We all have rough patches from time to time. Nobody is happy all the time. If we were, we wouldn’t be people, we’d be game show hosts! It’s been a rough week here at the Transform Radio ranch, and when I found jalapenos in the olives I was using to make enchiladas, I realized that sometimes life is like that. ——————————— Subscribe to the Transform Radio podcast on iTunes…. and g’head and give us a 5-star review so more folks can transform their lives! Connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Pi...
Mar 29, 2014•16 min
When you take their opinion personally, especially if it’s negative, by your offense you’re agreeing with what they have to say about you. The second agreement is all about being secure in who you are, knowing yourself, and accepting who you are. You know your path. You know your journey. You know how far you’ve come and how far you’ve yet to go. People who fling insults at you don’t. Taking them personally is agreeing with them and giving them power to control your life. You control your life…n...
Mar 10, 2014•15 min
Now, if you’re like me, the initial impression of this first agreement is that it simply means “do as you say, say as you do” and “tell the truth…always.”. Well, that’s only a minor part of it. Almost every major religion/philosophy has a teaching about the power of words. In Christianity it’s “the tongue has the power of life and death”. In Buddhism it’s “Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind they can change our world.”
Mar 07, 2014•22 min
In the introduction to The Four Agreements, Ruiz talks about how we, as people, are domesticated like our pets by our parents, our teachers, our family, our friends, and we learn, through a series of rewards an punishments, what and who everyone else thinks we should be in order to gain acceptance. Changing from this norm creates fear, and that fear keeps most of us trapped in dull, drab, unhappy, unfulfilled lives. We create this idealized version of who we're supposed to be...someone, by the w...
Mar 06, 2014•22 min
One of our family routines is we watch a show called "The Middle". Tonight, the Hecks won a trip to New York City, yet were besieged by challenges in getting there to the point that their flight was rerouted to the nearest non-snowed in city, which happened to be Pittsburgh. As they landed in Pittsburgh, everyone but Sue Heck, the middle daughter, wanted to quit and go home. She stood firm, determined to celebrate the biggest thing that ever happened to her and not let her dream die in Pittsburg...
Mar 04, 2014•54 min
There's a television show called "What would you do?" that presents morally and ethically challenging situations and the films the general public, unaware, and what their reactions are. Character is often said to be composed of what you do when nobody is looking. I think the amendment to that is character is what you do when everyone is looking and it's damn uncomfortable. A discussion at the dinner table tonight about Star Wars, Doctor Who, and the ethics of sacrificing who you are for the grea...
Mar 03, 2014•18 min
There's no disagreement that there are some truly offensive things in life...war, death, famine, poverty, racism, injustice, etc. There's also not much disagreement that there are things that are offensive to some of us but not others. This isn't what we're talking about. We're talking about choosing to be offended at everything! You know, those folks who take EVERYTHING personally, view EVERYTHING as an attack on them... the Debbie Downers and Paulie PartyPoopers. Chronic "offendedness" like th...
Feb 26, 2014•20 min
In a recent post on TransformingMonday.com, I asked "Are you the black sheep of the family?" Based on some of the responses I got, some are, some aren't, and man, are there a bunch of misconceptions about who black sheep are and what they believe. Listen in as we: dissect the myth that black sheep are simply rebellious, unmotivated, directionless slackers who hate their families decipher that "family curses" are simply familial beliefs passed down, often unintentionally, through generations lear...
Feb 25, 2014•24 min
We all have those inner voices that constantly tell us we're no good, we're not smart enough, we're not pretty enough... these are the voices of our limiting beliefs. How awesome would it be to be able to change those voices, even silence them, any time you wanted? It doesn't matter how long you believed it, or who told you the horrible ugliness, you can change that voice in mere minutes. Listen in for the first powerful lesson in NLP and silence those negative voices forever. ------------------...
Feb 21, 2014•13 min
Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is the science behind how we communicate, how our concious and subconcious thoughts affect our physiology, and how we can change our neural patterns in order to create the life we truly desire. In order to move from where you are to where you want to be, you have to be able to eliminate all of the horrible ugliness that holds you back so that the awesome goodliness can flow through you. Tonight, as we begin a new series on how you can shift your beliefs in the b...
Feb 19, 2014•29 min
In a book I'm currently reading, a lesson is given that the best spiritual practice is just showing up. In life, our best practice, period, is to show up and show up consistently. Whether it's in relationships, in business, in your own growth... showing up consistently will get you better results than showing up occasionally. What does it mean to 'show up'? Listen in and find out! ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pi...
Feb 17, 2014•16 min
“The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” - Steve Maraboli Too many people refuse to take responsibility for their lives. They live as victims of circumstance, letting life happen to them instead of making their lives happen. Taking control of your life begins with owning your #@#$^%! Taking responsibility for your words, your actions, and your choices will move you from victim to ...
Feb 14, 2014•28 min
Office politics are an ugly game. It's a game of power, of status, of unearned privilege. Superiors who demand the game be played define themselves by the fealty they receive. Subordinates who play the game are looking to get ahead not on talent, but by schmoozing the right person. It's a recipe for frustration and bitterness. Don't play the political game. Keep it professional, keep it honest, keep your integrity beyond question and you won't have to sacrifice your self-esteem to climb that nex...
Feb 13, 2014•19 min
Every once in a while in our house both kids will find other places to be on a weekend night. This last Friday was one such occasion. While sitting at the bar at Bahama Breeze waiting for our table, we struck up a conversation with the couple next to us. Turns out the husband was Shawn Seipler, CEO of CleanTheWorld.org. It's pretty impressive what his organization does. What's more impressive is his story of success to failure to success, a story Shawn will be sharing on a future episode. Had we...
Feb 11, 2014•14 min
You cannot have the life you want if you're not willing to work for it. Too many people make excuses and accept that things will never change or they sink into believing the life they have is all they'll ever have. You cannot achieve your million dollar dreams with a minimum wage work ethic.
Feb 10, 2014•16 min
Being able to establish rapport with other people is important in all facets of life. Most of us have no idea how to do it, and some are really bad at it. Being able to establish rapport relaxes the other person's objection reflex, makes them more open to what you have to say, and establishes a subconscious connection between the two (or more) of you. Imagine how much your business life, your career, your dating life, your relationships with others could improve simply by being able to establish...
Feb 07, 2014•23 min
We've all said it. We've all used a single phrase as a way to justify not doing either what we're supposed to or what we truly want to do. Yabbit. Listen in and kick the yabbit habit! Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ [email protected] Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar. Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.
Feb 05, 2014•19 min
Over 20 years ago, the movie Groundhog Day premiered. It's a story of a man who gets trapped in a single day in time until he learns what his true passion is. When you rolled into the office today...is it the same as it ever was? Do your days just blur together? Well, perhaps it's time to discover what your passion, your calling is so you can stop living your own Groundhog Day. Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star re...
Feb 03, 2014•14 min
Most people believe that it takes a significant amount of time leading up to the moment your life changes. It doesn't. All it takes is 20 seconds of insane courage and the world opens up before your eyes. Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ [email protected] Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar. Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide...
Feb 02, 2014•9 min
Shame is probably the most prevalent emotion around today. It's sold to us through the media. It's used as a tool for control. Social media amplifies shaming with its global reach. It's everywhere. And it's garbage. Shame comes from defining ourselves by the events that occur in our life. The things that happen are simply things that happen. It is what it is and no more. The first step to escaping the shame spiral is forgiveness. Forgiving others for the things they did to you but more important...
Jan 31, 2014•24 min
Did you know you could change your emotional and physical state in an instant? Imagine how awesome it would feel if you could shift your state from nervous to confident or from sad to happy or from anxious to calm... all in the blink of an eye? Listen in and learn how you can use this simple yet powerful tool to shift your emotional state, control your world, and boost your self confidence. Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we l...
Jan 30, 2014•28 min
As someone who has struggled with depression most of my life, figuring out how to recognize when my mood starts shifting and being able to manage my emotional and mental state was huge. So, let's talk depression. I'll share my story, my ups, my downs, my own personal experience and how I manage my emotional and mental state. I'll also share what to do and, more importantly, what not to do or say if you know someone who struggles with depression.
Jan 29, 2014•29 min
There's a very specific reason for the outro music on the show. It's titled "Next Stop Everywhere" and symbolizes the infiinite possibilities in life that all start with making a decision. So, jump in your TARDIS and make the decision to go where you truly want be.
Jan 27, 2014•12 min
Mistakes. Most people are afraid to make them, so they live boring little mistake free lives that are full of doubts and regrets. Making mistakes is a part of growing, it shows you're willing to step outside your comfort zone and take chances. If you go through life avoiding making mistakes, it'll be the biggest mistake you've ever made.
Jan 26, 2014•12 min
Tonight Charlotte takes over the lab and delivers a female perspective on dating, relationships, and what a "good woman" really is. It isn't the Susie Homemaker vision of the 1950's nor is it faking it, wearing an uncomfortable media creation of what a "good woman" is. Listen in as Charlotte delivers a powerful episode on empowerment, confidence, and how compromising yourself for the sake of a relationship is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Check out Charlotte at MomsWithAPassion.com and...
Jan 23, 2014•29 min
If you don't reward yourself and are just waiting for someone else to reward you, you could be waiting a long, long time and end up discouraged that nobody is noticing how awesome you're doing. It doesn't have to be anything fancy or expensive, but take the time to reward yourself for the awesome progress you're making. It builds your confidence, your self-esteem, and it gets you hooked. Once you're hooked, you're gonna want more.... and how do you get more? More progress. See where this is goin...
Jan 22, 2014•12 min
The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence. - Norman Vincent Peale Stress and worry never changes anything. It only causes tension, health problems, and damages relationships. Focus on what's truly important...the immeasurable, the priceless, and don't sweat the small stuff, because in the end...it's all small stuff. Connect with me: On Facebook On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian...
Jan 18, 2014•14 min
An article from Slate crossed my Facebook feed today that really gets it wrong. The article claims that the mantra "Do what you love. Love what you do." somehow devalues work and is the reason for all of the evil in the world today. Doing what you love is the key to success. It's the key to fulfillment. It's what drives you to get out of bed in the morning, work harder and longer than anyone else, and creates those people who change the world. If you do what you love and love what you do, then t...
Jan 18, 2014•21 min
A discussion with my daughter got me to thinking about the whole "everyone gets a ribbon" philosophy. At the end of your life, do you want a bunch of participation ribbons or do you want a bunch of cool photos, memories, scars, and a couple of well earned trophies to tell the story of your life? Connect with me: On Facebook On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ [email protected]
Jan 17, 2014•14 min
Most people take the shotgun approach to taking action. They lack the focus on their goals needed in order to make their actions meaningful. When people take meaningless actions, it can lead to meaningless lives. Lives full of frustration, disappointment, resentment, and resignation. The key to meaningful action is to both be clear about what you want and also be sure that your values and beliefs are in line with each other and congruent with who you are. On Facebook On Google+ On Twitter On Pin...
Jan 16, 2014•18 min
