[SPEAKER_00]: Hello, good morning, and welcome back, or welcome to Morning Ray. [SPEAKER_00]: I'm your host, Lann Oralana, and today's episode is all about finding your confidence being confident, specifically from the female perspective, duh, I'm female. [SPEAKER_00]: But I know majority of you guys are female 95% of my listeners are women which we love and I think this is something that I find so deeply fascinating and I'm currently reading the confidence code it's a book about
[SPEAKER_00]: Why women struggle to be as confident as men and it's essentially like these two women that go on to interview and speak to a bunch of different individuals and a variety of different fields whether they're leaders in their industry or they're doing research on confidence research on confidence and females It's really interesting. [SPEAKER_00]: So I highly recommend that you go and look at that book.
[SPEAKER_00]: They do [SPEAKER_00]: talk about some of the things that I'm going to be talking about today, but honestly these are a lot of things that I have personally worked on myself over the past few years to work on becoming a more confident person, a more self-sure to work on my self-esteem, a self-esteem and tandem with my confidence. [SPEAKER_00]: I learned very quickly and early on in therapy that there is a big difference between being confident and having high self-esteem.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I think the two get thrown a lot interchangeably. [SPEAKER_00]: And while, yes, the higher the self esteem, the more confident you can be, but I've also found it was really easy for me to appear confident when in turn. [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't feel that confident internally, like my self esteem wasn't there. [SPEAKER_00]: And that often shocked people when confiding in friends and people discussing how I felt that way. [SPEAKER_00]: But I digress.
[SPEAKER_00]: I want to share with you kind of like the cheat code to learning how to be more confident, building yourself confidence, building yourself a seam, little things that you can do in your day today that will have this compounding impact that is positive on progressing towards being a [SPEAKER_00]: self-shurper version of yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: I decided to do this after last week's dating era reset episode and I think this is something that I definitely learned a lot through along myself to be entirely single and to really kind of rewire the way in which my brain worked and the way operated and re-getting to know myself another awesome book if you're in it. [SPEAKER_00]: The mood of reading is breaking the habit of being yourself by Dr. Joe Dispensa. [SPEAKER_00]: I haven't finished it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I will be completely transparent with you, but based off of what I've read so far and what I've heard about the book and just all the feedback that I've been given. [SPEAKER_00]: On people from people who have read this book, I think it's another great read in line of this topic of conversation. [SPEAKER_00]: But anyways, [SPEAKER_00]: We're going to start off with discussing being single and this doesn't mean that you can't build your confidence while in a relationship.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do think your energy, your focus, your priorities are a little bit different when you're in a relationship and it is still something that I work on every single day. [SPEAKER_00]: And when I'm in a relationship, like I have a boyfriend, I'm still working on these things and I forget about them. [SPEAKER_00]: If you are a single, allowing yourselves to be fully single, to really reap the benefits of truly full, wholeheartedly focusing on yourself and rebuilding yourself.
[SPEAKER_00]: If you are in a relationship, happy, healthy, all of it, you can still very much apply these things into your day-to-day life and without you're going about different things. [SPEAKER_00]: But kind of how I've broken up today's episode is the single era, internal versus external validation, planning versus taking action, setting boundaries and keeping them emotional regulation, trying new things, and that's kind of where we'll cap it off, but let's get into it.
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so for the single era, this kind of encapsulates a lot of what we're going to discuss today, but these are kind of things that I tapped into last week, so it's a little bit of a refresher summary and if you haven't listened to last except so I definitely encourage you to go and listen to that and even if you are in a relationship, maybe it might bring some light to different perspectives in ways to go about continuing to build your relationship with your partner and just like the way that you operate as a human.
[SPEAKER_00]: So number one, the first thing that I really started to do, especially around this time last year, maybe a little bit earlier, was really encouraging myself to stop seeking outside validation, not just from men, but also from friends, from colleagues, from whoever, maybe even my followers, quote unquote, from posting online on social media.
[SPEAKER_00]: Even if you don't have like a social media presence per se, we all [SPEAKER_00]: for the most part have social media and post in light of seeking some sort of attention, whether we'd like to admit it or not. [SPEAKER_00]: I think a lot of the times we seek outside validation as a way to provide validity as to we're making the right decision. [SPEAKER_00]: That we're good enough, that we're smart enough. [SPEAKER_00]: We're hot enough. [SPEAKER_00]: We're doing the right things.
[SPEAKER_00]: We're making the right decisions. [SPEAKER_00]: We're doing the right things with our time spent on this earth. [SPEAKER_00]: That's [SPEAKER_00]: is human like it's natural to want to get validation from other people and to hear other people's opinions and approval of whatever it is you're doing and who you are and whatever you want to focus on getting validation for.
[SPEAKER_00]: But when we do that we're relying on other people to approve of our decisions to approve of our choices and in turn we are giving them the power. [SPEAKER_00]: But when you choose to ignore that outside validation, that desire for that external validation, and instead you learn how to give it to yourself again. [SPEAKER_00]: You learn to be okay with you deciding that it's okay. [SPEAKER_00]: For you deciding to give yourself the green light, the go ahead.
[SPEAKER_00]: You give yourself the power back. [SPEAKER_00]: You've taken the torch. [SPEAKER_00]: and you give it back to yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: The more and more you're able to give yourself that own validation and you don't have to outsource it, the more powerful you will feel, the more confident you will feel in your choices, and the more sure you will feel about who you are and where you're going. [SPEAKER_00]: Finding hobbies.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think... [SPEAKER_00]: Too many of us spend time either, especially as single, seeking validation and attention of others, whether it be friends trying to social climb or fit in in one way or another, or getting the attention of men that we think are cute, that we want them to think we're attractive, we want them to like us. [SPEAKER_00]: In order to feel like you have purpose and intention and direction in your life, it's important that our life feels full.
[SPEAKER_00]: That includes our life outside of school, [SPEAKER_00]: outside of our career, outside of romantic relationships. [SPEAKER_00]: Having hobbies is a really important thing. [SPEAKER_00]: And I think with the boom of the internet, we often have forgotten about hobbies, and I think especially as a woman, we have kind of forgotten about hobbies, we prioritize just going out for food and drinks a lot and maybe working out. [SPEAKER_00]: And that's kind of the extent of our hobby.
[SPEAKER_00]: Social media has almost become [SPEAKER_00]: are hobby. [SPEAKER_00]: Whereas if we look at our male counterparts, a lot of them have hobbies, they're still part of sports leagues, they're still playing sports just as they did when they were children. [SPEAKER_00]: They have different things that they like doing, different activities, different interests. [SPEAKER_00]: But when it comes to women, our hobby is almost creating ourselves to be the most attractive.
[SPEAKER_00]: in terms of our physical appearance, like a lot of it is from a vanity interests or making us seem more attractive to men. [SPEAKER_00]: I actually think having hobbies, not that you should be doing it for the sake of a tracking, attracting a male, but I think being a really diverse, interesting human makes you a more attractive human.
[SPEAKER_00]: which I find really funny because a lot of females just kind of throw hobbies out the window, but I feel like we're kind of getting back to it. [SPEAKER_00]: But the thing is with hobbies, everyone wants to be good at their hobby. [SPEAKER_00]: And that isn't necessarily the goal.
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, it's great if you're good at something or you got better at something, it feels really good to feel really confident in your ability to do something to complete something, to pursue something. [SPEAKER_00]: You need to get okay with being bad at something. [SPEAKER_00]: You have to fail a few times before you start getting okay, getting better, getting good. [SPEAKER_00]: Me to be bad a few times before you get better at something. [SPEAKER_00]: You all start somewhere.
[SPEAKER_00]: Think about like when you started reading. [SPEAKER_00]: You weren't good at reading. [SPEAKER_00]: You probably sucked at reading. [SPEAKER_00]: It took you a while to get the hang of it to learn how to pronounce, how to understand the sounds, the vowels, all of it. [SPEAKER_00]: It took you a while to understand it. [SPEAKER_00]: But now I would say like you're probably a pretty confident reader. [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe you hate reading out loud. [SPEAKER_00]: We all do.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you got better at it because you practiced and you kept at it. [SPEAKER_00]: And maybe that was kind of against our own will because of our education system. [SPEAKER_00]: But now you're good at it. [SPEAKER_00]: So with that said, allow yourself to be bad at something, not necessarily in the hopes of getting good. [SPEAKER_00]: Like that's great. [SPEAKER_00]: If you got better at it, that's really sick and awesome.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you don't necessarily have to be incredible at your hobbies. [SPEAKER_00]: Like I have grown to really love running. [SPEAKER_00]: Am I the world's best runner? [SPEAKER_00]: No. [SPEAKER_00]: His my average pace per kilometer. [SPEAKER_00]: Great. [SPEAKER_00]: Absolutely not. [SPEAKER_00]: Like it's very mid. [SPEAKER_00]: It's very mediocre. [SPEAKER_00]: Does that push me away from wanting to run? [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe a little bit at the beginning.
[SPEAKER_00]: My ego definitely got in the way a lot. [SPEAKER_00]: Grab out in a way of a lot of it. [SPEAKER_00]: But the second, I told myself, Alana, leave your ego at the door. [SPEAKER_00]: You're just running. [SPEAKER_00]: We're doing this for fun. [SPEAKER_00]: We enjoy how we feel like we are in mind. [SPEAKER_00]: We're not running from anything. [SPEAKER_00]: We're relaxing. [SPEAKER_00]: We love this. [SPEAKER_00]: We like the challenge. [SPEAKER_00]: We like the mental challenge.
[SPEAKER_00]: I actually started to like it a bit more. [SPEAKER_00]: So find hobbies, find things that you love. [SPEAKER_00]: Use a ticket act to other people, let it allow you to build a community. [SPEAKER_00]: Learn how to spend time alone and learn how to love your own company.
[SPEAKER_00]: Not that a hundred percent of your time should be spent alone, but I definitely do think that in learning to enjoy your own company and really loving how you feel when you're alone and knowing that you can do things alone like you can go to a coffee shop you've been wanting to go to you can go shopping you can run errands you can go to a workout class you can go for dinner for drinks whatever it is travel
[SPEAKER_00]: alone, you almost become more selective about who you let into your life and you stop just letting anyone and everyone have access to you and in turn like that builds confidence like your ability to learn how to do things on your own and to have experience on your own builds confidence in your ability to succeed in this life independent of those around you. [SPEAKER_00]: And with that said, also [SPEAKER_00]: I think moving and silence.
[SPEAKER_00]: I notice I still do this sometimes and I've been actively trying to do it less and less. [SPEAKER_00]: I definitely used to do it a lot more, but learning how to move and silence. [SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to tell everyone what you're working on, what you've accomplished. [SPEAKER_00]: all these things, there's no need to brag about what it is that's going on in your life.
[SPEAKER_00]: The most accomplished, most humble people let their actions, let their accomplishments just speak for themselves. [SPEAKER_00]: There is no need to try to one up someone, there's no need to try to brag and like validate by talking about all your accomplishments to other people. [SPEAKER_00]: Move in silence. [SPEAKER_00]: Don't tell anyone your plan. [SPEAKER_00]: Like you can tell like your partner or like your closest friends, etc. [SPEAKER_00]: What's going on?
[SPEAKER_00]: But like learn how to just like move in silence. [SPEAKER_00]: Not everyone needs to know what's going on in your life. [SPEAKER_00]: You can be completely content Doing it without seeking again. [SPEAKER_00]: That's like you're seeking external validation by wanting to share all the time. [SPEAKER_00]: You're looking for some sort of reaction to whatever it is that you're doing.
[SPEAKER_00]: In a way, not that you can't share your accomplishments and your goals and like all of that with other people internal versus external validation. [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like we've kind of really tapped into this already, but essentially internal validation is your ability to give yourself validation, pretty straightforward. [SPEAKER_00]: An external validation is validation that you get from external services. [SPEAKER_00]: the internet, whoever.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think there's pros and cons to both. [SPEAKER_00]: I think wanting both having both is very natural, healthy and human, but I do think it is important to know and pay attention when you are seeking external validation more often than you're able to just give it to yourself internally. [SPEAKER_00]: I noticed very often that I was seeking external validation when it came to making decisions.
[SPEAKER_00]: I couldn't really make purchases without sending a link to a friend being like, should I get this? [SPEAKER_00]: Or if I was struggling to decide what work out to do, sometimes I would debate it with friends. [SPEAKER_00]: It was really hard for me to be decisive and certain on my own. [SPEAKER_00]: in terms of like my decision-making.
[SPEAKER_00]: And I also realized that when I was single initially, I was seeking a lot of external validation from men that I was attractive, that I was likable, that I was lovable, etc., and not necessarily from the people that I should have actually been seeking that information, that validation from.
[SPEAKER_00]: And the minute I realized that I was [SPEAKER_00]: really tried to counteract that thought process every single time, and it took some time, but obviously now I have a boyfriend it's different, but throughout being single and dating again, I noticed that I stopped having these, I stopped the old habit that I had, and I often would just either message guys or post stories seeking validation from guys that I liked or wanted to
[SPEAKER_00]: what I was looking for or it was like a super short sort of gratification from getting it. [SPEAKER_00]: And I started to ask myself like before I was messaging a guy or posting something or liking a story or whatever it is. [SPEAKER_00]: Like any sort of action that I felt was looking for some of that was like seeking some sort of external validation was one. [SPEAKER_00]: Could I give this validation to myself to what is it that I actually want?
[SPEAKER_00]: out of this are like, what is it that I actually want? [SPEAKER_00]: Like, what is the root reason of this? [SPEAKER_00]: And three, if they do respond, if they do react, will it actually give me the reaction that I want? [SPEAKER_00]: Like, will that satisfy me or will I be let down and disappointed?
[SPEAKER_00]: And I know this sounds so silly, and I'm sure a lot of girls don't think this way, but I'm also very confident that a lot do, and I know that I'm not alone in those feelings that I used to struggle with and navigate and the more that I encourage myself to look within and to stop seeking validation from the wrong people, wrong places, wrong things.
[SPEAKER_00]: The more I was able to kind of just trust myself and be content with myself and kind of turn that energy in words and just really focus on what it is that I was doing, where I was moving and what I wanted to get done in my life. [SPEAKER_00]: Eventually, the person who became my boyfriend.
[SPEAKER_00]: When you are feeling a little bit desperate and insecure, you kind of seek out these things from not quality sources, like people that don't actually care about you, or want to get to know you, or know you well at all. [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't necessarily benefit you in the way that is beneficial. [SPEAKER_00]: But essentially learning how to do things on my own.
[SPEAKER_00]: and make decisions on my own and just be content with myself and focus on the moving and silence and making decisions on my own really allowed me to build more confidence in myself and build my perspective of myself worth. [SPEAKER_00]: And again, I know this might seem pretty straightforward, but I definitely know that I'm not alone in these thoughts and feelings and it definitely took me a while to put these things into practice for myself.
[SPEAKER_00]: planning stage versus action. [SPEAKER_00]: I noticed with myself, with a lot of my friends, we often got stuck in the planning stage. [SPEAKER_00]: planning, researching, preparing for whatever it is that we wanted to do. [SPEAKER_00]: Say we wanted to start posting on social media, say we wanted to create a clothing brand, whatever it is, all the things we would be just stuck in the planning stage.
[SPEAKER_00]: We would be researching like what's the best time to post, what's the best kind of content, what are my content pillars going to be, where am I going to make the clothes, where am I going to sell the clothes, all the things? [SPEAKER_00]: Planning is great. [SPEAKER_00]: It's awesome and I definitely do think it's super important, but unfortunately you don't learn by planning. [SPEAKER_00]: You don't build action or great game experience by just studying.
[SPEAKER_00]: It's the same thing as like the student and the teacher versus like the employee. [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know how I'm going to butcher this. [SPEAKER_00]: You can like study all your life. [SPEAKER_00]: It's okay. [SPEAKER_00]: This we're going to go this way. [SPEAKER_00]: you learn a lot at school. [SPEAKER_00]: You learn a lot and post-secondary in university and college. [SPEAKER_00]: You learn a lot. [SPEAKER_00]: Say you study business. [SPEAKER_00]: I studied business.
[SPEAKER_00]: You learn a lot about business. [SPEAKER_00]: You learn about marketing and finance and economics and maybe business management, business organization, whatever it is. [SPEAKER_00]: You learn a lot of theory. [SPEAKER_00]: You will study a lot of cases. [SPEAKER_00]: You apply your knowledge in a very safe, grounded setting, protected setting.
[SPEAKER_00]: But you don't actually learn how to do your job until you start doing the job, until you're thrown into the quote unquote real world, have your big girl job and start working. [SPEAKER_00]: You only actually gain confidence to excel in your career once you have the job once you're doing the damn thing. [SPEAKER_00]: If we look at me teaching Pilates per se as an example, I could sit here taking all the certificates that I want. [SPEAKER_00]: I can keep going back to school.
[SPEAKER_00]: I can keep learning more about anatomy and huing and how to format a class and how to give hands-on adjustments and pre-imposed needle adjustments, injury, [SPEAKER_00]: But I won't actually learn how to be a teacher of Pilates and instructor in the real world until I start teaching. [SPEAKER_00]: And I won't build confidence through, I won't build confidence in my ability to teach and execute until I take action.
[SPEAKER_00]: Confidence is built through taking action, and that's not just in our careers, but that is in life in general. [SPEAKER_00]: to jump into the workout program, to jump into the new hobby, to throw ourselves into a new social setting, to move, to travel on our own. [SPEAKER_00]: The more we just decide to do, the more confident we will actually be in our ability to do those things. [SPEAKER_00]: It's a learn by doing mentality.
[SPEAKER_00]: The more you do things, the more confident you will feel about doing them. [SPEAKER_00]: If you just sit there and study and stare on the guidelines, the sidelines, you're not going to build the confidence. [SPEAKER_00]: You won't build the confidence until you step onto the field until you put your hands in the dirt and get them dirty.
[SPEAKER_00]: So the more things you do, that make you feel uncomfortable, that intimidate you, that scare you, the more confident you will feel as you do them. [SPEAKER_00]: Point blank. [SPEAKER_00]: I can say that with the utmost confidence, teaching Pilates and doing something that intimidated me so much has brought me so much confidence. [SPEAKER_00]: in a variety of different ways, and a vast amount of different ways. [SPEAKER_00]: Public speaking, I feel like that was something.
[SPEAKER_00]: I was pretty confident about in university in high school, and I didn't really have to ever really do it in my job that much. [SPEAKER_00]: But now like I go in front of 14 to 22 strangers, multiple times a week and instruct and direct and take control of the room.
[SPEAKER_00]: And that is pretty damn awesome as someone who grew up as pretty quiet and shy and fearful of saying the wrong thing if she raised her hand up in class, choosing to do the thing that intimidated me feel made me feel more confident in my ability to do so. [SPEAKER_00]: So simple, so scary, but again confidence is built through taking action. [SPEAKER_00]: You can sit on the side, lines your whole life and just watch and be an expert observer.
[SPEAKER_00]: You won't actually feel confident in your ability to do so until you take that leap of faith. [SPEAKER_00]: Dutting boundaries and keeping them. [SPEAKER_00]: I think having boundaries is so hot, it shows yourself worth, it shows how you perceive yourself, what you are willing to put up with, what you are not willing to put up with.
[SPEAKER_00]: And as a chronic avid people please are growing up, it is so hard to learn how to set boundaries as an adult and especially as a female we are so conditioned to people please and to not [SPEAKER_00]: Learning how to communicate needs in a way that's non-emotional, like removing the motion from it and being able to communicate what we need.
[SPEAKER_00]: Letting go of that need to people please and with that in tandem learning how to keep those boundaries, like not just setting them and then letting people walk all over them, like holding people accountable. [SPEAKER_00]: It's such a confidence boosting thing. [SPEAKER_00]: I transparently used to let people walk all over me. [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't care, well, I did care. [SPEAKER_00]: But I didn't have the ability to communicate my needs in a way that wasn't emotional.
[SPEAKER_00]: I always liked with circumcrying because I just like, I didn't know how to regulate my emotions properly and I think this is something that females struggle with more than men. [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I'm wrong, obviously I've never been a male. [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know what it's like. [SPEAKER_00]: From my own experiences and everything, like emotions are hard, especially with our hormones.
[SPEAKER_00]: Emotions go up and down throughout our cycle, and we have this underlying need to people, please. [SPEAKER_00]: But learning how to communicate your feelings, your needs, your wants, learning how to set boundaries, learning how to withhold, not withhold. [SPEAKER_00]: To upkeep those boundaries is such a confidence-boosting thing. [SPEAKER_00]: and in turn, other people learn how to respect you more.
[SPEAKER_00]: The relationship you have with yourself is how other people will view you as well, and that's also the relationship you will have with other people. [SPEAKER_00]: So, if you have little to know self-respect for yourself, little to know boundaries, little to know self-discipline, that is the type of relationships you're going to have with other people without a doubt.
[SPEAKER_00]: On the topic of emotional regulation, it is so rewarding to learn how to not let your emotions control you. [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm not saying to numb your emotions and to have no emotions at all and to be a really cold cut throat person. [SPEAKER_00]: There's a time and a place for that.
[SPEAKER_00]: I think there's something very feminine about using your emotions and using them to your benefit, but knowing how to control them and regulate them and to not let them control your actions and your thoughts and your decisions is such a rewarding feeling. [SPEAKER_00]: I think there is something so respectful about someone who maybe you feel super emotional about a conflict that arise between you and a friend, you and a coworker, whatever it is.
[SPEAKER_00]: Learning that you need to take space a moment to yourself to kind of let the motion settle so that you can think clearly and logically and correctly is a huge sign of self growth. [SPEAKER_00]: and it's a huge sign of being able to regulate your emotions and be able to control your ability to decide and to make decisions. [SPEAKER_00]: I think I used to act very rashly and with super impatient with myself and with others and in learning how to take time to pause to slow down.
[SPEAKER_00]: to let the emotions fall to self-reflect, it has allowed me to be able to confront conflict in a much more calm, thoughtful and intentional way in a way that I'm not going to regret anything that I said, in a way that I can feel super confident about my way to communicate, my feelings, my needs, [SPEAKER_00]: my boundaries in a very respectful and mature and emotionally intelligent way.
[SPEAKER_00]: Lastly, and we spoke about this a little bit, trying new things is an incredible way to build self-confidence and to build your confidence. [SPEAKER_00]: growth lies in discomfort. [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't happen when you just sail through life super easily. [SPEAKER_00]: Think about it. [SPEAKER_00]: You build resilience. [SPEAKER_00]: You build grit. [SPEAKER_00]: You build the ability to know how to tackle hard things by going through those hard things.
[SPEAKER_00]: Do the things that intimidate you. [SPEAKER_00]: That challenge you. [SPEAKER_00]: Learn to be okay with failing. [SPEAKER_00]: Learn to be okay with falling and having to get back up. [SPEAKER_00]: learning to be okay with not being great or good at something or everything that you do is so so so important. [SPEAKER_00]: I have always experienced the biggest shifts as a human.
[SPEAKER_00]: When I let myself sit in that discomfort, when I choose not to run away from the things that are very much there to help me grow as a human. [SPEAKER_00]: To allow me to build who I am and the direction that I want to go, you can't run away [SPEAKER_00]: I think that's why I love fitness so much because you learn to kind of sit in that discomfort. [SPEAKER_00]: You learn to build that mental toughness, that mental resilience in a safe and controlled setting.
[SPEAKER_00]: And you can take that with you into your day to day, into your work, into your life, and to anything. [SPEAKER_00]: So do the things that make you uncomfortable, run towards the things that give you that excited, nervous feeling. [SPEAKER_00]: Don't be scared of being uncomfortable. [SPEAKER_00]: You should want, not like, obviously, don't always put yourself in uncomfortable situations. [SPEAKER_00]: Well, like, do the things that make you uncomfortable.
[SPEAKER_00]: For example, teaching at a new Pilotty studio makes me so uncomfortable. [SPEAKER_00]: It's so intimidating. [SPEAKER_00]: It's a new environment. [SPEAKER_00]: It's new methodology of teaching, going into my new Pilotty circuit. [SPEAKER_00]: That is definitely intimidating. [SPEAKER_00]: It's daunting. [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know why to expect entirely. [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know how I'm going to feel. [SPEAKER_00]: It's new.
[SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of new things, et cetera, et cetera. [SPEAKER_00]: Like, do, but I know that on the other side of doing these things, [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to feel so much more confident, I'm going to be so much stronger, more resilient, coming out the other side.
[SPEAKER_00]: The people that you look up to, the people that you admire, the people that are successful at the things in their life, they went through all that hardship, they continued to go through that hardship, whether you see it or not, they're not always posting sharing about it, online talking about it, that's the moving and silence piece, but they've gone through it.
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm telling you right now, they also, those successful people that have started businesses and things you admire and look up to them for, they failed a million times before they got to that success point. [SPEAKER_00]: It's a part of the journey, it's a part of the process, it's a part of taking action and not just being stuck in that planning stage. [SPEAKER_00]: Be someone who does what they say they're going to do.
[SPEAKER_00]: be the person that wants change, that wants to better themselves, that doesn't just talk about doing it. [SPEAKER_00]: I actually do the work, put in the work, be honest with yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: Take a moment, open up your journal after this episode, write down or flagged, what are the things that you want to do, what are the things that challenge and intimidate you, that you've always wanted to try and set a goal for yourself. [SPEAKER_00]: How are you going to tackle these?
[SPEAKER_00]: Create a game plan. [SPEAKER_00]: I feel like I kind of rambled on a little bit in this episode So I'm going to close it out here. [SPEAKER_00]: I hope you enjoyed. [SPEAKER_00]: Please please please make sure you leave a rating or a view on Apple podcast That is how you can help support the pod [SPEAKER_00]: I'm always open to hearing of any episodes, topics, conversations you want. [SPEAKER_00]: I know you guys have been nagging me about the Pilate Certification episode.
[SPEAKER_00]: I do want to wait until I'm about halfway through my current Pilate cert until I get into that. [SPEAKER_00]: I start that cert March 9th. [SPEAKER_00]: We'll be in a little bit to just be patient. [SPEAKER_00]: I do really want to do that episode for you, but I want to wait until I'm kind of in the thick of doing another certs that I have all these awesome feelings fresh in mind and all that knowledge.
[SPEAKER_00]: So, I'm so excited to get that episode out, but if there is anything, anything that I've spoken about that you want more on that you want to hear about, maybe I haven't spoken about it, definitely leave a comment on Spotify if you're listening on there. [SPEAKER_00]: DM me, whatever it is, I would love to hear, but I hope you guys have an incredible rest of your week. [SPEAKER_00]: I love you guys so much, and we'll chat soon, bye guys.