Two killers. One gets banned. The other gets branded. In today’s episode, I expose the brutal hypocrisy behind how our society talks about drugs. Fentanyl is seen as a crisis. Alcohol is celebrated like a dinner guest. And yet alcohol kills 3 million people every year—double the U.S. death toll of fentanyl. Why does one spark outrage while the other gets a toast? We explore the lies politicians won’t touch, the silence that costs lives, and the cultural conditioning that keeps us trapped in the ...
Jun 16, 2025•10 min•Ep. 492
Don’t drink? You must be gay. That’s what they said—not because they knew, but because they needed to wound. Because in a world ruled by the Liquid Lie, the fastest way to make you conform is to make you ashamed of who you are. This episode goes deep into Pride, shame, masculinity, and what it means to survive a culture that punishes difference with a pint. Whether you’re queer or not, if you’ve ever hidden your truth to fit in, this one’s for you. We talk about South Wales, rugby clubs, toxic m...
Jun 16, 2025•7 min•Ep. 491
You don’t drink because you love the taste. You drink because—deep down—you’ve been taught that you’re not enough without it. Today’s episode is a straight-up callout of the Liquid Lie that links your self-worth to the glass in your hand. We’re diving into shame, perfectionism, and the impossible game of chasing approval through alcohol. We’re talking about Brené Brown, the inner child who still aches for love, and what it really takes to build your worth from the inside out. This one’s for ever...
Jun 15, 2025•8 min•Ep. 490
You used to feel bold after a few drinks—witty, fearless, invincible. Now you’re alcohol-free, or trying to be… and suddenly, silence. You think you’ve lost your edge. That you’re not assertive. That you can’t speak your truth. But what if that’s not true? What if that’s just a PART of you trying to protect a younger, scared version of yourself? In this Coaches Corner episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we dismantle the belief that alcohol made us confident. We explore how to shift from PART...
Jun 14, 2025•10 min•Ep. 489
You’ve just coached your heart out. Held space. Changed lives. And as the silence creeps in… so does the craving. Not for taste. Not for fun. But for something deeper: rest, validation, a nod from the tribe that says, “You’ve earned this.” But what if alcohol isn’t a reward? What if it’s just a culturally-approved permission slip to disconnect—from your body, your brilliance, your SELF? In this episode, Lee Davy explores why so many coaches, healers, and high-performers fall into the reward trap...
Jun 13, 2025•10 min•Ep. 488
This morning, I walked past the Ivor Davies pub in Cardiff. It was 9:04 am—and already, ten men were drinking pints in silence. Not celebrating. Not connecting. Just… escaping. Fifteen years ago, I might’ve judged them. Today, I feel heartbreak. Because this is what “normal” has become. Early-morning sedation. Loneliness on tap. And a culture that teaches men to drown instead of feel. In this raw episode, I unpack the quiet tragedy of early pub drinking, the post-divorce disintegration of male i...
Jun 12, 2025•10 min•Ep. 487
When Zia told me—so matter-of-factly—that she’ll probably drink wine when she grows up, it hit me like a truck. She’s eight. She’s never seen me drink. Barely sees her mum drink. She doesn’t live in a booze-soaked house. And yet… she thinks she will. Why? Because culture doesn’t need to knock. The Liquid Lie slips through the cracks—TV, school, books, weddings, jokes. This episode isn’t about parenting. It’s about programming. It’s about the invisible inheritance we pass down—even when we try no...
Jun 11, 2025•10 min•Ep. 486
You quit drinking. You meditate. You read all the books on masculinity. And then your partner looks you in the eye and says: “It feels like I’m married to a little boy.” That’s what happened to me. And it broke me—so I rebuilt. In this episode, I unpack a quote from John Wineland and explore what masculinity really means when you stop performing and start embodying. We’re talking nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and how to live with clarity, stillness, and integrity—without reaching ...
Jun 10, 2025•22 min•Ep. 485
In today’s episode, I sit down with STRIVER John Bell—a father, a counsellor, and a man who used to drink to forget who he was. We talk about what it’s like to be a healthcare professional struggling with alcohol, the guilt of being physically present but emotionally absent as a parent, and the deep identity shift required to live a SELF-led life, alcohol-free-as-fuck. John shares his journey from being a mechanic stuck in the wrong life to becoming a therapist who helps others navigate their ow...
Jun 09, 2025•1 hr•Ep. 484
BrewDog just inked a deal with West Ham United. To most, it’s just marketing. To me? It’s a megaphone for the Liquid Lie. In this episode, I take you back to my boyhood in Manchester—pies, Bovril, and the first time I swore at a match. But beneath those memories was something deeper: a craving to belong. The pint wasn’t about taste. It was about validation. It said: “You’re one of us.” Football is supposed to unite us—but for many boys, it teaches that manhood is earned through alcohol. That to ...
Jun 08, 2025•8 min•Ep. 483
#1000DaysSoberPodcast #LeeDavy #STRIVE You hit the goal. You land the deal. You finally feel proud. And then… you pull back. You brace for impact. You numb the joy. This episode dives into the hidden reason so many high-achievers can’t feel happy even when everything looks right. It’s not sabotage. It’s self-protection—rooted in something Brené Brown calls foreboding joy. 🎧 In this episode: ✅ The reason joy triggers fear—not celebration ✅ How PARTS use success as a warning sign ✅ Why the STRIVE...
Jun 07, 2025•9 min•Ep. 482
I moved back into my childhood bedroom at 35. Same carpet. Same curtains. Same crushing sense of failure. My marriage was over. My son no longer lived with me. And I felt invisible. Powerless. Drowning in silence. This episode is for every divorced parent—especially dads—who feels like they’ve lost more than a partner. If you’ve ever stared at a ring on your finger and asked, “What now?”… you’re not alone. Inside, I share the powerful concept of The Line—and how learning to live above it changed...
Jun 06, 2025•12 min•Ep. 481
You probably don’t crave alcohol as much as you think. You’re not in pain. You’re not desperate. You’re just… human. A human living in a world where drinking is the default—where Fridays mean wine, and success gets toasted. In this episode, I’m speaking directly to the coaches, therapists, and healthcare workers—the ones who know how to regulate a nervous system, but still pour a drink when the house goes quiet. This isn’t about relapse. It’s about realisation. Because when you stop and ask, “Ho...
Jun 05, 2025•12 min•Ep. 480
Have you ever tried to iron a shirt in the dark with wet hair, no hot water, and a podcast deadline breathing down your neck? That was me—in Montenegro, mid-power cut, spiralling. No electricity. No way to work. No escape. And that’s when I realised something most people never stop to see: we don’t drink because we’re weak—we drink because we’re trying to run. From stillness. From feeling. From ourselves. In today’s episode, I’m sharing what happens when all your exit routes vanish—and you’re le...
Jun 04, 2025•8 min•Ep. 479
We’ve been sold a lie. That alcohol is a treat. A reward. A moment of pleasure after the grind. But what if that “reward” is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I unpack a core idea from Allan Dib’s Lean Marketing—and show you how alcohol functions just like Muda (waste) in a broken system. If you’ve ever poured a glass at the end of the day and called it “self-care,” this one’s for you. We’re not here to deprive ourselves. We’re here to reclaim our value ...
Jun 03, 2025•16 min•Ep. 478
They told us the desert wouldn’t drink. That tradition would hold. That some cultures were sacred. But now even Saudi Arabia—the heartland of spiritual resistance to the booze-soaked West—is cracking. Quietly, and commercially. In this episode, I explore the truth behind Saudi’s creeping alcohol policies—and what it reveals about the global spread of the Liquid Lie. From secret stores to tourist resorts, this isn’t about freedom. It’s about profit. And the cost is culture. I’ll share a story fro...
Jun 02, 2025•10 min•Ep. 477
You press the “Do Not Disturb” button and expect peace—but they walk in anyway. That’s what happens when we try to set boundaries in a world that’s wired to ignore them. Whether it’s hotel staff ignoring a sign or your mate ignoring your choice not to drink, the message is the same: your needs don’t matter. In this episode, I share a story from Montenegro that exposed how broken systems train us to abandon ourselves—and how that internalised override keeps us stuck in the Liquid Lie. We’ll talk ...
Jun 01, 2025•13 min•Ep. 476
You made a promise. Then you broke it. You drank. Again. And now the shame spiral begins… “You’re weak.” “You’re broken.” “You’ll never change.” Sound familiar? In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we explore the Japanese philosophy of Wabi Sabi—a radically beautiful perspective that challenges everything the Liquid Lie taught you about perfection, failure, and worth. This isn’t just about relapse. It’s about rewriting your relationship with shame. You’ll hear how one simple comment f...
May 31, 2025•10 min•Ep. 475
Can you be alcohol-free as fuck… forever? That question terrifies people. It shakes your identity, your culture, and your story. Because if you say yes… something has to die. And if you say no… you never get free. In this raw Coaching Corner episode, I walk STRIVERS through the fear behind the “forever” question. We’re not tiptoeing around this one—we’re naming the PARTS that panic, the memories that bind us, and the nervous system that says, “Not safe.” But here’s the twist: it’s not about alco...
May 30, 2025•9 min•Ep. 474
I didn’t quit drinking because I hit rock bottom. I quit because I made a vow—and I never broke it. In this raw and reflective episode, I take you inside the truth of what happened when I finally saw through the Liquid Lie. No rehab. No AA. Just one sentence that changed everything: “I will never drink again.” But what makes a vow stick? Why do some commitments feel shaky… and others feel unshakable? I unpack the five N’s of alcohol, the drama triangle, and the reason your PARTS panic when you t...
May 29, 2025•13 min•Ep. 473
You can delete a photo. Bury a memory. Pretend it never happened. But you can’t un-smell it. The stench of stale alcohol is more than unpleasant—it’s a time machine. One whiff and suddenly you’re back in the storm. The broken glass. The glazed-over eyes. The pain you tried so hard to escape. In this episode, I break down how alcohol manipulates our most powerful sense—smell—to cement emotional memories that keep us drinking. I’ll share my own story of how the smell of Bacardi once triggered my t...
May 28, 2025•7 min•Ep. 472
You think you’re afraid of not drinking at the party. But you’re not. You’re afraid of standing in the truth—while everyone else is sleepwalking through a lie. In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, we’re diving into the real reason socialising without alcohol feels so scary. Spoiler: it’s got nothing to do with the drink and everything to do with safety, connection, and being truly seen. Lee shares what it’s like to walk into a loud, glittering party—AFAF—and listen to the PARTS that w...
May 27, 2025•10 min•Ep. 471
You’re not staying because you love it—you’re staying because you’ve invested too much to leave. Whether it’s your nightly glass of wine, your crumbling relationship, or the identity you’ve built around being a ‘drinker’—this episode uncovers the real reason it’s so hard to walk away: the sunk cost fallacy. We go deep into how your PARTS cling to safety and familiarity, even when it hurts. And we offer a new way forward—one led by your SELF. This episode is a wake-up call, a mirror, and a door t...
May 26, 2025•7 min•Ep. 470
What if I told you scientists were running a clinical trial… …to find out if a known carcinogen could improve your health? No, this isn’t satire. It’s Spain. And it’s wine. And it’s the Liquid Lie in a lab coat. In this episode, I break down the €2.4 million Spanish study that’s got 10,000 people drinking wine every day—under the banner of science. But here’s the truth: This isn’t research. It’s a justification project. And it’s not just absurd—it’s dangerous. Let’s talk about how culture uses a...
May 25, 2025•6 min•Ep. 469
You love them. You want to help. But nothing seems to work. They keep drinking—and you keep breaking. In this raw and powerful episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy speaks directly to the STRIVERS who aren’t battling alcohol themselves—but love someone who is. If you’ve tried to fix, rescue, or reason with someone stuck in the Liquid Lie, this one’s for you. Lee shares what actually helps—not from PARTS, but from SELF. You’ll learn how to: – Stop trying to change them – Build boundari...
May 24, 2025•10 min•Ep. 468
You say you’re lonely on Fridays. But are you really? Or are you just bored—uncomfortable with your own company? In this powerful episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy explores the deeper truth behind why so many of us reach for alcohol at the end of the week. It’s not about celebration. It’s about escape. And often, the ache in your chest isn’t loneliness—it’s the absence of SELF. Lee breaks down the difference between boredom and disconnection, challenges the myth that alcohol conne...
May 23, 2025•11 min•Ep. 467
You ever feel yourself becoming someone else just to survive the moment? In this episode, I share a story from a recent poker night—my second game in eight years. I sat down calm and centred… until one of my PARTS panicked. What followed wasn’t strategy. It wasn’t presence. It was mimicry. A desperate attempt to blend in and belong. This isn’t just about poker. It’s about the moments we abandon ourSELF for approval. When fitting in feels safer than standing strong. When the urge to be accepted o...
May 21, 2025•8 min•Ep. 466
You think perfectionism is your edge. Your armour. Your proof that you’re holding it all together. But what if that polished surface is just a terrified PART doing everything it can to keep the cracks from showing? In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, I break down how perfectionism feeds alcohol reliance—not because you’re weak, but because you’re scared to be seen as you are. You’ll hear my own story of growing up with conditional love, chasing achievement to feel worthy, and the piv...
May 21, 2025•7 min•Ep. 465
One in four children live with a parent who has alcohol or drug problems. Sounds shocking? It shouldn’t. Because that’s just the smoke. The real fire is the Liquid Lie—a culture that has normalised alcohol so deeply that even kids growing up in so-called “healthy” homes are affected. You don’t need a parent with a diagnosis for alcohol to hurt your childhood. You just need a mum who “deserves a glass,” a dad who drinks every weekend, or a birthday party where Prosecco is poured alongside the cak...
May 20, 2025•6 min•Ep. 464
If you’re afraid to stop drinking because you don’t know who you’ll be without it—you’re not broken. You’re responding to a culture that taught you to cope with alcohol instead of connection. In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy explores a powerful quote from Buckminster Fuller via Seth Godin’s This is Strategy, inviting STRIVERS to stop trying to fix the old system—and build a new one instead. You’ll learn why shouting “I’m sober!” isn’t the point… and how living a SELF-led ...
May 19, 2025•8 min•Ep. 463
