Episode 48: Courage, Integrity, and After-Care Respect (Podcast). **Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape. Many people just don’t know how to respond when someone comes out and says they’ve been assaulted. They fall into what culture has shown us, unfortunately for the victim, that culture is a rape culture. Learn how to […]
Episode 47: Responsible Community Response (Podcast). **Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape. Many people just don’t know how to respond when someone comes out and says they’ve been assaulted. They fall into what culture has shown us, unfortunately for the victim, that culture is a rape culture. Learn how to appropriately and […]
Episode 46: The Power of Responsibility (Podcast). **Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape. To take responsibility for one’s own actions, to be able to say “I fucked up, and I’m sorry,” is very healing and compassionate. It speaks to a loving person with great self-awareness and courage to do so, and the […]
Episode 45: A Fate Worse Than Death… (Podcast). **Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape. It is often described as a “fate worse than death,” and, it is. In many ways. This podcast mostly focuses on what is known as “the rape culture,” what that means, and how very prevalent it is. Thank […]
Episode 44: Exposing Predditors (Podcast). **Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape. Exposing perverts like Violentacrez (aka Michael Brutsch) and other Reddit users to post to such subreddits like CreepShots, RapingWomen, and Jailbait. Name and shame, that’s the only way to effectively deal with predators and rapists until the laws catch up and […]
Episode 43: Positively Sex-Positive (Podcast). **Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault & rape. Sex-Positive is a trendy term meaning, again, different things to different people, but it mostly means that sex isn’t something to be ashamed of or feel guilty about. It’s about enjoying sex. Seeing it as a beautiful, natural expression of love […]
Episode 42: Poly vs. Amory (Podcast). **Trigger Warnings** This podcast discusses sexual assault and rape. Welcome back, once again, to the Polyamory Podcast. It has been several months since I recorded a podcast, but I’m very happy to be back. This installment talks about the word “polyamory” and how it is being used and misused, […]
Episode 41: Building a Romantic Relationship (Podcast). The best advice I can give you is the same advice I’ve been given again and again, and have promptly ignored because I was swept up in passion. Take your time. Protect yourself. Open your heart to love, but keep your eyes open as well. Building a Romantic […]
Episode 40: The Joy of Sex (Podcast). Welcome back to the Poly Podcast! This week! The Joy of Sex, and what a joy it can be. Remember, it’s a gift you give yourself and your lover. It’s sacred. It’s beautiful. It can be utterly profound. Treat it as such. Never use sex to punish or […]
Episode 39: Gaslighting (Podcast). One of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse… Named after the film Gaslight, it subtly and slowly makes the target question his/her reality, deferring to the abuser. After weeks, months, or years of this, the target no longer knows what’s real and has completely lost their sense of self, but the […]
Episode 38: Jealousy vs. Compersion (Podcast). Compersion is a word coined for the polyamorous lifestyle meaning to find happiness when your partner is happy or experiencing joy rather than feeling jealous about it. It is indeed a choice. Jealousy does not just go away on its own, as it was taught to us in society, […]
Episode 37: Insidious Lies (Podcast). The most insidious lies are the ones we want to hear…or sometimes the ones we tell ourselves. Learn some of the lies predators tell to get your trust, and please learn to recognize the signs early and protect yourself from heartbreak and betrayal. Insidious Lies (Podcast) Original Blog Post He’s […]
Episode 36: Lucky, Lucky Poly People (Podcast). Luck has nothing to do with it. So many people look at those in open or non-monogamous relationships and think we are so lucky to have fallen into such a fulfilling lifestyle! Sex! Lots of hot sex! Or so they think. Let’s address these misconceptions, shall we? Lucky, […]
Episode 35: Yes Means Yes (Podcast). Enthusiastic Consent. Wait for it. There is nothing sexier than your partner meeting you enthusiastically as you proceed through the sexual dance. If they’re not enthusiastic, STOP. Slow down. Check in. Something. Sex is a gift you give to each other. It is not something you take for yourself. […]
Episode 34: Emotional & Sexual Predators (Podcast). Please, please, please check out this list of warning signs to see if you’ve encountered an emotional or sexual predator. They usually seem charming and sweet, especially at first, so protect your heart against these parasites. All too often, they themselves have no idea they are predators, so […]
Episode 33: Emotional Vampires (Podcast). Emotional Vampires are sometimes hard to spot, but we discuss some warning signs that you might have encountered an emotional vampire. If you’re in an intimate relationship with one, it can be extremely exhausting and damaging. Beware. Emotional Vampires (Podcast) Original Blog Post
Episode 32: Please Release Me (Podcast). Sexual release through masturbation, starting with treatment for “Hysteria” in the Victorian Era. From misogyny to sexual freedom among women… Also, I’ll answer a reader’s concern on the podcast. Please call in with your relationship issue to 512.943.2271 to record your question or write to me with your concerns. […]
Episode 31: Everybody Lies (Podcast). Everybody lies…or do they? Unfortunately, too many people lie or deceive out of fear or laziness. Sometimes just because they have no integrity. If you’re a good, honest person, approach new relationships with a healthy dose of skepticism, but don’t let them turn you into a liar. Keep honest and […]
Episode 30: Human Touch (Podcast). The touch of another human being can be a powerful source of healing, not only for what’s going on inside your own heart and mind, but for your relationship as a whole. The gesture of a loving touch given freely and frequently throughout your days can transform your relationship from […]
Episode 29: Sharing Your Lifestyle (Podcast). If your sexual preference or lifestyle is “controversial” by society’s terms, you might find yourself questioning whether or not to share it with your family and friends. For those who are GLBT, the answer is increasingly yes, and I couldn’t be more pleased. Society is *slowly* moving past tolerance […]
Episode 28: Those Three Little Words (Podcast). Love. Such a simple word, but too many people avoid it like other four-letter-words. Although a simple word, it certainly does not convey a simple concept. Love is very complex sometimes, although it’s apparant complexity is really just a delusion. Nothing is more natural or beautiful than love, […]
Episode 27: Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (Podcast). One thing that has long baffled me is the answer to the question: “Why do good people cheat?” Maslow’s Hierarchy answered that for me, at least to begin to understand why, and it has to do with physiological needs trumping any sense of morality. Still, as I’ve said […]
Episode 26: Long Distance Love. Don’t listen to nay-sayers who tell you that long distance relationships don’t work. They do if you want them to. Like any relationship, it’s a lot of work and communication, perhaps moreso because of the geographical distance, but they are far from impossible. Remember, don’t let society define your relationship […]
Episode 25: Choices After Indiscretion. You cheated. Now what? Your choices before an indiscretion are infinitely better than afterward, but you do still have choices if you’ve cheated on your partner, just not good ones. Find out what your options are now that you’ve deceived your spouse or SO, and most importantly, don’t betray them […]
Episode 24: Fear of Abandonment Can Lead to Infidelity. We all fear abandonment, some of us fear it more deeply than others, but the thought of being alone can be very scary. And that fear can cause us to clam up, keep things inside because we’re too scared of what will happen if we talk […]
Episode 23: Protecting Your Heart. Falling in love is intoxicating. There is no doubt. Our brains are full of those euphoric love chemicals and we feel full of life. And by all means, do fall in love, but just protect your heart for a few weeks at the very least, if not for a couple […]
Episode 22: Ending a Relationship with Love & Respect Break ups are hard. They’re painful. They can be absolutely devastating and crippling, but they don’t have to be. There will be pain no matter what, as you are separating your lives and redefining yourselves as no longer a couple, but that pain can be minimized […]
Episode 21: When Your SO Says No to Polyamory. Opening your marriage or LT relationship takes a lot of time, care, and effort. It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s probably not even going to happen in a few weeks or months. It may take years. The timeline all depends on how open and honest […]
Episode 20: Opening Up to Intimacy. Intimacy is terrifying for many people, but it is essential for healthy, happy relationships. Building intimacy takes courage, not only the courage to open yourself up to another person, but the courage to trust another person as well, especially if you’ve been badly burned in the past. Open up […]
Episode 19: Chains of Victimization. If you have been a victim of abuse or suffered through an abusive relationship, it is important to acknowledge the abuse, whether it neglect, verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual, was not your fault. It was not your shame. But, now that it’s over, it is your responsibility to regain your […]
