Think you’re low-maintenance until they stop texting back? Can’t breathe unless you’re together 24/7? Sounds like you’ve got a ‘Quality Time’ love language. But don’t panic... needing time isn’t the problem, ignoring it is. Hi besties!! Today we’re breaking down everything you need to know about the second most common love language: Quality Time. So before you call it quits, LISTEN UP. If you’re feeling unloved, or they swear you’re “too needy,” this episode is your playbook. I’m breaking down h...
Jun 26, 2025•32 min
What if I told you the reason you don’t have your summer body… is because of your situationship? This week I’m joined by Sarah Perl , aka The Hot High Priestess , and we’re unpacking why your anxiety, trauma, and bad taste in men are literally showing up on your body. We go deep on: Why your nervous system is hoarding fat like it’s hoarding toxic men What it really takes to make a man obsessed with you How to manifest your ex back - and when to not Law of Detachment: stop obsessing, start attrac...
Jun 19, 2025•54 min
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This June, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting a Cancer man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to learn: 🔥 What makes him the ultimate romantic—and how to use it to your advantage. 🔥 Foolproof ways to connect with his sensitive side and make him feel safe with you. 🔥 What he craves in a relationship (and what will push him away). 🔥 The signs he’s withdrawing emotionally—and how to bring him back close...
Jun 16, 2025•26 min
You’re not single because you’re broken—maybe you’re just asking the wrong questions. In this deeply personal and hilariously honest solo episode, I share 30 questions you need to ask yourself if you’re serious about finding real love—not the situationship, not the trauma-bond, not the 2-week high followed by ghosting. We're talking love that lasts . I also open up for the first time about being deaf —how it’s made me feel small, different, and deeply afraid of being pitied… and how I moved past...
Jun 12, 2025•45 min
Today I’m joined by viral creator MJ Gray to break down everything from the Wizard Liz drama, delusional men who want “traditional women” but can’t even lead… to why the 50/50 dating fantasy is officially dead. We’re talking cheating, bill-paying boyfriends, men who secretly resent powerful women, and why you should think twice who you have a baby with. If you’ve ever wondered why the guy who chases you ends up trying to humble you, why some friends feel like emotional leeches, or why men always...
Jun 06, 2025•1 hr 6 min
One random act of kindness, a stranger on the freeway, and a moment that changed everything. Listen to this to restore your faith in humanity and discover how a split-second decision can reveal the goodness still left in the world Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - almostadulting.supercast.com Today's episode is brought to you by: Stasis - Don’t let Adderall make you feel like sh*t. Pair it with Stasis and get your focus, without the 3pm energy crash, moodi...
May 29, 2025•42 min
Welcome back to Benson Book Club ! Today we’re diving into Chapter 4 of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson—aka the one that explains why you can’t trust, love, or text back without spiraling. Think your mom’s a narcissist? You might be onto something. Convinced your dad’s emotional unavailability ruined your love life? You’re not wrong. This episode is your Roman Empire. If you’ve ever felt unloved, emotionally starved, or like you sabotage every relationship—this m...
May 22, 2025•1 hr 6 min
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This May, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to making a Gemini man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The secrets behind his charm and dual nature—and how to make them work in your favor. 🔥 Proven tips to spark his curiosity and keep him endlessly intrigued by you. 🔥 What excites him most in a relationship (and what will make him lose interest). 🔥 The telltale signs he’s getting bored—and how to ...
May 19, 2025•18 min
Ever lost four teeth and exposed your tampon string on a first date? Chloe has. But guess what hurts even more? Friendship breakups. Today, joined by Alexa & Chloe from the Unbothered Podcast, we’re getting real about the friends who ghosted us, the emotional vampires, moving on without closure, and the painful truth that sometimes friendships end because someone stopped pretending. At what point do you stop performing for someone who’s not even clapping? Tune in for some unhinged, hilarious...
May 15, 2025•1 hr 1 min
Wanna get spoiled and stay in charge? This week, I’m breaking down how to play the game like a princess with a PhD in power. You’ll learn how to make him think he’s leading—while you’re actually driving the damn car. Tap for the cheat code to his ego. The secret sauce? Tune in. I’m not giving it all away here, babe. Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.com Today's episode is brought to you by: AQUA-TRU - Get 20% OFF any AquaTr...
May 09, 2025•31 min
Listen bestie, you know that tight feeling in your chest, the unexplained fatigue, the random headaches and sleepless nights? That’s your body screaming: this relationship is toxic!! RUN. (We're talking, romantic, platonic, or family—no one gets a free pass.) Today, Violetta reveals the science-backed truth about how emotional stress from toxic relationships physically destroys your health—think cortisol chaos, immune system crashes, and gut meltdowns. If you have ADHD , trauma , or an anxious a...
May 01, 2025•29 min
Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you’ll finally find out. If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved. Inspired by the book Attached , we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free. Bon...
Apr 25, 2025•50 min
Think he was your soulmate ? wrong . He was just a love bomber with good Wi-Fi. This isn’t another “just let go” episode. This is your official detachment plan with a twist—designed for the girl who’s done performing for emotionally unstable men who ghost after six weeks of calling you “the one.” In this short, savage 5 step guide , I’m breaking down how to detox from the fantasy, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop romanticizing the inconsistency of A LOVEBOMBER. Because love bombing...
Apr 18, 2025•24 min
Second week of the month? You know what that means—it’s time for Dear Violet - where you call, text, or email me your BURNING questions and I give you the best advice that you need to hear. From pooping in front of him (WHY) to co-signing car loans in the talking stage—On today's episode, I’m breaking down the dumbest sh*t we’ve all done for men who didn’t deserve it. Plus: navigating ex drama, toxic friends, and how to actually move on from heartbreak when therapy, shrooms, and silent retreats ...
Apr 12, 2025•28 min
If you’re tired of feeling stuck, this is your wake-up call. In 21 days, you can reset your mind, body, and soul—and completely shift the trajectory of your life. No fluff. No waiting. Just the mindset, the energy, and the exact steps to become her . This is the sign you've been looking for!! Your future self is begging you to press play :) P.S. Make sure to tune in to the 3 call to action steps at the end. If you enjoyed today's episode, don't forget to subscribe and share with your friends! pl...
Apr 03, 2025•41 min
Buckle up besties, because we’re removing the love goggles, dry-heaving over mixed signals, and finally realizing your soulmate is not the guy who ghosted you after “accidentally” falling into another woman’s vagina. Oopsies. In today’s spicy little episode, ’m diving into the chapter that should be tattooed on every situationship survivor's forehead: Let Them Show You Who They Are from Mel Robbins’ book The Let Them Theory . This episode is for anyone confused, delusional, freshly dumped, or ju...
Mar 28, 2025•41 min
Hi besties!!! This week, Almost Adulting gets extra raw (and maybe a little gross) as Violet sits down with Bachelor royalty,Kaitlyn Bristowe, for a no-holds-barred conversation full of TMI, laughter, and brutal honesty. In this episode, we cover: We Listen and We Don’t Judge – Icebreaker confessions, including bathroom mishaps, weird habits, and the things nobody admits to. Living Alone vs. Relationship Life – The best and worst parts of solo life and the unexpected struggles that make us miss ...
Mar 20, 2025•57 min
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This March, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aries man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The bold traits that make him irresistible—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Proven strategies to grab his attention and keep him addicted to your energy. 🔥 What lights his fire in a relationship (and what will extinguish it). 🔥 Red flags that show he’s losing interest—and how to reigni...
Mar 17, 2025•23 min
Tiny Adults , it's that time of the month—our second-week Dear Violet episode! But first, a little story time. I just got back from a wild Vegas weekend at UFC, where I had an unexpected run-in with Andrew Tate. Yep, you heard that right. I’ll spill all the details before diving into today’s episode, where we tackle everything from confidence killers to trauma, self-love, and getting what you want. Here’s what we’re covering: The Power of Labels – How to label someone to get exactly what you wan...
Mar 13, 2025•51 min
Pack your bags, Tiny Adults (is this nickname working for you?? Y/N?), because we’re heading to Aspen—where the altitude is high, the skiing is tragic, and the men? Well… some of them are worth the trip. This episode is a rollercoaster of luxury, disaster, and unexpected life lessons. From scoring free designer fits to nearly dying on the slopes, this trip had everything. Buckle up—you're in for a ride. ⏳ TIME STAMPS : [00:00:00] - [00:13:16] ➝ My favourite part of traveling, the perks of flying...
Mar 06, 2025•1 hr 1 min
BBC is BACK, baby! Welcome back to Benson Book Club —your monthly deep dive into books that actually hit. Every fourth week, we break down a chapter that changes the game and today, we’re cracking open The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. “Your energy is better spent on what you can control: YOU.” – Mel Robbins Translation? Stop trying to control people who don’t text back, don’t show up, or don’t give you what you want. LET THEM. And then? Watch your life get so much easier. This episode covers:...
Feb 27, 2025•52 min
🚨 Buckle up, tiny adults—this episode is PURE CHAOS. 🚨 I’m joined by the one and only Laura Clery —host of Idiot podcast, author, comedian, and dear friend. Together, we’re spilling the most unhinged, hilarious, and WTF-worthy stories we’ve never dared to say out loud—until now. But you have to PROMISE not to judge. From moving in with a drug dealer she met once, to accidentally ruining a marriage, to getting away with illegal parking, meth (yes, really) , and some other truly questionable lif...
Feb 20, 2025•1 hr 30 min
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This February, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting a Pisces man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The secrets behind his compassionate and mysterious nature—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Foolproof ways to captivate his heart and keep him completely hooked. 🔥 What he craves in a partner (and what will make him drift away). 🔥 Subtle signs he’s losing interest—and how to turn th...
Feb 17, 2025•21 min
Welcome to Dear Violetta - our monthly series airing every second week of the month! where I answer your toughest questions with the unfiltered advice you need to hear. If you've ever questioned a friendship, obsessed over a ghoster, or felt like you fall too fast in love—then today's episode is for you. Topics Covered: Ending a toxic friendship & signs your friendship is toxic Should you give a guy who ghosted you a second chance? The fastest way to get someone to do what you want (in work,...
Feb 13, 2025•38 min
What if I told you happiness isn’t the goal —and most people don’t actually want it? 🤯 That’s why WE secretly keep self-sabotaging. That’s why we stay stuck. But here’s the truth: As corny as it may sound, rock bottom isn’t the end. It’s the launchpad. In this episode, we get real about: Part 1 - 💥 How hitting rock bottom can be your biggest flex (if you know how to use it) 💥 The real reason you keep self-sabotaging (and how to stop) 💥 Why pain is actually part of your success story Part 2 -...
Feb 06, 2025•46 min
Welcome back Tiny Adults! This month's BBC – Benson Book Club episode is all about trauma, your brain, and why you can’t just ‘get over it-- because Your Body Keeps The Score ;) We’re covering: 🧠 How trauma rewires your brain & nervous system 🚨 Fight, flight, freeze, or dissociation—what’s your response? ⚖️ Why some people heal and others stay stuck in the past ⚠️ The part of trauma where therapy can actually make things worse TIMELINE: 🔑 First 20 min: Brain basics—survival mode & str...
Jan 30, 2025•55 min
Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This January, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aquarius man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The key traits that make Aquarius tick—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Foolproof ways to grab his attention and keep him coming back for more. 🔥 What he secretly loves (and what will send him running). 🔥 Warning signs he’s pulling away—and how to flip the script fast. 🔥 The art ...
Jan 26, 2025•27 min
Welcome to the official first Almost Adulting episode of 2025! Today, we’re breaking down what’s holding you back and how to rewire your brain to unlock unshakable confidence. Spoiler alert: Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn, and today I’ll teach you how to master it in 5 simple steps. In this episode, we'll unpack: The 4 Biggest Confidence Killers : (4:31) Confidence Killer #1: Caring too much Confidence Killer #2: Your #1 biggest hater Confidence Killer #3:...
Jan 23, 2025•39 min
In this raw and insane episode, I break down my wild two-week nightmare during the LA fires. From flames creeping toward my house and having to evacuate in chaos to my house getting broken into. Oh, and all those conspiracy theories? I’m spilling the truth—was it arson? Is State Farm really bailing on people? And why was LA so unprepared for this? Buckle up, because I’m sharing everything you didn’t know the LA fires and debunking/confirming the conspiracy theories everyone’s been talking about....
Jan 21, 2025•46 min
From frozen grapes under tables to dodging dating disasters to becoming a born-again virgin and reclaiming self-worth—this year was a journey . Tune in as I spill on heartbreaks, hilarious fails, and the glow-up moments that made it all worth it. Plus, the realest advice you'll ever hear if you think they're the one (spoiler: they probably hate you) and a step-by-step guide to manifesting your dream partner on New Year’s night for 2025. Grab your wine, bestie—it’s reflection and manifestation ti...
Dec 29, 2024•31 min
