A lot of people come to self-improvement because they want more for themselves or they want more from themselves. And when those desires comes from a feeling of not being enough yet, then self-improvement can be a very painful, never-ending quest. Ironically, when we go after “more” without first establishing our fundamental enoughness, it won’t create more, it only creates more not-enoughness. So I want you to know two things: You are already enough. And also, there is more for you. These are n...
Nov 11, 2021•29 min•Ep. 132
Sometimes it can feel really hard to create something different in our lives. But it really isn’t that complicated because the only thing between you and the results you want is a thought that can be questioned. If you aren’t getting the experiences and results you want in your life right now, you’re simply thinking a thought that is preventing you from having what you want. What are your costliest thoughts? What are the thoughts that are costing you the results you want in your health, in your ...
Nov 04, 2021•32 min•Ep. 131
Every one of us is the child of the greatest creators in the universe and, because of that, we have each inherited an incredible capacity to create new things, new experiences, and new realities that don’t currently exist. The prerequisite to creating new things is believing new things. Nothing springs into being without first existing as a thought. But how do you believe in things you can’t see and that don’t exist yet in your life? It’s easy to believe in your past. It’s easy to believe in the...
Oct 28, 2021•28 min•Ep. 130
Thought is the most powerful creative force in the world. That’s why it’s so important to carefully consider the thoughts you are choosing to think. How often do you ask yourself what you want to think, rather than just observing your thoughts? Any thought is possible and any thought is optional. You get to choose whatever thought you want, and nothing can ever take that choice away from you. And the better you get at choosing the thoughts you want to think, the more power you will have to creat...
Oct 21, 2021•33 min•Ep. 129
Shame is the most universal human emotion. We all feel it. And sometimes we think it’s necessary to feel shame in order to change and to do things differently in our lives. However, shame is the enemy of change. Shame keeps us stuck and repeating the same behaviors because shame causes us to hide. And hiding doesn’t help at all. To makes changes, we need to look closer, have more awareness, and curiously examine why we are doing what we’re doing. In this week’s episode, I’ll show you that not on...
Oct 14, 2021•28 min•Ep. 128
You might have noticed that it’s a lot easier to set goals than to keep working towards goals. This isn’t because you are undisciplined or uncommitted or you lack “follow through.” It’s because your brain is programmed to get you to stop. All the time you are working on your goals, your brain has a biological reason to stop you. The good news is that your brain can’t actually stop you from reaching your goals. It can try. And it will. But you always get to choose what you do. And when you are aw...
Oct 07, 2021•35 min•Ep. 127
As humans, we have all been given a body so that we can have this earth life experience, and yet, most of us have lots of thoughts that make our body wrong. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Every thought you think is optional and the thoughts you think about your body are no exception. You can love your body! Without changing it at all! You just need to question the thoughts that make your body wrong and then purposefully choose how you want to think about your body. In today’s episode I’m sh...
Sep 30, 2021•34 min•Ep. 126
If we want to change any aspect of our life, it starts by changing our thoughts—which sounds simple, but can sometimes be easier said than done. During a recent renovation of our home, I was reminded of some important things to keep in mind when you are dismantling, changing, and reconstructing your thoughts. In this week’s episode I’m sharing this experience and five takeaways that will help you do the challenging, internal, life-changing work of changing your thoughts, so that you can use your...
Sep 23, 2021•36 min•Ep. 125
Loving other people is the most challenging work we do as humans because love does not come naturally or easily to our brain. Our brain is programmed to be defensive and judgmental and self-righteous—and so is everybody else’s. This creates a world that is full of conflict and judgment and criticism, and so learning to choose love, despite your brain’s tendencies, has never been more important. Your brain isn’t going to naturally choose love, but you can direct it to do just that. In today’s epi...
Sep 16, 2021•36 min•Ep. 124
Grief is a normal, natural part of every human life. Whenever we experience any change or transition or loss, we can experience grief. However, even though grief is a regular part of the human experience, most of us are ill-informed about it and we often resist grief and the painful feelings we have when we are grieving. In today’s episode, I’m talking with grief recovery specialist, Kelly Norton, about the purpose of grief and how to allow and process your grief so that it can add to your life,...
Sep 09, 2021•52 min•Ep. 123
Our children have as much agency as we do, which means that they have the unlimited power to decide their own life experiences. We are powerless in terms of their choices and that is by divine design. They get to choose and that’s the way it’s supposed to be. This only becomes a problem for us when we think that our children might choose wrong or that their choices might create suffering for them. But none of this is actually a problem and in today’s podcast episode I’ll show you why. We don’t g...
Sep 02, 2021•33 min•Ep. 122
A lot of us have dreams for our lives—and as humans we each have unlimited, god-given capacity to make those things happen. There is no limit to what we can create or to what we can achieve or become. But to get any of that, we have to start. In many ways, starting is the hardest part. Starting means doing things differently, changing from one state to another, taking risks, and spending energy, and our brain never wants to start doing any of that. In today’s episode, I’m sharing three things to...
Aug 26, 2021•36 min•Ep. 121
When I teach people that their thoughts are creating all the pain and all the results in their life, the question I get most often is, “But how do I change my thoughts?” In order to change our thoughts, we have to be very purposeful. New thoughts don’t just happen to us. New beliefs aren’t ever going to descend upon us uninvited. In fact, because your brain is programmed for survival, most of the thoughts you want to think will be hard-won and only acquired through intention. In today’s episode ...
Aug 19, 2021•30 min•Ep. 120
When we realize that our beliefs are creating the results in our lives, the next thing we want to know is how we change and build those beliefs. It’s a question that I get a lot as a coach because the better we get at believing, the more powerful creators we become. Building our beliefs is like building anything else—it requires effort and work. I think there are a lot of parallels between the work in other areas of our lives and the belief work we do in our minds. In today’s podcast, I’m sharin...
Aug 12, 2021•34 min•Ep. 119
Our brains spend a lot of time arguing with reality—telling us that things should be different than they are. But thinking things are supposed to be different leaves us stuck and disempowered. When we can’t change the circumstances of life, we can still change the way we experience our life. And one of the best ways to do this is stop believing that things should be different when they simply aren’t. In this episode, I’m sharing how accepting what is and choosing to say “Yes, and…” to everything...
Aug 05, 2021•39 min•Ep. 118
A lot of us are committed to self improvement, but there is actually no such thing. You are already whole and so no matter what you do you can't improve yourself. You can't get better, but you can change your life experience. You can create and design your life to be exactly the way you want it and the most powerful way to do that is through coaching. In this special bonus episode, I'm sharing why I think coaching is the best decision you can make to get the life experience you want. And the mos...
Aug 01, 2021•11 min
If you could wave a magic wand and change any aspect of your life, what would you change? While you might not have a magic wand, you have something just as powerful—your brain! Whether you know it or not, you have created every result in your life—even the ones you wish were different—with your thoughts. This is the best news I can give you because it means you are more powerful that you realize and it means that if you don’t like what you’ve created, you always have the power change it. It migh...
Jul 29, 2021•33 min•Ep. 117
This is your life. Make the most of it. Don’t just move. Decide the direction you want to go and start arriving at all the places in your life that you’ve always wanted to be. None of them are off-limits. There aren’t experiences in life that are reserved only for other people or things that you are disqualified from somehow. Anything you want is available to you. You just have to get your brain out of the way to get it. And I can help you do that.
Jul 26, 2021•17 min
We are powerful creators. There is nothing we want in our lives that we can’t create by changing the way we think. But often when we go to do new things, create a different reality, think new things, or build new capacities or abilities, our brain will tell us that we can’t because we’ve never done it before. Your brain thinks you need evidence from the past in order to be able to create things in the future, but it’s not true. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing some powerful tools that will he...
Jul 22, 2021•30 min•Ep. 116
Your life is really just the physical manifestation of the invisible relationship between you and your brain. What is that relationship like? Who gets the most say? Who is driving the conversation? Which of you is deciding what you do and how you feel most days? Who is in charge in your relationships? Which one of you is deciding how you spend your time or your money? Which one of you has the most say in what’s really important to you? When you really understand the dynamic that exists between y...
Jul 15, 2021•19 min•Ep. 115
In order to help others and do the work that we are uniquely capable of doing in this world, we each have to overcome the fears of our brain. Our brain cares about our survival, not our impact. In this episode, I encourage you not to give up and not to give in to your fears. I’m sharing what’s really going on when you’re scared to show up in the world and how to overcome your brain’s fear and anxiety, so that you can do hard things and make a difference in your own life and in the world at large...
Jul 08, 2021•36 min•Ep. 114
Even when we want to forgive, it can feel difficult to do. But the way we think about forgiveness can make it even more difficult because it can be hard to let go of negative feelings when we think someone else created them. But no one can create any feeling for us. Our pain is always created by our own thoughts. And when we really understand this, we can see that the key to forgiving others is not changing others but changing the way we think about what they have done. In today’s episode, I’m h...
Jul 01, 2021•30 min•Ep. 113
The purpose of repentance is to change and create a reconciliation between us and God so that we can reconnect to who we really are and who we are trying to be. But sometimes the way we think about repentance doesn’t create connection and peace—it creates shame. Instead of reconciliation, this shame creates distance and separation which is the opposite of what we want. In today’s episode, I’m offering a different way to think about our mistakes and our ability to change, and how repentance can b...
Jun 24, 2021•28 min•Ep. 112
Even after we understand that our thoughts are creating our emotional experience and we know that to feel better we can choose what we want to think on purpose, it can still be hard to do it. Especially when things are difficult it can feel really hard to change our thoughts. What do we do then? What do you do when your brain says everything is stupid? In today’s episode I’m sharing some ideas to help you when you want to feel better, but it feels really hard to change your thoughts. To get more...
Jun 17, 2021•34 min•Ep. 111
Over the last four years I have changed my life in lots of significant ways. And all of that change was created because I started thinking differently. Today I’m sharing ten life-changing things that I have learned that have made the biggest impact on my life and my relationships. They are the ten things I wish everybody knew. No matter who you are or what your life looks like, I think if you really know and understand these ten things…it will change your life in really big ways. These ideas hav...
Jun 10, 2021•33 min•Ep. 110
Sometimes when we hear that we are capable of anything and that it’s possible to create any change we want in our lives, we use that amazing possibility against ourselves. Instead of feeling excited and hopeful, we end up feeling stressed, paralyzed, and wrong. Our brain has all kinds of ways to keep us the same—and shaming ourselves for all the things we aren’t doing is one of the most effective. You have a life of magnificent possibility. But don’t use that against yourself. In this week’s pod...
Jun 03, 2021•30 min•Ep. 109
Our brains are amazing prediction machines. They take the past and they use that evidence to inform us about our future, to tell us what we are capable of and what’s possible for us. But so much of what we want to create in our lives doesn’t exist in the past and so to get what we want we have to be willing and able to believe things we’ve never believed about ourselves. In this episode, I share the tools that will help you suspend your disbelief and allow yourself to believe impossible things a...
May 27, 2021•32 min•Ep. 108
For many years I wasn’t proud of the way I was showing up in my life. I could see that I had problems in every area, and I thought that I was the common denominator in all of it. I thought that I was the problem. But the real common factor creating our lives is not us, it is our brain. And if we aren’t getting the results we want, we don’t have to change us, we just have to change what we are choosing to think. You might think that you can’t change, but the good news is that you don’t have to. Y...
May 26, 2021•8 min
We each have an infinite capacity to change and become, but our brain is not interested in that at all. In fact, our brain is super resistant to change. Your brain only wants to keep you alive in the easiest, more energy-efficient way possible. It is not interested in becoming anything. It just wants to stay the same. As soon as we try to change and grow, in any area of our life, our brain offers all kinds of resistance to it. Today I’m sharing some of the brain’s primary tactics that it uses to...
May 20, 2021•31 min•Ep. 107
Just like any other area of our life, when we are considering the decision to hire a coach our brains can get in the way. They can produce thoughts that create fear, doubt, skepticism, anxiety, and even embarrassment for us. And while these emotions do a great job of keeping us “safe,” they also keep us the same. In this episode of the podcast, you’ll hear the thoughts and experiences of some of my amazing clients as they made the decision to invest in coaching and what that decision has created...
May 13, 2021•47 min•Ep. 106
