Friends, what a beautiful and exciting journey it has been! As we take a much-needed break to recharge our batteries, frolic in the sunshine, enjoy time with our loved ones and align ourselves with whatever our next adventure will be, we want to thank every single one of you in our season finale episode. Keep in touch on our socials, like and review our 150 episodes, find us on werenotfine.com and send us love notes, sign up for our stack newsletters, just stay in touch. It’s not over yet! We lo...
Jun 10, 2025•27 min•Season 1Ep. 149
In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia take on a write-in that asked ChatGPT to give advice on a long-standing issue he and his wife had been having for years. We HAD to jump right in and do a side-by-side response. DOUG & Talia vs Chat GPT. Winner takes all!
Jun 03, 2025•25 min•Season 1Ep. 148
This conversation delves into the complexities of self-esteem, exploring its roots, the impact of external influences such as social media, and practical strategies for improvement. The hosts discuss the importance of self-worth, the effects of negative self-talk, and the role of assertiveness in building confidence. They emphasize the need for self-care and the significance of surrounding oneself with supportive individuals to foster a healthier self-image.
May 27, 2025•24 min•Season 1Ep. 147
In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia discuss the importance of timing in disclosing your invisible disabilities in dating. Do you have ADHD or OCD? Are you someone with a chronic health condition? A mental illness? Are you on the spectrum? Do you lead with it or wait for the right moment? Tune in to find out!
May 20, 2025•27 min•Season 1Ep. 146
In this Mailbag, Dr Talia and Doug play around with a few differential diagnoses. Anxious disorganized attachment, relationship OCD, or is it just not the right fit? Tune in!
May 13, 2025•21 min•Season 1Ep. 145
In this Mailbag Episode; Dr. Talia and Doug tease out whether the writer’s girlfriend is pouring her love and affection into her dog while avoiding our writer because of an avoidant attachment style, or… is she just not that into him? Tune in to find out! Shout out to @igototherapy for the Avoidant-Anxious dynamic reference.
May 06, 2025•21 min•Season 1Ep. 144
In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug take on the idea that having been either the Golden Child or Scapegoat in your family of origin had a lasting impact on you and is most certainly showing up in adulthood and in your romantic relationships. Both roles are toxic and either cursed you with a pressure to perform and please or an assumption that you can never do anything right. Tune in and weigh in, we want to hear from you!
Apr 29, 2025•34 min•Season 1Ep. 143
In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia take on “defensiveness” as the most common maladaptive self-protective coping strategy in relationships. As you all know, that doesn’t tend to go well. We feel attacked, defend ourselves, or maybe we roll our eyes, sigh heavily and tell our partner they misunderstood or they are too sensitive. We might not realize that we are creating a rupture by not validating their experience in that moment, but we are. Tune in to learn practical strategies to take that cru...
Apr 22, 2025•39 min•Season 1Ep. 142
Can differing ambition levels tank a relationship? When can it work and when is it a crack in the pavement? She loves him. He is happy to be who he is where he is, and there is no stopping her ambitious career path. An amazing mailbag episode honoring love from all walks of life.
Apr 15, 2025•28 min•Season 1Ep. 141
In this poignant and emotional mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia touch on the painful realities of being in love with with a partner who is deep in addiction and not taking ownership of the issues or making efforts towards healing and changing. How much can a partner put up with? Can you force them to go to treatment? When do you leave? What if they are the love of your life?
Apr 08, 2025•32 min•Season 1Ep. 140
In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug look at the pros and cons of a significant age gap in relationships. What matters most is emotional maturity, communication style and the ability to appreciate each others special contributions of wisdom or playfulness. But what about bridging the gap? What about social perception? Tune in and find out how to navigate these complex and often wonderful relationships!
Apr 01, 2025•24 min•Season 1Ep. 139
In this episode we address a listener's concern that he can't stop fixating on his first love, even though he is happy in his relationship and his ex is married with children. Doug and Dr Talia look at the power of first love from many angles. Are we obsessing or just nostalgic? How can we make our warm memories fuel a warmer current relationship? How can we reclaim the parts of us we have lost that were merely highlighted in those early relationships? And is there a pattern in when we feel that...
Mar 25, 2025•23 min•Season 1Ep. 138
In this mailbag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug take on a really important couples’ question;“how important are shared interests in a relationship?” It turns out they’re not necessary for the survival of a relationship, but it is undeniable that it can do wonders in creating connection and joy when a couple shares new adventures and memories. It’s also crucial to have your own individual interests that light you up whether you are alone or with friends, and of course a balance of both is ideal for a...
Mar 18, 2025•20 min•Season 1Ep. 137
In this episode, Doug and Talia discuss the complexities of workplace friendships, particularly those involving the opposite sex, and the impact these relationships can have on romantic partnerships. They explore themes of jealousy, trust, and communication, emphasizing the importance of transparency and emotional intimacy in relationships. The conversation also touches on the role of couples therapy in addressing insecurities and fostering healthier dynamics between partners. The hosts provide ...
Mar 11, 2025•28 min•Season 1Ep. 136
This great New York Times article “What Sex Therapists Wish We Knew” really sparked some heated conversations and Doug and Dr. Talia wanted to share all of them with you. We talk about comparison being the thief of sexual joy, updating your definition of sex, and the different types of desire. You will definitely want to listen to this one. And don’t forget to share it with all of your lovers! We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfi...
Mar 04, 2025•18 min•Season 1Ep. 135
Sometimes incompatibility is a death sentence for a relationship, and other times it becomes clear that the way you are communicating your expectations is a bigger problem than incompatibility. This episode will help you determine whether upleveled relationship skills are what you need, or if your issues are truly dealbreakers threatening your longevity. We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfinepod Doug Jensen Profile: https://weren...
Feb 25, 2025•21 min•Season 1Ep. 134
In this episode, Dr Talia, Doug and Shanenn Bryant, the host of the Top Self Podcast respond to jealousy provoking scenarios, and test out the Jealousy Scale. Would you be okay if your partner kept a minor infidelity from you? Would you be upset if your partner showed you cute people they are following online or would it more upsetting to see their likes behind closed doors? We’d love to hear from you!
Feb 18, 2025•55 min•Season 1Ep. 133
Love Addiction, do you feel constant stress about what your partner is up to, if they’re thinking about you, why they’re not checking in with you, if their feelings have changed? You might have a love addiction. Do you feel like you are not whole without a partner? Are you constantly seeking your other half? Do you feel like you must become exactly what others are looking for to be loved and accepted? You might have love addiction. Tune in to Doug and Dr. Talia as they do a quick deep dive! Keyw...
Feb 11, 2025•24 min•Season 1Ep. 132
10 signs that you are getting “Throned”. Basically, Gen Z rebranded social climbing, and we love it. Throning is dating someone mainly to enhance your own reputation and boost your ego and credentials by association. Tune into this fun episode to determine if there’s any of this going on in your life! And if so, what to do about it. We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfinepod Doug Jensen Profile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/ E...
Feb 04, 2025•23 min•Season 1Ep. 131
A few episodes ago Doug and Dr. Talia dove into signs you may have had an emotionally immature or abusive parent. If you are finding yourself in relationships that have unhealthy power dynamics or communication patterns, those original emotionally immature/abusive family relationships could be the reason. If you blame yourself for other people’s bad behavior, exhibit self-destructive behavior, fear others’ reactions, long for their approval, or if you bend over backwards to manage or “fix” your ...
Jan 31, 2025•30 min•Season 1Ep. 130
Is your phone the silent intimacy killer in your relationship? If it is your phone addiction that is the problem, you would be the last to know. If it is your partner's mind numbing phone use on the other hand, it is probably all you notice. Doug and Dr Talia discuss how our screen use could be negatively impacting our intimate relationships, and offer baby steps we can take to be intentional with our attention again. We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/s...
Jan 21, 2025•28 min•Season 1Ep. 129
In this Episode Doug and Dr Talia discuss the signs you might not have recognized as a child that your parent was emotionally immature at best, and emotionally abusive at worst. Were they overly moody? Constantly negative and critical of you? Did they invalidate your emotions? Give you the silent treatment? You’re in the right place. Let us walk you through it, and you might decide it is time to talk to someone. You can finally be free of the negative impacts of the emotional abuse. We're Not Fi...
Jan 14, 2025•27 min•Season 1Ep. 128
Did you know one in four couples sleep separately? You will be amazed by how these couples describe the experience of intimacy in their relationship. In this episode Dr Talia and Doug discuss the pros and cons of couples sleeping in separate rooms. Great for sleep, terrible for your sex life? Or does the great sleep translate into better intimacy? Tune in to hear what couples are saying! We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfinepod ...
Jan 07, 2025•25 min•Season 1Ep. 127
In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia ask some tough love questions about the way you fight. Are you fighting to win? Do you bring up the past? Do you get defensive and shut down? Take a listen and see if there are some ways you can level up the way you fight to strengthen your relationship instead of damage it. We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfinepod Doug Jensen Profile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/ Email: contact@werenotfi...
Dec 31, 2024•26 min•Season 1Ep. 126
In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug agree partially but not totally on whether we are more honest when we are drunk. Are we feeling our deepest darkest repressed resentment but unfiltered enough to finally say something? Well, that never turns out well. Are we no longer able to hide our longing and lust for a coworker at a Holiday Party? The question is whether our frontal lobe turning to mush for the evening helps us unleash our truth, or if what we are unleashing is an immature and distorted e...
Dec 24, 2024•16 min•Season 1Ep. 125
In this Mailbag Episode, Doug and Dr Talia take on the many angles, caveats and exceptions to whether liking and commenting on your ex’s posts online is actually OK when you’re in a committed relationship. We’d love to hear your take! We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfinepod Doug Jensen Profile: https://werenotfine.com/our-team/ Email: [email protected] IG: douglasljensen Twitter: dougjensen4Cs Dr. Talia Jackson Profile: h...
Dec 17, 2024•23 min•Season 1Ep. 124
In this mailbag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug are faced with one woman’s disgust with her boyfriend’s all too close and dependent relationship with his doting mother. On the one hand, how wonderful that he can connect so deeply, that could only be a great sign for your relationship… Right? On the other hand, if he is not capable of fully taking care of himself, are you even dating an adult? Will he be able to take care of you? Or will you be taking his mother’s place? We're Not Fine https://wereno...
Dec 10, 2024•23 min•Season 1Ep. 123
In this episode, Doug & Dr Talia chose their top 5 favorite questions to ask a potential partner! Some of the answers will tell you if you would be a good fit for a strong and healthy dating relationship, and other questions might help you determine if your personalities, lifestyles and dreams of your future won’t be compatible long-term. We're Not Fine https://werenotfine.com Shop the Pod: https://werenotfine.com/shop Instagram: @werenotfinepod Doug Jensen Profile: https://werenotfine.com/o...
Dec 03, 2024•31 min•Season 1Ep. 122
Happy Thanksgiving WNF Family! We got great feedback about this Turkey Day episode from last year, so we are airing it again. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug respond to some very relatable Thanksgiving mail bags. Then we tackle the most common stressors of the season with humor and one or two harsh slaps of seasonal realism. We also offer some suggestions about creating your new holiday traditions. Whether the holidays are a time of great heart warming joy and anticipation for you, or dread, ...
Nov 26, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 121
In the second half of this amazing LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into how Rhianna’s history of chronic pain might still be affecting her, and she shares with us the professional knowledge she has gained from both her pain journey and her education. She teaches us about Somatic yoga therapy, and takes us through a powerful exercise in awareness. She gives us tips, tricks & strategies to live a more pain-free life. @thereliefspace thereliefspace.com We're Not Fine https://weren...
Nov 19, 2024•56 min•Season 1Ep. 120
