When we find ourselves in relationships that don't serve our needs or may be abusive, our partners can have attachment wounds. Shena Tubbs, creator of Black Girls Heal joins us today to discuss love addiction, love avoidance, and love deprivation. If you find that you fall in love fast with potential or fantasy, and create stories of living happily ever after before truly knowing a person - you may struggle with love addiction. If you experienced relationship trauma that causes you to fear love ...
Oct 17, 2022•45 min•Season 4Ep. 28
Dr. Sherrie Campbell, PhD. joins us again today to discuss her journey in recovery from cutting off toxic family members. She shares how the dysfunction continued to build until she was strong enough to separate herself from her family. She discussed her process of finding out family members had passed away and how money was handled in the process. Dr. Sherrie also provided some tips on the recovery journey. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not ap...
Oct 11, 2022•53 min•Season 4Ep. 27
Erika Simone and I discuss masculine and feminine energy in relationships and how that affects the energy that you operate in. We discussed limerence and why obsessive thinking/fantasizing about relationships is unhealthy. Visit Erika Simone at: https://www.itserikasimone.com/ https://www.itserikasimone.com/receiv... https://www.tiktok.com/@erikasimone_ https://www.instagram.com/erikasimone_/ *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to ever...
Oct 04, 2022•57 min•Season 4Ep. 26
Relationship coach Erika Simone joins us today to discuss how the relationship with God and our fathers impact our romantic relationships with others. Erika and further discuss lessons of spiritual teachings, and how some of the underlying tones to those messages can be oppressive to women. Erika and I chat about emotional dyregulation and the role that plays in how we show up for others and ourselves. Visit Erika Simone at: https://www.itserikasimone.com/ https://www.itserikasimone.com/receiv.....
Sep 25, 2022•50 min•Season 4Ep. 25
When dealing with a narcissist, we often underestimate the level of dangerousness of a person or situation. This episode explores behaviors and actions that should never be minimized, ignored, or dismissed. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. Some o...
Sep 18, 2022•24 min•Season 4Ep. 24
Deandra Kanu, fashion and beauty influencer and former contestant from The Bachelor, joins us today to discuss steps to building confidence. If you have ever been in an abusive or unhealthy relationship, then you know it does a number on your self-esteem and confidence. Deandra walks us through her steps and journey of regaining confidence. Connect with Deandra Kanu here: Deandra's YouTube Deandra's Instagram Deandra's Storefront Deandra's TikTok *Please note: Information provided on this episod...
Sep 11, 2022•58 min•Season 4Ep. 23
Dr. Amy Baker, PhD. author, researcher, and court expert joins us today to talk about parental alienation. There is nothing more hurtful than a parent turning their child against the other parent. This can go on for years when children are forced to align with one parent, and are subjected to endless smear campaigns about the other parent. Dr. Baker discusses why parents do this, the likelihood of a parent who engages in this behavior having a personality disorder, and the consequences of the pa...
Sep 02, 2022•54 min•Season 4Ep. 22
If you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissistic, abusive, or emotionally unavailable man; you may find that you feel negatively about men or you have trouble connecting with them. Bob Grant, PLC and I discuss what a quality man looks like in a relationship, who he surrounds himself with, and how he approaches problem-solving in a relationship. Further, Bob and I discuss how you can have a corrective emotional experience with a quality man. Visit Bob Grant, PLC here: Bob Grant's websi...
Aug 23, 2022•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 21
Dr. Kristen Neff, PhD. joins the podcast today to discuss the art of self-compassion. When struggling with an abusive or dysfunctional relationship, it's important to treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Dr. Neff explains how to be self-compassionate, ways you can make space in your life to be compassionate, and how self-compassion improves your quality of life overall. Connect with Dr. Kristen Neff, PhD here: www.self-compassion.org For Dr. Kristen Neff's books: Self-Compassion Fierce S...
Aug 17, 2022•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 20
Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD, longtime friend of A Date With Darkness and owner of Annod Right and I discussed the Lovers and Friends Podcast episode titled I Baby My Man . This podcast set the internet abuzz as it was controversial. If you have not heard this podcast, be sure to check it out as it is the reference point for this episode. In it, the guest Ms. Jasmin Brown stated that her relationship is one in which she is submissive to her man all the time. Dr. Donna and I debate whether what she desc...
Aug 11, 2022•29 min•Season 4Ep. 19
Anne Blythe, host and creator of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast joins the podcast to discuss sexual coercion and how it shows up in marriage. Anne discusses her experience with sexual coercion, common misperceptions about sex in the marriage, and red flags one should be on the lookout for when sex is used as a means to control your partner. Contact Anne Blythe: www.btr.org For more resources on sexual coercion visit: www.rainn.org *Please note: Information provided on this episode are gene...
Aug 07, 2022•57 min•Season 4Ep. 18
It's not uncommon to feel detached from people as we are healing after leaving an abusive relationship. Although you may go to work everyday and appear to be fine on the outside, the reality is, you are not. Dr. Margaret Rutherford, PhD. joins us today to talk about hidden depression, the signs, how it may be mistaken for anxiety, what happens when we overlook it, and how we can start to heal. Connect with Dr. Margaret Rutherford, PhD. here: Dr. Margaret's website Book: Perfectly Hidden Depressi...
Jul 29, 2022•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 17
Telsha Edinburgh and I have a talk today about NPD and what inspires Telsha to create her youtube channel. Telsha and discuss moving on after narcissistic abuse and whether or not the narcissist moves on despite the quick discard. Connect with Telsha Edinburgh here: The Tea on NPD *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be s...
Jul 25, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Season 4Ep. 16
Dr. Debi Silber, PhD, a holistic psychologist and the owner of the PBT Institute, joins us today to discuss betrayal trauma. Dr. Silber and I discuss what betrayal trauma is, why we get stuck on the betrayal, and she offers tips on the best way to move through the betrayal to begin your healing journey. Connect with Dr. Debi Silber, PhD: Dr. Debi's website *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode m...
Jul 19, 2022•55 min•Season 4Ep. 15
Kimeka Tacklin joins us today to talk about her experience in dating and attracting partners that are emotionally unavailable. Kimeka discussed how her family experience of always having to be the one to reach out to her father may have influenced her anxious attachment behavior and choices with men. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information prov...
Jul 09, 2022•58 min•Season 4Ep. 14
Susan Anderson LCSW, therapist, author, and expert on abandonment joins the show today. Susan discusses the wounds of physical and emotional abandonment and the long-term impact of both of those unhealed wounds. Having a core wound of being abandoned can cause us to look for love in the wrong places, depression, attempt to seek out comfort in abusive relationships and so much more. Abandonment wounds can be healed, but it takes time, motivation, intention, and consistency to work through the lay...
Jun 29, 2022•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 13
Dr. Holly Sawyer, Phd, LPC, CAADC, SAP joins us today to discuss how Black women internalize microaggressions in the workplace. Dr. Sawyer and I break down the different layers of microaggressions and how Black women may develop problematic coping skills such as drinking to cope with being oppressed, invalidated, and unseen in the corporate workplace. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may no...
Jun 27, 2022•59 min•Season 4Ep. 12
Britt Frank, LSCSW, SEP and I sit down today to have a candid discussion about trauma, feeling emotionally stuck, and emotional incest that adult children experience from growing up in a family with parents who don't respect boundaries. Britt Frank, LSCSW, SEP and I discuss why adults who experience emotional incest from their parents may stay stunted in their emotional growth. Independence and learning healthy boundaries can be much more challenging to develop when your parents want to control ...
Jun 17, 2022•56 min•Season 4Ep. 11
Cameka Alexander, a behavioral counselor and owner of Fasttell non-profit joins us today. She and I have a candid conversation about misogyny and how it show’s up in the relationship dynamics between fathers and their daughters. Ms. Cameka Alexander, a behavior counselor, offers her theory on why fathers “hate” their daughters and how this affects their safety and security throughout their lives. She and I also discuss the impact of how this has affected her personally through her own relationsh...
Jun 11, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Season 4Ep. 10
If you grew up in a severely narcissistic or toxic family, you may have been struggling with boundaries or communication and the dynamics of your family. If you are wondering if it's time to let go of a family relationship that no longer serves you, but you are unsure of how to do it then be sure to listen to Dr. Sherrie Campbell's tips. Dr. Sherrie Campbell PhD. discussed her experience with her family, and what helped her to go completely no contact. *Please note: Information provided on this ...
Jun 03, 2022•54 min•Season 4Ep. 9
Dalila Jusic-LaBerge, LMFT, owner of Be Here & Now Counseling and Therapy joins us today to discuss anxious and avoidant attachment in relationships. We discuss the dynamics that occur when the avoidant person starts to pull away in dating triggering the anxious person's fear of abandonment. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided ...
May 06, 2022•59 min•Season 4Ep. 10
April is financial wellness month, and the show will be honoring financial wellness in discussing money all month long. Bernadette Harris, MS, MBA, CFE joins us today to discuss money, and the depths that people will go to hide it. Bernadette shares her experience in forensic accounting, and the consequences that people suffer when they try to hide money in business, high conflict divorces, or other legal matters. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is ...
Apr 20, 2022•54 min•Season 4Ep. 9
April is financial wellness month, and the show will be honoring financial wellness in discussing money all month long. When you have experienced trauma or mental health issues, it's not uncommon for that to manifest in finances. So many people burn through money because of suppressed feelings of shame. Emily Maclin, a financial coach joins the show to discuss the signs of financial shame and how that shows up in managing money. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general sugg...
Apr 08, 2022•55 min•Season 4Ep. 9
Dr. Fanike-Kiara Young, LCSW joins us today to have a candid conversation about intuition. Your gut feeling about a person or situation is often your first indicator of a red or green flag. Instead of paying attention to how we feel about a person or a situation, we attempt to play things safe or small by giving it the "benefit of the doubt." *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suit...
Mar 18, 2022•52 min•Season 4Ep. 8
Devaluation occurs when you are no longer being idealized by the narcissist. The narcissist may be preparing to discard you and regardless of what you do, you cannot prevent them from attempting to find fault in you or treat you poorly. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed ment...
Feb 24, 2022•42 min•Season 4Ep. 7
In this episode of the podcast, I discuss what idealization of romantic partners is in relationships, and why we do it. In the beginning of relationship, there are some of us who get caught up in the idea that this person is the "one" therefore we refuse to evaluate evidence to the contrary. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided shou...
Feb 18, 2022•28 min•Season 4Ep. 6
Long after an abusive relationship has ended, you may continue to silently abuse yourself. I discuss ways that we continue treating ourselves poorly and how we can put a stop to it. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. Some of the information discuss...
Feb 04, 2022•37 min•Season 4Ep. 5
One of the most challenging things to do is to pick up the pieces of your life and start all over again after leaving a relationship with a narcissist. Where do you start? What do you work on first? Join me as I have a candid conversation on personal development tools to work on after leaving a relationship with a narcissist. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone...
Jan 28, 2022•30 min•Season 4Ep. 4
On this solocast, I discuss the signs of narcissist discard. When a narcissist is done with the relationship and is on their way out the door, the signs are there. I discuss why it's important to see these signs for what they are and how you can take the steps to put yourself first and resist the urge to stay connected to an abusive person. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitab...
Jan 21, 2022•50 min•Season 4Ep. 3
It's not uncommon for people to have more than one narcissistic or toxic relationship in their life. If you have evaluated the relationships in your life and have come to the conclusion that most of them are toxic, here are some reasons why as well as general tips on what to do about it. *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should n...
Jan 14, 2022•50 min•Season 4Ep. 2
