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Sep 08, 2024•38 min
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Jul 09, 2024•34 min
4 Types of Couples – Which One Are You? Thank you for reading and listening to our podcast, from Dr. Jess and B! We truly appreciate your time, attention, and support. If you enjoy what you find here, please consider visiting our affiliates (click below) — your clicks help support this site and our content. Please use discount code DRJESSVIP to save! Code DRJESSVIP THANK YOU! 💜 (for real) Code: DRJESSVIP-Save $ + Support Us! No pressure — but if you’re shopping, use our code DRJESSVIP for exclu...
Dec 08, 2023•25 min
Isle McElroy joins Jess and Brandon to talk about intimacy, vulnerability and sex -- on paper and in the flesh. An award-winning non-binary author based in New York, McElroy's latest novel People Collide is a gender-bending, body-switching story exploring marriage, identity, and sex, which delves into questions about the nature of true partnership. Isle shares personal insights on what makes for a good sex scene, how inadequacy plays out in relationships and what they've learned from rethinking...
Nov 23, 2023•38 min
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Nov 17, 2023•47 min
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Nov 10, 2023•40 min
Do you want to... Bicker less and catch yourself before you start? Stay calm and empathetic during conflict? Feel more at ease and connected so - that you're less inclined to fight? Tune in for a discussion - of why we bicker and 12 simple strategies to reduce conflict in relationships as Jess and Brandon weigh in on this listener question: "We love each other madly. He's really the love of my life, and we don't seem to have any big, deep issues because we're really aligned - on values, family, ...
Nov 03, 2023•41 min
In this Q&A, Jess and Brandon weigh in on listener queries related to "work spouses", dealing with a partner who refuses to go to therapy and "love tattoos": "My husband has a coworker who introduced herself to me as his work wife. I didn't even know how to respond. When I talked to him about it, he said she was just kidding around. I think it's inappropriate. He says it's no big deal. Who is right?" "What do you do if your partner refuses; to go to therapy - but the relationship is on the r...
Oct 27, 2023•32 min
How do you define cheating? And how do you recover once trust has been broken? How do you deal with sexual pressure from a partner? Womanizer Premium Eco Jess and Brandon weigh in on personal questions from listeners. They also share an offer from Womanizer in honour of Breast Cancer Awareness Month: if you're a survivor, request your Womanizer Premium Eco by emailing info at sexwithdrjess dot com. If you have podcast questions, please submit them here. Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast...
Oct 19, 2023•19 min
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Oct 06, 2023•40 min
Most people fantasize about threesomes, but not many people - actually dive in. In part I of our Threesomes podcast, we dive into the data and get some practical advice from Justin Lehmiller - who answers your questions including: How common are threesomes? What counts as a threesome? How does a threesome affect relationships for couples? Who is having threesomes? How do people find threesomes (e.g. through apps like Feeld)? What’s the appeal of threesomes? Next week, we’ll dive into how to ...
Sep 28, 2023•41 min
Before we begin... (Dr. Jess and B here). We want to express our thanks and gratitude to you for reading and engaging with our site. We sincerely appreciate it, and you! Without any pressure, if you feel inclined to use our affiliate links, please enter the discount code DRJESSVIP at checkout. You’re not just getting a deal — you’re helping us keep the pleasure-positive content flowing (we receive a small commission). Thank you! Code DRJESSVIP THANK YOU! 💜 (for real) Code: DRJESSVIP-Save $ + Su...
Sep 22, 2023•36 min
How do you cultivate deeper connections through communication? How can you summon compassion in the heat of conflict? How do you define non-violent communication? What is polyvagal theory? Sander T. Jones joins Jess and Brandon to explore these questions and share additional concepts from their book, Cultivating Connection: A Practical Guide for Personal and Relationship Growth in ethical non-monogamy. Sander is a licensed clinical social worker, certified hypnotherapist, and author in Atlanta,...
Sep 14, 2023•31 min
How Lifestyle Couples Keep Their Relationships Hot, Happy, and Connected Couples in The Lifestyle — often referred to as swingers — practice a form of ethical non-monogamy that usually involves consensual sexual play with other singles and/or couples. Though swinging still gets its fair share of judgment, research and lived experience show that many couples find that it strengthens their emotional connection, deepens their communication skills, and supports ongoing erotic exploration. In this qu...
Sep 08, 2023•17 min
Happy couples from across the globe share their best advice for richer relationships. From the relational to the emotional to the sexual, the happiest couples - of all ages weigh in on what makes their relationships thrive. This episode is brought to you by Desire Cruises - a unique experience for adventurous couples! Join us as we cruise to the Greek Isles in August and the South of France next Spring 2024. If you have podcast questions, please submit them here. Don't forget to subscribe to the...
Aug 31, 2023•33 min
Has your partner lied to you about their finances? Have you ever hid spending (or debt) from a partner? Do you and your partner disagree about money - saving, spending, sharing, etc? Do you struggle to talk about money without fighting? What constitutes 'cheating' or financial fidelity? Jess and Brandon discuss their experience with financial infidelity and dive into why people lie about money. They also share prompts & language to help you navigate sensitive conversations related to financi...
Aug 24, 2023•43 min
Sex vs. Social Media & The Surprising World of Belly Button Pleasure Thank you for listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast and reading along here! Your support means the world to us. Every time you click our affiliate links and use our discount code - DRJESSVIP, it helps keep our content alive! We receive a small commission and thank you for your support! Code DRJESSVIP THANK YOU! 💜 (for real) Code: DRJESSVIP-Save $ + Support Us! No pressure — but if you’re shopping, use our code DRJESSV...
Aug 17, 2023•35 min
Looking for a quick exercise to offset the potentially harmful effects of conflict? Jess & Brandon explore a 7-minute solution to support "cognitive reappraisal" as they share the details of their latest fight: the Popsicle incident. In one study, three simple 7-minute writing interventions over the course of a year were shown to improve relationship quality in newlyweds and long-term couples alike. Have a listen to learn more and give it a try yourself to improve your relationship in just 2...
Aug 11, 2023•17 min
Whether at work or in a personal relationship, rejection can suck. Listen to the SexWithDrJess podcast (above) or read the brief summary and full transcript below. As always, thank you so much for being here and engaging with our content. We appreciate you. Check out our affiliate links and remember to use code DRJESSVIP at for exclusive savings! Code DRJESSVIP THANK YOU! 💜 (for real) Code: DRJESSVIP-Save $ + Support Us! No pressure — but if you’re shopping, use our code DRJESSVIP for exclusive...
Aug 03, 2023•42 min
Rejection is a life skill. This week, Jess and Brandon revisit a previous conversation about how to deal with someone who pulls away without explanation. They share their own experiences, and weigh in on how to manage the "in-between" when you're not together but haven't quite split up. Big thanks to our sponsors AdamandEve.com — use code DRJESS to save! And if you have podcast questions, please submit them here. You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcast...
Jul 27, 2023•30 min
A pregnant listener wants to know how to deal with hurt feelings; after her partner; interrupted a conversation to check out another woman. Jess and Brandon share their thoughts on how to deal with sensitive issues like body insecurity, affirmations and feelings of un-attractiveness during pregnancy and throughout life's transitions. Save with code PODCAST on the Mindful Sex Course on the Happier Couples website. If you have podcast questions, please submit them here. Don’t forget to subscribe...
Jul 20, 2023•14 min
Have you encountered scammers while dating online or in person? We received this query from a loyal listener: "I started dating after divorce (I was married way too young at 19 years old, I’m 28 now), and I’m devastated after being scammed. He took over 20K from me, which I know is not as bad as some of the stories in the media, but it’s a lot for me. The worst part is I really did love him, and now I’m nervous to even; date again. I live in a smaller town, so online is really my only op...
Jul 13, 2023•27 min
How does your relationship affect desire and libido? How do you rekindle connection and desire after breaking up and then reuniting? How do you rebuild trust when you get back together? In this episode, we respond to a listener question: her partner left her and then returned, and now she's dealing with low libido and painful sex. We discuss the complexities of rekindling desire, reigniting the flame and rebuilding trust. Don't forget to go back and listen to these related episodes: Painful Sex:...
Jul 06, 2023•18 min
https://www.sexwithdrjess.com/wp-content/uploads/Dr.-Antony-Chum-Website-Promo-1.mp4 What's the difference between an ally & an accomplice? How do health risks intersect with sexual orientation? What can we do to support those who are at greater risk? Why are discussions of interracial and mixed orientation relationships essential to DEI + justice work? Dr. Antony Chum of York University joins Jess and Brandon to discuss his recent research, which explores the link between sexual orientation...
Jun 30, 2023•33 min
Why do we develop fetishes and kinks like heirophilia and small penis humiliation? How do you tell a partner about a specific desire, fantasy or kink? What are the costs of not opening up about a kink or fetish? If you’re into something and they’re not, how can you bridge the gap? Carli DeVille, the ultimate guide to all things tantalizing and titillating, joins us to answer these questions are much more. As a sexologist, licensed psychotherapist, and relationship coach, Carli specializes...
Jun 22, 2023•37 min
When is it okay to pass gas in front of a new partner? Is it ever okay to snoop in their messages? Should you ask about their past? When should you introduce kids to a new partner? We don't have their answers, but we share our imperfect thoughts on your "when is it okay to...?" questions. Get 15% off with by using the Code DRJESS15 on Lovehoney.com. If you have podcast questions, please submit them here. Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Po...
Jun 15, 2023•26 min
What are swallowing disorders? Who can benefit from the support of a Swallowologist? Can you learn to control your gag reflex? What do therapists need to learn from SLPs? Scientist and professor; Dr. Ianessa Humbert joins Jess and Brandon to address these questions and more. Dr.Humbert has been on faculty at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, the University of Florida, and the University of Iowa. She has also co-founded a range of online learning tools including STEP (Swallowing Training ...
Jun 09, 2023•46 min
Curious about anal pleasure and rimming? Luna Matatas has you covered. She shares tips for oral, seduction, confidence and more. Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She teaches 30+ sexy skills topics - including threesomes, BDSM and sexual confidence. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Mast...
Jun 02, 2023•24 min
Performance pressure can affect pleasure and sexual response from the desire to erections to orgasms and more. In this episode, Jess and Brandon discuss: The most common sources of performance pressure How to talk to a partner about your experience with performance pressure Strategies to reduce pressure and increase pleasure Mindful touch exercises to offset the symptoms of performance pressure Techniques to tune into pleasure If you have podcast questions, please submit them here. Don’t forget ...
May 25, 2023•26 min
Curious about how to overcome sexual repression and boost sexual self-esteem? Dr. Tara has you covered. She joins Jess to share her personal story of sexual empowerment -- from shame to She also shares tips to improve sexual communication even if your partner isn't 100% on board. Dr. Tara is a Los Angeles-based sex and relationship expert, a tenured professor of sexual and relational communication (CSUF), and the viral sex ed creator at Luvbites. Stay up to date with Dr. Tara by following her on...
May 19, 2023•34 min
