81. You Are Both The Problem And The Solution To Your Frustrations

And where are you denying yourself the greatest gift ever , which is pure alignment , pure fun , pure expansion , pure joy for things to be easy , for things to be absolutely flowing in goodness . Where are you blocking you ? Hello , hello , hello , and welcome to another episode of Align with Abraham .

I am bringing this one to you because I've heard it with numerous people in the last week and it's something that I see consistently in the work that I do , but also just in general life . It is one of the most common feelings that I have . People explain to me of how it shows up for them .

So let's go straight in and talk about frustration and , more importantly or this episode is focused on frustration with yourself . Now , why would people actually do that ? Why would people allow themselves to spend and waste beliefs and thought , energy and physical energy and time and space by being frustrated with

themselves ? Now , this is something that happens on a human level and the frustration is usually pointed to inaction . I'm frustrated because I didn't do this thing that I really wanted to do and it was going to help me . It was going to move the needle forward in my life , in my business , my health , my relationships , whatever they were looking at .

They're frustrated that they didn't take action . Frustration is I'm holding myself back by taking action that actually isn't going to make a difference in where I want to go , but I'm hiding behind that piece of well . I've took some action . I've taken some action today .

So there wasn't enough time to do everything and you know I'm working hard and I've done all these things and that's a really interesting place for people to find themselves in another week's gone by , another week's gone by , and it's like where's the time going ?

I've done all these things , but I've not yet done this thing that's going to help me to actually grow my business .

I've not gone on to socials or I've not gone into a space where I really want to have a conversation with somebody in terms of a relationship , dynamic or a new job or anything that you know actually for yourself is an element of that frustration . So there are many , many reasons why this happens and I want to talk more about habits .

We get stuck in habitual patterns thought patterns , energy patterns , belief patterns . We get stuck in a pattern loop and until we actually raise attention to it and give it awareness and shine a light on it , we'll stay in that pattern loop .

And what's even more frustrating is other people can point the pattern loop to us , but unless we're ready and unless we're actually going to take personal responsibility to make that change , nothing's going to change . So the invitation , as you're listening to today's episode , is to really think about where are you frustrated with yourself ?

Where has somebody else pointed it out that's definitely not been helpful ? And where are you denying yourself the greatest gift ever , which is pure alignment , pure fun , pure expansion , pure joy for things to be easy , for things to be absolutely flowing in goodness , to be easy , for things to be absolutely flowing in goodness . Where are you blocking you ?

I remember a conversation I had with a client and I love this phrase and it's a great awareness piece that you are the problem . If you're noticing that you're frustrating yourself , you are also the solution . You are the problem and the solution .

So you are the struggle and the stretch and the success and I want to just say that again You're the stretch and the success . Let that land , let that land in your body .

Close your eyes , if it's safe for you to do so , and just let that really resonate and let the mind digest it and let the body receive that you are the stretch and the success . So then it goes down quite simply and also mega frustratingly which lens are you looking at life ?

At the stretch lens , the struggle lens , the what have I got to change about myself ? Lens , or here's the success , here's the solution ? How can I feel my way to the solution , rather than how can I think my way ? Because when you feel your way , you'll know if it feels good , you'll know if it feels right . You'll know if it feels expansive .

You'll know if it feels good , you'll know if it feels right . You'll know if it feels expansive . You'll know if it feels . All the things that give you that intuitive knowing where you're like this is it and when you can lead . With that , which is a skill in itself , the frustration goes . What happens when we think our way out ?

Our limiting beliefs , subconscious , will slow down that journey . When we feel our way out , we are already slowing ourself down to process the information . We're already creating space and time , time which allows clarity to come in . And when you feel your way , it's nobody else's journey . There's no other people , no other judgments , nothing else .

It's what you feel in yourself . It's absolutely spot on for you . Your feelings are mega potent . So frustration is a very strong feeling that people can sometimes feel massively in their head . I'm really frustrated . I feel like I'm pulling my hair out .

It can be a real head energy , the subtle nuances of the sensations of frustration , as you've probably been feeling them in many places in your body . You might have that foot tapping , you might have that spin in your hair . You might have that twizzle in your pen , you might have that uneasiness , you might have that on edge .

You're basically your body's in fight or flight , waiting for the next thing , the next signal to

give you some safety .

So what happens is when you can tune into yourself , you start to become aware oh , my goodness , okay , let's just bring myself back into optimum performance , let's regulate myself , whether it's with nervous system , breath work , whether it's with intentionality , whether it's with mindset belief work , whether it is with movement breath work , whether it's with intentionality ,

whether it's with mindset belief work , whether it is with movement , whatever it is for you in that very moment , and then feel your way , and what will happen is the more you do this , you'll start to see oh my goodness , do you know what I'm in like fight or flight , more than I realize .

Or I'm in relax mode , more than I realize and the feeling my way through life gets easier and easier and easier , and I am absolute product of that feeling . Your way through life allows you for the frustration to come , because let's not , let's not um roast into it .

The frustration will come all the time , in different things , you different things that you may see or feel , but you don't allow yourself to be entertained by it . It just comes and goes , comes and goes , comes and goes . And what happens ? Because you're not putting your attention on it , it doesn't come and go so often .

So what happens is you're putting your attention on your success , on the solution , on feeling your way . You're actually getting more in tune with your body and you're able to move through life in a way that feels magical and momentous . And this real element of trust , a real element of trust , and when you can hold that , that with certainty , with conviction , with

incredible power and presence , then you are magnetic to all of your desires . So let me know , let me know what comes up for you , where you're at in terms of your life , if you are looking for solutions , or are you actually a little bit in that habit of struggle or seeking some part of you that you feel has to be healed , to move through .

Believe me , when you can understand yourself on a feeling level , it answers so many things for you Because you're more in tune . So you can raise your frequency , you can get your energetic vibration much higher , and then you can magnetize in everything that you really desire and create this absolutely abundant loving lifestyle that you're here for .

Who is here for that abundant loving lifestyle ? I am . I'm here for more and more and more and more of it . So then you start to build the habits that attract in more and more and more of the good stuff . That's what life's about . That's what Abraham teaches . It's meant to be fun . It's meant to be fun . It's meant to be enjoyed .

It's meant to be full of joy . You're allowed to be happy . You're allowed to be predominantly happy . You're allowed to feel epic on multiple levels . So allow yourself to do that . The first bit is tuning into yourself , working out what this frustration is really about . Take care , huge love . See you on the next episode .