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A Gay and A NonGay

James Barr and Dan Hudsonwww.gaynongay.com
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends. 'Highly Recommended' Guardian 'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes 'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOut An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongay Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed

Episodes

Crazy Celeb Rumours

James and Dan dive into the absurdity of rumors about Prince's alleged rib removal and an MP's peculiar habit. Plus what is docking? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 15, 202420 min

Jamie Dornan Reviews His 'Doppelgänger' Dan

It's finally happened. What does Jamie Dornan think of Dan moonlighting as a Jamie Dornan look alike? Jamie Dornan makes a surprise appearance to settle the score on Dan's Jamie Dornan lookalike status. Plus our listener shares his struggles with being mistaken for gay and wonders if there's something he's missing about himself. Get in touch with us via our DMs, follow @gaynongay on your socials or email [email protected]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 07, 202426 min

I think I fancy my best friend

James and Dan are back and we're answering your questions. Today, a straight man in his thirties, finds himself grappling with unexpected emotions for his friend who's about to tie the knot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 31, 202422 min

Queer Love and Loneliness: A Conversation with Andrew Haigh, Director of 'All of Us Strangers'

James and Dan sit down with acclaimed filmmaker Andrew Haigh to dive deep into his latest film, "All of Us Strangers." The movie explores the complexities of love, loneliness, and the queer experience, taking viewers on a journey through time and emotion. Andrew shares his insights into the creative process, discussing the challenges of revisiting his childhood home for the film's setting and the cathartic experience it brought. As the conversation unfolds, the hosts touch on the unique ways que...

Jan 24, 202425 min

Best of the Guests 2023

Join James and Dan for a trip through some of their favourite interviews from 2023. Highlights include our chat with Eva Echo after she sued the NHS over waiting times for trans patients, a lively debate with gay Tory Councillor Andrew Boff, our emotional conversation with the Real Jill Nalder from It’s A Sin, a chilling conversation about chemsex murders with Patrick Strudwick and legendary DJ Fat Tony opening up about his struggles with sex addiction. A Gay And A Nongay will return in 2024! Le...

Jan 04, 202432 min

DJ Fat Tony on addiction, recovery and how to finally find happiness

Live at Cheerful Earful Festival Part 2. James Barr and Dan Hudson are joined by legendary DJ Fat Tony for an in-depth conversation about addiction, recovery and how he finally found happiness. We also hear about Tony & Stavros wedding plans, and how their special day will be dedicated to the entire LGBTQ+ community. DJ Fat Tony interview starts at 01.35. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 26, 202341 min

Jamie Raines - Live at Cheerful Earful Festival Part 1

In the first of two episodes recorded live at Cheerful Earful Festival in November, James Barr and Dan Hudson are joined by LGBTQ+ educator & YouTuber Jamie Raines - who gained a huge online following by sharing his personal transition with the internet. But first, Things Dan Cannot Say returns, and Dan thinks gays ‘should admit that RuPaul’s Drag Race is over’ 😱. Alyship REVOKED. Come back next week for Part 2, featuring an inspirational interview with DJ Fat Tony. Jamie Raines interview start...

Dec 20, 202323 min

The Aces

James and Dan are joined by Cristal and Alisa from The Aces. We’re going to talk about the new album, growing up in the Mormon Church and why they decided to leave - how amazing their shows in Utah have been and the positive effect they have on queer youth around the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 13, 202314 min

Re-release: Our big gay show with Sophie Anderson

Re-release: Our big gay show with Felicity Ward, Sophie Anderson and Vanessa Feltz. In light of the sad death of Sophie Anderson, this week there's another chance to hear our Big Gay Show. This episode was recorded live at the Underbelly Festival in September 2021 with very special guests Sophie Anderson, Vanesa Feltz and Felicity Ward. Episode Timings 04:14 - Things Dan Can't Say 09:13 - Felicity Ward Interview 19:04 - Sophie Anderson Interview 31:00 - Vanessa Feltz joins Sophie Anderson Learn ...

Dec 06, 202343 min

No one cares that you have a girlfriend

Why do people feel the need to announce that they're in a relationship? Is it arrogant? James has had it with people telling him they have a boyfriend. Dan thinks it's pretty normal. Let us know your thoughts 😂 find us on your socials by searching gaynongay. Kisses x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 29, 202310 min

Pride and Politics - Are Tories welcome in LGBTQ+ spaces?

Is the Conservative Party welcome in LGBTQ+ spaces? Dan and James discuss a recent twitter/X spat where some members of the Tory Party were allegedly physically thrown out of gay bar in Manchester. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 22, 202317 min

Unashamedly Gay, Unashamedly Christian with Jayne Ozanne

Today we welcome Jayne Ozanne. Jayne is a former member of the UK government's LGBT advisory panel but sensationally quit 2 years ago because of ministers creating a 'hostile environment for LGBTQ+ people'. Jayne discusses the tories continuous lack of action on their much ‘promised’ conversion therapy ban. At the time of release there is still confusion as to whether it will be included in the King's Speech on 7th November 2023. Jayne also exposes a potential queerness at the heart of the Vatic...

Nov 02, 202333 min

Are the Conservative Party betraying LGBTQ+ rights? a conversation with Andrew Boff

James and Dan are joined by Conservative politician Andrew Boff - who was ejected from the party conference after heckling the Home Secretary Suella Braverman. Why did he do it? Should Suella resign for inciting hate speech against LGBTQ+ people? And can the Tory party really claim to be 'safe' for LGBTQ+ people? Join us for our next recording live in London with our special guests DJ Fat Tony & Jamie Raines in conversation. Get tickets now, scroll to the bottom of the page https://www.designmyn...

Oct 25, 202323 min

Thy Art Is Eternal... Transphobia in music

James and Dan discuss transphobia in their respective worlds, as deathcore band Thy Art is Murder sack their transphobic singer - and 90s band Eternal split into two over the trans debate. Listen again to our episode with Louise! Watch the video about XL Bully dog owners Get tickets to our upcoming live show at Cheerful Earful Festival in London on November 2nd with our guest DJ Fat Tony! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 18, 202319 min

Princess Diana

How often does Dan think about the Roman Empire, and how often does James think about Princess Diana? Dan has some very exciting career news, and James definitely does not have the hump! Plus, bird news. Get tickets to our upcoming live show at Cheerful Earful Festival in London on November 2nd! (Book Dan as a Jamie Dornan lookalike on lookalikes.co.uk 👀) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 11, 202321 min

What is life like for LGBTQ+ asylum seekers in the UK?

James and Dan are joined by Leila Zadeh from Rainbow Migration. Together, we dig deep into the harsh realities faced by LGBTQ+ asylum seekers trying to find safety in the UK. Leila reveals the heartbreaking truth about the challenges these individuals face, shining a light on the trauma caused by the UK's immigration detention system. This episode paints a vivid picture of what it's like to be an LGBTQ+ asylum seeker. It highlights the emotional toll of being locked up and the uncertainty of whe...

Oct 04, 202320 min

Is being 'thick' a 'gay' thing?

Dan thinks that James might pretend to be "thick" to fit a gay stereotype? This goes down well 😂 and James wonders if Dan thinks "all straight people are boring", prompting a lively exchange. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 27, 202312 min

Bird News

We're back with Bird News! James is ‘back in the game’ - dating-wise, but doesn’t want to use any apps. Plus is driving a car 'straight'? and it’s James’ birthday but why was Dan not invited? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 20, 202321 min

Is it safe to be gay in the UK?

James reflects on the horrific events at The Two Brewers in Clapham in August, and asks if the UK is a safe place for gay people. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 13, 202319 min

Is there a 'power dynamic' in gay relationships?

What is the ‘power dynamic’ in a gay relationship? Would James role-play as someone’s brother? Plus Dan has some bird news. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 06, 202318 min

Fire Island Chicken Tender-gate

James fills Dan in on more 'gay Twitter' drama regarding Chicken Tenders. Plus, is Jack Grealish leading a 'new trend' of feminiity? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 17, 202314 min

What is a 'circuit queen'?

James reflects on the *drama* at Adonis nightclub. Meanwhile, Dan's latest business venture 'Only Dans' is still not off the ground. :(. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 10, 202312 min

Go 'woke', go Broke? and Barbie

This Barbie is a podcaster - As a christian preacher condemns Barbie, James is embarrassed to discover he's the only gay that fancied his Ken doll as a child. Plus we question the motivations behind transphobia, are these born to a genuine concern about transgender people or something else? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 02, 202314 min

Ten Years of Equal Marriage with Layla Moran MP

James and Dan are joined by Liberal Democrat MP Layla Moran, the UK's first pansexual MP. On the agenda - why is David Cameron taking credit for introducing same-sex marriage? Are there lots of secretly gay MPs who vote for homophobic legislation? And why are the government so obsessed with trans people? Plus, Layla opens up to James and Dan about her own coming out journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 19, 202321 min

Glastonbury Darkrooms

Dan learns about a darkroom at Glastonbury, and James finds out what an upside-down pineapple means. Is this a thing? Meanwhile in Solihull, 'the most NonGay town in Britain', everyone's apparently drinking pina coladas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 12, 202321 min

America's Chemsex Killer with Patrick Strudwick

Are experiences like abuse, chemsex, sexual exploitation, racism and even murder considered 'normal' for LGBTQ+ people? James and Dan dive into the depths of LGBTQ+ shame with journalist Patrick Strudwick, uncovering it's impact and the vulnerabilities it can create. In this chilling episode, Patrick shares insights from his new Audible original series, 'White Smoke: America’s Chemsex Killer'. Are there more Ed Bucks out there? Listen to White Smoke on Audible For help and advice with chemsex, j...

Jul 05, 202327 min

Has Philip Schofield given gays ‘bad PR?’

Has the Philip Schofield scandal given the gays ‘bad PR?’. Dan wonders if age-gap relationships are more common in the LGBTQ+ community? Is there anything wrong with them? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 28, 202313 min

Breakups and Beefs

Should you be 'friends' with your exes? Dan discovers that none of James' breakups have been amicable. Meanwhile James' friend is panicked after sleeping with someone that looks exactly like Dan. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 22, 202318 min
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