Can you be fifty plus and have a crush? I have, James D. Junior, this is fifty plus. I was just laying down thinking about something. I'm sorry drinking my liquid death. I love that stuff. It's seriously, I'm thinking about something. It give me three all these apple things again. Real talk. I'm fifty plus and is it okay to have questions on people? I say yes when you hear crush. I always think of kids, school age, teenager, even young adult. They have a crash, a crash, and my god, I
have a crash. It's like, do you do you outgrow them? I always say, you know, chemistry is such an unexpected thing. You could be walking along minding your own business and then you see somebody, Oh my god, your heart starts to beat, or you meet somebody Here's I even go even further with this. You go to a place, you meet someone and you're taking a back at how much you like them. Like I live alone. I live my brother,
but I'm alone. Basically I don't have anybody. And I and I, like many people my age, get older, we kind of walked through life knowing that we can make it, knowing that we'll make it through You know it's not. Most of us aren't crying every day and upset openly about not having someone. I remember when I was younger, I got ready some of my journals. When I was younger, I was so angsty about not having somebody, and will I get someone, and we'll like find someone, and oh
my god, it's at the end of the world. That's gone. That's definitely if your past your fifty, that's definitely gone. But for a single folks, I think for me, I'm trying to buy a lot of couples, whether they're married or dating or whatever, I'm trying to buy a lot and I see, I see them, I see them awfully what they are, So I have problems. Some are okay, I'm not there's no rose colored glasses. And then I will fully admit there are times when you're at this
age you're like, thank god, I'm not a relationship. I'm good, I have to deal with somebody else's crap. Oh my goodness, you aks a doodle. But then there are times you're like, wow, it'd be really nice to have somebody to lean on or talk to you at the end of the day. Or I know, for me, it's it's it's the attention, and it's something. It's even attention somebody looking at you and going you know, they're into you. They just they're
into you. I have such an interesting relationship with people now because I'm in a position where I'm kind of famous depending on what circles you fall in. I'm a known name, I'm a president of a company. People work for me or work with me. Like it's it's a whole different world for me that people are excited to meet me and want to meet me and you know all that, and that's I'm planning to see how it's
like a different it's a different layer. And it's nice because they are excited to see me and meet me and they want to work with me and things like that, and that's a tension on some level. But this is different. They give me attention for work or entertainment reasons. But you know, where are the where is that person who when they see you, they just light up and they're attracted to you and they and they're all in there into you on some level. I I don't know, I
do miss that. I don't have it. I don't I don't. When I come home, it's funny, I have to do everything. I also have to do everything myself. You learn how to carry groceries differently. When you're by yourself, you learn how to multitask opening the door and balancing your the food you brought home from here, and all the bags from work. There's no one and it's not understand I'm looking for somebody to serve me. And it's just I do every I mean I do everything myself. Literally, I'm hungry.
I I have to there. I so when I go to someone else's house and I change, don't worry. I'll make a drink for you. It's like that's a big deal. Anybody who lives alone or older gets it. If I want to drink, I have to get up and get it. If I if I'm hungry, I have to figure it out. There's somebody going I'll have to I'll take I'll take care of Dinner's like, don't worry. I have to do everything. And I don't have a partner. I mean, any thoughts, any decisions where it goes off my family, whatever, I
got to deal with it myself. Yes, you have friends and blah blah blah and whatever, it's not the same. It's not so I guess. And so the original question is can you have questions? Because I at this age and I found myself to have a couple of crushes that I did not expect. There's some new folks, and I have a whole bunch of new folks in my life due to some work stuff that's going on, and I'm like, Wow, that's it, that's that's interesting. I didn't expect that. And I know nothing will ever come out
of them. And I'm not even gonna say who they are. And if you guys listen to the show, I'm not gonna tell you who they are. But I'm not gonna tell you, but just that it's and they're harmless. It's it's well, they're harmless in fact that I know, I have boundaries, not gonna do nothing. This is all to myself but me. But I guess it is harmful to me because they're gonna be unrequited and that's gonna happen because of them, and they're gonna stay where they are.
They're just a question somebody, and that's that the one. The folks who try to make that question real, these are the ones who run into problems. So you don't have to think big go James, that that's gonna happened. See, I let it go and learn that it's okay to have these questions here and there. That's kind of fun. I guess it could be fun. I guess. I don't know. I know, I know something. Thing. It's all over the place.
That's what fifty plus is. Sometimes you feel like you're all over the place and the subject of questions love, partnership, relationships. It doesn't get easier as you get older. It doesn't get better. Sorry why I'm not gonna be sure, Cody. It doesn't get better. It gets harder. And it's It's one of the things that reminds me that my mother lost her husband, so it must be tough for her.
They were together all the time, he did everything. So there's something you know when you lose that partner must be really tough. But you're used to them because someone's I don't even have that. I don't know, you know. It's not like I'm sitting here depressed. You know, cry myself is the very night. But it's just I'm very aware of how alone I am. No, Yes, and again, I get it. I have family and friends and they all love you. Blah blah blah whatever. I get it.
It's not the same. And I think people, I think sometimes people are afraid to admit that it's too vulnerable. It sounds too sad, it sounds it sounds like, but no, you have friends and family and you can call them and if they want to talk to you anytime, and like, it's not the same. I don't know why we have a hard time acknowledging that a love relationship is totally different than a friendship as there were then a familial ships did they're different there, They're just added things to
relationship that other things don't give. It just just it just is and when they're right or wrong. So I almost save it tonight on this episode. We're not gonna solve it, but there's somebody. This is some of my thoughts that I share with you on Tuesdays here on jail, j med at fifty plus fifty plus talking about life after fifty. The next time