Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Jay Shetty to talk about his new book “8 Rules Of Love” and his journey from monk to best-selling author and podcaster. Then, they answer an email from a listener wondering which side of dating TikTok to listen to. Should she treat dating like a job to find a relationship or will it happen when she least expects it? Plus, J,J, and Jay talk about how absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Learn more a...
Feb 12, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 422
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a chat about Valentine’s Day and how weird it is at different stages of a relationship. The first email comes from a listener in situationship limbo. How can you get to the next step of a relationship if neither of you have time to really hang out? When are relationships supposed to go from “me” to “we”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise visitor. Later, a listener asks if it’s normal to feel embarrassed about a past rejection. D...
Feb 08, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 421
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about not drinking on dates. The emailer writes in about a breakup with a younger guy. Things were progressing well until a few months in when he revealed he was scared to get into a serious relationship and needed time alone to work on himself. Is this a legit excuse? Jared and Jordana break down what she should’ve done differently and why you should negotiate like Judge Judy. Learn more about your ad choices. ...
Feb 05, 2023•42 min•Ep. 420
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Maddy (AKA the person reading all your emails) to talk about what 25 year olds do on their birthdays, and Jared recaps his brother’s engagement. The first emailer asks if it takes longer to “click” with someone when you’re in your 30s. Is it actually harder to settle as you get older? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was a hookah bar hookup. Later, a listener asks if she’s a cheater after a steamy dance floor moment on vacation. Does she need t...
Feb 01, 2023•1 hr 26 min•Ep. 419
On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by a real listener to break down her break up LIVE for our first U Up? SOS episode. Jess was blindsided by a breakup after a solid start to her new relationship, and then 2 days later, he tried to take the breakup back. Was the excuse he gave the real reason for the breakup? Jared explains the spiral he probably went through, and they advise her on what to do if he reaches out again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 29, 2023•43 min•Ep. 418
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how girls' trips evolve as you grow up and a TikTok poking fun at men who say they want someone who “doesn’t take life too seriously” on the dating apps. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is a deadbeat or if she’s being too hard on him. Are lifestyle differences a deal breaker? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a repeat offense. Later, a listener asks if she has to justify her texting style to guys who interpret he...
Jan 25, 2023•1 hr 26 min•Ep. 417
Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content go to: https://betches.co/jared In an Oversharing first, Jordana invites her Jared on for a dating therapy session with her sister, Dr. Naomi. They walk through Jared’s dating challenges, including why it’s so hard to get past the first few dates, and where his mind goes to when it’s time to end things. Plus, they talk about his dating habits and ...
Jan 24, 2023•34 min
We love a Sunday Special, and this week, Jared is in his Samantha Jones era. This week’s email comes from a guy getting mixed signals from a barista. She keeps saying they should hang out, but when he tries to make plans, she flakes. Why even bring it up in the first place? Plus, J&J talk about the problem with being a people pleaser in dating. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 22, 2023•45 min•Ep. 416
J&J are back in the studio for this week’s new episode, and they’re starting with a conversation about Jared’s recent spa experience and Jordana’s upcoming girls trip. The first emailer asks how she can revive some of her old dating app matches since her chat archives are full of guys with potential. Is it desperate to message someone on the apps months after the conversation ended? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a series of unfortunate events in Jared’s least favorite place. Later, an emailer ...
Jan 18, 2023•1 hr 26 min•Ep. 415
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared gives his weekly dispatch from Boca. Then, J&J read an email from a Pilates instructor who went on a few great dates with a client before getting a text saying he wasn’t in the right mindset to date. She accepted the break up, so why did he reach out again a few weeks later? How much does his relationship history factor into this behavior? Plus, Jordana explains the most annoying parts of what he’s doing. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches...
Jan 15, 2023•33 min•Ep. 414
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jared’s big week on the dating apps before NYE, including a date he went on in Boca. The first emailer asks if she should let her guy best friend out of the friend zone. They’ve been going on dates and expressed romantic interest, but she just can’t imagine having sex with him. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprising discovery. Later, a male listener who keeps getting the “you’re so great, but I’m not feeling a romantic c...
Jan 11, 2023•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 413
On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about Jared’s struggle to get to the fifth date. The emailer asks how to set boundaries with a friend she tried to date but ultimately decided wasn’t the match. She was really upset by their breakup, but she’s trying to play it cool which ended in them drunkenly making out (shocker). How can she set a boundary with this guy without making it weird for their friend group? Plus, J&J explain the problem with being the “cool gi...
Jan 08, 2023•36 min•Ep. 412
On this week’s episode, J&J start with a detailed discussion about ice luges and Jordana’s most recent fan interactions. The first emailer writes in asking if “cute if you’re into it, creepy if you aren’t” is valid in all situations after she saw this explanation all over the comments section of a woman’s TikTok about a bad date. Is it really men thinking about it this way or just men on the internet? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very oblivious emailer. Later, an emailer asks how to h...
Jan 04, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 411
J&J are back with the first episode of 2023, so they start by reflecting on 2022 and making resolutions for 2023. Then, they dive into the Deal Reveal about a miscommunication early in a relationship. The emailer explains that the guy she’s been seeing stopped communicating with her after she made a joke about having another date. When she calls him out on it, he comes back with a lot of excuses, including misunderstanding her joke. How much do his excuses matter? Was her joke really the problem...
Jan 01, 2023•47 min•Ep. 410
Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Australia and a conversation about the magic of December in NYC. Then, they talk about why it’s so hard to keep dating momentum going during the holidays. The first email asks how to get to a first date when you’re not on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a broken table and an attempted robbery. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about happy places, cousins, and ferrets. Check...
Dec 28, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 409
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with a full rundown of Jared’s sushi order (just what you wanted for Christmas, we know). This week’s emailer asks how soon is too soon to talk about mental health in dating after a guy asked to reschedule their second date due to an episode of depression. Is she wrong to be turned off? Plus, Jared and Jordana talk about what real emotional availability and vulnerability looks like. Check out our latest promo codes here: https:/...
Dec 25, 2022•34 min•Ep. 408
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Santacon in NYC and a follow up from the Awkward Sexual Encounter from our 12/7 episode. The first emailer asks if men are getting cheaper after more of her recent first dates accepted her offer to split it. Are these guys into equality or just not that into her? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sisters with a lot in common. Later, a listener asks J&J’s opinion on a Curb Your Enthusiasm theory about non-single...
Dec 21, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 407
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with special instructions for shouting them out in public and a story about how Jordana doesn’t “respect sleep.” This week’s email is from a woman asking if her situationship ended because she doesn’t play games in dating. Did time apart over Thanksgiving get in the way or was the breakup text coming either way? Plus, Jared breaks down how men see the “men are like cabs” analogy from Sex and the City. Learn more about your ad ch...
Dec 18, 2022•40 min•Ep. 406
On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a boutique coffee shop cautionary tale. The first emailer asks how to make her new relationship more romantic now that they’ve gone from just friends to dating. Is this the right relationship for her to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very amateur diagnosis. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they find appealing about the “marriage to suburbs pipeline.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nic...
Dec 14, 2022•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 405
J&J are back with another bite-sized Sunday Spesh, and after a brief sidebar about TJ Maxx’s slogan, they’re jumping right into the episode. The emailer writes in about a situation going back 5 years that started with a first date that turned into a platonic relationship until last year when they both expressed romantic feelings. Once she got invested in the idea of them being together, he called it off, blaming the 4 hours distance between them. Is that the real reason he backed off? Plus, they...
Dec 11, 2022•36 min•Ep. 404
On this week’s episode of the podcast, Jared and Jordana start with a Thanksgiving recap and Jordana’s belated anniversary gift to Jared. The first emailer asks why a woman who didn’t want to go on a date with him is now responding to his stories on Instagram. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing tampon. Later, a listener asks if she’s setting her expectations too high when making her list of traits she wants in a partner (inspired by Jordana’s list). How specific do you need to be on...
Dec 07, 2022•1 hr 30 min•Ep. 403
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Emily Nagoski, sex researcher, educator, and author of Come As You Are. They start with a discussion about spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and Emily explains why she believes we need to center pleasure in your sex life instead of desire. Then, they answer an email from a listener who says she can’t have an orgasm and feels like she can’t ask for things in the bedroom because she won’t come anyway. Emily breaks down all ...
Dec 04, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 402
This week’s episode is coming to you virtually from Jordana’s apartment and Jared’s parent’s pool house. Jared gives a breakdown of his experience being the main character of his family’s Thanksgiving. Then, J&J dive into Bumble’s dating trend report for 2023. They compare Bumble’s statistics to the results from our Instagram polls and talk about why this whole survey feels a little bit like propaganda to keep people on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a marina makeout gone wrong. Later...
Nov 30, 2022•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 401
Thanksgiving is over, and the Board Lord and the Tree Betch are back. This week they’re helping a listener interpret some strange messages from her ex talking about “their song” and then his engagement photos with his new fiancé. J&J break down why he might be sending her these things and tell her what she should say to cut off this weird behavior. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 27, 2022•29 min•Ep. 400
On this week’s episode, J&J start with a coaching session for Jordana’s gift-receiving reactions and a pep talk for listeners going out on Thanksgiving Eve. The first emailer asks how important a sense of humor is to a relationship. The guy she’s seeing checks a lot of boxes, but is it doomed if she cringes at his jokes? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another almost fairytale in the streets of Rome. Later, a listener asks if you have to live together before getting married. J&J finish the episo...
Nov 23, 2022•1 hr 24 min•Ep. 399
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start about how Jared is feeling about dating now that cuffing season is fully underway. This week’s emailer asks how to move forward after one of her boyfriend’s friends called her a 3/10. Should her boyfriend “dump” him as a friend? Do guys even have friend breakups? Jared and Jordana unpack why he would say that and how to handle him going forward. Plus, Jared shares a story where he offended a friend with a joke about sixes. Check ...
Nov 20, 2022•54 min•Ep. 398
It’s U Up?’s fifth anniversary, and J&J are celebrating with a special episode reflecting on 5 years of the podcast and sharing U Up-Dates from previous emailers. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise quick change. Later, an emailer asks J&J when a couple should celebrate their anniversary. Is it the first date or when you DTR? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about names, DM slides, and nerdy decor. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betche...
Nov 16, 2022•1 hr 46 min•Ep. 397
We love a Sunday Special, and this week J&J are answering an email from a listener who’s struggling to bond and set boundaries with her boyfriend’s family. After an awkward dinner with his family where they left her with more than half of the bill, she’s wondering when she can have a conversation with her boyfriend about her inability to relate to them. How much can she expect her boyfriend to defend her? Plus, Jared talks about how he handled similar issues in his own relationships. Check out o...
Nov 13, 2022•37 min•Ep. 396
On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start with a recap of their Halloween weekends and a warning to single people with the new iPhone. The first emailer asks how to handle a breakup with her boyfriend of 5 years when neither of them can afford to move out. J&J dish out the hard truths of the situation and her responsibilities as the dumper. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a study abroad adventure. Later, a listener asks why his friends won’t set him up. As the resident set up expert, Jorda...
Nov 09, 2022•1 hr 52 min•Ep. 395
J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a conversation about Jared’s run-ins with Al Roker and the “seven year itch.” The emailer asks if you have to reply to a breakup text after she gets one from a guy she was dating exclusively for four months. Jared and Jordana break down each line of the breakup text, and Jared shares some relevant experiences from his dating life. Plus, they tell the audience exactly what *not* to say in a breakup text. Check out our latest ...
Nov 06, 2022•53 min•Ep. 394
