Send us a text Hey there, Super Sober Heroes 💖 It’s your host, Sober Steve , checking in with 1,397 days of sobriety and a big announcement: gAy A is going on an indefinite hiatus . After nearly four amazing years , 225+ episodes , and hundreds of powerful stories from across the queer sober spectrum, it’s time for me to shift my energy inward—toward my local community in Sarasota, Florida . When I launched gAy A at just 90 days sober, I couldn’t find the kind of podcast I needed—so I made it. ...
Mar 25, 2025•3 min•Season 2Ep. 51
Send us a text Super Sober Heroes, we’re back with another in-person interview, and this week, I’m sitting down with my friend Dillon! 🏳️🌈💜 Dillon opens up about his journey to sobriety, how a birthday wake-up call led him to quit drinking, and the powerful role of resilience in his recovery. We talk about: ✨ The moment he knew he had to change ✨ How sobriety has transformed his life and relationships ✨ Finding strength in grief after loss ✨ Navigating the queer community as a sober person ✨...
Feb 27, 2025•18 min•Season 2Ep. 50
Send us a text Hey there, Super Sober Heroes ! Your host Sober Steve is here with 1,357 days sober , and this episode is extra special because we are recording in person for the first time! I’m thrilled to welcome India X Miller , a powerful advocate, trans activist, and sober warrior who has been navigating the world of recovery for over 40 years. India shares their incredible journey of sobriety , from getting clean as a teenager to experiencing relapse and reclaiming their recovery. We talk a...
Feb 20, 2025•32 min•Season 2Ep. 49
Send us a text Super Sober Heroes, we're back for Part 2 with Phil B, co-founder of Here Queer Sober ! 🎉 And this time, we’re shaking things up—AI is asking the questions! Phil and I tackle some of the biggest misconceptions and deeper truths about queer sobriety, including: ✨ Can queer and sober people actually have fun? (Spoiler: YES.) ✨ What’s it like dating and navigating relationships in sobriety? ✨ How do chosen families evolve in recovery? ✨ What’s one piece of wisdom we wish we knew in ...
Feb 13, 2025•16 min•Season 2Ep. 48
Send us a text Super Sober Heroes, welcome back! Today, I’m joined once again by my dear friend and co-founder of Here Queer Sober , Phil B! With 7 years, 9 months, and 24 days sober , Phil shares about his whirlwind year—completing his master’s degree in counseling , navigating job offers, moving into his own apartment, and embracing the next chapter of his recovery and career. We also dive into: ✨ The big life transitions that tested his recovery—and how he stayed grounded ✨ Balancing sobriety...
Feb 06, 2025•19 min•Season 2Ep. 48
Send us a text In this episode of Gay A: The Queer Sober Hero Show , host Steve is joined by the amazing Holland, who shares his journey to recovery, approach to spirituality, and how sobriety has transformed his life. Holland, who celebrates a sobriety date of February 2, 2022, opens up about growing up in Hawaii and Alaska, their struggles with addiction, and finding their way back to recovery after a series of challenges. Holland also discusses the importance of service, humility, and staying...
Jan 30, 2025•24 min•Season 2Ep. 47
Send us a text Episode Highlights 🌍 Traveling Sober & Building Community: Johnny shares how he founded Sober Gay Adventures , offering intimate, 10-day trips for queer sober travelers to explore the world with accountability and connection. His goal was to create meaningful travel experiences for those in recovery, providing fellowship in small groups across the globe. 🏳️🌈 Embracing Queer Joy: Johnny talks about loving the vibrant, campy, and dramatic aspects of queer culture and how tha...
Jan 23, 2025•19 min•Season 2Ep. 46
Send us a text Super Sober Heroes, today I’m joined by Adam Schuler , a writer and advocate for addiction recovery, who shares his powerful journey through relapse, resilience, and ultimately rediscovering joy in sobriety. Adam gets candid about: ✨ The role of relapse in his recovery journey —and why it's not a failure, but a teacher ✨ How connection & community helped him finally break free from addiction ✨ The unexpected realization that changed his recovery: joy matters ✨ His approach to ...
Jan 16, 2025•20 min•Season 2Ep. 45
Send us a text Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! This week on Gay A , I’m joined by returning guest and podcast favorite, Mark, as we dive into the transformative power of sobriety and how it’s helped him embrace his authentic queer self. From growing up in a Catholic family with strict gender norms to navigating the complexities of being openly gay in the workplace, Mark shares his journey of self-discovery, healing, and unapologetically owning his queerness—brooches, skirts, and all! We also disc...
Jan 09, 2025•25 min•Season 2Ep. 44
Send us a text In this episode of gAy A , your queer sober hero show, I’m sharing holiday tips and tricks to help you navigate the festive season while staying sober. Whether you’re celebrating your first holiday in recovery or just looking for a little extra support, this episode dives into advice from listeners and my own experience on avoiding triggers, setting boundaries, and thriving through the season. I’m also celebrating 1300 days of continuous sobriety and reflecting on the tools and co...
Dec 19, 2024•25 min•Season 2Ep. 43
Send us a text In this episode, originally released on April 22nd, 2022, Steve welcomes Scott to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober. Follow Scott on Instagram @scotttgrasso and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast. Also check out their website: https://www.scottgrasso.com/ Thank you for listening. Please rate and review if you have found this information helpful. If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved w...
Dec 12, 2024•42 min•Season 2Ep. 42
Send us a text Episode Description: Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! This week on Gay A , I’m diving back into the vault to revisit one of my earliest episodes on astrology and addiction. Originally recorded at just 105 days sober, this episode explores how our zodiac signs might influence our relationship with alcohol. But that’s not all—I'm adding fresh insights and exploring a new article on zodiac signs and their connections to other addictive tendencies. Whether you’re a Leo who loves to splu...
Dec 05, 2024•12 min•Season 2Ep. 41
Send us a text Sober Steve is joined by Ralf Rasmussen, host of RealClearFetish! Talks RealClearPlay! Ralf shares his journey from addiction to seven years of sobriety, delving into the challenges and triumphs of navigating the intersection of recovery, kink, and queer identity. We discuss: 🌈 The power of embracing authentic queer identity in sobriety. 🖤 Ralf’s journey through addiction, recovery, and reclaiming his kink life without substances. 🎤 How creating a podcast and a sober kink commu...
Nov 28, 2024•25 min•Season 2Ep. 40
Send us a text Check out my guest appearance on RealClearTalk this week, and check out the show wherever you find this podcast!! Show notes from the episode: Steve B has been sober since May 28th, 2021, and is the host of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show. Having isolating during his drinking, he has only begun embracing his interests in leather, fetish, and kink in sobriety- something he believes is necessary for him in order to live a full, happy, and sober life. He is forever grateful for his ...
Nov 21, 2024•54 min•Season 2Ep. 39
Send us a text In this episode of Gay A: The Queer Sober Hero Show , host Sober Steve welcomes Richard Dean, a fellow sober friend, to share his inspiring journey through addiction, recovery, and the exploration of codependence. Richard opens up about the challenges he faced in early sobriety, the lessons he learned from relapse, and the powerful transformation he experienced through programs like Alcoholics Anonymous and Codependents Anonymous. Together, they discuss the unique aspects of queer...
Nov 14, 2024•25 min•Season 2Ep. 38
Send us a text In this episode of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show , Sober Steve welcomes back Julianne Griffin, aka Jewels, the founder of Swift Steps—a unique sober community for Swifties in recovery. They dive deep into the therapeutic power of journaling, finding balance in sobriety, and the challenges of staying accountable in recovery. Jules shares how the love for Taylor Swift’s music, lyrics, and journey has become a powerful anchor for Swift Steps members to connect, support each other,...
Nov 07, 2024•21 min•Season 2Ep. 38
Send us a text Hey there, super sober heroes! 🦸🏽♂️ This week on Gay A, Sober Steve is thrilled to welcome back a fan-favorite guest and globetrotter, Frankie New! Steve and Frankie dive into a topic close to Frankie's heart: Traveling in Sobriety. In This Episode: Join Steve and Frankie as they discuss the unique adventures and perspectives that come with sober travel. From finding queer-friendly destinations and the occasional surprise doll museum to embracing the joy of being fully present ...
Oct 31, 2024•22 min•Season 2Ep. 37
Send us a text Hey, Super Sober Heroes! In this episode of gAy A , Sober Steve welcomes back Jaycee K. Clark for a powerful conversation on the impact of social media on mental health and sobriety. With over 1,227 days sober, Steve sits down with Jaycee to discuss how social media plays a dual role in our lives—both as a tool for connection and a source of distraction. Jaycee, who will be one of the keynote speakers at the Here, Queer, Sober event next September, shares personal insights from he...
Oct 24, 2024•20 min•Season 2Ep. 36
Send us a text Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! In today’s episode of gAy A, host Sober Steve (with 1,227 days sober!) welcomes back Danielle—one of our long-time pod family members, to dive into a topic that many in the LGBTQ+ community can relate to: Being “Out” in Sobriety . What you’ll hear in this episode : Danielle reflects on her experiences of coming out in college and how it mirrors her sobriety journey. They discuss the importance of recovering out loud and the impact of living authentic...
Oct 17, 2024•24 min•Season 2Ep. 35
Send us a text In this week’s episode, host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, continues the dive into gAy A 's archives with Part 2 of "Sober Support from the Vault." After more than 225 episodes, Steve brings back some powerful early interviews that still resonate today. Whether you’re a new listener or a longtime fan, this episode offers a chance to revisit impactful stories from some of gAy A 's earliest guests who continue to make waves in the queer sober community. Featu...
Oct 10, 2024•32 min•Season 2Ep. 34
Send us a text In this exciting two-part special, gAy A is diving into the archives! Host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, takes you on a journey back to some of the earliest episodes of the show. With over 225 episodes and more than three years of content, it’s easy to miss some of the incredible stories shared by guests who have since become part of the gAy A family. So, Steve has pulled some of the best clips from his first solo episode, as well as his initial interviews ...
Oct 03, 2024•27 min•Season 2Ep. 33
Send us a text In this week’s episode of gAy A , Sober Steve the Podcast Guy sits down with his long-time sober sibling, Savannah. With 1,215 days sober for Steve and 1,365 days for Savannah, they share an honest conversation about surviving the challenges of sobriety—especially in a world where alcohol seems to be everywhere. From navigating social events and mocktails to processing personal triggers and using sobriety tools, this episode is packed with wisdom for anyone looking to go from simp...
Sep 26, 2024•27 min•Season 2Ep. 32
Send us a text In this exciting and unconventional episode of gAy A, Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, puts AI to the test! Can AI really understand the intersections of queerness and sobriety? Steve and ChatGPT dive into some of the most powerful themes shared by LGBTQIA+ individuals in recovery, exploring how technology can shed light on these deep, personal experiences. Plus, can you tell the difference between AI Steve and Real Steve? Tune in and find out! Key Takeaways: ...
Sep 19, 2024•27 min•Season 2Ep. 31
Send us a text In this week's episode, host Steve, celebrating 1,202 days of sobriety, welcomes back Chad to continue their conversation on sobriety, fitness, and competition after bonding at OutSport's OutVivor event. Chad shares his experiences in various competitions, from marathons to soccer, and how pushing his limits has been a crucial part of his sober journey. He also provides insights into balancing fitness, fun, and personal growth while staying connected to recovery. The conversation ...
Sep 12, 2024•23 min•Season 2Ep. 30
Send us a text Host Steve celebrates 1,195 days of sobriety and welcomes Chad to share his powerful journey. Together, we explore the importance of self-discovery, overcoming toxic relationships, and building a life rooted in recovery and community. Celebrating Sobriety: Steve marks 1,195 days sober and introduces Chad to the show. Starting Early: Chad’s journey to sobriety and the struggles he faced along the way. Overcoming Challenges: From toxic relationships to personal growth, Chad opens up...
Sep 05, 2024•16 min•Season 2Ep. 29
Send us a text In this episode, Sober Steve celebrates 1,186 days of sobriety and welcomes Melinda Dixon, the first member from Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) to join the show. Melinda shares her powerful journey toward emotional sobriety, shedding light on how ACA has profoundly shaped her life. The conversation explores the importance of emotional regulation through human connection, the power of community, and the impact of understanding one's core wounds on mai...
Aug 29, 2024•24 min•Season 2Ep. 28
Send us a text Steve welcomes back Dale for part two of their interview to discuss their experiences exploring and embracing leather and kink after entering recovery. Warning- this episode is *very* sexually explicit! Opening Discussion: "How do YOU celebrate your birthdays in recovery?" Topics discussed include Our experiences (or lack thereof) with leather and kink before entering recovery. Unpacking and getting in touch with our kinks and fetishes in sobriety and step work. Ways the Leather a...
Aug 22, 2024•19 min•Season 2Ep. 27
Send us a text Host Sober Steve celebrates 1,172 days of sobriety and introduces Dale W., who is 205 days back in sobriety, sharing his powerful journey in this first part of a two-part episode. Dale opens up about his struggles with meth addiction, the isolation he faced, and the joy he found in building connections within the queer community. The conversation delves into overcoming emotional hurdles, finding acceptance, and the critical role of honesty in sobriety. Together, Steve and Dale exp...
Aug 15, 2024•30 min•Season 2Ep. 26
Send us a text Host Sober Steve celebrates 1,164 days of sobriety and thanks listeners for their support, highlighting the new fan mail option before welcoming Jaycee K. Clark, a 34-year-old trans woman, to share her experience, strength, and hope, along with her inspiration for activism today. Jaycee discusses her past struggles with addiction, her experiences in sex work, and her journey to sobriety. She emphasizes the importance of building connections, overcoming shame, and transforming past...
Aug 08, 2024•22 min•Season 2Ep. 25
Send us a text In this episode, Sober Steve welcomes Holden, host of The Sober Unicorn podcast and author of 'Hold'N It Down'. Holden shares his journey from addiction to recovery, the impact of his memoir, and the growth he's experienced. They discuss the importance of connection in sobriety and offer advice for those new to recovery. Don't forget to leave a five-star review to help others find this podcast! **Where to Find Us:** - Holden on Instagram 🟢 - Holding It Down- Free with Kindle Unli...
Aug 01, 2024•25 min•Season 2Ep. 24
