Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE to talk about love, the necessity of pauses, and to say a GOODBYE FOR NOW. To all of you listening for a short time, or for years: you are GEMS. Keep in touch. Nurture Connection. Have some fun. We love you. Go on a date. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about...
Jun 07, 2022•1 hr 23 min•Season 1Ep. 231
Kimmy and Liza discuss SECRETS - Is it okay to keep secrets from a partner? When do you tell people things that you consider secret? What is “need to know” with a partner? Do we have a right to privacy even from our partners? How and when do you share secrets? The article we discuss can be found at: https://www.verywellmind.com/secrets-in-marriage-2303980#:~:text=You%20have%20the%20right%20to,reason%20that%20you%20want%20to . Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date st...
May 06, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 230
Kimmy and Liza discuss ULTIMATUMS - do they ever work, have we ever given one, have we ever received one, and wtf is up with that Netflix show? We also discuss this article by Madeline Howard: https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a39642936/do-ultimatums-work-in-relationships/. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Faceb...
Apr 12, 2022•58 min•Season 1Ep. 229
Kimmy and Liza discuss AMBITION and Hannah Orenstein's article in The Cut - "My Ambition Turns Off More Men than it Attracts": https://www.thecut.com/2022/03/ambition-dating-men-turnoff.html. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices...
Mar 28, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 228
Kimmy and Liza discuss FAST-FORWARDING a relationship and break down the good and bad versions of fast forwarding. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices...
Feb 25, 2022•58 min•Season 1Ep. 227
Kimmy and Liza re-think, re-brand, and rant about everyone's favorite holiday to hate-love and love-hate: Valentine's day. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices...
Feb 11, 2022•59 min•Season 1Ep. 226
Kimmy and Liza discuss their least favorite thing in the world - open and clear communication, ugh. They break down communication issues in their own relationships, and then go discuss this Goop article on communication mistakes in relationships: https://goop.com/wellness/relationships/communication-mistakes-in-relationships/ They also discuss if there's ever an excuse for being left on read and what to do if you're feeling some time of way about a sexual dry spell. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on...
Feb 04, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Season 1Ep. 225
Liza is joined by CARLYNNE to discuss one of the deep, spooky, shameful fears - WHAT IF I'M ALONE FOREVER?! But ya know...make it fun. They also do some rapid fire pep talk about how to deal with disliking someone's family, mediocre sex with a good person, and the winter blues. They answer a listener question about apologies to exes. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substac...
Jan 28, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 224
Kimmy and Liza do a SOLO episode in which they discuss a dreaded topic: How to get over *THAT* person. They also weigh in on West Elm Caleb, discuss how to handle sooo many friends being in relationships , and do a Grandma-vocab-lesson on hardballing and oystering. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more...
Jan 21, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 223
Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE to discuss a very tough and vulnerable topic: body image and how it affects your dating life. They share personal stories about how their body images have shaped their experiences and answer listener questions about body image. If you are struggling with an eating disorder, please seek help. A great place to start is the National Eating Disorders Association https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst fi...
Jan 14, 2022•1 hr 51 min•Season 1Ep. 222
Kimmy and Liza talk all things NEW YEAR - walking through the negativity forest, reaching out to the person you went on a date with pre-holidays, resolutions and anti-resolutions, saying NO to mixed signals, and reflecting on 2021 with this twitter list: https://twitter.com/Shane___Martin/status/1476597909965590533. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't ...
Jan 07, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Season 1Ep. 221
Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE. They answer some rapid fire questions, lay out a last minute gift guide, and recap some potential trends in 2022 dating as predicted by OkCupid Data! The article we reference can be found here: https://theblog.okcupid.com/2022-will-be-the-year-of-exploration-in-dating-696d6385372a . Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And d...
Dec 21, 2021•1 hr 21 min•Season 1Ep. 220
Kimmy and Liza do their annual HOLIDATING episode, with a focus on loneliness. What it means and what to do when it rears its head. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices...
Dec 10, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 219
Kimmy and Liza do a SOLO EP where they do a deep dive on FIGHTING. They also answer some rapid fire questions about non-cheesy holidates, professional photos on apps, and dating someone with no social media. Then they discuss Esther Perel and Mary Alice Miller's article 'The 3 Types of Relationship Fights You Keep Having - And What to do About Them.' https://www.estherperel.com/blog/the-relationship-fights-you-keep-having . Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stor...
Dec 04, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 218
Liza and Kimmy are joined by CARLYNNE, for a live and in person recording for the first time since February of 2020! They do a quick hits question corner, talk about the dos and don'ts of Thanksgiving hometown hookups, and recap Kimmy and Carlynne's first date. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more abo...
Nov 23, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Season 1Ep. 217
Liza and Kimmy are joined by DR. DARCY STERLING, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the host of E! Network’s Famously Single. They discuss what Dr. Darcy's shocking worst first date story, the pressure that the pandemic put on relationships and dating, and jealousy - why we feel it, where it comes from, and what to do with it. Follow Dr. Darcy on social @DrDarcySterling and check out her blog, www.askdrdarcy.com. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 5...
Nov 17, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 216
Kimmy and Liza do a solo ep! They discuss they pros and cons of voice prompts on apps (and pitch what their answers would be!) , and make some uneducated guesses on dating data. They also answer a listener question on double texting and read a Redditship about spiritual poetry. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook grou...
Nov 12, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 215
Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE to discuss a virtual first date! They also take turns pitching and answering questions to ask yourself to figure out what you want in a relationship. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! We're in the top 15 podcasts on Feedspot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcas...
Nov 02, 2021•58 min•Season 1Ep. 214
Kimmy and Liza do a solo ep! They discuss 5 controversial questions for early-stage dating, and how to turn a spark into a flame, based on this article from Esther Perel and Mary Alice Miller: https://www.estherperel.com/blog/dating-advice-for-turning-a-spark-into-a-flame. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! We...
Oct 26, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 213
**RE-RELEASE** This week, Kimmy and Liza are joined by KENNY!! They give some relationship updates and then debunk the 1995 book 'The Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right'. Follow us @51FirstDates on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices...
Oct 20, 2021•1 hr 26 min•Season 1Ep. 212
Liza and Kimmy are joined by SHANI SILVER, host of the podcast 'A Single Serving' and author of the upcoming book 'A Single Revolution.' They discuss the genesis of the book, how the Covid era has shaped people's attitudes around single-dom, and the most empowering moments Shani has had in quarantine. Buy Shani's book 'A Single Revolution' on Amazon ON OCTOBER 26th. Listen to Shani's podcast 'A Single Serving' and check out her work at www.ShaniSilver.com. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram...
Oct 12, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 211
Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE to check in on Carlynne's dating journey and give a series of pep talks on topics such as: What if I get ghosted after three good dates? What if I've put in all the work on the apps but I can't find someone to connect with? What if I HATE the apps? AND MUCH MORE! Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join o...
Oct 05, 2021•1 hr 13 min•Season 1Ep. 210
Liza and Kimmy are joined by LAURA BEHNKE, coach and women's empowerment advocate. They discuss how to bust our expectations around marriage and coupled life, how to get excited about being single, how to communicate about being single to others, and dating rules to dump. Follow Laura on Instagram @laurabbehnke, check out her website www.laurabehnke.com, and listen to her podcast LIFE ACTUALLY. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.c...
Sep 28, 2021•57 min•Season 1Ep. 209
Liza and Kimmy are joined by CASEY TANNER, certified sex therapist, creator of the IG @queersextherapy, and owner of The Expansive Group. They discuss how to explore your sexual orientation while dating, expanding your sexual repertoire, and Casey's worst first date (spoiler: it was with her current partner). Follow Casey @queersextherapy and check out her work at www.theexpansivegroup.com. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com ....
Sep 21, 2021•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 208
Kimmy and Liza do a quick lil' Friday episode of REDDITSHIPS - featuring a wedding-eve ex visit, an NFT engagement ring, and a very ill-advised dating app download. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! We're in the top 15 podcasts on Feedspot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices...
Sep 17, 2021•44 min•Season 1Ep. 207
Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE to break down some expert opinions on a big question: Why is Dating So Hard? They also do a quick Marry/Fuck/Kill with the cast of Bachelor in Paradise, and do a fall refresh of Carlynne's Hinge profile as she prepares to dive back into dating in her new city! The article we reference can be found here: https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/why-is-dating-so-hard. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail...
Sep 07, 2021•53 min•Season 1Ep. 206
As a Throwback Tuesday (because summer vacation!), we're re-releasing the episode where Kimmy meets Date #13! Remember gems: lying is bad...except when you need to do it and then it turns into a long and meaningful relationship. ENJOY! Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! We're in the top 15 podcasts on Feedspot...
Aug 31, 2021•1 hr 14 min•Season 1Ep. 205
Kimmy and Liza are joined by comedian, actress, and writer KATE WILLETT. They discuss what it's like to date as a public internet presence, diving into the world of dating men after being married to a woman, and when and how to incorporate politics into dating. Follow Kate on Twitter @KateWillett, on Instagram @Kate.Willett, listen to her podcast REPLY GUYS, and keep an eye out for her tour dates on social! Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdat...
Aug 24, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 204
Kimmy and Liza are joined by ALEXIS WOLFE, a dating, restaurant, and NYC lifestyle influencer who is behind the Instagram @NYCDATENITE. They discuss what makes a great date spot, and Alexis designs her perfect first date! Follow Alexis on Instagram @NycDateNite and check out her website www.nycdatenite.com. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to...
Aug 18, 2021•55 min•Season 1Ep. 203
Kimmy and Liza are joined by CARLYNNE to discuss lessons learned from Katie Thurston's season of The Bachelorette. They discuss what is and isn't gaslighting, and how to tell if you're a rebound. Follow us @51FirstDatesPod on Instagram! Send your worst first date stories to 51firstdatespod@gmail.com . Subscribe to our Substack at https://preciousgems.substack.com/. And don't forget to join our secret Facebook group! We're in the top 15 podcasts on Feedspot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visi...
Aug 10, 2021•50 min•Season 1Ep. 202
