Criticized For Not Aging A Certain Way

doing it. Fifty plus is a series that I do every week Every Tuesday, I talk about issues that it happened for being my fifty plus. This time, I'm actually gonna talk about age. I'm actually gonna talk about age. So I've been seeing a couple of people online who are younger criticizing people who are older, and there's and they say, in their own words, aren't aging gracefully or aren't aging the way they're supposed to. I say that in air quotes, and it was just so weird to me.

Because Alisha Ray, who's an actress she may or may not know who, came out recently saying how she she's fifty seven and how she looks great and how she looks amazing, but how she does need a man and you know, and how she decides to date, she still goes out, And there's a whole articy there's a whole interview with that. Shirley Ralph, my buddy was talking about how her husband lives on one coach lives on the other, and she's in her saxty she looks and she looks amazing.

People are criticizing them for not looking their age and quotes like remember what that means anymore? I thought, Wow, there's some backlash that's like happening. You're teaching younger people and real stuff, and I go and I just wanted to talk about that little bit because people, as some people will come on my shows and ask why do I talk about age? What I talk about racial stuff? What I talk about sexuality, what I talk about colorism?

And they get people will get mad at me. And these are some of these are the folks that actually, if they're black, and I'm I think math we talk about black issue. I It's just it's I don't have time for all that. So I always tell people that I am another channel for you, I'm not the show for you. Just scroll go somewhere else, because I'm not going to stop. No matter what you say to me, I'm not going to stop. I'm gonna continue talking about it because I'm

not a victim or anything like that. It's just that's these are issues that we're talking about because there are people out there who feel alone and aren't areas that may be rural or just not as popular, or a lot of friends who feel invisible. And and that's in relation to age. In this episode, I can tell you it's everywhere. Hello skincare products. Yeah, I use products too. I love them. I got all my I got all my lotions and names and face stuff, and I do

all my stuff. I do, I do take care of it. It's a billion dollar industry and everybody's doing it. I'll come and I got shaved with shade. They got shape. So there's that also in Hollywood. He can so there's ages of comparing. I mean it totally happens there about that dating apps. I mean even the ones that like just regular dating apps, like the ones that are for all ages, were we are just sometimes forgot because then public we go out, we're literally ignored in certain communities

just you just not looked at at all. And then you also have people who are trying to stay who are who are trying to stay so young, they're almost killing themselves to stay young and keep up. Now, that to me is a problem. Now, that's that's that's a little too much. But the ones that are you know, just naturally are just our aging. You know, some of us have great genes. We just can't help it. We

take care of ourselves. And there are people out there who are working with there's a whole industry of course of that out there, people bodybuilders. The grandpa a friend of mine, who's who's out there and his wife that are trying to keep people healthy over fifty, we are living longer just by the fault, I guess what I mean. The one's dying at thirty like they used to or forty, that's your full life. People living to one hundred, over

one hundred, they're living that way. And my grandmother was ninety nine, lived with all her faculties until she was nine nine. I remember, I remember, I remember when I was a kid, and I told the story I think a little bit on my grandparents show, which I have a grandparent show called Really My Grandparent, which is about young grandparents were becoming grandparents, younger were lasting longer. Andy, so my grandmother a lot. She was a person when I was a kid, she was and this was back in

the seventies. She was one of the few people like could say, my grandmother still runs track, she still swims every day. She was working out in the garden. She was. She was a grandmother. But she wasn't in a rocking chair making cookies. No, she made cookies too, but she was to sit in a rocking chair. But she was going to Dorsety High School and running that track at four in the morning every morning, and swimming miles a day. And she was in great shape. She always did that.

She did that. She wasn't one who just sat at home and made his sweaters. She was out there doing stuff, and she looked great for age. And I think people maybe more so that thousand seventies and eighties. Now we're talking now where people are living longer, and so now

age comes up. I have friends who are retiring now I have friends who aren't retiring and are are either re entering the workforce after years at one company or we actually after kids have grown and they have people who want to hire them because either know too much or they're overqualified, they're afraid, or we know or we know certain things. Now we live all a longer, we know things that we're not as global as a younger employee. Like it's it's a lot. So age always does come

up this show, I do. People listen to it. They love it. We have a great time. I think dialogue is fine and communication is fine. I think there's nothing wrong with that. Talking about it helps be cathartic, helps sometimes make you feel not alone out there. We're like now it's a pandemic. We're like these little satellites out there. People are feeling all kind of stuff, and you know, old folks are having I always say old folks, and I say that love it. I say that lovingly because

I'm one of those old folks. It's we're fine. We have a good time. You know. I know what I know. I don't want to be younger. I'm glad to be fifty five years old in fifty six in May. I'll take it. There are times when I feel no age, and there are times I feel super old. And that's just everybody, and that happens as you get older. It's your body. Like my aunt always says, getting old, it's not for sissies. It's like it's kind of like this

thing where it's it tumes you up. Things start happening and your life does change on some level, but on other levels it doesn't have to. It's like you said, age is a number. In some cases that really is true. We can work longer, we can live longer, we can have kids longer. There's all kind of stuff happening. And I don't use anything wrong with talking about age. It's out there all the time. It's in ads, it's in advertising.

You know, they're eighteen or forty nine. You know, Like like you said, I realized at one point the music is not meant for me. Those ads are not meant for me. They're meant for people younger than me. Got it and if it heard at first, I'll tell you it hurt a little bit. But that went on. But I don't know what. I don't know what somebody we were saying, what we're supposed to age, like, I don't know what that means, Like it I mean us to just sit at home, and you know, like I don't know,

let every wrinkle come in. But I said, there's folks out there who don't wrinkle. I have my girl other had they had no white hair, and so she died. So like the genetics, you just can't. I mean, it's it is what it is, right, So I think it's just weird. I think some of this stuff is just so caird and I just I don't get it. But I will always continue to speak out on it, and no matter and when people said, people say, what do you want to me, I'm always gonna talk about age.

And I think it's just it's fascinating. There are some wonderful things about getting older, and we talked about there's some very essential things we have talk about as we get older. But I don't think we should hold anybody to like you gotta look a certain way and be as some way because you're And then also the folks who are like Pamela Anderson and then who are fifty seven fifty years old, who are not working makeup anymore

and being unnatural, I'm like, good, good for her. I love ham Anderson, that's my girl anyway, But I love I think so I have I have friends who are just like they've they've decided I'm wearing the flat shoes. But yeah, I'm gonna wear a cute top and I go out, or a cute blouse or a cute dress. Why not, No matter what age you are, I have certain haircut your hairstyles. Why not I wear hoodies and things and walk around at tennis youth. I don't care.

I'm like, I mean, I don't mean. I just think they're I'm gonna all of a sudden pull my pants up high and and you know, and wadle to cha table or something, and just like, Hi, I'm I need a senior met menu. You know, I do like to see your menu. I do. I have no problem with that. But I am glad that I'm older, I said. I don't see that as a crutch or anything. I think it's great. There are time times I wish I was a little younger. But more that's just it's not about

mindset more. It's just body is your body. My body's been training me no, But I can work on my body and get that better too. That's the luxury of every time, every time you wake up, there's a new chance. And I just think that so But I think I think, and I think the I think it's a backlashes fo outrage anyway, it's just it's just it's something for clicks and got my attention. Uh, it is what I'm talking about.

Because I do a show like this, I feel like I should say something about it, gotta get my stance. But I think it's just that's what's going on there. I think it's so some of it like they really don't care, like what do you care? Like, what do you care? Who cares? You know? But I do. I do have concerns. If I do anything, I always have concerns. I want it might be their authentic cell. So I feel bad for some older people who feel like they have to put on a persona try to stay young

and hip and get attention. I hope I don't do that just to go. I mean, I just I think that's not healthy for anybody, and for the person you're trying to attract. In yourself. I just want to I want to buy to be comfortable on who they are, whatever age they are, it's all, that's all it should be. If you're young, they'll try to grow up too fast. Then if you, oh, don't just give up. So fast on both ends. Right, That's where all ended. Every Tuesday

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