Navigating gay relationships isn't easy, but it can be worth it. Yet, for most gay men, that 1st breakup can be a doozy and waht we often don't realized is where that pain is rooted...it's not where you think. Shedding light on how to overcome trauma, is RTT Therapy specialist, Lonay Halloum, who guides us to explore a powerful therapy technique for navigating relationship pain in a new way. In this episode: Discover a pathway for overcoming self sabotage Learn three key pillars a stellar relati...
Apr 25, 2025•42 min•Ep. 326
Relationships are messy - gay or straight! So what happens when you have that candid conversation with your spouse, letting her know that your biseuxal, but you mutually decide that for the betterment of each other, your family, and your future to have a non-monogamous open marriage? What could go wrong? What could go right? Today's guest, and debut Author Wayne Scott, shares about his journey as a bisexual man, and how he and his spouse have navigate "The Maps They Gave Us - One Marriage Reimag...
Apr 18, 2025•40 min•Ep. 325
Financial uncertainty in 2025? Don’t panic— David Lester , TV money expert, coach, and author, is here to help! Known as "Your Money Gay Best Friend" (MGBF) , David dishes out tough love, smart money moves, and a little fabulous flair to get your finances in check. Key lessons you'll learn: How to build a rock-solid money mindset Smart strategies for navigating financial uncertainty Why investing in FREE entertainment saves you more than just money Tune in now & get your financial glow-up! A...
Apr 11, 2025•53 min•Ep. 324
Connection. We all yearn for it in different ways - personally, professionally, and erotically. Plus, connection in so many other ways. Yet what happened for me over a 4-day Connect Retreat with Court Vox - Certified Intimacy and Sex coach, was surprising, intriguing, scary, exiting, and led me places I never would have imagined - in all areas of my life. Today I share my raw truths, experiences, and insights in this episode. You'll discover: The truth about what drove me to go to the retreat an...
Apr 04, 2025•22 min•Ep. 323
COVID changed everything—our priorities, our beliefs, and the way we see ourselves. For celebrity hair colorist Corey Powell, it sparked a deeper calling: to help others in the LGBTQ+ community break free from the stories holding them back. After years of coaching clients from his salon chair, Corey took the leap to become a life coach, guiding the LGBTQ+ community toward living their most authentic lives. In this heartfelt conversation, Corey and I go man-to-man on: The power of pausing to crea...
Mar 28, 2025•35 min•Ep. 322
We all love a good adventure, but let’s be real—traveling as a gay man isn’t just about picking a destination; it’s about finding places where you can truly feel safe, seen, and celebrated . So, where in the world can you be your fabulous, free self without worry? This week, I’m joined by LGBTQ+ travel expert & Queer Adventurers founder , who’s here to drop all the tips on traveling smart, safe, and stress-free. What you’ll learn: How to spot red flags & know if a place is safe for LGBTQ...
Mar 14, 2025•44 min•Ep. 320
Life feeling a little too much lately? You’re not alone. But what if you could hit reset and find your calm—no matter what’s happening around you? Even if that means you relinquish your family upbringing, get ex-communicated from your church, and finally start living your truth as a gay man, as you always meant to be. Enter Chad Michael Hardy, author of Law of Zero , here to help you ditch the stress, drop the guilt, and reclaim your joy. What you’ll learn: Chad’s 5-step approach to finding peac...
Mar 14, 2025•48 min•Ep. 321
How do you balance faith, sexuality, and life—without losing your mind? Finding the just right path to authenticity can feel overwhelming, even chaotic. But here’s the truth: authenticity is a journey, not a destination. And living your most fulfilled life as a gay, Jewish Rabbi (or whoever you are) is exactly the path you’re meant to walk. Joining the conversation today is Rabbi Steven Greenberg —author of Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition and founder of Eshel , ...
Mar 07, 2025•41 min•Ep. 319
HIV may be a lifelong journey, but it is not a death sentence. Yet, for Black gay men, that journey often comes with unique challenges—stigma, erasure, and systemic barriers that make living openly and authentically even harder. As we close out Black History Month, we sit down with Jordan J. Edwards - Deputy Director for the Normal Anomaly Initiative , whose candid and unfiltered approach will challenge you to see beyond limitations and embrace the power of your own visibility. In this episode, ...
Feb 28, 2025•45 min•Ep. 318
Black gay men don't feel safe talking about this? That includes a lot of territory. But why do they feel this way? It's because of the double margins they experience and then add to it familial socializing and you've got the perfect reason black, gay, men struggle to show themselves fully in society. Visionary leader, host and founder Dear Black Gay Men podcast, Jai The Gentleman joins me today for a raw, candid, chat about being black and gay on the planet. Key lessons you'll learn: How black m...
Feb 21, 2025•53 min•Ep. 317
Open relationships for gay men: a recipe for disaster or the key to thriving love? This week, we’re breaking it all down! Join me and Dr. Wade Maggert as we explore: Why monogamy might not be your vibe (and that’s okay!) How to set rules and boundaries that actually work Understanding your attachment style so you can thrive, whether you’re open, poly, or somewhere in between. It’s time to break free from outdated ideas and discover what works for YOU. Tune in for laughs, insights, and real talk....
Feb 14, 2025•43 min•Ep. 316
Sex. Sexual Dysfunction. You're junk just ain't working right. Don't panic gay men. But get the right help. Today, Dr. Joshua R. Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist and sexual health specialist based in West Hollywood, dives deep into the world of gay mens sexual health, hormone balance, and of course the overall biggest challenge - erectile dysfunction. Trust me this Doc delivers!!! Today we tackle... Managing erectile dysfunction (ED) and arousal disorders. The latest breakthroughs in sexual...
Feb 07, 2025•37 min•Ep. 315
Let's be honest. The planet is a little crazy these days, from politics to divides amongst us as humans on a wide variety of issues - including our rights being stripped away for being LGBTQ+- it is only going to get more challenging for many of us in marginalized communities. Today's podcast is for you gay men, truly for you, to help you find ways to navigate these challenging times and to stay resilient even in the face of those who would have us erased. Here's tips for staying on track, and b...
Feb 01, 2025•15 min•Ep. 314
Disco! For most gay men of a certain age - like those of you who listen to 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk - Disco represented so much of our lives then and now. It was the age of freedom, fun, pushing the "extremes" and also the age of loss due the HIV/AIDS epidemic. In his newly released book, Author Frank DeCaro, takes us on a frolicking, entertaining, yet serious tribute to the overlooked art form of disco, which has never been given its proper due, nor taken its true place in the historic strugg...
Jan 24, 2025•48 min•Ep. 313
Some of the deepest challenges we face as gay men, is letting go of shame around virtually everything we do. From sex and relationships, to body image and the overt need to prove ourselves in our careers. Today, along with my guest, Brandon Simpson, we cover a wide variety of topics to help you bring more joy into your life as a gay or bisexual man without letting today’s world, steal your confidence to be you. This week, we’re breaking down: Shame : How to release the weight of societal judgmen...
Jan 17, 2025•45 min•Ep. 312
Sex, intimacy, and connection—beyond the labels and limits. Society teaches us, as gay men, to define sexuality by where it happens, but what if it’s really about how we connect with ourselves and other gay men? Whether it’s a hookup or a long-term partnership, intimacy and liberation are possible everywhere. It’s all about unlocking your body’s wisdom as a gay man and embracing the full spectrum of erotic energy - without shame. Join Court Vox, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach and host Rick C...
Jan 10, 2025•47 min•Ep. 311
In this episode, we explore Boy From the North Country, the powerful self-help memoir by Dr. Durant. With the intensity of a car chase, Dr. Durant shares his journey from the volatile backroads of rural Northern New York to the vibrant but challenging world of gay San Francisco. Part memoir, part psychological insight, this story unpacks how trauma shapes us, how mindfulness can aid in healing, and how even the Grateful Dead played a role in his survival. Key lessons you'll learn: All research i...
Jan 03, 2025•43 min•Ep. 310
Mindfulness, meditation, self-mastery - all buzz, buzz, buzz worthy words these days. However, they are more then buzz words. They are are practices that as we ease out of the craziness of the holidays and 2024, can support all of us as gay men to embrace life through a new lens and settle into the daily chaos that can drive us crazy. From dating and relationships, to careers and the pursuit of purpose, mindfulness as we age should be top priority, just like going to the gym. Joining me today is...
Dec 27, 2024•37 min•Ep. 309
Let's be honest. Building a meaningful gay relationship doesn’t come with an instruction manual— or does it? I say it does. Enter The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men by Tom Bruett, the ultimate playbook for navigating love, connection, and everything in between. Whether you’re struggling with communication, intimacy, or just figuring out how to meet someone who doesn’t ghost you after date three, this guide has you covered. Bruett brings practical advice, expert insights, and a no-nonsense ...
Dec 20, 2024•36 min•Ep. 308
When life hands you lemons, you go camping, even if you didn't think you liked camping. Inspired by his journey of recovering from divorce and an abusive relationship, Author Upton Rand shares how he found peace and a path forward even when his life was at it's darkest moments. In his books, Upton blends humor with heartfelt experiences as he recounts hilarious misadventures—from wrestling with uncooperative tents to witnessing drag queens having dance-offs with confused deer. Along the way, he ...
Dec 13, 2024•37 min•Ep. 307
Sex, pleasure, gay men. How do we find the pathway to enhance our sex and pleasure while letting go of the shame of growing up gay? First and foremost we embrace that we deserve to be gay men and experience pleasure. Helping us unpack the journey to pleasure is Dr. Israel Martinez with his new book Enhancing Pleasure for Gay Men: A Clinical Guide for Healing and Acceptance Through Better Sex. During this provocative episode you learn: How the baggage of gay shame prevents us from being in pleasu...
Dec 06, 2024•45 min•Ep. 306
It’s time to break the stigma and reframe the narrative around gay sex workers. When we realize it is legitimate work, we create a safe space for respect, dignity, and safety for those in the industry. Today's episode with gay sex worker and legal expert - Matthew Roberts, challenges outdated taboos, promotes understanding, and showcases how he advocated for policies that protect and empower sex workers, ensuring their voices are heard and their rights are upheld. In this bold and eye-opening ep...
Nov 29, 2024•45 min•Ep. 305
Trauma has impacted us deeply—especially here in the U.S., where the 2024 election brought new waves of confusion and fear for us as gay men. How do we heal from these experiences? Where do we find the strength to move forward? In this episode, I’m joined by fellow life coach and podcaster Wil Fisher to explore how healing ourselves creates ripples of healing for others and helps us rebuild our communities, even in the midst of chaos. Here’s what you’ll take away: Practical paths to self-healing...
Nov 22, 2024•43 min•Ep. 304
In life, we're all playing the role's of Master and Slave. Don't cringe. It's true! You're the master of your destiny or a slave to everyone else's expectations. You're the slave to your job, or the master of finding balance between work and life. You're the slave to your fetishes, or the master of them. Today we take a provocative dive into the culture of Master and Slave Fetishes and expose how in our own live's we play these role in every day existence. During this provocative episode with Co...
Nov 15, 2024•40 min•Ep. 303
To be queer is an affirming move. Yet, it takes a lot of coming to terms with our queer selves and knowing how to hold ourselves in our highest self-esteem. Whether it is about being sex positive, owning your non-monogamy, or simply affirming your way of being the LGBTQ+ space as a Christ believer, you get to determine how to be and do you as a queer person. Ann Russo joins us today to talk all aspects of queer affirming therapy, and how to be your queer self as a gay man over 40. Her profession...
Nov 08, 2024•42 min•Ep. 302
It's November 1st. 5 Days before the most consequential election in U.S. history in my lifetime. To be honest, I'm nervous and concerned, but I am also a believer in that whatever happens our LGBTQ+ community will rise to the occasion. It's time to walk in the footprints of all those beautiful ancestral colors of the rainbow who have marched before us and ensure, that whatever comes in the days ahead that we meet the moment as out, proud, gay men and never let them see us back down. Join Our Liv...
Nov 01, 2024•10 min•Ep. 301
Ah. The pursuit of love. We all want it, whether it is for a lifetime or point in time. Yet, as gay men we often lose our minds and ourselves in the pursuit of love with another man and then we wonder WTF! We're did I go wrong, why is this happening to me, blah, blah, blah. Here's your wake up call guys. Todd Baratz, author of, "How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind," get raw, real, and lays it on the line how to get the love you want and keep your sanity. In this episode you'll: Learn th...
Oct 25, 2024•34 min•Ep. 300
It's a charged world these days. From politics to religion. Even in our own gay world. It seems that from the apps to even in person meetings, we throw shade at each other without exercising empathy and understanding. Yet what happens when you to take a second look? When we slow down and exercise empathy and understanding, rather than staying in your apathetic ways of being in your beliefs and only your beliefs? That's what we're exploring today with the host of Second Sunday podcast, Darren Cal...
Oct 18, 2024•42 min•Ep. 299
It's National Coming Out Day. A day we celebrate coming out and being our authentic self. Today is also a day that I am calling all gay men, LGBTQ+ individuals, and allies to come out and vote as if your rights depend on it - because they do. I'm passionate about supporting people coming out and passionate about getting out to vote and here's my take on making both happen. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a z...
Oct 11, 2024•11 min•Ep. 298
Fact: We're all sexual beings. Fact: That doesn't mean we all approach sex and our sexual fantasies the same way. Fact: Just because you are a gay or bisexual man, doesn't mean how you do sex and own your sexuality has to fit into a societal expectation box. Instead, heed the calling from KK Homme - produced by founder Emma Sayle - and release yourself into an inclusive space and that challenges outdated stereotypes. Get comfortable in an environment where issues related to sex, relationships, e...
Oct 04, 2024•34 min•Ep. 297
