Someone I know. We're acquaintances. We're not really good friends, so we know each other and we're friendly when we see each other. Recently announced you checking himself into a mental facility because he was thinking about unliving himself. And he was talking about how being in his fifties is feeling invisible. And yes he has friends, yes he has coworkers and stuff, but he just it was it was
the silence at night. I always taughtout this all the time, about how but it's quieter at night, your brain gets louder. As we have a lot of insomniacs. All people have problems. There were a thing also called twilight syndromes by their daylight syndrum ers by sunlight sense like that too, sundown syndrome. And I just thought what you were talking about. I totally related to him when he was talking about that. I'm glad he's checking it was self placed to getself helped.
But I get what he's saying. You know, it's I guess you know. I just saw actually have this song on my latest album called The Grass Is Green on both sides. I know it seems like that that whole thing, the grasses and Greener over there and seems greener, but it isn't the fast people want to talk to you who have partners. Yes, no one's relationship is perfect. We
know that no one's relationship is perfect. However common there's still a difference that you go home and that person's sleeping next to you, or he's sleeping in the next room, or he's in the same house. Like there's there's a difference. I'm not talking if you're being physically abused, about talking if you're being mentally abused, I am I talking about that kind of stuff. That's that's something totally that you're right,
it's that's all of a story by itself. But I'm talking average relationship, regular relationship, and may I be perfect, but you have your ups and downs, but you're still together and it might be things missing that you used to have as a whole the conversation I'm talking versus
someone who's alone or who's single and by themselves. It's a trip cause there is a difference, and especially as you get always this show is called fifty Pluss, So as you get older, even if you're trying to get plastic surgery or working out or trying to save your hair, and people go to Turkey and save their hair all these things. I don't a lot of folks who do all that and they're still alone meeting someone. These days. I think it's the hardest it's ever been in my lifetime.
It was to be way easier back in the day twenty thirty years ago. And when you're younger, you have the world at your feet. The world is at your feet, it really is. We're all the advancements, everything we're trying to do with agents, and everybody's living longer, you know, We're all like, you know, you're looking better or living longer. It's still worse. I think it's I'm sorry, I think it's worse. And now we had a pandemic, so it's people now are not wanting to go out the house
anymore or meet people, don't trust anybody anymore. It's like it's it's it's a trip, you know, and the like in the gay words, like there's no more cruising anymore, Like it's just going to happen. That's it. The old days you cruise than the straight world. It's like, I don't know how to talk to women because all this stuff that's been going on. It's just like it's just it's you know, men being toxic. You know, there's a
whole there's all this stuff going. I'm like, what happened to just people getting together because they are attracting each other, they see something, they connect. Yes, some walls are up and you break them down, you know as you get to know each other, Like what happened to them that? So I've talked about I thin I've talked about this or other shows I've talked to. I have shared how
lonely I am. You know, I I have young friends, I have family and I but they all go home to their homes and I still go to bed by myself. And I'm at the point where and I think it's before where I've stopped looking because I've I feel like I've done every different I've taken advice from thirty different people. I have had specialists on my show, love specialists and therapists.
I've done all of that. I feel like I've tried every different thing, and people still ghost you at somebody the other day again, try a separ day with this person and we're almost there, like, okay, so meeting tomorrow, what time is good for you? And they never answered back then two months later, Hi, how are you? I didn't respond, then it give me a how have you pen Like two days later did respond a thumbs up? Like they get an attitude because because I won't respond
to them, now they have an attitude. But like, but I'm still waiting for the two months ago to go to dinner. So it's kind of like that's what people have, not just me, but I don't. Maybe you're doing the same thing I'm doing. This dealer going well, I did everything I was supposed to do, or there we're friends off somebody else. We're friends on Facebook because we like each other finding each other Facebook, and you like my posts,
but you don't call real text. You start out, you stuck, you're into me, and then you just kind of stopped. I mean, it's I mean, I understand there's times when people you meet each other you realize you're not for each other, but like say that that's somebody you know, I'm kind that it's not that into you whatever. But for me, I've had it once where I did reach out later like I'm still into you. I'm like, well
want to so I'm not suposed to chase you. You completely do odd so I'm i star be doing just all the phone calls, all the text cause one person tell me I will always text you back or call you back, and you're like, but what about you checking on me? Where are me? And as you get older, in many ways, many of us get more set in our ways or and or we've had so many experiences that were just like gunshoting, Okay, We're like, okay, I'm good. I don't do that. I'm good. You try this, I'm good, and
the whole like how how young should I date? Cause when they're younger, they're trying. Then they're looking for sugar days and in some cases or how sh I tried dating older and they were even more set in their ways. I was like, I'm trying to I'm trying to go. I'm like, I'm not even try I'm just like thinking we're too mature people. I mean that could I've tried everything, so I just I just I've given I've given up. But meanwhile my needs aren't being met. So I'm at
home myself and I haven't been. I'm a busy person. I'm doing ten hundre million different things, so maytimes I can go for like two weeks not even thinking about it. Just I'm working, working, work, We're working, and then I get that one day off and then I'm like depressed. Get it. But it's like you and all your friends like you're so wonderful, Why can't you find anybody? What's
wrong with you? And that's like that. I'm like, some must be wrong with me, But I don't the only person I know that a lot of folks, especially in my it's all ages, but especially in fifty plus, you just feel like, Okay, well I don't look the same way as I did before. I'm not, you know, or maybe I'm too old for a lot of people like what should like? What should I do? It's a it's a hard thing to navigate, and I don't see it
getting easier. And so I know there's there's high shoe side rates with youngst men and especially and and it's just it's it's so sad. I want anybody dance themselves, of course not. And I want people to be happy. I wish no folks could be happy, and I I don't. Folks are still meeting up and falling in love and
getting married. Stuff I don't know. Not my direction and part of me and I've talked to other people around my age who are single part of us, part of me, and other people I talk to you at my age kind of feel like we know we can be alone. We're already were already doing it. We know it could, we know it could be alone, and we know that for the most part, we can survive. It's and but it's still this thing of kind of like, wow, it would be kind of nice if someone did come through
and stick around. That could be nice too. It's like how much older am I gonna get? Like that might even get say, well, I get to the point where I'm like, because I've talked to people who are inder Seid and they're like, I'm done. They're good, Like, is that is that? I Am? I done? Am I really done? Did I do everything I was supposed to do with somebody people? Is that is that? As it? I had a lot of fun, folks. I mean I think I think my folks, she's never done anything or done very much.
I feel bad for damn, especially because I'm like, you get to say I could say I could I literally could say I've had a lot of fun, I've had a lot of experiences. I'm trying to get this PG and g on here this on this podcast. I had a good time. So I mean, if I'm retired, done it, that's it. I live in my memories. Yeah, I live with my memories. That's it. So I'm like, I don't even know what that means, right, you guys, it's it's life is I mean, just likes for today. As I
am recording this podcast, it is a Thursday. It's a beautiful day outside by windows are all open, everything's open, it's beautiful. The weather it's great here in Los Angeles. I actually had a nice personal week hanging out with a friend of mine for the last couple of days. We had a really great just nice, relaxing, fun record shopping going. So I went to the water. So I lived near the water, so I don't going to water. Me
and Delray did all that. I had good food, So I mean, so I had a good week, had a good week in terms of per I feel pretty good. You know, take car business, My business do really well, you know, but they're al still fixing my roof. They had to fixed my direct TV, they had to fix my RS.
I mean, but I was still skiing done, so I do have all that, but I still go to bed by myself with nobody checking on me, like didn't nobody Roman take nobody, nothing, the sexual nothing, just that's it because I just go Okay, I guess so.
I'm very blessed in highly favor. Life is good anyways, can't complain too much. But there are people, yes, who will die of loneliness, and that part is kind of sad. I don't have the answer. It's just a continuing conversation that we'll be having on this show especially. But YEA have no answers to this. If you have an answers, tell me to HeSE some answers. Here's some answers. Here's fifty plus. It's mostly an audio audio podcast. There are
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