Relationships are tough. Relationships are wonderful. Either way, as men we tend to get confused about what to do when the relationships get tough. We either let our egos screw everything up, clam up, or blow up, or give up. That's not the best formula...just ask Chuck Chapman...relationship therapist, coach and all around nice guy. He's giving us some easy tips for making your relationship rock, in the right way. About Chuck About Chuck Chapman Chuck Chapman is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Certi...
Jan 31, 2020•21 min•Ep. 58
Do you ever feel like are living in a box? Maybe it's not a box of your own choosing? Yet, you are choosing. We all choose to get boxed in. Now it's time to choose better. Get the F*CK out of that box and start living your life. Here's some tips on using the box to build a better life as a 40 Plus Guy. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real ...
Jan 24, 2020•7 min•Ep. 57
Do you find yourself feeling penned in, marching to, to many drums, and never feeling free? Maybe it's time to drop the structure and create your F*CK YEAH life. But you gotta UN-STRUCTURE in order to do that. Here's the keys to un-structuring without screwing up your life, but getting yourself on track to less stress, peace of mind, and more success in life. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you...
Jan 17, 2020•8 min•Ep. 56
Imagine being married 3 times, and feeling on the verge of suicide, and then getting WOKE! Woke to your truth and become radically aligned to your truth about what you wanted for your life. You got specific, dumped the bullshit, set the boundaries that would save you and make you say, "Oh shit!" Welcome to Bob Gower's world. A world were radical alignment is not only the title of his forthcoming book but also the way he lives his life. What might happen for you if you radically aligned to your t...
Jan 10, 2020•25 min•Ep. 55
We're well into the first full week of January, a new year, and by now, many resolutions are out the door. But what if you started with intentions and used three words to get you there. I believe intentions are the way to get there and my buddy Chris Brogan does an exercise at the beginning of each year of picking three words to guide him, and I am sharing how to do both on this podcast. Go check out Chris's website about the three words at exercise. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy...
Jan 07, 2020•10 min•Ep. 54
It's about to be 2020. Or it might already be 2020 by the time you listen to this podcast. Instead of resolutions, how about creating a F*CK IT List to live by this year. It's simple, it's genuine, it's honest, and it can be real if you put your mind to it. It's also damn freeing. Your F*CK IT LIST can be your best friend this year, and here's how to do it and succeed. And don't forget guys to check out the 40 Plus Men's Circle starting in January - Check It Out! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are yo...
Dec 31, 2019•14 min•Ep. 53
Faith. It's something that guides us, gives us cause to take risks, and sometimes gets in the way of us being able to be who we are meant to be. Faith in ourselves, faith in the path, faith in our destiny. Especially when you realize that in order to come out of the closet, you need faith in all of those things and it might even mean coming to terms with your faith in a whole new way. Former client and friend of mine, Brian Gilbert, shares how he navigated a crisis of faith to fully step into li...
Dec 27, 2019•24 min•Ep. 52
It's Christmas Eve, or right in the middle of Hanukkah, but regardless of where you are or holiday you celebrate, how about giving yourself some really good, non-materialistic holiday gifts this holiday season. The kind of gifts that truly improve your life and bring you peace. No more feeling the blues about these holiday gifts, because these gifts will make you one holly jolly fellow. Also, don't forget to join the 40 Plus Men's Circle starting in January. Learn about about - Click Here! Hey G...
Dec 24, 2019•11 min•Ep. 51
I've typically had an on again, off again relationship with my Father. It's not easy and sometimes I feel like a real asshole because I don't' have a great relationship with him. Then I realized, it takes two to show up in the arena to play the Father/Son game and I can only be responsible for how I show up and face my Daddy issues. I've chosen at this stage of life not to show up - for many reasons - but I'm also keenly aware that I am letting my Daddy issues go without guilt or shame. As the H...
Dec 20, 2019•10 min•Ep. 50
Guys just don't want to admit our changing bodies. We continue to try to do the stuff we did in our 20's, 30's and wonder why our changing bodies won't follow us into those places any longer. We become stubborn, ignore stuff, and before we know it, our changing bodies are saying screw you. What we most need to do is invite our bodies into the current decades where we play so that we can continue to play the game of life. Elliott Kronenfeld, licensed social worker and certified sex therapist, lay...
Dec 17, 2019•26 min•Ep. 49
What happens when you wake up and realize that your marriage isn't working, but you don't hate each other - and there is clarity. Then you realize you need to feel security, so you move back to family - and there is clarity. And finally, you begin to realize you need to spread your wings and fly to find yourself again - and there is clarity. Mike Kim - the copywriting king - is a guy I met at a conference and over a cocktail, not only did we realize we bonded, but we saw the opportunity to share...
Dec 13, 2019•29 min•Ep. 48
You done a lot of things in your life. Military, been a DJ, worked in corporate America, husband, father, and then that tickle begins. You're being called to step out of the comfort zone and do what you are called to do - be an entrepreneur in your own right. But you have to much invested - security, health insurance, knowing what to expect. It's really tempting to go do your own thing - live as an entrepreneur, but man the risk, the fears, the uncertainty are holding you hostage, but the grip i...
Dec 10, 2019•12 min•Ep. 47
You done a lot of things in your life. Military, been a DJ, worked in corporate America, husband, father, and then that tickle begins. You're being called to step out of the comfort zone and do what you are called to do - be an entrepreneur in your own right. But you have to much invested - security, health insurance, knowing what to expect. It's really tempting to go do your own thing - live as an entrepreneur, but man the risk, the fears, the uncertainty are holding you hostage, but the grip i...
Dec 06, 2019•28 min•Ep. 46
The holidays can be a really grind or a real blast. Either way, you're going to probably find yourself feeling overwhelmed, tired, exhausted, and wondering how the year can already be coming to an end. This is a great time to invited your toddler self out to play. Will maybe not all play, but to start to look at your life, your challenges, your desires through the eyes of your toddler. When you take the time to wake him back up, you might just be surprised what begins to happen. Here's some tips...
Dec 03, 2019•7 min•Ep. 45
Men have been innately raised from childhood to be self-reliant. Do it yourself. Man up. Don't ask for help. Yet, one of the biggest downfalls of men is that we often are too self-reliant and we don't let others in and end up becoming isolated. My friend, and a man I consider a mentor, John Jantsch recently published book #6 - The Self-Reliant Entrepreneur - a why to book not a how to book. This book is chock full of daily doses of meditations, inspirations, and challenge questions to get you to...
Nov 29, 2019•22 min•Ep. 44
The holiday season is upon us. If you're in the good old USA, Thanksgiving is just two days away, and poof then it will be Black Friday. Of course, if you really want to be obnoxious you will be out shopping on Thanksgiving Day, but that's a whole other podcast, so to speak. So what can you do to avoid the holiday shit show. To keep yourself sane. To avoid the stress and flared emotions. You take care of you and let the rest of that stuff take care of itself this holiday season. Own your self-ca...
Nov 26, 2019•7 min•Ep. 43
He went from introvert to being his own version of a badass. So what caused the change? He realized that being fully expressed was more important than hiding behind a shadow of pleasing everyone else, just to not attract attention. Lou Bortone, the "Godfather of Video Marketing," joins me with a candid talk about not having any F*CKS to give about hiding his badass self and how he stepped out of his comfort zone to do it. About Lou Lou Bortone is known as The Video Godfather. We’re not exac...
Nov 22, 2019•18 min•Ep. 42
He said, she said. It's a part of life, and a part of this podcast as my sister - Jackie MacDougall - from another show - Forty Thrive - joins me in a true "He said, she said" moment. Well actually more than a few moments as we compare notes about what men and women say in response to various questions we posed to our listeners and communities. This is a rich, insightful, show that shows how similar we are as men and women, and yet also provides some insightful surprises along the way that teach...
Nov 19, 2019•46 min•Ep. 41
He's a WHORE, for PREP. A wonderful human offering responsible education about the use of PREP to prevent transmission of the HIV virus. He's not afraid to talk about it, the use of it, nor to talk about why he uses it. He's owning his sexual truth, sexual practices, and why feels freedom to be a man, a gay man, taking his daily dose of PREP. Damon L. Jacobs makes no bones about why he believes everyone should no about PREP - pre-exposure prophylaxis - and the good it brings into the world for t...
Nov 15, 2019•27 min•Ep. 40
Sometimes stuff just falls out of your mouth and they you think, "Boy that was some pretty profound shit I just said!" Ever felt that? Well I did, just the other day while coaching a client. I said "If your heart's not there, then your art's not there!" Without heart there is no art, and all of life is art, so that's why I decided to riff on this idea, hoping some of you guys will see that there is truly an art to getting your heart and art aligned. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who ke...
Nov 12, 2019•6 min•Ep. 39
We're all emotional beings. Except as men we're told not to show our emotions and then we wonder why we lack connection. What a bunch of bullshit. When we bottle up our emotions we can not connect, we men suddenly become ticking time bombs and then like a spoiled, angry brat, we explode, splashing pent up crap all over everyone, making ourselves and our emotions the evil twins. Yet when we connect, deeply connect with ourselves, our emotions, and others, we find peace, harmony, and ways to be wi...
Nov 07, 2019•23 min•Ep. 38
There's a phrase used in the gay community, "openly gay." It's always bugged me a little bit. Why should anyone have to be "openly" anything...except who they are. I'm exploring this thought on today's solo podcast of life would look like for a guy to be openly... Would you be happier? More successful? Less stressed? If you were just openly who you are, no hiding anything. Would love to hear your thoughts. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know th...
Nov 05, 2019•7 min•Ep. 37
Aging isn't a disease it's a reality and if you don't feel it you can't heal it, or at least that's what therapist, actor, and podcast show host Matt Marr says. He's the one person who can tell it like it is better than I can and when we get together behind the microphones, the truth will be told...between our snide remarks and giggles. It's two queens up, which means two gay guys dishing it about aging with grace and dignity, while being a little bit disrespectful and trash talking all at the s...
Nov 01, 2019•28 min•Ep. 36
Most of ust guys have a hard time keeping it real with ourselves, let alone others. We put on these costumes of manhood and pound our chests and that's supposedly our real self. We're calling bull shit and keeping it real with my buddy from down under, Shane Mallory, who's going to give us a prescription for keeping it real as men in today's world. About Shane Shane is an incredibly entertaining and engaging speaker, emcee, presenter and performer. With a strong record of achieving results – he ...
Oct 29, 2019•22 min•Ep. 35
Imagine you own a business, or for that matter work in a business, and you are the oldest guy in the group. You try to figure out how to relate to the Gen Z's and Millennials but it is a constant struggle. And, while that's all happening, you want to learn from them and want them to learn from you, but man that generational gap can be really a challenge. So what's a guy to do? Startup founder of the HearMe.app, Adam Lippin works with a team of 19-25 yr old's where he feels challenged to check hi...
Oct 25, 2019•20 min•Ep. 34
You're too fat. You're tired of being called stocky when what people are really saying under their breath is your fat. It's all about the extra weight you are carrying, but it's not just the physical weight, it's about everything else that is killing you as a man. The weight of stress, success, relationships, perfection, confidence, lack of confidence, money, debt...it's all excess fat and weight that needs to be slimmed down so you can live your exceptional weight-free life. David Conley a form...
Oct 22, 2019•25 min•Ep. 33
I'm so happy. Everything is great. Nothing could be better. Really? Or, are you just blowing happiness smoke up your ass just to make yourself feel better and to make other believe that your life is filled with happiness, happiness, happiness. Don't get me wrong, if you're happy, you're happy. BRAVO. But, most men, in fact, most people stake their claim on false happiness and then wonder why they are miserable, stressed, dealing with chronic pain, and actin like an asshole. So let's break that h...
Oct 18, 2019•13 min•Ep. 32
Did you know that only 30% of men ask for divorce? And when they do, it's like they've committed the ultimate sin. So what happens when you're a guy, who realizes it is just not working for you and it's time to say "I love you but, I can't be with you!" No infidelity, no money issues, you simply just aren't on the same page. Stephen Warley, founder of Life Skills That Matters , takes us on a very personal journey about his decision to ask for a divorce and to free him and his wife to be happier ...
Oct 15, 2019•26 min•Ep. 31
Hey guys. Hate to say it but you need to come out of the closet. No, I'm not accusing you of being gay or bi-. Don't make that assumption. Nor am I saying that if you are gay or bi- that you aren't already out of the closet, even though some of you might still be hiding. What I'm saying is every one of us guys have multiple coming out journeys we get take in life. Hating your job - come out of that closet. Not happy in your relationship - come out of that closet. Aching to start your own busines...
Oct 11, 2019•9 min•Ep. 30
Focus. Focus. Focus. You ever heard that or been told that? Of course you have. But sometimes us guys just don't want to listen to that advice. Yet, when we focus, especially on the ONE THING that we most desire, a majority of the time we get what we desire. Here's my take and some recommendations on how to get that ONE THING that you most want, right now, in life! Trust me, it works. It really does. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thin...
Oct 08, 2019•9 min•Ep. 29
