HELLO FROM THE VOID! This is my first episode in over a year. I promised in spring of 2023 that I'd return in the fall. But in the fall, we collectively began to witness an unbridled holocaust in Palestine. I was frozen with grief for many months, and stopped producing all content; I was speechless, and hopeless. While I'm still filled with a profound grief and rage, a lot has changed for me since then. I've found strength and solidarity in my anti-zionist queer sex worker community, and a commu...
Sep 06, 2024•1 hr 8 min
A Stripper's Guide pod is taking a little breaky-break for now, but I am very active on Substack, and I'm making a documentary. This is the season finale, hosted by Leilah and her friend Erica Sosa, who writes about fat femmes, desirability politics, and erotic autonomy on her Substack . Today we are geeking out because we get to speak with someone who inspires us both a lot. Aubrey Gordon is an author, columnist, and the cohost of Maintenance Phase, a podcast that debunks the diet industry. She...
May 23, 2023•45 min•Season 7Ep. 13
It's just a fact: lots of sex workers are moms, and lots of moms are sex workers. In this 2-part Mothers Day Special, we hear directly from different sex working moms who offer up some hard-won wisdom about parenting while living under society's microscope. This episode features sex workin' moms Roxy Hartless and Mina! Links: Roxy Hartless: Instagram & TikTok Life After MLM Podcast episode featuring Leilah Valley Latini on A Stripper’s Guide Podcast : Two Stripper/Pop Singers Walk into a Bar...
May 17, 2023•26 min•Season 7Ep. 12
It's just a fact: lots of sex workers are moms, and lots of moms are sex workers. In this 2-part Mothers Day Special, we hear directly from different sex working moms who offer up some hard-won wisdom about parenting while living under society's microscope. Today's featured guests: Elle Stanger - certified sex educator, parent, host of They Talk Sex Podcast, and sex worker since 2009. Follow them on Instagram & Twitter Kristen Thomas - certified breathwork facilitator, founder of Bad Bitches...
May 03, 2023•29 min•Season 7Ep. 11
Whether or not you're familiar with the concept of a "gold star lesbian", we're here to discuss why it's time to let that term die. Come hang out with me and my high school friend, Frankie, for a conversation about how "gold star lesbianism" is anti-femme, anti-trans, and anti-sex worker. Frankie's art gallery Frankie's Instagram
Apr 19, 2023•43 min•Season 7Ep. 10
Today is an ADHD-riddled hot girl ride through some sexy and nuanced ideas! Leilah interviews her super cool friend, and friend of le pod, Erica Sosa (We love you Sose!) Sosa is a pole dancer, sex worker, and fat Puerto Rican femme. Her Substack and her social media are a love letter to fat femmes, including herself. Erica Sosa's Instagram & Twitter...
Mar 22, 2023•33 min•Season 7Ep. 7
Dr. Rhea Ashley Hoskin is blazing trails in the field of Femme Theory, which aims to center and include femme narratives and experiences in all realms. From conservative communities to feminist and queer communities, why is it that so many femmes know what it’s like to feel somehow both underestimated and overlooked, and at the same time behaviorally policed? Why is it that so many femmes, from sex workers and food servers to teachers and corporate professionals, know what it’s like to be sexual...
Feb 22, 2023•41 min•Season 7Ep. 3
Did you know that sex work is a criminal offense in most of the world, including virtually the entire United States? Attorney Elizabeth Ricks is here to explain how criminalization vastly increases violence towards sex workers, and why efforts to end human trafficking MUST be led by sex workers, not police (if we actually want to end human trafficking). Also check out our sister episode: What Does It Mean to Decriminalize Sex Work? with Ariela Moscowitz of the organization Decriminalize Sex Work...
Feb 08, 2023•45 min•Season 7Ep. 1
For this season's finale, we're joined by my fellow veteran stripper and mentor to new dancers, Alexa the House Mom! Sit down with me and Alexa, your stripper fairy god aunties, while we chat about sex work, dating, and dating as a sex worker. Also in this episode: a very special announcement about my *cough* new cohost *cough* and more ... Follow Alexa the House Mom on Instagram...
Nov 23, 2022•36 min•Season 5Ep. 8
Topics include: how my stint in a fitness cult forced me to contend with my white privilege, the similarities between cultic abuse and 1:1 abuse, and why multilevel marketing is trash. This bonus episode originally appeared on the From Huns to Humans podcast , whose host, Danielle , is a former MLM cult member and now works to help folks transition out of MLM cults. Are you a cult survivor or want to learn more about how to support cult survivors? Check out the #igotout movement ....
Nov 09, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Season 5Ep. 6
Can sex workers be faithful lovers? Is it ever okay to hide your sex work from your partner(s)? Do sex workers "deserve" to be cheated on? If you've grappled with these questions in your own relationships, this episode is for you.
Oct 26, 2022•50 min•Season 5Ep. 4
Lots of sex workers, myself included, have run into issues with romantic partners who feel uncomfortable about our jobs. This episode is about what happens when they don't confront their insecurities.
Oct 05, 2022•40 min•Season 5Ep. 1
I'm taking a little break, but I'll be back on October 5th with a brand new season full of hot n spicies. In the meantime, check out a few of my favorite episodes (these links are for Apple Podcasts, but these episodes are available wherever you stream): What Does it Mean to Decriminalize Sex Work? Whorephobia in Belly Dance & Pole Dance Date Smarter, Not Harder Love the show? Leave a rating and review! It means so much <3...
Sep 21, 2022•3 min
Too often, when a sex worker needs help with something, they don’t get the right help (if they even get help at all). Something a lot of us worry about is that we won’t be understood or taken seriously by therapists, coaches, doctors, realtors, lawyers, etc. We need support from people who really *get* us; we need service providers from within our own community.
Aug 31, 2022•31 min•Season 4Ep. 14
Valley Latini tells us all about how she used her time in the strip club industry to build her dream career as a touring musician!
Aug 24, 2022•33 min•Season 4Ep. 13
Butterfly Mush (Andrea Acevedo) is a painter, mom, and retired stripper. These days, you can catch the her making art from her new home in a small Colombian town, where she recently moved with her whole family. She was able to use her stripper career to transform into a full-time artist and business owner, and she left NYC to follow her dreams of rural living in her home country. If you're a sex worker with big dreams of your own, tune in and get inspired! Follow Butterfly Mush on Instagram...
Aug 17, 2022•40 min•Season 4Ep. 12
Do you have a history of throwing yourself face-first into new careers, hobbies, and projects, only to give up after a little while? Or maybe you keep talking about starting that business, or learning that instrument, but years go by and nothing happens. In this episode, I talk about why we so often give up halfway, and why sheer willpower won't cut it if we want to stay the course and smash our goals.
Aug 10, 2022•46 min•Season 4Ep. 11
The culture of nightlife can be intoxicating and distracting. It can be easy to lose track of what your goals were before you entered the industry. But it doesn't have to be that way. If you've ever felt like there's no way to be a stripper (or other sex worker/nightlife worker) and also achieve personal goals outside the industry, this one's for you. Stream my music...
Aug 03, 2022•49 min•Season 4Ep. 10
I share my strategies for making consistent champagne room sales (also known as VIP rooms or private rooms). These sales tips are for strippers, but really can be useful for any service provider. In this episode, I cover how to attract customers you want, maintaining control with difficult customers, and how to hold your boundaries without fear of losing the sale.
Jul 27, 2022•41 min•Season 4Ep. 9
This is a recording of one of my real Info Sessions for Baby Strippers! In these sessions, dancers who are new to the industry (or thinking about trying it) come ask me all their questions. In this episode, Emily, a brand new stripper, asks me about everything from selling champagne rooms to feeling guilty she might hurt a customer's feelings if she stops giving him attention after he runs out of money. Tune in next week for an episode about closing champagne room sales!
Jul 20, 2022•39 min•Season 4Ep. 8
Musician & (semi)-retired sex worker, Kelly Gold, talks to us about her love life before, during, and after sex work. Listen to Kelly's music here Listen to Leilah's music here
Jul 13, 2022•38 min•Season 4Ep. 7
We got a live one, bbs! Author, escort, and community organizer Liara Roux joins SGP for an inspiring conversation. We talk about their juicy memoire, Whore of New York , and we discuss boundaries & consent both inside and outside of sex work. We also talk about how patriarchy deliberately pits non-sex working women against sex workers. Follow Liara on IG here
Jul 06, 2022•29 min•Season 4Ep. 6
This week we hear from my longtime friend Blake, who began their stripper career in 2015. Back then, they identified as a queer, polyamorous woman. Over the years, they have evolved into their transmasculine identity. Blake discusses the challenges of being transmasc in an industry that insists upon femme aesthetics, and what it means to choose between income and identity in a capitalist patriarchy.
Jun 29, 2022•53 min•Season 4Ep. 5
This is a recording from my new Instagram Live series where I answer people's questions about love, dating, and breakups. This series centers sex workers and femmes, but everyone is encouraged to listen to the show -- especially if you date women, femmes, or sex workers.
Jun 22, 2022•45 min•Season 4Ep. 4
In this crossover episode, I team up with activist & former stripper AM Davies, co-host of Yes, A Stripper podcast. AM and myself, like many sex workers, have been groped, assaulted, and harrassed by the (usually straight) women customers who frequent our establishments, often in the presence of their husbands and boyfriends. We take a critical look at misogyny from underexplored angles, including whore-on-whore misogyny. Read my new article, Whores Aren't Sex Objects , which examines this t...
Jun 15, 2022•46 min•Season 4Ep. 3
"Feminist" movements often leave behind both sex workers and femmes of color. On top of that, even within sex worker communities, there often run deeply racist and anti-immigrant beliefs. My guest on this episode, Dr. Connie Wun, is a researcher, author, educator, and former sex worker, whose work is dedicated to ending racial and gender-based violence. She talks to us about why it's so important to deliberately carve space for Asian femmes and sex workers in the feminist fight for universal lib...
Jun 08, 2022•32 min•Season 4Ep. 2
It's a bonus 'sode, just cuz I love ya! For people who've been traumatized, whether from abuse, assault, systemic oppression, or otherwise, pleasure is often considered unattainable, or even taboo. But Goddess Cecilia is a pleasure and sexuality educator working to change that stigma against trauma survivors. Through her workshops, online presence, and her Raw Bar Podcast, she educates about the central, and even revolutionary, role of pleasure--especially for QTBIPOC folks. Tune in for her enco...
Jun 04, 2022•49 min
We're back! Season 4 opens with a juicy listener-requested topic: SITUATIONSHIPS (dun dun dunnn!). Join me and author Sesali Bowen to talk about the messiness that often comes with sexual/romantic relationships that lack labels (what are we??), as well as her incredible book, Bad Fat Black Girl: Notes from a Trap Feminist --which also happens to be our June Stripper's Guide Book Club read ;) Follow Sesali on IG here , buy her book here , and listen to her pod here Enjoy the show! xo, Leilah...
Jun 01, 2022•44 min•Season 4Ep. 1
Femmes, queer people, and women live in a global patriarchy that forces us to contend with misogyny in virtually every corner of our lives. This tips the scales of power out of our favor in the already-vulnerable worlds of love, sex, and romance. This Season 3 finale episode includes a live interview with Boston*-based rapper, Kiki Banks, as well as contributions from listeners, who share their own dating stories and remind us why the work of anti-misogyny is everyone's responsibility. Kiki's so...
Apr 04, 2022•53 min•Season 3Ep. 12
According to Wikipedia, ghosting is "the practice of ending all communication and contact with another person without any apparent warning or justification and subsequently ignoring any attempts to reach out or communication made by said person." With about 10,000 different ways to send a message these days, how is it possible that so many of us still get ghosted by the people we date? Stay connected with A Stripper's Guide! Instagram Website Newsletter...
Mar 28, 2022•32 min•Season 3Ep. 11
