain this is no longer unfamiliar. Therefore, you don't need to try and keep us away from this. It is safe. And then, as I mentioned, embodiment. So, even if you feel out of your depth, even if it feels so new and uncomfortable and unfamiliar, just keep showing up as a new version of you, because your brain will eventually rewire and you'll learn the skill of being the new version of yourself. The habits will form and the embodiment will stick. The change will stick. So that's step one awareness and really just seeing why you have got into a rut and, yeah, like really just knowing kind of what needs to change in order to get out of the rut. 

13:58
I thought I would just share a little bit about what I found during that exercise. So a big thing for me is I have been traveling a bit over the last six weeks, so that always throws me out of whack. I'm actually someone that needs and thrives with my routine, especially my morning routine, so I'm going into that in a fair bit in today's episode. But if I don't have my moment in the morning where I get up, I have my coffee, I read my book, I meditate, I do some journaling, if I need to, I upgrade my energy, I do a form of exercise If I don't do that, I'm out of whack. So, of course, when I go traveling like sometimes well, most of the time my routine doesn't look like that every day. So, yeah, that's been a big thing for me. Obviously, traveling traveling too I don't exercise as much as I do when I'm at home. I don't eat the way I do when I'm at home, and so I've really established these are things that have probably thrown me out of whack, and they always do so. 

14:56
It's really interesting when I decided to leave my career in law. A big thing that excited me about working for myself and having an online business is being able to work from anywhere and being able to travel and work and launch programs while on the road, and I've quickly realized I just I the word. I shouldn't use the word can't, cause I can, like I've. I launched the program. I closed the Academy launch from Palm Cove. I've been working with my mastermind girls while I've been down in Wollongong. Like academy launch from Palm Cove, I've been working with my mastermind girls while I've been down in Wollongong. Like I can get it done. 

15:28
But I've worked out I work better and I prefer to be in my office behind my big computer and just getting my tasks done there and then, when I'm traveling, just being able to be present on the holiday and do holiday things without always worrying about work. So, yeah, like I've kind of worked out that holidays do throw me out of whack and I need to be more kind on myself when that does happen, because we are allowed a break and it's okay that I'm not doing exact same routines and work commitments when I'm on holidays, like that's why we go away, right. So again, just like recognizing that holidays throw me out of whack and almost starting to expect it, instead of getting back from a holiday and being like, oh, like, why am I not getting these tasks done? Why aren't I fired up to get back to work? It's like, well, you've been drinking wine every single day of your holiday and eating shit food and not exercising, like it's only normal that you're going to feel a little bit different, but you will get get back on the bandwagon. So that was one thing I established. We've also had visitors here. My sister was here, my mother-in-law was here, so again, same thing. It just throws you out of whack and it's fine. But that was a big reason for me. And then the other thing is I am a solid sleeper. 

16:41
Like I think I've mentioned this on the podcast before a bulldozer could go through my bedroom and I would not wake up. But I don't even think I've told you guys this. Literally. It was this year, I'm pretty sure. Yeah, a few months ago my car got broken into, so Bart wasn't home at the time and I was in bed and I heard a car pull up and I just assumed that it was Bart coming home in the Uber and I was also kind of like in a light sleep, like awake somewhat, but not really like fully alert to what was happening. I realized this the next day, but anyway. So I'm laying in bed and I woke up and I heard a car pull up and assumed it was Bart. I kind of heard like a little bit of rustling in the driveway, but again like, didn't think anything of it. I thought it was just Bart coming home. Our dog got up and walked over to the front door. Again, didn't think anything of it, assumed it was Bart the whole time. Anyways, long story short, went back to sleep, got up the next day, walked out. My car was broken into. Thank God, no damage to the car. This is my new car, by the way. No damage to the car. 

17:46
They took everything out of the car but luckily it was just empty sunglasses cases. They took my manual, like my car manual, which actually freaked me out. Oh, here we go. We're going on a story now. That actually freaked me out because the Mercedes has everything electronically stored in terms of your service history. But my last car was a Mazda and everything in that manual or that folder that you have in your car, includes the service history. It's the log book, it's everything to do with the cars in that manual. So I was freaking out and me and Bart were like frantically searching what they could do with that information and I was so worried that with my VIN number and engine number they could go away, get a key cut and come back and actually take the car. Anyways turns out, yeah, mercedes don't have any of that information in the car, it was literally just the user manual. But anyways, they took that. They took all of the shit out of my glove box and whatever. It was annoying. 

18:39
So since then like I've literally only just got over it since then, I was so on edge, couldn't like, kept waking up through the night, which was not like me whatsoever. As I said, I'm such a solid sleeper as soon as my head hits that pillow I don't wake up till the next morning, but just kept waking up like every noise that I heard I thought it was someone coming into the house. And then, of course, my reticular activating system was picking up information in my world that would mirror that experience. So every time I turned the TV on, there would be a news report saying that someone had a house invasion and young kids were stealing cars, and it was like, everywhere I looked I was getting this information and anyway, that freaked me out. So I was sleeping so shit. So this is a very long winded way to say I was sleeping shit. So that obviously makes you feel crap when you've got no energy. So anyways, this was kind of the answers that I was finding as to why I was in a rut, so thank you for sticking by me through that story. 

19:38
Let's move on to now how to do something about it. So the first thing I want to say before moving through my 10 suggestions to getting out of a rut and back into a routine is you've got to know that this is in your control and we can sit around and play the victim and feel sorry for ourself and wallow and be like I'm tired, I just I can't be bothered, like I don't have a spark anymore, like we can do that, and the more we do that, the more we'll want to do that and the deeper and deeper this hole gets. We've got to remember it's up to us, and only us, to pull ourselves out of this, and how we feel and how we go about our day and the effort we make to make ourselves feel good is completely in our responsibility. And I know because again, I've felt pretty shit lately or just tired and it's like not myself. I know that sometimes that doesn't feel true and you just feel heavy and you're like, oh, but it is our responsibility and we have to snap ourselves out of it, because we are energetic beings and our energy is manipulating and creating everything and we are all here to create an epic life and achieve big goals this year and, quite frankly, we don't have time for a lack energy, a sookie energy, playing the victim Like we just don't have time for it. Victim energy will create scarcity. So we need to snap ourselves out of it and we need to realize that that is in our control and only in our control. It's within our responsibility. So I just wanted to, like start off there. If you're in a rut, it's time to snap yourself out of it and literally click your fingers like make that anchor point. Your momentum begins again here. You get your spark back from this point and you're making the commitment that in a couple of days time, in a week's time, in a month's time, you're going to be feeling amazing, your spark will be back. You'll be back on the bandwagon and you did all of that. Okay, cool. 

21:37
So let's move through to my 10 suggestions for getting out of a rut and back into a routine. So the first one is getting back into a morning routine, and I said that I would spend a bit of time on this topic, because your mornings is where it starts. Your morning is what is dictating the rest of your day, and the old saying is so true when you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, you have a shitty day. So you need to make an effort to make your mornings feel good, and this is coming up a lot in conversations with the launch of the manifestation morning bundle, some women saying they just don't have the time for a really in-depth morning routine. They have kids, like they're on the back foot. I don't have kids and I and so I never want to like say, do better, because I I know a lot of moms, I work with a lot of moms, I know it's hectic, but I just want to ask you to please just try and find some time even if it means just getting up five or 10 minutes before your kids do, or whatever just to find some time in your morning to make it intentional. 

22:43
When you are getting out of bed on the wrong side of the bed and you're just getting straight into your day, you're literally just turning back your autopilot function and you're operating from the same old program and your future will continue to look like your past. There is no intention, there is no purpose, and you're just coming from that stagnant energy. And again, stagnant energy will produce stagnant results. So again, it's up to us, it's our responsibility, to make our mornings feel good, because it sets up your entire day. I haven't, as I said, been sticking to my usual morning routine and I I reckon that's probably the number one reason why I've been in this little weird place is because I haven't been doing the things I know make me feel good. I haven't been intentionally raising my vibration and I have just been getting up and going about my day without just taking that moment to set my energy, raise my vibration and choose who I want to be in that day. 

23:35
So bring back your morning routines and if you don't have a morning routine, go and get the bundle and create a morning routine. The cool thing about that bundle is it will help you create a morning routine, so you're not going to get this checklist that's going to take you an hour and a half long. And if you can't do that, then don't worry about it. You're going to get a bunch of different practices and you can figure out how you're going to find them in to your day. You know, if you have five minutes, you'll be able to do something in five minutes. If you have half an hour, you can do it in half an hour. It'll help you create your morning routine, because I am very aware that everyone's time in the morning differs for multiple different factors. So I've taken that on board when I've made these suggestions to you for your morning routine. So that's the big thing. 

24:20
So what did I do this morning? I woke up and I was like, oh, this weird feeling is still there, snapped my fingers, get over it, get up, dove into my beautiful morning routine. Now I'm not going to spend too much time talking about this because, again, I've spoken about this before, but some big factors that need to come into my morning routine is, like I said, getting up and just having that moment to myself to just have my coffee and just like wake up and I read my book during that time, and the book that I read is always a personal growth book PS. At the moment I'm reading Secrets of the Millionaire Mind highly recommend. The next thing I always make a priority when I'm doing my morning routine is meditating. This morning I did a quantum jumping meditation, loved it, but it usually looks like something like a mental rehearsal, meditation, visualization practices, quantum jumping so jumping into a parallel universe of a version of me who's already doing what I want to do and just getting some advice and just watching her move through her day to get her energy. Or I'll just do like an energy clearing meditation. Again, the bundle has all of these. 

25:24
And then I love to do a form of exercise, but I don't exercise every day. But ideally, a perfect morning routine for me is a form of exercise and then the shower meditation while I'm getting ready in the morning. So I woke up feeling a bit, did that and what do you know? Feel so much better already. So morning routines every single day of the week, one form or another, just get up in the morning and make yourself feel good. Number two is exercise, so creating or getting your endorphins flowing. I'm not going to sit here and tell you to do a HIIT workout every single morning, but the facts say it. Exercise equals more endorphins in the body. Endorphins are a feel good hormone, so, or a feel good chemical. So just doing something to move your body in the morning. Personally, I'm really loving reformer Pilates at the moment and cycle classes. That could look like a walk for you, you find your thing. But the number two suggestion from me was exercise. The number three, the third thing, and actually this was another thing that I found as to why I've been in a rut, and I knew this was going to happen. It happens every time. 

26:34
So I'm religious at taking gut health supplements. Every morning, I take a probiotic, greens powder and magnesium tablet. Religious, do not miss a morning, except when I run out, and I'm so hopeless at doing that. I do it every single month. I get a month supply and I always run out. I need and I get all my products from Arbonne, obviously, I used to be a consultant with the company and I'm pretty sure you can actually set it, so it's like an automatic delivery every month. Why I have not done that yet, I don't know. I need to. So, anyways, I've run out of my usual gut health supplements. 

27:10
We could sit here for so long about this topic, but obviously the gut is your second brain and it is connected to your hormones, your energy, the amount of inflammation and toxins you have in your body, and when I'm not taking care of my gut, I feel that. So that was my third suggestion is get yourself some probiotics and greens powder. Look after your gut health like it is. Again, it's your second brain, um, and it is likely, I'm sure likely connected to why you're feeling quite lethargic, tired, why your hormones are out of whack, why you feel just so like you probably have so many toxins and inflammation in the body and these supplements will help with that. Ps, I have done an episode with Laura Banks about kind of the diet side of like healthy goals, like diet and supplements and little tweaks that you can make to be your healthiest self. So I will link that in the show notes below. Let me know on Instagram if you'd love for me to bring a guest speaker on to talk more about the gut and gut health and its connection to our energy field. I can absolutely do that. But that was suggestion number three. 

28:20
The fourth one is improving your sleep. Like I said, my sleep has been out of whack since those little shits broke into my car, but some things that I've been doing to improve that is making a conscious effort to get into an alpha state of mind before I go to bed. Now, what that means is we have four different brain frequencies that we typically go in throughout our day. Beta frequency is your high alert thinking brain. So the brain that you're probably in right now if you're listening to me, I'm sorry the brain frequency that you're probably in, but it's your thinking brain, your logical brain, the one that you spend most of your day in as you go through your activities. 

28:58
The second one is your alpha state. So this is when you're in, I guess, like a sleepy, drowsy, like chilled state, and you typically are in that when you first wake up in the morning and then of an evening, if you make the effort to wind down, a lot of highly strung, anxious people don't spend enough time in alpha, particularly before they go to bed, and that could be another reason why you're struggling to go to sleep or have a solid, good, restful night's sleep is because your brain is still so wired and the chatter just has not shut up. So, making a conscious effort to get into that alpha state well before you go to bed, and just some things that I've been doing is having a chamomile tea while I'm reading my book, getting off my phone, like not scrolling on social media, trying to avoid like blue lights and things like that, so I read my book from my Kindle, and then, of course the sleep meditation. You guys know that is my bread and butter. I have one available on my website and that is ensuring that not only are you in an alpha brain frequency but then you dip into the theta and then a deep sleep is delta. But it means that while you are drifting off into that theta frequency, which is your light sleep, you are thinking thoughts that are beneficial to you and your subconscious is fomenting on positive affirmations, not all of the fear and the scarcity that you have. So really making that conscious effort to slip into that alpha state and then, yeah, like I said, reading before bed and like being intentional about what you're reading, so that again the thoughts that you're thinking, just as you drift off to sleep, are empowering thoughts because again your subconscious will ferment on them and then you wake up in the morning and produce more of those things. So that was point number four. Point number five was kind of following on what I just said limit the amount of information you're consuming, particularly on social media. So I have noticed again like it's all making sense. 

30:50
While I've been in a rut, I have noticed I've been so bad, so bad on my phone lately and I was getting really good with it. Like we all, all admit it we're addicted to our phones. We're addicted to social media. But I was actually in a really good place where I would literally just be on Instagram If I had to do something for the business, be on my phone if it was, you know, checking telegram and having a chat to my students or checking emails or whatever, or responding to a text message or anything like that, but otherwise not on my phone and I was getting so good at not scrolling. And then, you know, the rut brings on scrolling. 

31:26
So really making a conscious effort to stop scrolling on social media, aimlessly scrolling on social media, like making the app useful for a learning platform and I know that sounds so nerdy, but there's just so much shit on there that we're unconsciously downloading that just makes us feel overwhelmed. The comparison game kicks in. You see other people doing things. Then you feel like you should do it. It's just honestly like we really need to limit the amount of information our brains are consuming and we need to be more selective about what we're allowing into our minds, because what our subconscious downloads, it takes it on as truth and then it will create more of it in your world and, of course, if you're constantly seeing negative things on the app or people talking about things from such a fear-based level, your brain is going to search your reality for confirmation bias, to confirm what you've just listened to, and then it will create more of it. Like you just end up in this trap and it's not helpful. 

32:26
So, yeah, I'm the first one to admit I've been in that trap a little bit lately, but I'm stopping it. I'm going back to only using social media as a business platform and then only choosing to follow accounts that I want to be in my minds, you know, they teach me something, they inspire me, and if they don't, well, sorry, you're getting muted or blocked or I just don't follow you anymore. And then, obviously and I mean I probably remain pretty good at this like definitely not as good as what I usually am, but not going on social media in the morning, like if the first thing you do when you roll over in the morning is grab your phone. Please, for the love of God, put it in a different room, because, again, when you wake up in the morning, you come out of theta into an alpha brainwave frequency, and theta brainwave frequency is the signature brainwave of the subconscious. So pretty much when you're waking up in the morning, your subconscious is, like, still accessible. So everything that you see, you listen to, you experience when you're in those sleepy, drowsy states is literally being downloaded by the subconscious unconsciously to you. You have no choice in the matter, it's all going in. 

33:38
So when you roll over in the morning in your sleepy state and you pick up your social and you pick up your phone and you start consuming all of the shit that's on social media, your subconscious mind is downloading it all. And now you have that program of whatever you just saw. It also immediately just puts your energy and your focus from yourself onto someone else and, quite frankly, you are the most important person in your life and only you. We need to stop being so caught up in other people's lives and just remember that we are number one and we need to be focusing on our own energy, not giving our energy out to them. So just a quick reminder and I got really. It's like I was yelling at you then, like I got really fired up then, but like it. Just I know it's such a bad habit for so many people and I get. 

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I'm not sitting here on my throne saying I don't do it, but I am and let's do it together making a really conscious effort to not get on my phone in the morning, unless, of course, you're using it to turn your meditation on or your affirmations go for gold, but otherwise kick that thing out of your bedroom. And then the eighth, no, seventh. The eighth, no, seventh, no sixth thing is getting back on track with the purpose behind your routines. Yes, getting back on track with the purpose behind your routines. So what I mean by this is if you have a morning routine or if you are implementing practices to make yourself feel good, however that looks for you. Don't just do all of these things from the point of view of like, just got to tick it off because I listen to the abundant and aligned podcast and jess says that I should meditate, so I do it and I just tick it off my list. That is not the purpose behind a routine. The. 

35:18
The purpose behind routines is to release certain chemicals in your body. You know dopamine, serotonin, endorphins like these are our feel-good chemicals that we want to be squirting into our body more often by doing these certain routines, like exercising, meditating, running around your house, dancing to your favorite song like these things will get those chemicals throughout your body and then your natural state will be happy, energized, like it won't be such a hard task because you have chemically programmed your body, and then your natural state will be happy, energized, like it won't be such a hard task because you have chemically programmed your body to feel happy and energized, because you've gone ahead and done things that produce those chemicals. So, doing your routines from a place of purpose, not from a place of I should be doing this or I have to be doing this, also remembering to your routines are in place, whether it's your morning routine of meditating and journaling, or exercising, or going for your morning walk, or drinking a coffee out in the sun and just being left alone. All of this is to alter your energy, and Dr Joe Dispenza always says this. He's like you need to be more energy than matter, and we are more matter. When we're feeling heavy and dull and like when we're in our rut, we're more matter. When we're feeling heavy and dull and like when we're in our rut, we're more matter. And a really heavy piece of lead is not going to pick up something like a magnet wheel, it's just dull, it just sits there. So we need to change our state from being matter to energy, and you do that by, like, literally firing yourself up, getting yourself excited. 

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I'll link it in the show notes below. But there's this vibration chart and you need to get yourself as far up that chart as you possibly can, and there are a million and one things you can do to do that. But the the umbrella behind it all is make yourself feel good. However, that is for you, and we all have a million different things that make us all feel good. I'm not going to sit here and tell you what makes you feel good, because I don't know. You know what makes yourself feel good, and it doesn't always have to be meditating and energy clearing and you know whatever Like yes, they will make yourself feel good, but so does a beach walk, so does going for a coffee with your friend, who only has positive vibes. So does sitting out in the sun and playing with your kids. I don't know like there's other things that make yourself feel good. Do more of those things, period, um. 

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And then, of course, finally, you want to be an energetic match for your goals. So when you think of your goals, remember that you will only attract the opportunities, the incidences, the people in to achieve that goal when you are a vibrational match for it. And just like we know with a radio, if you're tuned into one frequency you listen to that particular radio station. If we want to change the radio station, we need to fiddle around with the frequency. That's exactly what you guys need to be doing. So whatever you're seeing in your life right now is so because you've tuned into that frequency, because of the thoughts and the feelings that you're having on a daily basis. To tune into a different life and to start seeing opportunities show up for you and the right clients and people to come into your world and for things to just feel easier, you need to tune into that radio station by changing your frequency. And of course you change your frequency by changing your thoughts, changing your feelings. Course you change your frequency. 

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By changing your thoughts, changing your feelings, doing things that make yourself feel good, the simple things in life, will make the biggest difference. It's the ripple effect. It's the ripple effect. So, yes, that's number six. So just remembering what's the purpose behind your routines, and I find that does help because you're like oh yeah, I'm not just meditating to meditate, I'm meditating to become a vibrational match for the seven figure year that I've set this year. Oh yeah, I'm sitting here doing my journaling to remove that constant fear I have that my whole business is going to fall to pieces, so that I stop worrying about that and I focus elsewhere. Because obviously wherever you focus, it expands, like again, just reminding yourself like why am I doing these things? And if you need that reminder, like, do it and you'll soon be reminded of why it's so important, because you will just feel so much better. 

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Number seven is visualizing your next level and subconscious reprogramming work. I guess this kind of ties in a lot with what I've been saying about meditating. But ultimately we all need to be making an effort daily to connect with the future that we want. If we don't do that, our future will look like our past, because we'll be running from the same old, the same old identity, running from the same programs. The same identity, the same programs will produce the same results in the same life. So if you want to be the creator of new future, you need to have that intention every single day, to connect with whatever that looks like. 

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You all have it in you. We all have an innate ability to visualize and imagine. We did it as children and unfortunately, life just got built up on top of us and some people forget that they still have that ability. So you have it in you. You just need to give yourself that space. If you are a veteran at visualizing, bring it back into your life. If you are not, then just remember that you can. 

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You've just got to create this space to be curious and just wonder if you could have any future, what would that look like? And if the answer to that question doesn't come up straight away, it doesn't mean, oh well, I better just continue doing what I've always done and just settle for the life that I have. No. Revisit that question daily, often throughout your day what do I want If I could have any life, how would that look? And just again, allow your mind to be curious. And the more you are curious, the more you open up those pathways of your imagination faculty and you will get better at imagining a future beyond your wildest dreams. But you just need to give yourself permission to go there. 

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So visualizing your next level. Of course, I have meditations available for you to do that. If you're grabbing the bundle, I think there's like three in there. Otherwise, what's available on my website is the mental rehearsal meditation, which is a really good one to use. I guide you through an exercise where I slow down your brainwaves to an alpha brainwave frequency so we can get in and access the subconscious. And then I get you to literally mentally practice walking through your dream home, driving your dream car, marrying your ideal husband, hitting that income goal, getting that job. Like you, practice it. And again, as I said at the start of this, your brain doesn't know the difference between you mentally practicing that, like visualizing it, and you actually living it out. And when your brain practices something enough, it now has the hardware so you can just do it on autopilot. So that's exactly what you're doing. You're practicing being wealthy. You're practicing being successful. You're practicing being wealthy. You're practicing being successful. You're practicing being healthy, you're practicing being loved. And then your brain's like, oh, that's just who we are now, and when you are someone, you create that. So visualizing your next level and, yeah, again, you're upgrading your subconscious. Three more to go, guys. This is going way longer than what I thought. 

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Number eight is making an intention or prioritizing decreasing stress. Sorry, I'll say again, making an intention to decrease stress and prioritize your well-being. So if you are in a stressful job right now, do something about it. If your business is feeling overwhelmed, do something about it. If home life is hectic, do something about it, and I know that seems so simple and easy, but again, it's up to us to do something about it. If home life is hectic, do something about it, and I know that seems so simple and easy, but again, it's up to us to do something about it. That responsibility lies with us and there are so many different things you can do to make your life easier. You've just got to do it. Sometimes it involves hard conversations, sometimes it involves enforcing boundaries that may piss people off, but again, again, decreasing stress and prioritizing your wellbeing is within your responsibility. And I mean. 

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There's also so many health benefits that comes with decreasing stress. Like when you feel stressful, your brain has literally squirted a chemical called cortisol and it lets your body know that you're in a fight or flight situation and all of the functions associated with fighting or flight, fight or flight. So running away from a tiger, for example, activated in your body and if you're not doing anything to turn that off, you are going through every moment of your life, your body thinking you're running away from a tiger constantly. Um, it's why some most people have not. It's yeah, it's so connected to, like, issues with women's health. Um, you know, not getting your period, uh, your body holding on to fat, um, feeling tired all the time. It's because when you're running away from a tiger, the only thing that your body needs to worry about is your survival. Therefore, it doesn't need to worry about fertility and you getting your period. It needs to hold onto fat because if you're running away from a tiger and you're stuck in the woods for months and months, you're not going to be able to eat. So it holds onto all of your energy and your nutrients in case you don't eat again. 

44:01
So much into this topic. Actually, I'll link in the show notes below the episode that I did with a naturopath and women's health coach, natasha. She talks a lot about this, but, yeah, decreasing stress it's not just about decreased stress like live a cool, calm, collected life. You're literally like taking care of your health, and it's so dangerous to be in a state of fight or flight and have cortisol pumping through your body all the time. Again, like just go and Google the benefits. I mean the side effects of increased cortisol in your body and a life consumed with stress. 

44:36
Yeah, I was like why have I said something about candles? But I just had a note like burning the candles at both ends and that's what I was doing. So this kind of comes into my self-reflection is we've had a big year in the business so far. We have launched the Academy, we have started the round of Her Empire, which is my business mastermind. We have ran the New Year Bootcamp. We have I've been wrapping up with past one-on-one clients podcast episodes out weekly. Yeah, it's been a lot. 

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So, yeah, I was just like burning the candles at both ends, that's all, while traveling and having family over and doing family stuff, like it's just, it's been a big start to 2024. So, yeah, my body was just like we've had enough of you not taking care of us. We've had enough of you just burning the candles at both ends and not prioritizing rest and activating your parasympathetic nervous system, which is like putting the brake on and just turning off the accelerator for a second. So, yeah, it was my body's way of saying, jess, you need to just slow down and pause for a second. So we're going to make sure you do that. So, yeah, just taking a look at, like, what areas of your life are consumed with stress, where you feel so out of control, and what you can do about it, and you know just, I guess, trying to get some of your time back so that you can implement some more rest and calmness in your life. 

46:03
Number nine is diet. I'm not going to go into these heaps, but that was another thing for me that I established again, traveling and being on holidays and not eating my usual diet. A big thing for me that I like to try and do is reduce the amount of inflammatory foods that I have in my diet, because, of course, inflammation in the body means your body is working so hard to try and get rid of the inflammation and remove the toxins, and so when our body is like working so hard to try and get rid of the inflammation and remove the toxins, and so when our body is like working so hard at that, our energy is stuck within and it makes us tired. But when our energy is within, our energy is not outwards and we need our energy to be outwards, so it's contributing to the energetic field that we have around us, which is what is your magnet, and it's picking up everything that you're focusing on. So, yeah, I try and avoid inflammatory foods, but I definitely have not been making a conscious effort of that, obviously coupled with the fact that I have not been having my gut health. It's a train wreck, guys. It's a bloody train wreck, but we're getting back on track. That's the main thing. 

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And then the final thing is number 10, changing things up. So, like I said at the start, maybe you're doing all of the right things and you're still just feeling a bit uh, don't have the spark, don't have that sense of inspiration that I did a few months ago or last year. And again, maybe it's just an invitation to mix it up. Maybe you're just bored with it. Maybe you need to make some of those micro changes, such as where you're working, what your work environment looks like, where you're working out, the type of exercise you're doing, what your routines look like. Maybe you've been listening to the same meditation for 12 months now and your brain's just like can we not listen to this anymore? Maybe you need to get a new journal. There could be so many different things that you could do just to spice it up from a micro level. 

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But of course the macro changes are important too, and it's so important that you aren't staying in your comfort zone for too long. Of course it's easier to stay put. It's easier to stay in that job even though there is so much toxicity in the workplace. It's easier to stay in that relationship even though it's even though you know it's not really it for you. It's easier for you to stay in that friendship group even though every time you catch up there's so much drama. It's easier for you just to stay still. 

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But by staying still means that you are continuing to feed that feeling of like stuckness and blur and when you're in that place you're not doing what you've been put on this earth to do and you are supposed to be feeling vibrant and inspired and creative, like that's our natural state. When you think about yourself as a kid, like you'd be running around so creative, your imagination would run wild, you'd have so much energy, like that's our innate way to be. But unfortunately, life just gets built on top of us and unless we do something about it, that's how it remains. So taking a look like maybe it's time for a macro change in your life, maybe it's time to finally leave that job. Maybe it's time to redirect your business, as I said at the start. Maybe it's time to move to that city or, yeah, just just change what's no longer lighting you up, because life is too short to not love every single day and you have every right, just as much as I do, to love what you do, love where you live, love your life, love yourself. So there's your permission slip to go and do that, and I think that's such a beautiful way to finish our episode. 

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So I hope there's 10 tips to get out of a rut and get yourself back into your routines has helped. 

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Of course, save this episode, because if you're not in a rut right now, maybe you'll need this in the future. Maybe this is a pattern that shows up for you a lot, where you feel really good and then you don't, or you have success in your business, then you fall off the bandwagon. You know this really like up and down pattern in your life. Of course, take a look at why that is happening and it could be from an umbrella point of view, your subconscious just constantly pulling you back and, of course, like, come and chat to me about how I can help with your subconscious reprogramming work, but save this episode so that you have this in your toolbox and you can constantly refer back to these 10 things and, I guess, go through it like a bit of a checklist in terms of am I doing all of these things that I know will make myself feel good. Thank you so much for tuning into another episode and I will talk to you guys in the next one.