As we transition out of spring and into summer, what are we expecting? Claire and Kellie check in with listeners, discuss the "re-opening" of the country, and wonder what boundaries others are observing since there's mostly radio silence on social media. Mentions: The Daily: The Governor and The Protestor Focaccia Gardens Who you should let into your Coronavirus quarantine orbit? Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)...
May 05, 2020•41 min
This week we're discussing the stages, cycles, and stasis of this pandemic and isolation. "Life creates itself in delirium and is undone in ennui" - Emil Cioran, Romanian philosopher with a penchant for nihilism. You, know... Just keeping it light today. ;) Mentions: Intuitive Eating Kübler-Ross Model: 5 Stages of Grief The Liturgists, “Grief” “Ennui” - /änˈwē/ a feeling of being bored and mentally tired caused by having nothing interesting or exciting to do Forbes : Flatten, Fight, Emerge “ How...
Apr 28, 2020•33 min
And why Claire is pressing shower curtains. Mentions: Cape Fear Regional Theater Savanna Kaye Photography Science Mike’s Book: You’re a Miracle (and a Pain in the Ass) The Office: The Untold Story of the Greatest Sitcom of the 2000s Some Good News Melatonin Wine Monitor Video Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)...
Apr 21, 2020•50 min
Mentions: April 12 Weather + Easter tornadoes Grief during social distancing Enneagram types in stress Milspo Gurus Enneagram Milspo Snapshots Brené Brown’s podcast, Unlocking Us: Anxiety, Calm, + Over/Under-functioning Apple, Google, and the Coronavirus HBO’s Westworld “ Prepare for the Ultimate Gaslighting ” Kellie’s favorite 1990s icon Send us your Welfare Check to kellie@milspogurus.com or claire@milspogurus.com Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)...
Apr 14, 2020•50 min
We're back for another Welfare Check episode, and this time we brought friends! Listen in to our check in with each other, and hear how some of our listeners are also doing. Mentions: Kanban Method (Project Management System) “ That Discomfort You’re Feeling is Grief ” Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score Lori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone ANG, Drink Less (Episode 21) Drinker’s Helper app Milspouse Matters, Temporary Homeschooling During the Coronavirus Pandemic #alonet...
Apr 07, 2020•49 min
It's time for another Corona Virus Welfare Check, and lucky for you we've had time to binge everyone's obsession -- The Tiger King on Netflix. As we enter week three (for most of us) of quarantine/shelter-in-place/social distancing, Claire and Kellie check in with each other and compare what coping strategies, impulse purchases, and nonsense distractions are helping pass the time and alleviate anxiety. We actually packed a lot into this conversation, as well as featuring some advice and checkins...
Mar 31, 2020•59 min
We decided to break format to make space for the events of the world and honor the emotions we're experiencing during the Coronavirus outbreak. So, we'll be doing weekly " Welfare Checks " with each other and with all of you for the foreseeable future. These episodes will be short and sweet, and we'll strive to bring you something to smile about and appreciate as together we navigate complex feelings, anxiety, lack of focus, and who knows what else. Also, we want to hear from you! What advice do...
Mar 24, 2020•20 min
**BONUS EPISODE** Our "No Advice | Just Opinions" podcast is typically reserved for our Patreon Subscribers, but we recorded this one as a departure from our regularly scheduled content on Advice Not Given. We wanted to add some thoughts to what's going on in the world to hopefully provide some solace for those making the unpopular and uncomfortable choice to follow extreme social distancing (as Claire and I both are). Enjoy! And stay home. ;) We mixed things up today and hosted a Facebook lives...
Mar 18, 2020•47 min
What areas of your life do you need to recognize where you need to “quit forcing it?” Learn how mindfulness and recognizing natural life patterns may help you give yourself the patience, grace, and love you need to relinquish that need for control. Mentions: Kelsey Timas of Guiding Wellness seven year cycles of life shadow side Richard Rohr, Universal Christ Kellie and Claire’s conversation (starts at 42:50) The number seven in the Bible Shakespeare’s Seven Ages of Man You are not a human doing....
Mar 17, 2020•1 hr 1 min
How are you maximizing your personal productivity? Join us as we share some of our favorite productivity hacks to help manage time and most of all set us up to be living out our priorities. Mentions: Keep a digital profile for each of your own “personas” (Chrome extensions) Time Blocking Last Pass password keeper Keep a portable version of hard copies of vital documents Turbo Scan and Genius Scan Wunderlist “The Sunday Night Meeting” Write the vision and make it plain Apple Pay Launch Notebook (...
Mar 10, 2020•53 min
There is so much to consider when you have to relocate. We share some practical steps to free up your physical and mental bandwidth by being mindful in your planning and solutions to this major life change. Mentions: Episode 25 Settling Your Space with Tara Bremer Kellie’s day job ( MILLIE ) Already--But Not Yet (Claire’s personal blog post about moving) Recovery From Relocation Jordan Jean blog (Air Force spouse selling fully furnished house) PCSing With Kids PCS Brain The Organized Mom Actual ...
Mar 03, 2020•51 min
Have you ever connected intimacy disconnects to how connected you are to your body? Join us for a grown up “sex talk” as we tackle common intimacy blocks and why we think we sometimes can’t quite get there … And be sure to stick around for Actual Advice from Dr. Laurel Proulx, PT, DPT, OCS. She's here to talk all things from the "nipples to the knees." Mentions: Grace and Frankie on Netflix The goop lab with Gwyneth Paltrow on Netflix (NSFW) Great thought piece on Purity Culture and shame Advice...
Feb 25, 2020•1 hr 3 min
Do you know your Enneagram number? If so, now what? Listen in to see how knowing your Hornevian and Harmonic Grouping can help you get your needs met in relationships with others as well as serve you in conflict resolution. And stick around for our conversation with Sarajane Case of Enneagram and Coffee for her input on the importance of knowing your enneagram type in relationships. Mentions: Why the Enneagram ? (ANG Episode 4) Milspo Gurus Becoming Your Own Guru eCourse Enneagram Hornevian Grou...
Feb 18, 2020•47 min
Dealing with and loving extended family members and parenting can be challenging. Give yourself the same grace and benefit of the doubt you’d give your best friend. Mentions: Parent or Friend? Play the long game Tristen Watson Emoji your people in your phone Sacred Spaces (Corie’s book) Corie’s podcast interview with Kim Weathers (her mother in law) InDependent Wellness Summit 2020 Actual Advice Guest: Corie Weathers, LPC 2015 AFI Military Spouse of the Year, & Author. Website: corieweathers...
Feb 11, 2020•48 min
In honor of their SIX Oscar nominations, and take home win for Best Costume Design, we're releasing our bonus (patron only) episode of No Advice, Just Opinions for our chat about Little Women. Enjoy! We're jumping in QUICK with this month's Patron only podcast episode so buckle up and let's get to all the things we're watching, reading, and listening to (and our takes on all)! We’re also breaking down our takeaways from the movie, Little Women by Greta Gerwig. Links below to ease your Googling. ...
Feb 10, 2020•51 min
What does a successful marriage look like? Listen in as we discuss trust, integrity, communication, and commitment. Mentions: Email sign-up for our monthly Guru Greetings Newsletter 20 for 2020 Patreon Campaign Julie Benson (Handmade Quilts) Richard Rohr Universal Christ The Five Love Languages Leaving and Cleaving Actual Advice Guest: Ryan Wood - Nice Try! He's a ghost online so you'll have to just contact Claire. :) VISIT The Full Episode Page Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogu...
Feb 04, 2020•49 min
How do you feel about all of your belongings and how do you manage or arrange them in your space? Do you find a correlation between peace, calm, and order or do you find your creativity with just a little chaos? Mentions: Outer Order, Inner Calm Marie Kondo A Perfect Mess “Stressed Out” Washington Post article 11 Benefits of an Organized Home Actual Advice Guest: Tara Bremer (29:00) House Peace , @house.peace Tara’s Mentions: “Just in Case” The Minimalists + The 20/20 Rule Bed, Bath, & Beyon...
Jan 28, 2020•48 min
Are you an early bird, a night owl, or something in between? Science tells us that there may be reasons why your productivity surges and wanes throughout the day based on your answer. Mentions: When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing (Daniel H. Pink) iPhone Bedtime Feature Headspace Don’t Make Important Decisions Late in the Afternoon Be Focused App Pomodo Technique Nappuccios Goals + Resolutions (Episode 23) Know Your Value-- Paychecks (Episode 7) Surviving Sarah Podcast Get to Work Book...
Jan 21, 2020•1 hr 2 min
Do You Make and Keep New Year’s Resolutions? Do you make New Years Resolutions? If you do, what is your motivation for doing so? If not, why not? Kellie is Team No and Claire is definitely Camp Yes and has the vision board to prove it. ⠀⠀ In Episode 23 we tackle the science behind why people make and break resolutions, share some of why we do or don’t do them, and look at how self-awareness impacts the process. Complete Show Notes Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/milspogurus)...
Jan 14, 2020•47 min
Quick recap of our December series: Move More , Eat Better , Drink Less Quick recap of our own Christmas celebrations and mini check-ins from Claire about her "baggage" she didn't take home; Kellie's plan of going home backfired--but it ended up being a great break What lessons or reflections from 2019 are we taking with us into the new year? Claire learned that being an elementary teacher is not her jam--she can still be a teacher but it doesn't have to be in a full-time traditional classroom f...
Jan 07, 2020•41 min
As we finish up part three of our three part series, we open up a HUGE can of worms with a conversation about alcohol. We know it’s a doozy (or maybe a boozy) of a topic. Kellie and Claire come at this issue from vastly different perspectives but as always hope to find common understanding as they look at some of the dangers of the mommy wine culture, how alcohol impacts military families, and what others’ motivations for drinking are. They close out the episode with some practical tips on how t...
Dec 31, 2019•44 min
Merry Christmas Eve! Claire and Kellie keep this episode light and entertaining as they share how they each “do” Christmas. They each give a yes or no (and plenty of opinions) on Christmas magic, Christmas trees (real or fake), Elf on the Shelf, crafts, and many other traditions and expectations they place upon themselves. <<< WARNING >>> This episode is not for little ears who still believe in Christmas magic. Advice Not Given: Christmas is a wonderful holiday but there are ma...
Dec 24, 2019•50 min
We are back for part two of our three part series on taking back control over some areas of our lives as one year ends and we look toward the next one beginning. In Eat Better Kellie and Claire try to wade through the noise of the general public and all of the often times conflicting information about eating well. Advice Not Given: Let’s begin with the wonderful phenomenon of middle age known as a slowing metabolism. Kellie and Claire both share about their own changes in diet and how that is im...
Dec 17, 2019•1 hr 1 min
Kellie and Claire kick off part one of a three part series on taking back control over things for which they DO have some agency as one year ends and a new one is about to begin. In Move More they discuss their personal evolution of exercise; they uncover their past and present motivations for staying active; and they sift through all of the varying reasons why physical fitness is one vital piece of the overall wellness puzzle in their lives. Advice Not Given: Kellie starts off our discussion wi...
Dec 10, 2019•50 min
In this week’s episode, Kellie and Claire discuss the nuanced topic of friendship: particularly how making (and maintaining) friendships evolves the older you get. They share some of their best qualities they offer in friendship. They take a look at how each Enneagram type needs to feel connected with a friend. Finally, they discuss whether or not the difficulties/opportunities they have when constantly curating relationships is strengthening and growing them or if it is depleting/draining them....
Dec 03, 2019•59 min
This week Kellie and Claire talk all about the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday. They share some fun memories of childhood Thanksgivings gone by and current insights on Thanksgiving as military service families. They talk turkey, travel, traditions and they share thoughts on Black Friday and other marketing initiatives. Think of this episode like your favorite sweet potato casserole: filling, savory, and sweet--topped off with a little something extra! Advice Not Given Kellie shares about her Thank...
Nov 26, 2019•44 min
In this week’s episode Kellie and Claire take a look at what it means to be able to tolerate uncertainty. They explore some common scenarios where people (and service families, in particular) have pain points with uncertainty. They explore the scientific aspects of “intolerance of uncertainty,” paying particular attention to what prolonged periods of the ensuing stress can do to our mental health. As always they offer up some practical strategies of how becoming aware of this phenomenon and what...
Nov 19, 2019•49 min
Catch this exclusive look at the bonus content being offered on Patreon to Milspo Gurus and Advice Not Given Podcast supporters! On No Advice, Just Opinions , we'll share our "currently..." lists. You know, currently reading, watching, and listening to (with elaborate commentary). We'll also tackle a hot topic in the news. All in a bolder, edgier way. In this episode, we're dishing our reading/watching/listening to lists, packaging up a way to extend Hallmark's Holiday Movie season, celebrating ...
Nov 15, 2019•39 min
In this week’s episode Claire and Kellie share in response to some of the feedback they’ve gotten on Instagram when Kellie put out the call asking, “What are the hardest parts of military life?” Many responders commented on the disconnect between their own military lifestyle and the lack of information and awareness of well-meaning friends, family, and civilians. Claire and Kellie talk broadly and personally about the things many of us wish people knew. Advice Not Given First things first: HUGE ...
Nov 12, 2019•54 min
Click Here to Listen on Your Favorite Podcast Player! In this week’s episode Claire and Kellie talk all about the idea of being a generalist versus a specialist. In David Epstein’s recent book Range , he argues that generalists are “triumphing in a specialized world.” Frequent relocation and upstarts in life have made many service member spouses generalists in their career fields and in their passions based on the location and opportunities available. Many of us think of this as a negative part ...
Nov 05, 2019•48 min
