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A Little Less Of A Hot Mess

Kaitlin Soule. LMFT, Author, Women's Mental Health Advocatewellnotesbykaitlin.com
Hi, I’m Kaitlin Soule, and I’m a Therapist, Author of A Little Less Of a Hot Mess, mom to three, and a women's mental health advocate/expert. Whether I'm flying solo, or joined by a fellow expert/thought leader these conversations have one purpose: to help you feel like a little less of a hot mess! We’ll talk, honestly, about all the things that matter the most to us like finding and redefining our identity in the midst of modern motherhood, parenting, career, personal growth and more! Instagram @kaitlin.soule Facebook: Well Notes By Kaitlin Websites: Www.kaitlinsoule.org
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Episodes

Kaitlin's Take on "Gentle Parenting" (and why it needs a new name)

In this episode listen in as Kaitlin discusses the popular term "gentle parenting" and why she thinks the term is often misunderstood and even misused. Gentle parenting shouldn't be confused with permissive parenting, a type of parenting where "anything goes," and instead is maybe more accurately described as attuned parenting.

Nov 23, 202323 minSeason 5Ep. 4

The Holidays (Kaitlin's Version): How To Find Less Stress and More Joy This Season

It’s no secret that moms still disproportionately carry the brunt of the mental and physical load when it comes to running a household, and during the holiday’s the load we carry only gets heavier. According to Motherly’s 2023 State of Motherhood Report, women are feeling more resigned than ever to the role of “doing it all” and as a result, 62% of mothers report getting less than one hour to themselves each day. On top of that, 48% of moms report “always” or “frequently” feeling burned out. Bot...

Nov 08, 202326 minSeason 5Ep. 3

A Conversation With One Of My Favorite Humans (and the rest of the world's too) Eve Rodsky, NYT Bestselling Author of Fairplay and Find Your Unicorn Space

This episode is a recording of an instagram live that I did with Eve Rodsky, NYT Bestselling author of Fairplay and Find Your Unicorn Space. As I've watched Eve Rodsky shine in national media, and take up space on some of the biggest stages and in some of the most important conversations about social justice and gender equity, one thing remains true: Eve is on a mission to change the world...and I don't say that lightly! Eve has so graciously been a big supporter of my book, A Little Less Of A H...

Oct 16, 202324 minSeason 5Ep. 3

Kaitlin and Kylie on: Making Space for Female Friendship in the Midst of Motherhood, Marriage, and Career!

I'm so excited to introduce you to Kylie Hempy, who is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, a team member of Bay Area Modern Therapy (my group practice) and a new friend/colleague. Listen in as we share our own personal experience with female friendship and the challenges that come with making time and space for them these days. Kylie gives some wonderful, realistic, and tactical advice on how to nurture time for herself and friendship in the midst of the crazyness that is motherhood/adul...

Sep 21, 202345 minEp. 2

Are you lost somewhere in a stress cycle? Welcome to the club, this one’s for you!

I’m back…and it’s not all rainbows and sunshine, but it’s real. In this episode about recognizing and breaking old/negative patterns, I share my own recent struggle with stress and overwhelm and the moment that woke up me up to the truth that I needed to recalibrate! Old patterns can be easy to fall into but hard to get out of because we're so "comfy" with them even when they’re not healthy for us or our loved ones. So, If you’ve ever been stressed AF and acting like a person you know all too we...

Aug 30, 202337 minEp. 1

The in-between… If you were in the therapy room with me this is what I’d say…

In this episode, I talk about the strange time in between the holiday and the new year, attempt to put words to what many of us are feeling, and reflect on what it might look like to enter into 2023, with more practical and values based resolutions. In the episode I talk about four questions. You can ask yourself while thinking about the new year. What went well in 2022? In that spirit, what should I hold onto in 2023? What didn’t go so great in 2023? In that spirit, what do I need to let go of?

Dec 28, 202228 minSeason 4Ep. 2

Why is it all so complicated? Practicing Holding Space for Multiple Truths in Parenthood and Beyond

In this episode, Kaitlin reads chapter 8 of her new book, A Little Less of A Hot Mess: The Modern Mom's Guide to Growth and Evolution" as a way to help us consider how increasing our mental flexibility can help us in parenting and life. Kaitlin shares her own personal invitation into learning to let go of rigid thinking (and perfectionism) early on in her motherhood journey, and shares some insights and takeaways to help you do the same. If you like this episode, please leave a review, share wit...

Nov 30, 202221 minSeason 3Ep. 1

Mini session: what to do in the throws of panic (the do’s and don’ts)

If you or your loved one suffers with panic attacks this episode is for you. I’ll run through the 6 do’s (and don’ts) so you’ll have a better idea of how to handle panic when it arrives at your door. By the way, anxiety disorders are the number one mental health issue Americans face today, and it’s also the most highly treatable! If you’re looking for help managing your anxiety, I’ve got lots of resources on my website. I also highly recommend Adaa.org as they have a list of therapists who speci...

Oct 24, 202223 min

Just you and me on why our partners need to take more pictures of us + scoop on my ADHD diagnosis…

I miss bonus episode (technically we’re in between seasons, but I just really wanted to talk with you all) a dive deeper into the topic of why it’s so important to us that our partners make an effort to take pictures of us with our kids and beyond! It’s not about the vanity, it’s about so much more than that. I also share more about my recent ADHD diagnosis and how I’m working on my own “stuff!.” As always, I get personal and keep it real so pop in your AirPods, grab your favorite beverage and s...

Sep 14, 202226 min

An off the couch conversation: Incorporating the Fair Play Method Into your Relationship with Laura Danger

Laura is a Certified Life Coach, Licensed Educator, Community Advocate and Certified Fair Play Facilitator who has been facilitating, coaching and community organizing in Chicago for over 12 years. In this episode, we deep dive into Fair Play, how to introduce the method into your relationship and home, and some inside feelings we ALL have as women, wives, and mamas are brought to light! Laura also explains how we can feel empowered when faced with the evils of social media and compare despair. ...

Sep 01, 202249 min

An off the couch conversation: Identity Crisis After Motherhood with Raquel Kelley

Raquel Kelley is a mother, writer, TV producer, and host of the MOMGUL Podcast. She began her career at E! Entertainment, where she worked for over a decade on shows such as Live! From the Red Carpet, Sports Soup, and Fashion Police. She was the Los Angeles expert for Conde Nast at BRIDES Magazine and has been an internationally featured contributor for The HuffPost. In this episode, I talk with Raquel about the high and lows of motherhood, expectations versus reality, postpartum depression, and...

Aug 23, 202240 min

An off the couch conversation: Practicing Inclusivity with Abby Rose Green

Abby Rose Green is a life and business coach, podcaster, special needs inclusion advocate, and speaker. She co-owns Pursuing HER Purpose, a business devoted to helping the budding entrepreneur launch their own big idea without losing themselves, their values, or their relationships along the way. Abby also co-owns HERself podcast. In this episode, I talk with Abby about not losing your identity in motherhood and inclusion practices as a special needs mama. We all know that parenting can be diffi...

Jun 27, 202241 min

Bonus short episode: You Deserve to Take up Space Mama

In this very short, I’m talking maybe five minute, episode I share a little note with you that I wrote my phone about your worthiness and belonging- and also summer parenting/my thoughts on summer camps!Maybe listen while you’re on a walk, or have a few minutes to yourself.

Jun 20, 20228 min

What to do when you loose your sh** with your kids…

So you lost it with your kids and you feel bad about it? Congrats, your human. This isn’t about excusing behavior that doesn’t line up with our values…instead it’s about giving ourselves the grace to get curious about the “why,” decided what we need to move through our feelings and repair with our kiddos. For me, and most likely you, the why behind our feelings of anger and the explosion that follows is often this simple: the combination of their never ending needs and the lack of time and space...

Jun 06, 202216 min

An off the couch conversation: Preventing & Managing Burnout with Alison Wilcox

Alison is passionate about empowering girls and women to live life fully, intentionally, and courageously, through her work as a nonprofit CEO, a leadership consultant, and as a speaker and writer. In her blog “Birth of Adventure,” she shares stories of travel, courage, and family. Navigating the painful losses of two parents and two brothers gave her the important realization that we have only one life – and so she intends to live my life fully and seek to help others to do the same. Growing up...

May 30, 202239 min

Chapter 8 of A Little Less of A Hot Mess - You're Invited to Hold Multiple Truths (Spoiler alert: It's f'ing hard)!

It's been three months since my book, A Little Less of a Hot Mess came out into the world and I wanted to celebrate my releasing one of my favorite, and most timely chapters - chapter 8 on holding multiple truths. Why? Because we live in a world where we have so much to be grateful for AND so much to feel sad and uncertain about. The practice of holding multiple truths, or making room for life's both, ands is critical to our ability to move with life's inevitable ebb and flow, and to make space ...

May 24, 202227 min

Lightening The Load: Author Conversation With Best Selling Author of Fair Play, Eve Rodsky on the Intersection of Motherhood and Mental Health

This conversation was truly a dream come true. I got the opportunity to have an author's conversation with one my favorite humans, Best Selling Author of Fairplay, Eve Rodsky. Eve share her take aways from my book, A Little Less of a Hot Mess, and we discuss the intersection of her work around social justice and advocating for gender equity in the home and my work in the field of mental health. If you haven't yet, run (don't walk) to but Eve's books, Fair Play and Unicorn Space. You can grab a c...

May 10, 202231 min

An off the couch conversation: Lets talk about Race with the authors of Dear White Women

As a graduate of Harvard College and Columbia Law School, Misasha Suzuki Graham has been a practicing litigator for over 15 years, and is passionate about diversity, equity and inclusion in the legal profession as well as in her communities. She is a facilitator, writer, and speaker regarding issues of racial justice, especially with regards to children, the co-author of Dear White Women: Let’s Get (Un)comfortable Talking About Racism, and the co-host of Dear White Women, an award-winning social...

May 02, 202242 min

An off the couch conversation: Practicing Gratitude with Gina Hamadey

In this week's episode, I talk with Gina Hamadey. Gina is the author of the book I Want to Thank You, about her year writing 365 thank you notes to friends, neighbors, family members, mentors, and more (much more!) She was the travel editor at Food & Wine and Rachael Ray Every Day and started her career at the groundbreaking titles O, the Oprah Magazine and George. She founded the content and social strategy firm Penknife Media. She has also written for The New York Times, Real Simple, and E...

Apr 18, 202243 min

An off the couch conversation: Normalizing Motherhood Emotions with Dr. Cassidy

Dr. Cassidy Freitas is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and mom to 3, based in San Diego, California where she teaches part-time at the University of San Diego and works with new families at her private practice. She hosts the podcast Holding Space and provides mental health and relationships resources for new parents. She’s also a colleague of mine as well as my personal coach! In this episode, I talk with Dr. Cassidy about pushed boundaries in motherhood. There are times when we feel l...

Apr 11, 202245 min

Hot Mess Book Club: Let's Reflect on Chapter 2 and Who we Were Before They Called us "mom" (and what that means for us now)!

Exciting news! I am a launching a book club, led by me, to chat about the themes in my newly released book, A Little Less of A Hot Mess and how we can start applying the imperfect growth and evolution framework to our own life as busy moms! Because here's the thing, it's all good to read and learn, but we don't actually make real change or progress in our growth until we put our learning into practice. I didn't write the book to just sit on shelves and look good (although, I do think it looks pr...

Apr 04, 202221 min

An off the couch conversation: What It Means To Stop Living On Autopilot with Antonio Neves

Antonio Neves is an award-winning journalist, world-renowned speaker and top success coach known for asking the tough questions that help people get unstuck. He is also the author of four books as well as hosts a podcast called The Antonio Neves Show where he reminds people that no matter where they stand today, their story is far from over. In this episode, we dissect the insightful chapters of Antonio’s latest book Stop Living on Autopilot and he tells us what it truly means to recommit to you...

Mar 28, 202248 min

We’ve got to stop abandoning ourselves: My Story + My Advice For Moms

Trigger warning: this episode discusses marriage, so if you need to skip it and wait for the next one please do…take care of you first! On that note, this episode is all about the self-abandonment that is all too common in motherhood, especially with the intense mental and emotional load that moms have carried over the past two years. Listen in as I share the self-abandonment story that inspired me to want to do my own personal work and eventually shift my clinics focus go maternal mental health...

Mar 23, 202223 min

An off the couch conversation: Learning How To Raise Children With Big Emotions with Rachel Bailey

In this episode, I talk with Rachel Bailey. Rachel is a coach and parenting specialist. She teaches parents how to reduce negative interactions and drama for a more calm, peaceful home and gives her clients hands-on tools for raising resilient and confident children. During our interview, we talk about the 0-60 irregularities of a child’s feelings. When a child is placed in a scenario of discomfort Rachel refers to it as the “yuck” and as the parent, we have to help them address the “yuck” and l...

Mar 14, 202238 min

An off the couch conversation: How to Raise Kids Who aren’t Assholes with Melinda Moyer

Melinda Wenner Moyer is an award-winning contributing editor at Scientific American magazine and a regular contributor to The New York Times, Washington Post, The Atlantic, and other national magazines and newspapers. She is a faculty member in NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Her first book, which we talk a lot about, was published in July 2021. Excerpts have been published in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Parents magazine, and the book is being translated into seven languag...

Feb 28, 202246 min

An off the couch conversation: Elevating Your Business Through Outsourcing with Meredith Raber

In this episode, I talk with Meredith Raber. Meredith is the owner of Meredith Raber Virtual Assistant Services, a full-service boutique virtual assistance agency for female entrepreneurs. With 11 years of corporate advertising experience coupled with 4 years entrenched in the online business industry, Meredith provides strategic marketing direction as well as manages day-to-day tasks so business owners can focus on their core business. Her goal is to serve as a trusted partner and build long-te...

Feb 14, 202229 min

Why I Wrote "A Little Less Of A Hot Mess" + A Peek Behind the Scenes My Writing and Publishing Journey

In this episode I talk about what the process of writing and launching my first book has been like- starting with my "why" behind taking the leap to decide to write a book (amid a global pandemic), how I came up with the topic and framework for the book, and what I have learned/still am learning through the process. Tune in to hear about ways you can get involved in my book launch, and visit my website to sign up to be a part of the virtual book launch team. If you haven't yet, preorder the book...

Feb 07, 202229 min

An off the couch conversation: Guiding Women into Leadership Through Storytelling with Jess Ekstrom

In this episode, I talk with Jess Ekstrom the founder and CEO of Headbands of Hope, a company she started as a junior in college in 2012. For every headband that’s sold a headband is given to a child with cancer. Jess is also a professional speaker, author of Chasing The Brightside, and founder of Mic Drop Workshop where she helps women tell AND sell their stories through speaking. Our conversation included talking about learning to adapt to an abundance mindset versus a competitive mindset in a...

Jan 31, 202237 min

Mini Coaching Session: Your Therapist Wants You To Ditch Resolutions and Adopt Micro Habits Instead

This episode is my invitation for us to take a different approach to your goals in 2022. I don’t know about you, but I have done the whole new year’s resolution thing way too many times without being successful. And, of course, that always leads me to feel crappy about myself. So, this year I want to take a different approach. In this episode, I’m sharing why I think taking a different approach is important and giving you a few tips to start the new year strong. Pre-order my book "A Little Less ...

Jan 03, 202227 min
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