I’m sharing four mistakes I don’t regret in my: Education Marriage Business & Body As we come to the end of another calendar year, I’m (as always) nostalgic and reflective. Here are some of the biggest choices in my life that were the “wrong” choices, but I don’t regret them. (Okay, one of them I do regret.) At the end of the episode, we hear listener voices chiming in with some of their biggest life lessons over the last few years. (Listener voices are always my favorite part of the episode...
Dec 07, 2021•50 min
Have you ever had the thoughts: I don’t have enough time Time is passing me by I’m wasting too much time If this is something that really affects your mood, your schedule, and you're full of frazzle, overwhelm, or a continuing existential crisis, then you may have Time Anxiety. (Not an official thing - just a name I gave to something that affects me regularly.) In this episode, I’m sharing about my own Time Anxiety and how it hurts my productivity and my parenting. I’m also talking about how to ...
Nov 30, 2021•44 min
I hope that you hear exactly what you need to in this episode. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE My book: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. Join the Secret Stuff Patreon If your book club read Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. , sign up here to request a zoom drop-in appearance SPONSORS: Skillshare . Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for one month of free premium membership. Prose . Go to Prose.com/YOU for 15% off your order. Honey . Go to JoinHoney.com/10Things to download the browser extension * Thank you for listeni...
Nov 23, 2021•44 min
We're in the home stretch of 2021 and plans for 2022 are starting to take shape. So I am so excited to welcome Sarah Hart-Unger to the show to talk about planning (rituals, philosophies, and more) and planning tools (paper planners, apps, and books). Planning and productivity is a side hobby of mine, but Sarah Hart-Unger is much more of an expert. She's a doctor, a mom, a blogger, and has not one but TWO podcasts on these topics. You can find her blogging daily at TheShuBox.com and on her podcas...
Nov 16, 2021•1 hr 12 min
Well this episode is a bit of a departure. One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer. So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and m...
Nov 09, 2021•1 hr 9 min
My annual social media challenge #OneDayHH will take place on Tuesday, November 9th 2021. This short, informative episode will explain a little more about what #OneDayHH is, how it works, and why it's so meaningful. #OneDayHH stands for One Day Hour by Hour, and that's what we do: document ONE DAY in our life, hour by hour. Sharing the things that don't usually get shared, like routines and spaces and outfits and all that other minutia. We do it because it's fun, and that's reason enough. But th...
Nov 05, 2021•12 min
This episode is for anyone who misses being a student. I have a running list of classic novels that I want to re-read as an adult or read for the first time because I missed them in high school English class. And so once a year or so, I force myself to pick up those novels that end up on All Time Best lists like this one . Or this one . Or even this one . If you have the same literary burden, this episode is meant to help you choose a classic that won't be a total bore. I'm joined by my friend a...
Nov 02, 2021•1 hr 19 min
It's the last Favorite Things episode of the year! I'm sharing some real biggies for my life right now, but we also have listener voices chiming in with their Favorites of 2021. My list includes a new pair of jeans that made me feel great , two documentaries I can't stop thinking about, and some personal choices around my home and kids. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE. Sponsors: Olive & June . Go to OliveandJune.com and use code YOU for 20% off your first mani system. Skillshare . Go to Skillshare.com/...
Oct 26, 2021•1 hr 8 min
Well this MONSTER of an episode is brought to you by my inability to pick and choose among the great questions I got for this session of Ask Me Anything. I'm sharing stuff about our new house, reading nonfiction, kids & tech, purposeful "no's", how I've changed, and vulnerability hangovers. (I might have a vulnerability hangover after this episode!) Thank you to all who sent in such question questions - I'm sorry I couldn't get to all of them. I let it all hang out here, but for some of the ...
Oct 19, 2021•1 hr 21 min
Fall schedules are SO full around here, and this time of year our family can easily go weeks without a meaningful conversation. I've created 10 Questions To Ask Your Kids that you can pick and choose, modify for your family dynamics, or toss up one at a time over a week or so in order to spark great conversations between kids and adults. These questions work for all ages (as long as the child can hold a conversation) and are a mix of light, fun, and deep. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE After I share all 1...
Oct 12, 2021•1 hr 1 min
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month , and I have long wanted to have this conversation with my friend, stylist, and breast cancer survivor Bethany Winters . Content Warning: Bethany speaks candidly about her experience in this episode. Please take care while listening. In 2016, at age 47, Bethany Winters was diagnosed with Grade 3 Stage IIB Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. What followed was a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and total hysterectomy. In this...
Oct 05, 2021•1 hr 11 min
My health, hormones, and heart have been on a swinging pendulum and this fall I'm on a mission to get centered. We can't control everything that's happening in the world, but we can pay attention to our bodies and our homes and our rituals to create the best space for us to thrive. I'm sharing 3 (small-ish) changes I've been making to navigate the logistics and emotions of the last year. 1. Less liquids 2. Monotasking + Margin 3. End-of-Day rituals FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Please do let me know if y...
Sep 28, 2021•57 min
This episode is for anyone seeking a life change. We cannot, of course, plan for many of the plot twists that life throws our way. Breakups, pregnancies, a PANDEMIC...there are many major life moments that can catch us totally by surprise. But what if we WANT to shake things up? What if we're seeking a new direction in our story? This conversation with Roxy Stone and Katelyn Beaty from the Saved by the City podcast is all about purposefully creating our own life plot twist. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE ...
Sep 21, 2021•52 min
This episode is for anyone who needs a little style boost this fall. Okay, so it's been 18+ months of sweatpants and work-from-home pajamas and I'm over it. I want to feel cute in my clothes again. But I'm not totally sure where to start. My body has changed, my style has changed, my wardrobe needs have changed. Thank goodness for Alison Lumbatis , CEO of Get Your Pretty On and author of the new book The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas . In this episode, Alison walks us through 10 Tips for Ward...
Sep 14, 2021•1 hr 3 min
This episode is for anyone overwhelmed with all their STUFF. But rest assured, this isn't just another minimalist approach to your home. It's not even a get-rid-of-everything attitude. Allie Casazza has such a relatable story about the drowning days of early motherhood and how it led her to an AHA moment about all her STUFF. Eventually she created the online movement - and now book - Declutter Like a Mother . In our conversation, Allie and I talk about the myth of the hot mess mom, how much your...
Sep 07, 2021•46 min
Kicking off Self-Improvement September with writer, podcaster, and speaker Andrea Owen , author of the new book Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength . Andrea's backstory of hitting rock bottom while also people pleasing and "powering through" was something I could relate to, and the tips she gives in this new book were definitely something I needed to hear right now. Learn more about Andrea Owen Follow Andrea Owen on IG Buy Make Some Noise by Andrea Owen FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * ...
Sep 05, 2021•40 min
This summer I read NINE books that I gave a 5-star rating. NINE. This is unheard of, to read such incredible books all in the same couple of months. But now I'm so excited to share them with you! Join SECRET STUFF , where you'll get access to: My list of Meh Bestsellers to Skip Stephen King Summer book club recaps Fall nonfiction book club Personal updates I don't share anywhere else List of books that I talk about on this episode: The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey The Happiness Equati...
Aug 31, 2021•44 min
Content warning: Child loss and suicide This episode is one of the most tender and important I’ve ever shared on this show, and I am just so deeply grateful to Amy Ortloff for having this conversation with me and letting me make it public. In 2017, Amy Ortloff lost her middle child Ryan to suicide. Ryan was just 17 years old. Less than a week after his death, Amy took to her personal Facebook page and starting sharing every single day. She began by sharing stories about Ryan, family memories and...
Aug 24, 2021•1 hr 7 min
I'm so happy to welcome fellow debut author Sarah Bragg to the show! Sarah's book A Mother's Guide to Raising Herself: What Parenting Taught Me About Life, Faith, and Myself is out this week. We have a great conversation about permission in motherhood and finding our voices. Find out more about Sarah Bragg Follow Sarah Bragg on IG Buy Sarah's book A Mother's Guide to Raising Herself * Thanks for listening to 10 Things To Tell You ! FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Join the 10...
Aug 20, 2021•39 min
Making a Favorite Things list is an act of gratitude. And I remind you of this every 10 episodes of 10 Things To Tell You by listing 10 of my favorite things that are always all over the map: gifts, books, beauty products, philosophies, whatever I'm using or loving or thinking about right now. And I want YOU to take a few minutes this week and think about 10 things that are bringing your joy. And then I want you to share those things somewhere, either with a friend or social media, or just in yo...
Aug 17, 2021•1 hr 12 min
This conversation with Leeana Tankersley kicks off a series of BONUS author episodes coming through the fall. Hope Anyway is Leeana Tankersley’s sixth book, and it comes after Tankersley found herself sorting through immense grief following the unexpected end of her long marriage. Leeana Tankersley is funny and relatable and a great writer. I just loved our conversation that was full of vulnerable moments (me) and kind wisdom (her). Buy HOPE ANYWAY Learn more about Leeana Tankersley Follow @Leea...
Aug 13, 2021•43 min
Exactly 20 years ago, I was in the middle of the biggest year of my life. I graduated college, moved to Los Angeles, was grieving a devastating heartbreak, and the country was weeks away from the tragedy of 9/11. In this episode, I am asking YOU to think about the biggest year of your life. The answer may not be so obvious from the outside; it may not be the year you moved or married or had a baby or changed careers. The biggest year of your life may be full of loss or transformation, or both. T...
Aug 10, 2021•1 hr
Ready to bust out the air mattresses? This episode is FULL of practical, logistical, and emotional tips for hosting people in your home. I'm sharing everything from the 4 things that keep (most) guests happy, to the mindset shifts that will keep you from being overwhelmed or resentful. Look, if there's one subject I can give many (many) words to, it's hosting houseguests. Since I moved to Los Angeles 20 years ago, I've hosted friends and family of all group sizes, from couch crashers in a tiny a...
Aug 03, 2021•55 min
My mom returns to the podcast with some new thoughts about how she feels having a daughter who shares herself on the internet, the advice she would give mid-life women, and a long ago conversation between us in the car when she realized there was something...strange...about me. I love to feature real conversations with friends and loved ones on this show. My mom is one of my favorite people, and I'm grateful she's willing to make these conversations public. This was a fun, sweet hour together an...
Jul 28, 2021•49 min
This conversation with my old friend Shawn Smucker is one of the best I've had in awhile. We talk about reading and ghost writing and self-publishing and (not) censoring what our kids read. And we also talk about the books we wish we'd written. Somehow I shock Shawn with one of my answers! Shawn Smucker is the author of six novels, including his latest The Weight of Memory (which I devoured in a day). Shawn calls The Weight of Memory "a modern day fairy tale." FULL SHOW NOTES HERE You can hear m...
Jul 20, 2021•56 min
This episode is for you and someone else. These 10 Questions are meant for couples, but this isn't a big sit-down heart-to-heart. This is meant to be FUN. Stay open to your own answers and don't assume you know your partner's answers. Because the main point of these particular prompts is to build CONNECTION. The questions don't go too deep (in case you have a partner resistant to this type of conversation), but you should definitely come away from any discussion using these prompts feeling just ...
Jul 13, 2021•52 min
Every now and then I like to show a little peek behind the curtain. Whether you’re a current podcaster, an aspiring one, or just a curious listener, I hope you learn something in this episode about creating a weekly podcast. I’m sharing my thoughts on producing a show, what equipment I use to record, editing episodes, hidden costs, and making money. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Mentioned: Stephen King Summer book club on Secret Stuff Ep 73: I wrote a book! Ep 111: Behind the Scenes of Publishing, Launch...
Jul 06, 2021•49 min
As you might imagine, this episode isn't all about vanity. We all know appearance isn't everything. But it's almost impossible to dismiss it entirely. So this episode is a mix of practical tips and also some mindset shifts. I made this episode for me. But I hope it's helpful for you. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Rothys . Go to Rothys.com/YOU for your pair Noom . Go to Noom.com/10Things for your trial * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You ! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @1...
Jun 29, 2021•40 min
June is my birthday month and so of course I'm feeling (extra) reflective. In this episode I'm sharing 10 Things I Learned (or am still learning) in the last year. A year that included a worldwide pandemic, publishing my first book, and moving houses after a decade. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Related episodes: Ep 115: Taking Up Space (A conversation with Kate Kennedy) Ep 114: How To Feel Like YOU (when you don't) Ep 109: 8 Tips to Celebrate Yourself Ep 106: 10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemi...
Jun 22, 2021•1 hr 12 min
Stephen King is a genius and I believe we will one day study him in academic settings like we do other literary giants. (He's also my favorite author.) I'm making a case today for why YOU should read this master storyteller. He has created some of the most iconic characters and plot lines and imagery in history, but he gets a bad rap from casual readers because his most popular work is horror. But horror as a genre might not be what you think it is. I believe you can handle it, or at least some ...
Jun 15, 2021•54 min
