Being committed is defined as being devoted to seeing it through. It means when you know you’re in it to win it. Today’s episode works through understanding commitment readiness levels, in not just your potential partner but also yourself. A relationship starts with you looking inward first. Before questioning if the man is commitment ready, it is essential to work on yourself and get to the point where you are able to receive that commitment healthily. There are cold guys, warm ones, and hot gu...
May 15, 2023•25 min•Season 6Ep. 29
In todays's episode of the series, 6 courtship mistakes successful women make and how to correct them, we dive into courtship mistake #1: Successful women not focusing on valuable and authentically aligned men. Many accomplished and successful women don’t know how to identify and attract valuable men. Over my 8 years in the relationship industry, we’ve worked with a spectrum of professional women who desire to partner with men they deem as valuable. It became clear they had no real idea how to i...
May 08, 2023•27 min•Season 6Ep. 28
You come to bed tired from home, you switch between the dating apps, you get drained from introducing yourself to men who don’t match your energy, before you drool to sleep. Now imagine finding men you can authentically connect to, men who are willing and eager to create a deep, heartfelt connection with you without being hesitant or having their walls up. Spend time with this image in your head, sit with it, embody it. Because you are about to actually find these “imaginary” men like many other...
May 01, 2023•22 min•Season 6Ep. 27
DID YOU KNOW that YOUR BIRTH CONTROL could impact the kind of partners you’re picking or decisions you’re making in your courtship process? This episode is eye-opening for millenial women who are trying to balance busy careers, love and wellness. Hormonal health directly affects how your relationships and potential body image issues, anxiety, fatigue, emotional management and how you feel about yourself! Your hormones also can affect how you emotionally react, communicate and navigate your relat...
Apr 24, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Season 6Ep. 26
If you’ve been feeling like you’re running on a treadmill and not making any real progress, it is because you don’t yet know who you truly are in a relationship - what your relationship patterns are, what works for you & what doesn’t and what you want in the future of your love life. If you’ve ever had the thought of marriage and a family in your future, know this: it is 100% available to you and the voice in your head that tells you it’s not, is lying to you. No matter how much action you t...
Apr 17, 2023•43 min•Season 6Ep. 25
Of the top three relationship pattern types (The Too Goods, The Love MEs and the Trophies), which one are you? Most people fit into one dominating pattern type and one or two other sub pattern types. Not knowing and owning your authentic value in a relationship may be happening because your inner girl is still choosing your partners and making decisions in your relationships. So, you seek validation or settle in a relationship. In this episode, we deep dive into the three main relationship patte...
Apr 10, 2023•26 min•Season 6Ep. 24
In this episode, Zara breaks down why discovering your relationship patterns will be the turning point of your love life- not just for your love life but your other relationships, your career, your finances, your health and your self image. What takes you from being a Wounded Princess to a Captivating Queen is healing your inner child. Your inner child has felt insecure, abandoned, ignored, unheard and triggered. This is why, even now, your inner child is running the show. This is why, after all...
Apr 03, 2023•42 min•Season 6Ep. 23
If you attract emotionally unavailable men there may be a chance you are also emotionally unavailable. Do you want to know how to build and turn a long distance courtship into marriage? Maryama says “Don’t wait until things get worse. The sooner you take action, the better your life will be!” If you’re a successful millennial woman and you have been actively courting and dating and you don’t know where to start, this podcast is tailor-made for YOU! When she joined coaching, Maryama felt like she...
Mar 27, 2023•46 min•Season 6Ep. 22
YOUR BRAIN IS NOT WIRED TO FIND LOVE! The good news is that you can rewire it. Do you feel like every time you take one step forward with attracting a partner, you go three steps back in your love life? Do you at this point question your desirability or ability to find love? We are all operating on negative thought loops and patterns we default to because they feel familiar and safe. The way out of this cycle is to learn how to process from the present and the future instead of your past. You ha...
Mar 20, 2023•28 min•Season 6Ep. 21
Do you feel like no matter how close you get to commitment & marriage, you still are far away? Do you find it difficult to communicate your needs or are you often subject to hiccups, conflict and drama in commitment conversations? If yes, this podcast is made for YOU! It has that one secret that could be holding you back from commitment. Conversations about commitment need you to have your defenses down. If you communicate from a place of need, your commitment conversation can go left. Remem...
Mar 13, 2023•31 min•Season 6Ep. 20
Did the man you were dating/courting take all your attention and not commit to you? What if you knew the exact reasons why, and what steps you can take to lead to different outcomes in your courtship process so you can actually attract commitment? You wouldn't waste time on a non committal or emotionally unavailable guy again, right? High-achieving women like you don’t need to hand over all control and power to attract commitment. A happy healthy woman will pour into other cups too. She will bre...
Mar 10, 2023•25 min•Season 6Ep. 19
Twenty-three percent of Americans aged 30-49 are single. With millions of Americans looking to attract a relationship and committed partner you may ask yourself, "Why am I still single?" This episode will bring clarity and help you take intentional action towards a high quality love life so that you can attract a compatible partner for marriage. We delve into the three beliefs of Desirability, Availability and Inevitability and the 8 reasons holding you back from taking actionable steps to impro...
Mar 06, 2023•45 min•Season 6Ep. 18
If you’re someone who struggles with inconsistent communication with men, over-investing in someone who is not ready yet or find it difficult to maintain your boundaries, then this is an episode tailor-made for you. This episode reflects on the importance of communication. There can be different types of communication like articulate and effective. Being good at one doesn’t ensure the other. What about what you should FEEL when you’re in the right commitment, how your struggles can affect your r...
Mar 03, 2023•41 min•Season 6Ep. 17
Do you feel like no matter how consistent you are with dating, your love life isn’t moving forward? Well, that could be because of love blocks. Love blocks create relationship patterns in your life. These love blocks could look like childhood wounds, triggers, self sabotage and abandonment. Many high achieving women let relationship anxiety, communication issues, disappointment, or low self-worth hold them back from attracting the right partner. Identifying your relationship patterns such as fea...
Feb 27, 2023•36 min•Season 6Ep. 16
In this episode, we dive into setting clear boundaries and knowing when and why you need to lean back to build a sustainable, stable relationship. Join us for this Monday’s Coffee Chat as we explore things you can do before reacting to disrespect in your relationships. One key to attracting your ideal partner is being clear on your own relationship needs. The more clear you are on your relationship needs, the more intuitive you will be in courtship and choosing the right partner. Clarity will he...
Feb 20, 2023•52 min•Season 6Ep. 14
If you've been searching for answers and trying to figure out what you aren’t doing or what needs to shift in your love life to attract a compatible partner and an exclusive relationship that will lead to marriage, this episode is for you. You want to finally move into the next chapter of your life Yet, you think you're only meeting men who aren’t serious or ready for commitment and you feel clueless about courtship. This may cause you to ask why your experiences won’t go past a certain point? A...
Feb 17, 2023•34 min•Season 6Ep. 13
If you're meeting men and the relationships only last for a few conversations, weeks or short months but not fully moving into a secure, committed relationship then this episode is for you. When you've been in a cycle of this type of dating and courtship experiences then you will feel uncertain about where the relationship is headed and if your time is being valued with the potential for a real future with a man. This is an important cycle to break, especially for women over 30 because you do wa...
Feb 13, 2023•32 min•Season 6Ep. 12
Today I’m sharing 10 courtship secrets of confident successful women. These women often do a great job of masking what’s really going on in their love lives and how they actually feel. If you are like many confident successful women are hopeless romantics who are extremely resilient with relationships. You will try again and again the same way you go after any career goal in life. The thing is with career goals most follow a career success path and know the blueprint to achieve their goal. Howev...
Feb 10, 2023•41 min•Season 6Ep. 11
Over my years of running a matchmaking service I had the privilege of getting the inside scoop of what commitment ready men actually want and have concerns about when it comes to making the decision for commitment. These men were actively looking for wives and would share their personal thoughts and feelings with me to ensure they were introduced to the types of women they'd want to commit to. In this episode you'll learn three things matchmaking taught me about commitment ready men and what you...
Feb 08, 2023•34 min•Season 6Ep. 10
Regardless of how confident a woman may appear on the outside, many high achieving women have a deep fear of never being lovable. This leads to seeking validation, chasing unavailable men, and never feeling worthy or good enough to have the type of commitment they want. Surprisingly, many successful women have low standards when it comes to love. Yes, they may be attracted to and even enter situationships or relationships with men who would be considered high status or a prize, but they settle f...
Feb 04, 2023•36 min•Season 6Ep. 9
After 8 years of helping women attract partners so that they can get married I’ve learned that courtship is actually a simple process. It’s not easy. But it’s simple. Right now you may think it’s difficult and complicated because that’s what your past experiences have taught you. So because you’ve been winging it for so long you have patterns that cause you to repeat past mistakes. In this episode we discuss why it's time to stop overcomplicating courtship and how to make it simple. DM "5 STEPS"...
Jan 30, 2023•21 min•Season 6Ep. 8
Today's episode is a Monday Coffee Chat replay. Coffee Chats are living coaching calls in the CCC student community where students get to submit questions for live feedback and coaching. This call features insight on the first 30 days of courtship, the importance of being present during the first 30 days, and why it's more important to focus on intention vs attention in the early stages of dating & courtship with a new man. 15 Minute Courtship Assessment Call https://Captivatingcourtship.as....
Jan 23, 2023•30 min•Season 6Ep. 7
“Choosing you is always the best option,” says mom and entrepreneur, Ceceily, of The Captivating Courtship Code coaching. In her thirties, with three children, she finally feels like she has full permission to be her most authentic self in relationships. In this episode, Ceceily details adjusting to life after divorce and rediscovering dating and courtship as a newly single woman. She discusses how she struggled to distinguish the values learned as a child from the values she truly embodied as a...
Jan 20, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Season 6Ep. 6
You’ve already tried therapy, reading books on attachment styles, and personal development so that you feel more confident, heal from your past, and invest in being a better you. Yet, you can’t figure out why all of the growth you’ve made isn’t working in your love life and helping you to attract better men? This is because feeling anxious and emotionally attaching to men too quickly, is due to you not being clear on knowing if a man will commit and how the courtship process actually works. In t...
Jan 16, 2023•29 min•Season 6Ep. 5
If you anxiously attach as soon as you like a guy and put all your eggs and focus in his basket this episode is for you. When you are dating & courted for a few weeks or months, and then the relationship doesn’t turn into actual commitment, it may cause you take some time off out of frustration and disappointment. Then after some time you may work up the courage to do it all over again, and the new cycle begins. Feeling like you’re on a treadmill is exhausting. And you can stay in this same ...
Jan 13, 2023•36 min•Season 6Ep. 4
A secret many high achieving successful women have is that they struggle with confidence and self worth. And society has made the mistake of confusing a woman with goals with a woman who isn’t fragile, fears rejection and failure, and a woman who doesn’t actually have it all together. So you’re often treated as strong, or expected to have all of the answers, or to figure it out on your own. And while this may have allowed you to accomplish things you’ve set out to make happen…it’s also left you ...
Jan 09, 2023•24 min•Season 6Ep. 3
Being a matchmaker taught me there’s a luxury in the convenience of having help with love. The successful men and women I worked with as a matchmaker understood the benefit of accelerating their path to love. Yet they would overcomplicate finding a partner even with help. I realized there were key things happening: Overthinking, Anxiousness and Emotionally Attaching to Outcome Not Actually Being Clear on Right Partners and Courtship Process Confidence on the Outside While Not Feeling Good Enough...
Jan 06, 2023•49 min•Season 6Ep. 2
If you reflect on the last 6 months and you have had some ups and downs with meeting men, yet you are feeling confident that there are men available then you may be thinking something is missing that’s blocking you from attracting the right relationship for you. Maybe you feel challenged with getting to 3 months and exclusivity, or had a breakup within the last 6 months and you are ready to move on? Are you confident you can get to 4-6 weeks with a man with ease, yet you aren’t clear why relatio...
Jan 02, 2023•32 min•Season 6Ep. 1
Are you trying to figure out why your relationships aren’t lasting longer than 30 days? Do you want to know why after months of building an emotional connection the relationship isn’t moving forward to actual commitment or engagement? Do you want to actually take the next steps towards getting married? If you want to actually enjoy dating & courtship and you want to see progress in a relationship that leads to actual commitment without wasting time or pressuring a man to try and get him to c...
Dec 30, 2022•32 min•Season 5Ep. 65
Are you feeling clueless about courtship? If you've taken some steps towards attracting a compatible man for marriage but the relationships aren’t lasting or the men you are meeting aren’t fully committing and you’re not quite sure why, this episode is for you. Here's the thing, right now you may be taking some old outdated ways to date/court the men you’re meeting and it’s not working for you, especially if you’re a woman who’s over 30 and you’re trying to be intentional about getting married. ...
Dec 26, 2022•25 min•Season 5Ep. 64
