Are you an overwhelmed Olivia? If you are successful with a demanding career, balancing life and love can feel very overwhelming, and your romantic life may even take a backseat to your career. Despite your professional achievements, you struggle with relationship anxiety and constantly finds yourself emotionally attached to men who are unavailable or unwilling to commit. In this episode we discuss how to avoid feeling burnout from unsuccessful dating experiences, and how to deal with clinginess...
Feb 23, 2024•30 min
🌟 Ready to break free from relationship anxiety and find lasting love? Join me for the Captivating Weekend virtual event! 🌟 If you're a high-achieving woman who's tired of feeling overwhelmed and burnt out in your dating life, this workshop is for you. Discover proven strategies to overcome self-sabotaging relationship patterns, cultivate confidence, and attract the love you deserve. For 3 days we will work together in an intimate event to help you get crystal clear on how to break your relati...
Feb 22, 2024•9 min
Are you stuck in a courtship loop? If you have been meeting men and it feels like you are attracting the same experiences over and over again or if you feel clueless about why you feel stuck in your love life, you may be in a courtship loop. Courtship Loops are a connecting pattern in your relationship experiences that shows where you have been settling, shrinking, or not in your value. Once you are clear on your Courtship Loops, you can quickly identify where you need to grow and how to acceler...
Feb 19, 2024•27 min
Over the years of working with clients and helping them o shift their patterns and find love, one thing that's for certain: No journey to love is the same. Every client success story has come with their own path and ups and downs. By understanding that no journey to love is the same you will be able to better embrace your unique circumstance. You will gain a deeper appreciation for your own journey and look to the lessons and experiences as positive check points leading to the relationship you d...
Feb 12, 2024•33 min
If you often feel weighed down with anxious thoughts, fears and doubts when it comes to relationships this episode is for you. Feeling insecure and anxious is one of the most common sabotaging behaviors that breaks promising relationships. Although it's totally normal to feel insecure at times during dating and courtship, when insecurities become a constant problem in your love life, you will want to learn to manage your emotions, fears, and doubts so that they stop holding you back from love. I...
Feb 08, 2024•50 min
When you start your journey to partnership you may think you should focus on where to meet men, how to create emotional connection, or how to allow a man to pursue you so that you go from single to committed. You may think your biggest challenge is avoiding men who are time wasters so that you don’t fall into the situationship trap or get emotionally attached too soon to a man who isn’t ready to commit. While these things are partially true and should be a part of taking control of your love lif...
Feb 02, 2024•44 min
For many high achieving women, despite how confident you may be on the outside, you may feel very indecisive and uncertain when it comes to dating and relationships. This uncertainty creates major insecurity. Insecurity leads to feeling very hesitant to make decisions in your love life that actually creates the outcome you desire. Then, your go to solution will be to vent to your friends or family for advice. Leaning on friends and family for relationship advice is a well intended action. Yet, i...
Jan 15, 2024•59 min
In this episode we reflect on courtship lessons of 2023, what to expect from Captivating Courtship, and new services and programs in 2024. To get the 2024 service guide, email or DM "MORE" @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram or book a consultation. Book a 30 minute consultation: www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Love Loops mini course - Discover your relationship patterns and how to change them Join The Captivating Courtship Code Coaching - Enjoy the...
Jan 08, 2024•47 min
Oftentimes when I'm working with clients who find themselves repeating relationship patterns, anxiously attached, or fearful of getting hurt their main focus during dating & courtship is to change the man. Your love lens is so intensely focused on him that you may not realize your subconscious fears are causing you to show up as controlling, needy, or simply less attractive. This is the opposite of what you actually want, right? Right. This behavior causes drama, pushes the man away, and pre...
Jan 01, 2024•1 hr 2 min•Season 7Ep. 1
One of the biggest triggers you may face on your path to partnership is the concept that you are the problem in your love life. When you embrace the idea that you may be PART of the problem, you open the door to change your current relationship status that no longer serves you. You will now have the opportunity to explore aspects of yourself that may feel uncomfortable to own. Which means you have the privilege to get to the root of your challenges, transform, and actually grow so that you can a...
Dec 25, 2023•36 min
One of the scarier aspects of dating & courtship is opening yourself up to making new connections, feeling excited about the relationship, then fearing disappointment. When you finally meet a new man that you share a connection with, you so badly want the relationship to work that you subconsciously begin looking for all the reasons why it won't. This cycle is exhausting and a pattern you will want to break if you are serious about attracting a healthy, committed partner and lasting relation...
Dec 18, 2023•51 min
Are you feeling burnout from hot-cold relationships, situationships, and feeling like you are always on the edge of commitment? If so, there's a secret you are missing in dating and courtship that took me years to discover. In today's episode you will learn how anxiously attached women can get off the hot-cold relationship treadmill and finally attract commitment. Not only will you have a better understanding of how to navigate courtship with more ease, you will learn the missing piece that will...
Oct 23, 2023•50 min
Want to attract commitment yet find yourself feeling burnout, in situationships or breakups? If you find yourself anxiously overthinking then your relationship patterns are sabotaging your relationship success. In this episode we explore the biggest gap in your courtship and dating process, the commitment bridge. You will learn why you have a difficult time crossing the bridge to commitment, why women with an anxious attachment more often are in kinda-sorta relationships AKA situation ships and ...
Oct 17, 2023•39 min•Season 6Ep. 48
Do you find it difficult to stop anxious overthinking during the courtship process? If you find yourself getting deeply emotionally attached whenever the need for security and validation surface and it's sabotaging your love life, this episode is for you. Oftentimes, when you find yourself feeling fear and other emotions around a potential relationship going left, you may emotionally react and become needy, clingy, or combative and unintentionally push the man away or try to control the courtshi...
Oct 09, 2023•28 min•Season 6Ep. 47
Do you have difficulty allowing yourself to be fully authentic, vulnerable, and feel safe connecting with a man's heart? When you are attempting to attract commitment from sabotaging relationship patterns, child trauma, or unhealed wounds you will have a hard time communicating from your heart without fear of rejection, disappointment, or being judged. This is way, learning how to communicate and connect from the heart is one of the most powerful ways you can transform your love life and deepen ...
Sep 13, 2023•51 min•Season 6Ep. 46
Have you been selling yourself on settling? In this episode we discuss what it actually means to sell yourself on settling, why you do it, and how to stop so that you can attract the healthy relationship you deserve. Too often, women confuse settling with status, accolades, or even ego driven desires. However, actual settling is much deeper and has a greater mental, emotional, and spiritual impact. When you sell yourself on either settling to stay single or settling for less than you deserve in ...
Sep 12, 2023•49 min•Season 6Ep. 45
Have you been feeling burnt out with courtship and dating? The feeling of "burnout" is often linked to deeper emotions that's causing you to want to shutdown, avoid or simply do nothing with your love life. While it's understandable to feel frustrated or disappointed at times, being burnout is typically the result of managing your beliefs, emotions, and actions during the courtship process. Wanting a relationship is normal. Every human wants to feel understood, connected and loved. Yet, if you h...
Sep 04, 2023•56 min•Season 6Ep. 44
If you haven't felt sure about what steps to take to meet new men this episode is for you. Today, we're discussing Captivating Courtship's signature 5 step Love Links strategy and how you can use it to self-assess what actionable steps you can take to meet quality men and attract an authentically aligned partner. The Love Links strategy is a simple road map shared with The Captivating Courtship Code's clients to navigate the relationship market and expand dating and courtship options, without ov...
Aug 21, 2023•53 min•Season 6Ep. 43
The relationship pattern known as the LoveMe Love Loop is known for self-sacrificing during courtship, dating and relationships in order to people please and meet their potential partner's needs. The hopeless romantics of the 8 Love Loops, their willingness to prove their worth through people pleasing and shrinking their voice is their strongest form of self-sabotage that keeps them from having the relationship and connection they deeply desire. In this episode, we dive into the LoveMe Love Loop...
Aug 14, 2023•43 min•Season 6Ep. 42
Do you have the Trophy Love Loop? One of the biggest challenges with the Trophy Love Loop is having difficult keeping boundaries due to a fear of missing out. This fear is rooted in survival emotions that not only causes low value behaviors in relationships and your personal life, but it also causes you to attract and work to keep relationships that are low value and less than you deserve. All of this is rooted in thoughts, feelings and beliefs of not being worthy of the love and security you de...
Aug 07, 2023•31 min•Season 6Ep. 41
If you have been single for years or find yourself experiencing the same types of relationships, men, or courtship and dating experiences you may be in a Love Loop. Love Loops are the signature 8 sabotaging relationship patterns that makes it difficult to build a happy, healthy relationship that leads to long-term commitment or marriage. Each of the 8 Love Loops has different experiences, beliefs, feelings, and actions that keeps them in the loop. Some are more difficult to break than others. Ye...
Jul 31, 2023•1 hr•Season 6Ep. 40
In this episode we discuss how you can take the leap to captivating courtship this year. Zara opens up about challenges, pivots, and changes needed in order to create the most aligned vision and ways to assist women transform their relationship patterns so they can improve the quality of their love life and attract a healthy relationship. You will learn about new programs, services, and coaching options available to assist you with the most important aspects of the dating and courtship process s...
Jul 17, 2023•44 min•Season 6Ep. 39
Do you need to heal to attract a healthy relationship? This episode is a special live coaching episode that dives into questions about making the decision to heal and prepare for marriage instead of waiting until you are in the marriage and working with your spouse to heal from past trauma. We discuss the impact itself -esteem and self-worth on your ability to attract a healthy relationship, along with thoughts around having to choose between being single and focusing on travel and career vs foc...
Jul 11, 2023•53 min•Season 6Ep. 38
This episode is from Captivating Courtship's monthly live training hosted by Zara J. Come join live and learn with us about the latest tools, tips, and information in the dating and relationship industry. In this episode, we discuss practical steps to find a spouse, blocks that may be holding you back, and the main focus to increase potential options if you have not been courted by a man for at least 30 days, in the last 6 months. Apply to The Captivating Courtship Code coaching program www.capt...
Jul 03, 2023•42 min•Season 5Ep. 37
In this episode, we dive deep into the world of courtship and dating, focusing on successful women aged 28-43 who have a burning desire to find love and get married within the next 12 months. Join us as we unmask the most common courtship and dating mistakes that may be hindering their path to marriage and provide a roadmap for success. We begin by discussing the importance of setting clear relationship goals and defining the path to marriage. By understanding what you truly desire in a life par...
Jun 26, 2023•48 min•Season 5Ep. 36
When you are in survival mode being in your authenticity and attracting a man who shares your authentic values in courtship is a challenge. This is because when you are anxious, fearful of getting hurt, or trying to control the outcome of the relationship you aren't focused on building meaningful connections. Instead, you will simply focus on securing the man or the relationship, even if he is the wrong partner for you. While it's a good thing to have resilience in courtship, applying pressure o...
Jun 22, 2023•19 min
How do you push past an ex and deal with interfaith relationships? In today's coaching episode, we'll have an insightful conversation about how to do just that. In relationships and specifically interfaith relationships, it's important to understand why we feel the way we do and process our emotions. In this episode, she admits that she still misses her ex because he had certain qualities that she can't find in other men around her. But as she digs deeper, she realizes that she's not open to rec...
Jun 19, 2023•39 min•Season 6Ep. 33
You don’t need to go through pain and relationship issues for months or years on end to find a valuable man who is worthy of you. Today’s episode brings to you freshly brewed stories for the Captivating Courtship Code which are examples to tell you How and why to stop wasting time with a relationship that’s going nowhere. Many high-achieving women rush into the dating and courtship process, focusing solely on the outcome. This will lead to being in cycles of non-committal relationships, investin...
Jun 12, 2023•49 min•Season 6Ep. 32
Humility in your spirit is a beautiful virtue to have but it can make you shrink in your courtship process in a way that is unhealthy for both your partner and most importantly, you. Take a deep dive into this episode to know why humility does not serve successful women during dating and courtship. Since time immemorial women have been taught to be less, speak less, and express less. It has never been safe for a woman, especially women of color to be seen and heard. We grow with generational tra...
Jun 05, 2023•55 min•Season 6Ep. 31
If you have been dedicating 10-15 years of your life to education, growth, and self-development, you deserve a partner who understands you and is authentically aligned with your values. Today’s episode brings you an in-depth dive into the 3rd and 4th mistakes of the Courtship Mistakes series of episodes in our podcast! If you find yourself jumping into situations that don’t go too far, it is because there is somewhere in you a lack of confidence in your own ability to feel valued, loved, and res...
May 22, 2023•37 min•Season 6Ep. 30
