An Open Faced Sandwich

a couple of days ago, she turned sunny five. She made it. No, you guys know it's been a rough time period and she made it for the most part. And well, well I talk to you guys about today is well, actually I'm just gonna I'm just kind of a positive look. I know I've been. I don't always give you guys a negative post or right then I'm gona give you some positive and I want to. And today it's basically I have I'm having a good moment.

And that's so important now I'm learning as I get older, it's the moments we have to just have to grab them and you live in them. You have to grab them, and it's sometimes so hard to do that. But you have so much coming out of you. I mentioned the Sandwich generation a few weeks ago. Right, you have a new name for it. I just baked out the name. Oh my god, I like that. You have to find it. But I was watching TV and basically the same descriptions

sound generation, but now it's a different name. I can look it up for you. Guys. While I'm like, I'm like like live, like live, and it's not live. I feel like it's live. Okay, what is the name someone in the Sandwich generation? Let's see, even tells me and I'm mentioning the common terms. Okay, actually it's something Wait a minute, I got something totally different. Oh my god, this is hilarious. Okay, oh this is not what I was Okay, I see. This is why life is wonderful.

You just just go along with what's going on and something new may pop up. So I'm gonna print this out. I'm gonna read this to you. I was looking. I was looking for the new name, and I'll type that into But I'm gonna say to print this out. This is hilarious. You don't know where life is gonna take you. Like literally, I'm looking up and I'm finding out something new. Right now, I'm saying, of course, it's taken forever to to print. Technology is not our friends. Oh, here you go,

I'm gonna print that out. Okay, what is the new name used to be? Yeah? It's seriously as a name. He said it. I'm like, they say, he tell me? Did I say the name? They're giving me all kinds of stuff. If that's not the name, dang it. May I'll find it at some point. I'll see you guys know, Yeah, it's not to that's my that's my printer. We nooises all of a sudden, thank you. Okay, I know the name.

But here's what I found by accident. Where's a name for someone in Santa generation sometimes in sanad generation is typically referred to as sandwich caregiver or a sandwiched adult using people in their forties to sixties as me, who are simultaneously caring for aging parents or relatives who may need help with health, financials, or daily living, and with their own children, who may be minors in college or so finished financially dependent. Go get that. But the terms

they brought up. I had no idea. Okay, Sandwich caregiver a person who gives, who was cared for both a parent and child at the same time. Sandwich generation entire geographic group experiencing this dual responsibility at least two I didn't know club Sandwich generation, those caring for grandparents, parents,

and children three generations day. Then there's open face sandwich that makes you laugh a humorous twist referring to seingal adults supporting older relatives and adult siblings are dependents that I like that open face sandwich. So yeah, that's something else, isn't it. Did not know that, but it's a name.

I thought, Okay, they're they're, they're, you know. And it's funny because I have a friends who are millennials, and some of them have older parents who are baby boomers, like like my parents, so they're not yet exert parents. They're they're they're like my parents, but they have them later in life for whatever reason. And it's very interesting listening to them because they're the millennials are fighting with

the boomers, cause boomers are very separate entity. They think differently, whereas Gen xers, we're on our own but the ones that we don't body. We're starting to get some backlash from the gen Zers and some of the younger millennials, but we're very much we're a whole separate entity. Folks. You just you can't mess with us. That's why I got through my bad. Uh. We don't really care about anybody else, but we're like, we're handling our stuff, pre

taking care of it. That's what we were taught. But it's just really interesting listening to my younger friends how they deal with their older parents, cause it's different than how I deal with my older parents. I have one friend who I like, I say names protect the inns of course, and them m might tell their business either, but it's more about this person's reaction to me is a little harsh to their parents and but and I feel like they're so stuck in their own stuff. But see,

I was there at their age twenty years ago. I was there. Everything was about me everything. You know, you think you're being there for other people, you haven't. I feel like you haven't learned that yet. But you don't have any kids or anything. It's like you're very much about you and what's happening to you, What you perceive they are doing to you what you think they are doing to you, that they takes your response to them.

Getting older. Being fifty plus, you started to learn I get it now because now you're closer to that generation than you are to the younger. It starts to flip in some ways. But also you just see things clearer. You go, Wow, you have some more life in you, and you just learned some things that you think were important in your thirties or not important our forties, not important anymore, or not as important anymore. Reality shifts, thoughts shift,

so you start thinking differently. You're like, eh, I mean it's like it's it's no, it's not the same. And so with my mom when it comes to older pop in my life, I'm able to be calmer and not go off as much, to get angry as much, or take it personally as much. And it to be a while to get there, because when I first got back, before I was taking care of them, my parents didn't see my entrepreneurship as real. I think I don't think they really saw it as anything that was like because

I wasn't rich or whatever. It takes a while to build a business and they just weren't they just weren't there. They just they just weren't. They just weren't there. Sorry, And it's they couldn't get there, So it's all about me? Or are they just they're just they're just mean to me and they don't do this. It's like, well, actually, yeah, at some level, yeah, you're right to be heard about stuff. And it's very much like not, that's not really it.

They just see things differently. She started to see things through their eyes, through their limbs, going, they see things just differently. It's not really they're not trying to offend you. They're trying to understand. And then when he starts to kind of lose it a bit. As you get older, repeat themselves and stuff, you get to understand that's just their brain going. They don't want to do that. They don't want to beat themselves five times, I'm sure, and

things are getting jumbled, and that's what my mom. There's times when I'm learning I can't have a regular conversation with her. It's sad to me to be able to talk. Sometimes it's me just listening and trying to decipher what she's babbling on about. I hate to say that, but that's really what it is. So like babble just talking about all of this and then and I'm going okay, and let me seem like I can get out of that sentence that crazy talk somebody else she was there

and go okay. So yeah, it's a trip. You just learn more stuff. So this is my younger friends. I don't really offer suggestions today unless they ask me. I just listen. So I know at that age I would listen. I wouldn't have listened. I was listening, tell you what's going on. Life will go from there. So yeah, it's it's it's a trip. Getting older has its advantage. I'm doing positive. Getting older hasard advantages, and I'm learning also I gotta protect myself on some level. And stuff's gonna

go down whether you are there or not. It's just life. So that's that kids. It's a sixty plus where every Tuesday, blank all of a sudden, new episodes. Thanks for listening to the show. Sometimes we have video thanks on JILJ Media on YouTube, but most of the audio and I will talk to you next week.