What if there were no Grindr, Scruff, Adam4Adam? What would you do? Get out and meet guys? Resort to hooking up in the back of bars or restrooms? Or Isolating? Regardless of what you use the in-your-hand apps for, your world may just come to an end...or would it? That's what we're exploring today on the 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk podcast. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but ...
Dec 10, 2021•8 min•Ep. 150
From a young age, the fear of God caused him to tremble in his boots about his secret. Then, in his 40's he could no longer live within that secret, and he realized he had to be who he was, a gay man. Then he made national headlines by taking a stand as a gay educator, fighting for the right to teach in his classroom, when parents saw him as a threat to their children. All because people judged who he was and who he was meant to love and share a life with. James Merrick shares is truth and his j...
Dec 03, 2021•36 min•Ep. 149
We're coming into the home stretch of the year and it's - HOLIDAY TIME! Don't freak out, don't put pressure on yourself, and please don't try to please everyone. OK, EASIER SAID THAN DONE. However, you can have a peaceful holiday season in your gay life by following a few of these tips, without being or needing a douche! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’...
Nov 26, 2021•9 min•Ep. 148
You want a man, and you want him to be perfect. Really? Maybe you should be looking in the mirror. For every expectation you put on your man you better be ready to put it on yourself. It's time to stop killing your relationship with expectations that probably are extreme or out of reach. Take a listen and learn how. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s tim...
Nov 19, 2021•11 min•Ep. 147
As a gay man do you find yourself constantly looking for answers, and then getting frustrated because they aren’t right there in front of you? What if they are but you just simply haven’t dug deep within yourself enough to find them? Take a little journey with fellow Life Coach - Ed Wilson - as we explore what might happen if the dig deeper pursuit was as important as the get laid pursuit! About Ed Ed is a 32 year-old, gay male, Australian, life coach, born in Perth to English migrants, living i...
Nov 12, 2021•47 min•Ep. 146
There isn't a gay man alive who hasn't hated on himself or another gay man. Sometimes, we do it subconsciously and don't even realize what an ass we're being. It's ok, society groomed us this way. So let's break that internalized homophobia and start loving ourselves and each other just as we are as gay men. Here's a few ideas to make it easier. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to d...
Nov 05, 2021•17 min•Ep. 145
We're all perfectly imperfect. But for gay men, perfection seems to be a futile pursuit - perfect abs, ass, chest, smile, bank account, material things...the list goes on. But when it comes to our bodies and our body image, we can be evil bitches to ourselves with a capital "B." It's time to start loving on ourselves in a way that says, "Small dicks and flabby abs, you are loved!" Helping to change the way gay men think about themselves, is my fellow coach and friend Anthony Catalino. He also is...
Oct 29, 2021•41 min•Ep. 144
Sex, laughter, sex, love, sex, money. That's all it takes to make a healthy gay relationship work. If you believe that I've got a bottle of Clorox for you to fight COVID too. Truth is, it takes a lot of patience, understanding, and sex to make your gay relationship work. Here's a few tips on thriving in your gay relationship. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? The...
Oct 22, 2021•11 min•Ep. 143
LGBTQ people are 9-10 times more likely to addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol or food. Why? For many reasons, but the most obvious reason is we've been shamed into submission for not being good enough. It's time for that shame to end and to demystify the pathway to treatment and recovery from whatever your addiction may be. Gregory Silva, Director of Operations at Living Longer Recovery, helps us as gay men understand our addiction tendencies and shares how to get the right kind of help to a sober,...
Oct 15, 2021•34 min•Ep. 142
This man-to-man connecting, dating, mating, and relating, is so damn hard. Or is it? It can be if the effort isn't there, but it does take effort in all the right places. It may even take work, but when you invest in the relating and connecting the dividends can pay off for you in your gay relationships - friendships, hookups, or a serious long-term relationship. Here's how to look at relating in a different way. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You ...
Oct 08, 2021•11 min•Ep. 141
When you hit 40 you think, "It's all down hill from here!" Sure it is if you are on a bike, riding 500 miles and you come into the home stretch of the AIDS Life Cycle ride. Yes, after turning 40, that is just one of the things that today's guest did, that enriched his life. He's even become an animated film producer, and that is after he turned 50. Join us for a fun, campy, sassy chat with Anthony Hand, about how 40 is just a number, not a destination. About Anthony Hand Creator, Director, Produ...
Oct 01, 2021•39 min•Ep. 140
If you don't like gay marriage, then don't marry someone who's gay. If you don't approve of abortion, then don't have one. And, if you don't want an open relationship, then don't be in one, and stop throwing shade on those who do. What a couple does in their relationship is what works for them and today we are having a very candid and fun conversation about the in's and out's, the good and bad, and the honesty it takes to be in an open relationship. Join me and fellow podcast host, and actor Can...
Sep 24, 2021•43 min•Ep. 139
We're coming into the home stretch of this three part series that explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to live and be who they are in the world - no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Here's the final four manifestos for living life on your terms. Download The Manifesto Click Here Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it...
Sep 17, 2021•12 min•Ep. 138
I can't believe I'm saying this, but we've made it work, last, thrive, and sometimes even survive. Yup, me and my guy - George Solis - are celebrating 20 years of being with and loving each other. Here's some of my best tips for making this relationship stand the test of time, and gassy farts in bed! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real an...
Sep 16, 2021•12 min
As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted to give up? Maybe it's time for a Manifesto, one that inspires you each and everyday to life your life on your terms. This three part series explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to live and be who they are in the world - no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Let's dive into manifestos 5 - 8. Download The M...
Sep 10, 2021•11 min•Ep. 137
As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted to give up? Maybe it's time for a Manifesto, one that inspires you each and everyday to life your life on your terms. This three part series explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to live and be who they are in the world - no excuses, no fears, no apologies. Let's get started with the first four manifestos...
Sep 03, 2021•10 min•Ep. 136
Friendships. Gay Friendships. You either have them or they are completely absent from your life. This is what I hear over, and over, and over from gay men. They can't seem to maintain friendships, and it has nothing to do with hooking up. So why is that and what do you do about it? Let's explore that dilemma! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to ge...
Aug 27, 2021•10 min•Ep. 135
If your dating expectations constantly leave you disappointed, and the only compatibility you can find is hooking up on Scruff or Grindr, it's time for you to do some introspection and turn your dating habits around. Start connecting with compatibility, connection, and getting up-close and personal and get off the apps. Ok, keep the apps for the occasional, let's just get naked moments, but let your hormone sharing do the work for you by meeting in person, now that we can again, and start dating...
Aug 20, 2021•42 min•Ep. 134
Most gay men enjoy sex. Doesn't matter what that looks like. Whether it is simple intimacy, to dolled up in Leather, or playing in an orgy. We gay men love sex...well for that matter...we men love sex. So how do you tip to through the penises when the sex is no longer so great with your boyfriend, husband, partner, or in your polyamorous relationship? Here's 10 tips to help you ask for and to have powerful communication about having better sex. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps s...
Aug 13, 2021•12 min•Ep. 133
Dating is a pain in the ass...and not in a good way. For most gay men, the dating and pursuit of Prince Charming, is a frustrating, just give up scenario, that leaves most little energy for even a hookup. Or, you aren't really serious about dating and say you are, but haven't found the right way to start the dating adventure and make it worth your time. How about instead, trying a new way of connecting with intention and having a real conversation on that first encounter rather than depending on...
Aug 06, 2021•38 min•Ep. 132
Money, money, money. Never enough, always wanting more, and being judged for having to much or too little, and we haven't even started on the vicious judgements from other gay men if you don't have money, money, money. So what's a guy to do? Hookup with money in a powerful way, and dump the rest of that trash talking money gremlin that is eating you alive. Today we're exploring money, the truth about it and the how to make the heart space for it in our lives as gay men with Martin Cowart, founde...
Jul 30, 2021•36 min•Ep. 131
You're a liar. You're a cheat. You've broken trust. You're wrong by being gay and not worth knowing. To many of us as gay men have been told how - WRONG, WRONG, WRONG - we are. From coming out, to living our truth, so many people want to tell us how wrong we are and how we've done them wrong. If this is how you are feeling then listen to the podcast to break free from the "You've done me wrong," chains that bind. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You ...
Jul 23, 2021•10 min•Ep. 130
Sex, Drugs, Food, Video Games. We all have addictions, but we may not OPENLY admit to them. Another possibility, is we don't seem them as addictions, because we have become so used to hiding them that we just don't even realize they are an addiction. As gay men we've become victims, or numb to the gay guilt, the gay shame, that to often we can't even see our addictions for the trees in our lives. Here's a few kicks in the pants to get you off the hidden addictions merry-go-round. Hey Guys, Check...
Jul 16, 2021•11 min•Ep. 129
We all complain. We all want more. We all wish it was easy. Check, check, check. But WTF happens when all you do is complain and never step up to the plate go get that home run you so desperately desire? You've got to stop the bitching and take the action. Grab your self by your man parts and hold on tight as we explore 6 ways to kick yourself in the ass and get moving towards WTF you really want out of life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know...
Jul 09, 2021•12 min•Ep. 128
Look at me. See me. Love me. Want me. Hell just notice me. This seems to be the quest for most gay men, but it's also the quest that kicks us in the ass. Instead of posting on social media with your shirt off, or your ass half exposed, why not ask yourself this one question "Why do you need that validation?" Noting wrong with wanting to be seen and loved, but how is that helping your confidence and self-esteem in the long run? That's what we're exploring today, so buckle up and learn how to vali...
Jul 02, 2021•10 min•Ep. 127
Give me those abs, pecs, guns to hang on and that bubble butt to salivate over. Sound like a pipe dream? Or is it more of a nightmare because you just can't lose weight? Diet, diet, diet. Workout, workout, workout. Yet nothing works and it gets worse as you get older. Well, what if it wasn't that hard and it was more about losing the fat than losing the weight? Dr. Jack Kunkel, swears it's more about fat loss than weight loss, and that's why I decided to ask this straight-handsome hunk (sorry bo...
Jun 25, 2021•37 min•Ep. 126
You're hot for him, or you're hot about the thought of love with him, or both, or are you just confused? If you're confused, welcome to finding love. No one, literally no one, simply waves their gay magic wand and finds the perfect balance of love, sex, and infatuation. It takes work, and that work will pay off...if you allow yourself to do the work to define what love, infatuation, and sex mean to you and only you so you know what you are looking for. Let's get clear on what you really want and...
Jun 18, 2021•10 min•Ep. 125
Even though there are Federal and State Guidelines and laws prohibiting discrimination at work because you are a gay man, doesn't mean every gay guy gets a hard on and excited about being out at work. And, if you're pushing someone to be out at work, otherwise you're just not gay enough, then you need to sashay away and shut your trap. Everyone deserves to be gay their way, even in the workplace. Here's some tips on how to do that. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to ...
Jun 11, 2021•10 min•Ep. 124
I want a man. I want a better job. I want to lose weight. I want, I want, I want. Yes, yes, yes, and yes. Gay men want a lot but for some silly reason they are commitment phobic with a capital "C" and a capital "P." Listen up guys, "You can't have it both ways." You have to commit to get! Here's why you are where you are and what to do about it. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to d...
Jun 04, 2021•11 min•Ep. 123
Confidence doesn't come easy, or so they say. But confidence for the gay guy can really be an uphill climb unless you have some guidance. Slaying the confidence saboteurs is Yannick Picard's mission, as he works with individuals to build up their self-worth to be confident in their world, in their own way, as themselves. Don't miss this wisdom filled chat about being your confident self. About Yannick Yannick Picard was only 16 years old when he was bitten by the coaching “bug”. He was watching ...
May 28, 2021•42 min•Ep. 122
