Hey now. Hey now. This is what dreams are made of. Hey, hey, hey. Hey now. Hey now. This is what dreams are made of. I've got somewhere I belong. I've got somebody to love. This is what dreams are made of. Hello. Welcome back. This is what dreams are made of, guys. This is what dreams are made of. Or nightmares. I don't know. Welcome back to 30 Dirty and Dying. This is 30 Dirty and Dying. This is our first episode post -October block. Which makes me sad. I know, but...
Because spooky season is just... In my heart forever. Yeah. And you know what really grinds my gears? I don't know. What? Tell me. That people are already decorating for Christmas. I mean, okay. It does me too. But I have to say, I'm feeling a little bit more holly jolly this year. Like, I'm a little bit excited for Christmas. I think because I've been so sad and overwhelmed. I'm like, I just want to be wrapped in a warm eggnog hug. I'd be like an eggnog. Yeah, that's
what the time of year does. You know, I need some... Twinkly lights. I need some cinnamon or some shit. I don't know. I need something to make me feel warm and fuzzy. But there's twinkly lights and cinnamon with Halloween. No, and there totally was. And I got that. But I don't know. I am excited for Christmas. I'm like, I don't know. And usually I'm the same way as you. And I'm still not going to decorate until after Thanksgiving.
Justin was like, we were like talking about, I said I wanted to go and look for some new Christmas decorations because I want a couple new things. And he was like, when do you want those out? Like, he was thinking, like, I wanted to decorate, like, tomorrow. And I was like, oh, slow down. Slow your roll. Slow your roll, Santa Claus. Not until after Thanksgiving. I just don't do... And it's not out of a... It's not out of a, like, I refuse to acknowledge it before... I don't
give a fuck about Thanksgiving. I mean, who does? Yeah, I mean, it's fine. Like, we're gonna have Thanksgiving. It's whatever. But it's just because I know what a chore it is to keep my cats from tearing down the Christmas tree. So... Three weeks is good. We don't decorate for Christmas. At all? Not anymore. Because one, we don't have space in our living room for a tree. And two, Mike says that I can decorate, but he's not going to help me and he's not going to help me tear
it down. So I'm like, all right, then I'm just not going to fucking do it. Okay, well, if you want to, I will help you. I put out one Christmas hedgehog on the front porch. Okay, that's not where I thought that sentence was going. I'm not really sure, but I didn't think you were going to say hedgehog. And a wreath. Oh, a wreath. Well, if you decide you want to do anything, I will help you. Just give me a call. Give me a ring -a -ding -ding. Call me, beat me. If you
want to reach me. And obviously you wanted to reach us here at 30 Dirty and Dying for our next episode. So we're out of spooky season, unfortunately, but we're back to our regular scheduled content. Which isn't much different. Right. Just a little less spooks. Yeah. A little bit less on the spook. I mean, my insides are always spooky. However you want to interpret that. I have a feeling that like my colon is especially spooky. Spooky
dookie. Yep. Um, but. We're going to kick off the next phase of this season with an old favorite. Am I the asshole? Yeah. Everybody loves this on podcasts, myself included. And we haven't done it since, was it last season we did? I don't remember. I think it was last season. I don't remember what I did yesterday. That's true. The answer is probably nothing. Yep, so we're gonna do Am I the Asshole? So we've got a few that we found. And we're just gonna talk about them,
read them, go back and forth. I mean, you guys know, if you listen to podcasts, you know how this fucking goes. I did see one when I was looking that said at the very top in big bold letters, like, I do not consent to having this read on a podcast without my permission. Please tell me you did. Huh? No, I'm gonna respect what they said. That's true, but I'm curious what it is. It wasn't great. So we're gonna do that. But first things first. Back in time. Alright! Alright!
Alright, we're taking it back to 1990. I wasn't even birthed yet. Me neither. Man, if I could turn back time. If I could turn back time. Did you know that Cher is coming out with a memoir? And she's doing it in two parts. Whoa! Memoir part one comes out in November, and then I don't know when part two comes out. Doesn't matter, I'm gonna buy it. Or, or, and hear me out. You can wait for like a Christmas present. I don't know. If you want to get it for me for Christmas,
that's fine. Okay. Don't buy it yourself. Okay. Tell Justin if you want to get it though. Okay. Because I'm going to put it on my Christmas list for him just in case. Okay. So if you're going to get it, you have to contact him. Okay. I don't have his number. I'll give it to you. Okay. 1990. 1990. That's it. I was thinking of 19, 19, 1985. I know you were. But it's not. I know you were. So then I just went, I just panicked. 1990. Just like every fucking day of our lives. I did find
an interesting fact. Tell me an interesting fact. Which, all you listeners out there, if you just happen to Google, what happened in 1990? Yeah, tell me. You're not going to fucking find anything. Because it's just like, oh, all the fun things that happened in the 90s. It happened when we do the 2010s or 2002. It's the same thing. Am I searching 1990S? No. Well. 1990. That's a year.
And I want to know information about it. But the thing that I found, which is interesting, interesting fact, this happened in January of 1990. Okay. The Viscase Corporation debuted a new technology that allowed edible ink ads to be printed onto hot dogs, known as the hot dog vertizing. So you're telling me that it was just like on the casing of your ween was just like, buy a Toyota. The company boasted that now, for the first time, hot dogs could be used as a communications
medium. It also suggested that hot dog advertising would be a great way for companies to target messages at children and establish brand preference early. Honestly, why is that the best idea I've ever heard? We should get 30 Dirty and Dying. Wieners. Wieners. Forget merch, forget t -shirts, fuck it. Let's get hot dogs. That have 30 Dirty and Dying on them. Dog sucking season. Hell yeah. Look out, Frank and Joey. Joe. Whatever. Look out, guys. That's pretty much all I could find,
because fucking Google sucks. Well, I had a bunch of stuff, actually, so it's okay. Well, I looked for specific things, so that's... Yeah. I did find some American novels that were published in 1990. Fun. I didn't read then, because I wasn't
alive. I wasn't, no. But some of them... Did you even... realize we're probably gonna sound like idiots at least i am because i didn't know this did you know that jurassic park was a book no thank you fucking thank you so much because i am are you shitting my dick right now look 1990 jurassic park a science fiction novel written by michael crichton and it's the same dino well shit yeah about genetically recreated dinosaurs Huh. And I thought that was just an original
movie idea. Yeah, a Steven Spielberg original movie. I literally did. I had no idea that that was a book. So, I don't know. Maybe I'll read Jurassic Park. Is it on Kindle Unlimited? I don't know. You can check. I will check right now. Check right now. I finally read Jenna Lee's latest book, Love Hurts. I got it a few months ago. Is it good? It's fucking amazing. I let my friend Keisha borrow it. Yeah. I don't know if she's ready yet or not. I just finished it like the
other day. It only took me like two days to read it. So good. I mean, all of her books are so good. Jenna Lee Barker. She's gonna write a banger. So I finally read it. Yeah, if you guys want to hear more about it, we did a whole episode with her last season where she talked about this book. So you can... I will say, I think out of all three of them... Life After is still my favorite. Yeah, I really liked Life After, but man, this one was something else. Life After made me cry,
ugly cry. Yeah, I think I cried in all of them though. Oh, I mean, I did cry in all of them, but ugly cried in Life After. And I'm still thinking about Life After. I mean, right now I'm still thinking about Love Hurts, but I just read it. Yeah. So I think because just having like a lot of the same experiences as the girl in that book, I used highlighters. You highlighted the book? I highlighted some shit because it was that good. Dang. Yeah, it was something. But yeah, I don't
know. I did put at the beginning of my review for it, I was like, I... Jenna Lee Barker is becoming one of my favorite authors, even though she keeps making me cry. Anyways. Oh, yeah, I was going to Google Jurassic Park. Yeah, see if it's on Kindle. It is not on Kindle Unlimited. Okay. I mean, it's on Kindle, so if you want to purchase books on Kindle, you can. Yeah. But if you pay for Kindle Unlimited, it is not part of that. I got you. Therefore, I will not be
getting it. Okay, well. If I'm going to pay for a book, I'd rather have the physical book. There's also a book just called Vampires. That has nothing to do with Jurassic Park. No, it's not. A novel that concerns a company called Vampires with a dollar sign incorporated. It treats vampire hunting as a commercial enterprise. Why do I want to read this right now? It's just called Vampires? It's just called Vampires. With a dollar sign? Sometimes it has the dollar sign, but I
guess the original cover does not. That sounds interesting. And that came out in 1990? 1990, on the dot. Oh, shit. Okay. It's by someone named John Steakley. So, I'm going to look for that book. That sounds fun. Let me just quickly look that up on Kindle Unlimited. Do it. Kindle, sponsor me. Yeah, if you'd like to. I read the shit out of you. She does. Also, The Face on the Milk Carton came out. It's a book about a missing
child. But I remember they made a TV movie. A made -for -TV movie about it a few years later, probably. There's a lot of vampire books when I just search vampires. Who did you say it was by? John Steakley? John Steakley? Maybe it's spelled, I think, like steak. Okie doke. Okie doke. Well, let's move on to movies. Movies. There's some movies that came out. Yeah. Let's do some bangers. Edward Scissorhands. Oh, shit. Yep. I love Edward Scissorhands. I do, too. It's
so good. Also, Misery. Oh, that's a good one. It is. Ghost. Pottery. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Demi Moore and Swayze. Patrick Swayze. R .I .P. Tremors. Wait, did you just say Patrick? He's dead? He's been dead for like 15 years. Oh, shit. Yeah, he's been dead for a while. Wow. Plot twist. Spoiler alert. Patrick Swayze's been dead for many years. I don't know if I can come back from this. I think we're going to have to call it quits on recording this podcast because I had
no idea. Why? Because he's a real life ghost now? Oh, shit. I'm going to tell you when he died and you're going to be embarrassed. He's making pottery in heaven right now. 2009. Same with my mom. They die at the same time. Crazy. Are they both ghosts making pottery together? Yeah. Who knows? Pretty Woman. Walking down the street. Yep. Never watched it. Oh, Arachnophobia. Your favorite. Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.
Night of the Living Dead remake. Oh, Back to the Future 3. I know you like Back to the Future. Back to the Future 3, it's hard. Two sucks, let's be honest. One and three are the best ones. Yeah. But I feel like I quote three more than I quote one. Do you? Because I don't ever quote it ever, but it's not because I don't like it. I just don't like it as much as you do. Yeah. So. Oh, also Home Alone came out. Ugh. I know, you hate it, but it's, you know. Trash. It's a big deal.
Whatever. All right. Fuck me then. Sorry. Whenever I watch people do like the TikTok, like where they go left or right of like movies and like ratings and stuff like that. And they pick Home Alone. I'm like, why the fuck would you do that? I mean, it's never. But then I realized that people like Home Alone and I don't know why. I think it's, I just think it's the nostalgia factor. I really do. I just think it's, you know,
Macaulay Culkin was a big deal at the time. It was a pretty popular movie and I think that's it. I saw somebody put like, let's be honest, if you watched Hocus Pocus for the first time right now as a 30 something, would you love it that much? I don't know. And maybe it's the same thing with Home Alone. Maybe. I'm not sure. And maybe because I didn't grow up on Home Alone. Maybe. I didn't watch it until I was older and
I didn't like it. Yeah. Maybe that's why. I watched it as a kid, but I just, I don't, it just wasn't my favorite. I don't know. It just never really stuck around. I was more of a claymation bitch. The old, the like. Little Drummer Boy. Oh, I never watched that. Ba -rum -ba -pum -pum. I love that one. I like the Rudolph the Red -Nosed Reindeer one. Although, let's just be honest here. Fucking bullies. Yeah. Everyone's a fucking
bully and so is Santa. Yeah. I liked The Year Without a Santa Claus because it was so stupid. But Heatmiser and Snowmiser, they're bangers. Anyways, you want to switch to TV? Yeah. Alright. Law and Order came out. Dun -dun. It's still out. Yep. It's been out. Are You Afraid of the Dark? I don't know. Y7. Y7, baby. I couldn't watch it until 1998. The Fresh Prince of Bel -Air. In West Philadelphia. Born and raised. I really loved that show. Oh, me too. It's one
of my favorites. Such a good show. And I will say, holds up. I've rewatched it as an adult and it totally holds up. I love Carlton. Me too. And Uncle Phil. Let's just settle this right now, though. The first Aunt Viv was the best Aunt Viv. Yes. When they replaced her. I'm not saying anything bad about the way they replaced her. She was fine. But, like, she didn't have the vibes. The first Aunt Viv had all the vibes. Which is why she got it originally, you know?
Yep. Yes, indeed. Blossom. Bubbles and Buttercup? No, it was a show with Mayim Bialik. I don't know who that is. You just said who it was. Amy Farrah Fowler from Big Bang Theory. Oh, okay. Yeah, she had a show. My mom watched it. Did you know that she was on What Not to Wear? No, but I believe it. I mean, no offense, but I believe it. They made a Wizard of Oz show. It ran for one whole year, so I guess it didn't kill it.
Well, I'm just thinking about the Wizard of Oz and all the stuff that happened on the set and how they treated everyone and also the guy that was apparently hung. That did not happen. Okay. Yep. You're right. Should have said it. Yep. Anyways, you want to go out with songs and then let's get fucking to it? What about tornadoes? Yeah, okay, you do tornadoes, and then we'll go out with songs. Tell me of the tornadoes.
There was an F5. Shit, no way. Yep, in Heston, Kansas on March 13th, in GoSoul, Kansas on March 13th, and Plainfield, Illinois on August 28th. So there are three F5s. That's crazy. Crazy. Wow. And what's also crazy is it says there are... There were 1 ,133 tornadoes in the U .S. And the damage, unknown. That's wild. Wild. Wild. Fatalities, 53. Wow, so that was a pretty big
year for the tornadoes. Yeah, it looks like all of the, so I'm looking at the summary of tornadoes, at least one person died every single tornado. Which kind of sucks. That does suck. I hate that. Ugh, so sad. Okay, so this is the fact. On March 13th, not one, but two! Oh, my God. F5 tornado struck in Kansas, which I already said. Yeah. Both coming from the same supercell. This was the only day since the 1974 super outbreak to have more than one F5 on the same day. And that's
until 2011. Oh, my gosh. Yeah. Well. Oh, in 2011, it was four F5s that touched down in April. Wow. Of 2011. Okay, now you do you. All right, well, let's go out with some songs. Sing me up. For the Billboard Top 100 list, number one, which also came out in 1990, not the year before, was Hold On by Wilson Phillips. Someday somebody's gonna make you wanna turn around and say goodbye. Hold on for... Hold on for one more day. Yep, that one. Sinead O 'Connor's version of Nothing
Compares to You. This one came out the year before, but Pump Up the Jam. Pump Up the Jam. Pump it up. Yep. I like that song. Yep. It's a good song. An 89 song. Yep, but it was still killing it in 1990. Another one that came out in 1989 but was still on the top list was We Didn't Start the Fire by Billy Joel. We didn't start the fire. And then the last one I'll say, I guess, is Ice, Ice, baby. Do you remember how he did that? Stop, collaborate, and listen. Listen, Ice is back
with a brand new edition. Something. You remember? I remember this episode of something on VH1, or maybe it was MTV, but it was probably VH1, where they talked to him about it basically being under pressure by Queen and David Bowie. Oh, yeah. And he was like, no, people say that, but that's wrong. Because theirs goes ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. And ours goes ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. He did the same fucking thing. I was like, vanilla. Come on. Don't act
like we're stupid. Anyways. Do you want to ice ice baby into today's show and hear about some assholes? Hey. Thanks for listening to 30 Dirty and Dying, the show for millennials by millennials. We get real about chronic illness, burnout, nostalgia, and why we aren't exactly thriving. If that sounds like you, join us every Thursday for new episodes. Now, back to the show. Are you ready? I'm so fucking ready. Are you ready for it? And I'm saying that purposefully because this has to
do with Taylor Swift. Oh, is that a Taylor Swift? I'm sorry. It was a great. reference it was wasted on me i'm very sorry go ahead i'm ready am i the asshole probably for not staying home from my heiress tour because my sister -in -law's mom died I'm currently on my flight to Indianapolis to see the Heiress Tour on Saturday. I bought tickets last year and have been booked and ready with my outfit, friendship bracelets, etc. Wow, okay. I have... Oh, people go all out. I mean,
I've seen a few, like, videos, but... Yeah. I made friendship bracelets to go see the movie in theaters. Is... Why? Is it a thing? It's a lyric. Oh, is it? Okay. Anyways, I have been looking forward to this so much as someone who has been a fan since Red, which is an album. I... That I know. Okay. My sister -in -law... Grace told the family last night that her mom died. They usually use fake names. I hope so. This is truly heartbreaking. I lost my dad when
I was 20, so I do understand. I went over after work to be with them and also did their laundry for them and fixed them dinner. Before I left, I prepared a bunch of wraps to eat and some casseroles. I was there until 2am and had barely slept. I got a call this morning from Grace asking if I could come over and spend the morning with her. I told her that unfortunately I had a few
things Okay. I told her that I'm so sorry and that when I get back, I will take off a few days to be with her if she needs, but that this is something I have been looking forward to and also my friends coming with me are counting on me for things like hotel, rental car, etc. She got angry and told me that I was a horrible sister -in -law and that she hopes when my mom dies, everyone abandons me too. I know this is a shock and grief talking, so I'm truly not mad at her.
When my dad died, I said some pretty chaotic things too, but as I'm sitting on this flight, I feel so bad. I did everything I could. Everything I could think of before leaving to make the day, day -to -day of life a little bit easier for them. There won't be a funeral, so there's no big planning involved. Am I the asshole for still going on this trip despite my sister -in -law really not having a lot of other people to be there for her? It's her brother's wife. Okay.
That's how it's, it's not like she married into their family. She, the sister -in -law married into her family. I think that's important to note. That's, yeah. Okay. And the brother is with her. Okay. So they're still married. They're still married. She has a support. I mean, my instinct is no, you're not the asshole. Like. Okay. But like people spend thousands of dollars on these tickets, flights, hotels. Like she's
out a lot of money if she just cancels. That's kind of what I'm like, if it was just a concert that you were just going to go to for the heck of it. It was, it was like, I don't know where you didn't have to travel an hour up the road. You're just driving to it. You know, then I could see, okay, maybe I'll cancel this. Right. If it's like your favorite artist, you're out a lot of money. You have other people. She said she had other friends that were traveling as
well. And everybody sort of coordinated a big effort. I can understand not wanting to cancel that. Right. And let everybody else down. Right. I understand you're letting another person down. Sure. I know that I don't want to like talk shit too much about the sister -in -law because I understand that she's grieving. And I, you know, I feel terrible to, you know, to lose your mother. That's awful. It's a little wild to me that she called herself an orphan. Well, I guess her dad
said to. That's not what I mean. She's clearly an adult. Correct. Okay, little orphan Annie, you are not. You're old enough to be married. You're a grown -up. You're not an orphan. I'm not saying that it's like, okay, you lost your parents. That's terrible. But an orphan is a child without parents. So you're saying Batman's not an orphan? He lost his parents when he was a child. If you lose your parents when you're 35, it's terrible, but you're not an orphan.
You know what I'm saying? Yeah. I don't know. I understand she's upset, though, so I don't want to, like, shit on her for that. It's just, that's a little bit. It's a lot. That's a wild thing to say, just hearing it. But there's not a funeral. No, there's no funeral. It's not, again, it's not her mother -in -law that's died. Right. I get that they're close, but, like, she'll be back. In a couple days! Like, what? I don't, I guess I don't think the asshole, because, like,
what do you want? She did all the stuff for you. Yeah, like, she prepped you meals, she, like, made sure you were taken care of. She stayed with you all night, and, like, with that initial shock and grieving, and I don't think she's gonna, like, never fuck with you again once she comes back. I mean, it's just - And you have your husband. Yes. Now, if it were like the husband that was like, oh, I'm still going on my camping trip with the bros. Absolutely different. Absolutely
different. But this is sister -in -law. Not directly related to the person who died. Spent probably thousands of dollars on this trip. but still made time and like did not sleep to make sure you were taken care of. Yeah. I don't think she's the answer. I don't think so either. I mean, I guess it's. I can understand feeling like left and abandoned just because like. I'm a horrible person to talk about this with because, like, my mom's dead and I make jokes about it. I think
you're the best person to talk about it. For that exact reason. Like, I feel like an asshole because, yeah, both my parents are alive. I think I went to work when I found out that mom died. I just think it's, and I'm not saying that it's wrong, like, I'll probably be a mess when I lose my mother. Like, if it were, like, tragic car accident, that's, I think, a little bit different. Yeah, but also... Like, unexpected, healthy person just all of a sudden, like, is dead the next
day. Yeah. I can understand that being like super traumatic and not wanting to like, like being scared almost of this person traveling after your mom just died from like a car accident or something. Yeah, that would add another layer to it for sure. You're right. But I'm just making things up at this point. I have no idea. Well, and I think it's different. Like you weren't as close with your mom. I can understand. I'm
really close to my mom, right? So whenever that happens, it's going to be devastating to me. It's going to be absolutely devastating. And I am going to want support and whatever, but I don't know. I guess I wouldn't expect people to drop what they're doing. Their whole lives for days and days and days. If you were able to come and help me sort through a few things or just be there with me or whatever, I wouldn't expect you to take two weeks off of work. To
hold my hand and pet my hair. You also wouldn't like that. No, don't touch me that much. But like, and I, again, I have a spouse. I have a partner like who I would expect to do those things. Yeah. To take time to, I wouldn't expect just like anybody to. Like I, like say I had a good, mom was alive, had a good relationship with her. Right. I wouldn't expect Mike's. stepsister gab. Yeah. To drop what she's doing to come to me.
Even though you guys are close. Even though we're close, I would expect like maybe a phone call, a FaceTime, conversations, texting, like, are you okay? Do you need anything? Yeah. But I'm not going to like tell her to stop what she's doing. No. And that's because that's what Mike's there for. Like if you did a fraction of what that this girl apparently did, like with the food and the coming over and staying all night, I would be. grateful for that. So thrilled. Yeah.
I would be so grateful for that. I wouldn't have to worry about cooking for a while. Like I probably wouldn't want to. Yeah. Yeah. No. I think she went above and beyond and did what she could. Yeah. And just is now leaving for a couple days. And it's not like she's skipping the funeral for a concert. Right. So I don't think she's the asshole. I really don't. Did people agree?
Not the asshole. Her wishing your mom dies and everyone leaves you crosses a line, especially when she's your brother's wife and not yours. She's toxic. I mean, I don't, like I said, I don't want to, I think it's a wild thing to say. I think she said a few wild things, but I understand that she's grieving and she's hurt and she probably didn't mean those things. So, I don't know. I'm not trying to shit all over this girl for reacting poorly, but I just, I don't think that the poster
is the asshole. No. I don't think that this girl necessarily is an asshole. Yeah, a lot of the comments are just like, not the asshole. She's got her husband, which is your brother, and her mother -in -law. Yeah. To comfort her, at least. I'm sure she has friends. Does she have friends? Her grief is not your responsibility. Exactly. Like, you did a lot. You'll probably continue to do a lot. Yeah, and she also, someone said, not the asshole. You aren't her significant other.
You're not her sibling. Right. That would be different. That would be different. Your parents didn't die. No one even directly related to you died. It's weird for her to assume you wouldn't go on to your very expensive once -in -a -lifetime trip because her not related to your parents died. Yeah, it's not like I always thought I'd spend the Saturday at the trampoline park, no problem. This is a big deal. This is a big trip that's got other people involved. It's not the
asshole. They said if your brother didn't drop what he was doing, that's possibly a red flag, but not you. Or if it was your... sister -in -law like you married into that family your husband or wife's mother died then yeah i'd be like okay well this is different that that would be a different thing yeah but it's not that ready for another one yeah Am I the asshole for pouring my boyfriend's raw milk down the drain because I found out it's
dangerous? So I recently found out that my boyfriend has been buying and drinking raw, unpasteurized milk. He grew up on a farm, and apparently his family always drank it straight from the cow. He's been doing the same thing ever since we moved in together. At first, I didn't think much of it. I'm a vegan, so I never drank it myself. But I started doing some research after I saw on the label that it literally says not for human
consumption. Apparently raw milk can carry harmful bacteria, salmonella, E. coli, listeria, blah, blah, blah. I freaked out when I read that and I don't want him to get sick or expose me to something dangerous. So when I saw a fresh bottle in our fridge yesterday, I panicked and poured the entire bottle down the drain because I thought it was the safest thing to do. When my boyfriend got home, he immediately noticed and was pissed.
He said he spent a lot of money on that milk and he's been drinking it for years without a problem. He accused me of not trusting him and said I had no right to throw something away because he enjoys it and because I did. I think they're kind of both assholes. I think she's the asshole. But he also didn't have to react that way. Yeah, well... I don't know though. Like, like should she have went about it differently and said, okay, I see this fresh bottle. Let me have a
conversation with him about it. Yeah. Let's be fucking adults here. Yeah. Um, and say, I've read this information. The bottle literally says not for human consumption. I'm worried. I don't think you should be drinking this. Yeah. But I also don't think he should. Yeah. She threw it away. Whatever. Like, I don't think he reacted well either. I mean, maybe he didn't, but I think. It's not like he just bought this out of nowhere and you freaked out. Like, apparently he's been
buying this. You just realized that it's not... For human consumption. Yeah, or it's like a... And I know what this is. Like, it's not for human consumption. It's not... It is dangerous, whatever. But he's been doing this a long time. And you just didn't know all that stuff. And now that you know, you're just gonna throw it out. It has very, like... Did you see that video that went around probably a couple months ago at this
point? It was like... don't invite me to your house because I'll pour all your pop out down the drain. And this lady was visiting her friend and they had like cans of Pepsi or whatever. And she was literally dumping her friend's groceries, her friend's pop down the drain. I would have been real pissed. Yeah. It has that kind of vibes for me. You don't want to drink that. You don't want to buy that for your, that's fine. But you, to not just say, hey, don't do this to someone.
But to go an extra mile and pour their money down the drain and take their choice away from doing it to themselves down the drain is kind of wild to me. Like, that's asshole -ish behavior to me. Yeah. And it's not like he's making you drink it. No. I think the reason why I'm just like, eh, with both. Yeah. Is because, like, yeah, she was an asshole for dumping it out. But, like, it was rooted in, like, oh, I just
figured this out. Like, I'm concerned. It's rooted in concern and not rooted in I can't believe he would do this. Like, I'm going to get back at him. You know what I mean? I understand that. And I get what you're saying. Like, I don't think her intentions were to be an asshole. No. But if she would have stopped for, like, five seconds. Yeah. And thought, maybe I'll just have a conversation. Yeah. A conversation first. Something different
than that. But yeah, like again, because it's not like he just brought this weird thing home that she's never seen before. He's been buying this the whole time they've been together. Yeah. He's been drinking this his whole life. Also, probably doesn't taste good, right? I don't know. I've never had it. I'm not like a milk gal. Me neither. Like I cook with milk and like I'll eat cereal. Yeah. But I buy non -dairy milk.
I have pretty much my entire adult life. But if that's what this dude wants to do and he's not making you do it. He's not cooking with it something you're both eating. But he also grew up on a farm. So like out of everyone, he would know if he can or cannot drink it. This is the thing. Some people choose to drink it anyway. You can buy it. Some places it's not. Just like raw cookie dough. I mean, it's a little different
than that. Yeah, but if you're eating like raw eggs, that's still not good for you, but people can. But it's a similar thing. So some people choose to do that. And I think that's, if you want to do that. Yeah, you're buying your choice, right? I mean, I think of it almost like I'm in a relationship where I'm a vegetarian or pescatarian, whatever, and Justin is not. And if he brought home a chicken and I was like, murder, and threw it in the garbage, that would be so fucked up
of me, right? Because I can't force somebody else to have my views about what I consume and what I don't. Yeah. Just like... If he saw all my, like, meatless shit and threw it away because he was like, this is stupid. Why would you eat fake meat when you can eat the real thing? Yeah, like, that would be fucked up of him, right? So, I don't know. For me, this is, she's the asshole because don't try to control another person. And if it is out of concern, have a conversation.
Yeah. Have a conversation. We're all adults here. Yeah. But I do think that both of them. Yeah, so this one had a little thing on it that said they've been branded as the asshole by the comments. I'll read a few here. You're the asshole. You panicked and poured it down the drain. What was it going to do to you? You could have left it in the fridge and then told him you had a concern and discussed it like a normal person instead of reacting to a bottle of milk as if it was
going to mug you. That's actually hilarious. You're the asshole. You can talk to him about your concerns. You can even decide you don't want to date someone who's willing to risk their health in that way. But you can't just throw out his stuff. Yeah. So like now the only reason I would see you throwing someone's stuff out is if say your boyfriend used to be an alcoholic and he's been sober for six months and then you find alcohol under the bed and you pour it out.
That's what I would do. That's not what I would do. Oh, well, we poured out mom's alcohol, so. No, we did that with dad too, but it doesn't fucking work. If already, if they've said they're sober and they're clearly not, and we have an agreement and that's a deal breaker for me, then I'm just fucking leaving. That's fair. Have your vodka. Enjoy, buddy. I'm out. But yeah, most of these are just, you're the asshole. Don't ruin other people's property. You're the asshole.
Being a vegan, I never drank it myself. So mind your fucking business. I think that's pretty fair. It's up to him what he puts in his body. It's just like if somebody has like... Alcohol, sugar, caffeine. You don't agree with it. Yeah. There are things that Justin wants to eat or things that I want to eat or drink or whatever that we are like, I could never. Yeah. But I'm not going to impose that on him. Yeah. I think, asshole. Yeah. But I can see your point, too.
Like, he didn't react great either, but I can understand him being upset. Yeah, I can. Here's the thing about having, like, a mature relationship. Yeah, but. Sometimes we all... Yeah, I mean, there's one thing to, like, react... Obviously, I've reacted poorly to Mike, and he's reacted poorly to me. But, like, in something so simple as just throwing something away that shouldn't have been thrown away, like, if Mike yelled at me for that... I would have been really pissed
off at him. Like it should still should be a calm conversation. But I think that that's different as like an accident, right? Like if I accidentally threw away like a piece of mail or something, but I, if I purposely destroy something that you purchased and I do know that buying unpasteurized milk, it's not like buying a jug of milk from the store. It's expensive. You have to pay a
lot of money and you probably, me too. But if that's what he wants to do and it's his money and he's like, It's my money and I want it now. Yeah, I can, that's where I'm like, you did a purposeful thing, so. Yeah. I'm not saying he did the right thing reacting that way, but I can understand him getting frustrated. Yeah. Anyways, hit me with another one. Okay, so this is not, am I the asshole, but would I be the asshole? Ooh. Okay, so it's titled, would I be
the asshole tracked with AirTag? So I found an air tag today in my car. Turns out belongs to my wife. Not a surprise. To preface this, I have given no reason to be tracked. I go to work 6 a .m., get home by 6 p .m. It's my typical routine day after day. I'm hardworking. I'm a hardworking family man. Oh, my God. So you're the worst. That's the most toxic man you've ever met. I'm a hardworking family man and we have kids that she stays home with and works part time by choice
to get out of the house. This is not the first time or second I found something like this. Maybe a year ago it was a voice recorder. When confronted there was no good reason for it and somehow it turned into I was wrong for making her feel like she needed to do it. I do everything to make her feel secure in our relationship and not interested in any other ladies. I don't like that he wrote
that. uh to that end due to work i rarely have time for friends or going out in general all i all my extra time is spent with the kids and family together we do make it a point to spend date nights or couple times as well that she feels we need and i agree she's the type that after confronted will not take accountability and deflect that's in every argument i have just accepted that at this point so i took the battery out of the tag i will probably have to confront
her about it because i doubt she'll fess up would i be the asshole if i give an ultimatum and this that this has to stop? Or do I begin to track her and look into her phone for what she's doing? I feel usually it's the guilty person that does things like this other one other item that may be relevant. I don't have social media at all, not my thing. And she can't seem to live without posting all day. And it drives me crazy. As someone
who was in a relationship. With someone who was cheating on me, the amount of times that I was told that I was cheating when I was not was astronomical. To the point where the parents came out to the car and apologized for him and said, we know you're not doing anything. Um, okay. I don't, I don't love the options that he's giving. Yeah, he should have better options. Yeah, like, would I be the asshole for either giving an ultimatum?
Or tracking her instead. Well, the problem is, based on what he has been saying, he's already confronted her multiple times and she deflects and won't have the conversation with him. Yeah. So at this point, the conversations are not happening that he's trying to have when he's trying to be an adult about it. And if that's true, I get
it. I don't know. There's something about the way that he, like, his phrasing here throughout and, like, the way he's talking that makes me feel like... he is a little bit of a problem. Like the way he talks about her and the way he's like, I'm doing all of this great stuff because I'm a great father and a husband. Yeah. And I'm a hardworking man and I don't look at the other ladies. And I don't, her concerns are outlandish and all she wants to do all day is be on social
media and blah, blah, blah. I mean, that can be a problem. It can be, but we don't know that it is. Like, I don't know. There's part of what he's saying that makes it seem like. Not the asshole. He's Jesus Christ and she's the devil. Like. It feels like he's vilifying her a lot over little things, just, like, the sprinkling in there that makes me question, like, what have these conversations really been like? Yeah. Where he's tried to talk about this or what she's tried
to talk about. Well, this is surface level. Based on this alone, I feel like it's okay to want to confront her and talk to her about this. He says ultimatum. I don't know if it should be like, you have to stop doing this or we'll have to get a divorce or whatever. But maybe like, we really need to deal with this. Like, if you don't stop, we'll go to counseling. Yeah, we need to really get to the root of why this keeps coming up. So I could see that kind of ultimatum.
Like, let's actually deal with this, not giving her an out to just be like, whatever. I don't, I mean, if he wants to look into her social media or stuff, like, I'm okay with that. I think that's fine. But I don't think I would track her just for the hell of it. I'd track her. This is also the thing. I understand people will say that this is toxic and terrible. Oh, yeah. 100%. It is. But I also can understand, as someone who has been cheated on... Maybe not knowing is better.
Well, not that. But, like, Justin gives me no reason to think that he's cheating on me ever. But occasionally, I'll be like, what are you doing? Let me see that. What are you doing? You know, like, I just need to... I don't know. It's like doing a gut check sometimes. Yeah, but you're not going to put an air tag in his car. No, that seems extreme. That seems absolutely extreme. So I understand why he's upset. But I don't think it's fair to be like, there has to be a reason
why she feels this way. So why don't we get to the root of that? And maybe it is a past relationship where she's been. Or maybe she's cheating. Maybe she's cheating. Maybe it's a past relationship. Maybe he has cheated in the past. We don't know these things. But I think it's fair for him to want to get into the depths of that. And she is the asshole for tracking him with no reason. If there really is no reason. I just, I will always doubt that they're telling the truth.
But maybe I'm the toxic problem. I don't know. I don't think he'd be the asshole for confronting her. I think he'd be the asshole for doing really petty shit. Yeah. So, I mean, I don't know. I guess it's hard to, but what did people say? Someone's like, my advice, get a good divorce lawyer and a good PI. Yeah, most likely she's cheating. Sounds like she's doing an awful lot
of projection about this. And she totally could be, but it also could be something that's something with her self -esteem, something from her past that makes her jump to the worst case scenario. Like, I don't love this immediately vilifying her for having these insecurities and these concerns, but I'd love to know why. And maybe it is that she's projecting and cheating, but it could be something else. That's all I'm saying. Yeah.
The majority is saying her reason for tracking you has less to do with what you're doing and what she is doing. And that's probably true. Someone's just like counseling or divorce. Yeah.
I think regardless, obviously we don't know the ins and outs of their relationship based, based on this, like he's not necessarily the asshole, but they're, relationship is clearly toxic there's something there's something going on that we are missing and is not being explained yeah there's a push and pull in the way that he's talking about this that just makes me feel like there are some issues that go beyond her just doing this for no reason yeah unless she literally
is just doing it for no reason which maybe she is but that's that's not usually the case with most people so like I would say it's fine to give her an ultimatum, but part of the ultimatum has to be... Should be, like, counseling or, like, something. We really need to deal with this. And if she can't, or if he can't, then, yeah. Get divorced. Whatever. Alright, you ready for another one from me? Yep. Alright, hang on,
hang on, hang on. Am I the asshole for leaving my sister's wedding early after she called my career a hobby? Hmm. So I, 26 female, just got back from my sister's, 28, wedding last week. I'm still pretty upset about what happened, and I'm hoping y 'all can give me some perspective right now. Some background. My sister, Anna, and I have always had a complicated relationship. She's type A, always on top of everything, super successful, while I'm more laid back and creative.
Sounds like me and my sister. Well, so maybe you'll have some good insight to this. I don't know. I'm an artist, and I recently started my own small business selling paintings and doing commissions. It's been slow, but it's starting to pick up, and I'm really proud of it. But my family, especially Anna, has always been a bit dismissive of my career choice. They don't get why I don't just go a traditional route like she did. Anyway, fast forward to the wedding.
The ceremony was beautiful, and I was so happy for her, and I even helped out a lot with the planning, even though I wasn't the maid of honor
or anything like that. i was doing my best to be there for her because despite everything she's my sister and i love her at the reception i got a moment alone with anna to congratulate her and i told her how amazing everything was and how happy i was for her and all that stuff and she just smiles and said thanks i'm surprised you actually made it i figured you'd be too busy with your little hobby business I was stunned. Like, did she really call my career a hobby?
I just kind of laughed it off and said, it's not a hobby, it's my job. And she shrugged and said, well, it's not a real job, but I'm glad you're having fun with it. I didn't know what to say, so I just walked away. I tried to enjoy the rest of the night, but honestly, I couldn't shake off what she said. It felt like she was belittling everything that I've worked so hard for. So after dinner, I decided to just leave. I didn't say goodbye to anyone. I just grabbed
my stuff and left. Well, first of all... As someone who had a wedding, I would not have realized if a single person left. I don't think you realized when I left. I did not realize when you left. I would not realize. We left so early. It's not because you offended me. It's because I dislike weddings. Yeah. And, I don't know, we were tired and we just want to go home. But, like, if you... If your family is, like, dismissive of, like, something that you love, that's just fucked up.
And I think they're the assholes. I do, too. Here's what I don't like. It doesn't... It seems like the sisters are, like... That is a career. Thank you. And you can make a lot of money. Like I can understand in the beginning it seeming a little bit more like a hobby because like you're kind of trying to put your name out there. Like you're trying to like make it happen. That takes time. Like being an artist isn't like all of a sudden I'm going to be in a museum. You know,
like it's way more than that. I can understand how it seems like, oh, I have an Etsy shop. That seems like a hobby because people do that as a hobby. Yeah. But it can also be your career. And that is fine. Yeah, well, here's the thing. Like, I don't know what their past is. I don't know if she's, like, mooched off of everyone because she doesn't want to get in. I don't know that. Yeah. But based on what I do know, it sounds like the sister just said some shit to say some
shit. Yeah, because, like, that had nothing to do with her wedding. It had nothing to do, like, you're the little sister. Is coming to say, oh, my God, your wedding is so beautiful. Like, I hope you have a great time. Well, I'm glad that you came after, you know, not having a job. Fuck you. I thought you'd be so busy making bracelets. Yeah, like, the fuck? It was so out of left field for no reason. It was purposeful. So, yeah, fucking
leave. That's what I think, too. It's like, I could understand if it was, like, a real conversation that just got out of hand. But it seems like this bitch just said some stuff. And to make you feel bad just for the heck of it, like. Yeah. So I would be upset too. I'd be like, what the fuck is this? And if she left after dinner, that's like half of the time. All that's left is like dancing and stuff. I also feel like if she stayed for the ceremony, the wedding ceremony. Well,
cause that was, had already happened. Yeah. They're at the reception. I think the reception. And she stayed for dinner. Unless you're in the wedding party. Which she is. Yeah. No, she said she wasn't. She wasn't the maid of honor. Okay. But still. I was a bridesmaid at a wedding not too long ago and after the reception and there was nothing else planned. Right. And it was just dinner and dancing and whatever and stay as long as you want. After the cake was cut, the basic stuff,
again, I left very early. I told my friend, the bride, that I was leaving. It might have been a little bit of an asshole move to not say goodbye. Yeah. Especially if you are in the wedding. Like I'm assuming she was in the wedding. Yeah. Like just because she wasn't the maid of honor doesn't mean she wasn't in it. Yeah. It is her sister. But I feel like at minimum she could have at least told her parents she left. Yeah. Yeah, I think that's maybe what I would have done.
That's a little bit of an asshole for not saying goodbye to anyone and just peacing out. Yeah. But for leaving, you are not the asshole. Yeah. Because your sister came out of left field for no reason other than to hurt you. Yeah. I think it's fine to have been upset. I think it's fine to have won a left to leave. I mean, but I do think you could have diffused it and not made it seem like a big deal if you would have just said like, Oh, I shit my pants. I gotta go. Or
anything else. Um, but yeah. Oh, I gotta go home. Oh, I don't feel so well. I think I'm gonna leave. And you could have not said that to your sister. You could have said that to your mom or your dad or whoever. Because 10 bucks your sister did not realize. No. That too. I don't, you didn't even know. Most people don't even, and especially assuming it was like a big wedding and she's talking about how beautiful it was and all these things. I'm assuming maybe it was a bigger wedding.
I don't think most people would know this. We didn't even have that big of a wedding. And I did not know when people left. Cause you're so busy. So it's like, I could understand. Cause while like, it's all like, we're the hosts essentially. Yeah. So like we have to make rounds. We have to like talk to people, but we're still also trying to have a good time and drinking. it's a lot. So I could, I don't think she's the asshole for leaving. No, I don't think she overreacted.
She could have handled it slightly differently, but I still don't think she's the asshole. I think you're right that the family's the family's asshole. Yeah, so let's see. Someone said, I always laugh when one angry person claims that the actions of another person leaving an event ruins the whole night. Because it couldn't. It could not possibly. Are they saying that that day would have only been perfect as long as you were in attendance and nobody else mattered?
That's ridiculous. You should not even entertain the notion. You showed up, you made your congratulations, and you left. Tell your family they're the ones making it a big deal. All you did was slip out quietly. You didn't stage a scene or storm out. They're the assholes. Yeah, I feel like if she would have stayed and like, would have been upset, it would have caused problems too. I feel like this is a lose -lose. Yeah. She wouldn't have been having a good time and then her sister would
be like, why aren't you having a good time? Yeah, because then... You're ruining my night. It would have drawn attention. Yes. You know, because
if you feel like you can't... I've been in that situation where you feel like you can't pretend and people will be like... why are you moping around why are you being so weird about this and then they force something out of you and then they force a scene yeah and if you really don't think that you can put on a brave face for it that's fine the best option is to leave i really agree with that i mean you unless you are borrowing money and in debt with all your
friends and families as we said in the 90s what's her damage i love that Yeah, most people are saying not the asshole for the same reason. Like, why does she even bring it up? She's being passive aggressive and there's no way you could have ruined everything. We're right on top with everybody. In my search of am I the assholes? Yeah. In a thread, I found a slash relationships. I don't know how Reddit works. I think it's the subreddit. Yeah, so the subreddit of relationships was within
this. Okay. And I clicked on it because of the title. All right, I'm ready. Why do I want to fuck everyone but my girlfriend? Asshole. That's not the question here. Okay, sorry. Go ahead. I, 25 female. Oh, wait. Am in a long -term committed relationship with the love of my life, 31 female. We are both bisexual and this is both our first relationships with women. We have been together for three years now and are discussing marriage. I am an insanely sexual person. Okay, what a
weird adverb to use. It's 90 % of what I think about. That's 90 % too much. Yeah, aren't you tired? I always thought I was a very sexual person, but I even come close to 90%. I'm like 15. Well, now that I read my books, maybe 20. This person is 25 years old? 25. Yeah, no. Anyways, go ahead. Okay, so it's 90 % of what I think about. For some reason, when I get to this point in a relationship, I just no longer care about sex. I still think
about it, just not with my partner. I spend all day at work fantasizing about my boss taking me in his office and having his way with me. I am still very attracted to my girlfriend. I just don't have the motivation to fuck her anymore. I don't know. I know if the fantasy with my boss ever played out, I would immediately regret it. And I don't think I would ever want more than a fling with him. It's like I want to be fucked every - This is - Are you sure you're not just
reading me one of your books? I want to be fucking everyone, but still want to come home to my girlfriend at the end of the day. I guess I just wish she was more open to a threesome? or maybe an open relationship. This may just be all in my head. If she gave me the green light to fuck whoever I want, I probably would never even make a move. I just feel insanely guilty for thinking about it all the time. And yes, I have talked to her
about this. She misses me wanting to fuck her every minute of every day and wishes I would make the first move more often. We have great sex when we do finally make the move, but it's getting less and less frequent. Has anyone been through this and have any thoughts? I want to marry my girlfriend and I want to have babies and grow old together, but I also want to be as sexual as I want to be. I know I can't have my cake and eat it too, but a girl can dream.
This is odd for me. Someone commented, don't get married. That's all I got. Yeah, not right now. Figure this out, you know? Okay. This isn't am I the asshole, but yeah, you are. I guess.
I think this person. clearly has a very active like imagination and like fantasy driven when it comes to sex and design and that's not bad but i i don't know i think you need to figure that shit out like do you really want to go and have sex with a bunch of people or do you just want to think about it all the time is it getting in the way of your life like what's going on why don't you want to have sex with your girlfriend Is it because you're getting complacent and like
you're, you now see them as like a part, not like a partner, but like the, the fun of it like is gone. So here, like the fun of date, like the first like few months that you're together. Yeah. That like passionate. Yeah. So here's the thing. They said, is this normal? In a way? Yes. Like in a long -term relationship, I think. You're going to have ebbs and flows. You're going to have dry spells. You're going to have times where
you can't keep your hands off each other. And a lot of that is dependent on just what you're going through individually, what you're going through as partners. I mean, if you have kids, if you have like, there have been times where we've been like, I mean, like roommates, you know? Yeah, you're just living together. Yeah, it's like that passion, that spark, it dies away sometimes. But then... You notice it, you try to get it back, you work on it, and if you can't,
then yes, you have a problem. But if it's just that you're going through a phase right now... I don't think that has to mean that it's, I don't know. Cause her keep going back and forth and saying that she doesn't think she'd act on it, but she has these fantasies, but she doesn't know. And if her girlfriend gave her the okay, she probably wouldn't do anything anyway. Yeah.
So then what do you actually want to do? Like it, I just think you're going through a weird phase and you're kind of in that, like you said, that complacent dry spell, whatever. And maybe you guys need to work on that a little bit, or maybe you need to figure out if there is something going on that you want very differently that you're not getting from her. But like, I know when we've gone through and we, I mean, it's not been out of like, I don't find him attractive.
I don't love him. It's just things change. You feel a certain way. You're not as, you don't have as high of a sex drive or you have one that's mismatched at the moment. You figure out what's going on and you work on it. I think she should go to therapy. I do too. I think you need to
figure some shit out. Yeah. I'm not calling you an asshole, but I. I think if you don't figure something out and you keep this back and forth thing going and you keep making her feel bad, then you could definitely become the asshole here. Yeah. People are saying that therapy, especially since you have acknowledged that this is a pattern. Yeah. And someone also said, I'm not an expert by any means, but it sounds like some type of
self -sabotage. That too. On the surface, you want to marry your girlfriend, but your subconscious has issues with that and puts other thoughts in your head instead. Yeah. That's what I mean. It's like, is this just like a weird fantasy thing that you're doing? Because that doesn't have to be the worst thing in the world, but you need to figure out why it's so, I don't want to say debilitating, but it's certainly having
an impact. Yeah. And do you actually want to be married and have that sort of monogamous life or do you not? Because if you don't, that's not a bad thing. No. But don't try to rope somebody in who does want that to something they don't want either. Yeah, because they're also old. Not significantly older. She's in her 30s. Your girlfriend's in her 30s. 31. So she's probably ready to settle down. She probably wants that. Next step of her life. Cause she's older. Yeah.
And that's, you know, once you hit 30, you're in a geriatric fricking pregnancy. So. But yeah, I think that's an interesting one. Like you have more time to like play around. Like I, by you, I mean the 25 year old. Yeah. Not me. No. You have more time to like, not fool around, but like you're younger. Figure this out. You have time to figure this out, but don't drag your girlfriend along because she's at a different stage of life probably. Yeah. But if she's not,
maybe that's a problem. Yeah. It's not a bad thing for you to be having a sort of identity crisis and not know what you want here. But if you need to figure that out without her, you need to figure that out alone. Yeah. And if you can't do that within the confines of your relationship and your monogamy, then you need to not be in that relationship right now. Yeah. And let her
go and do whatever she's going to do. And if you figure it out in a couple years and you guys are both still single and you want to make it work again, you will. Yeah. And if you don't, you won't. It's just that simple. If you love something enough, you gotta let it go. If it comes back, it was meant to be. Fly away, little bird. Yeah, I mean, Mike and I let each other go for a while, and then we came back, and now we're married. So did we. So did we. So, like,
that was a good one. Yeah. Good one to end on. It was something. It was really something. I just saw the title, and I'm like, I have to do this. Yeah, really. What the heck? Well, I hope you guys have enjoyed this episode, bringing back a favorite for Am I the Asshole? And let us know what you thought. Did you agree with us? Did you not? If you want us to do this again and do more Am I the Asshole, we can definitely do that. Or relationships. Yeah. Tell us your
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