Advice Not Given

Kellie Artis and Claire Wood•milspogurus.com

Join Kellie Artis and Claire Wood of Milspo Gurus for candid, truth-telling conversations between friends. Each week, they tackle topics ranging from the mundane to the existential with a heavy focus on the importance of self-awareness, balanced with not taking themselves too seriously. Walk away feeling a little less alone in the world, and share a laugh at their clumsy transparency through all the mid-life struggles. You’re invited to eavesdrop as they give each other the advice you didn’t ask for but wish you did, as well as the occasional Actual Advice from experts they know IRL.

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Solo Parenting Through Separations

Click Here to Listen on Your Favorite Podcast Player! In this week’s episode the topic hits close to home as Kellie prepares for a deployment and Claire has recently shared on this theme at a local MOPS (Moms of Preschoolers) group. Listen in as they discuss some common fears about solo parenting and offer up practical tips for thriving through a forced separation when all of the parenting falls squarely on your shoulders. Hint: lots of self-care tips ahead! Advice Not Given Kellie has had a sev...

Oct 29, 2019•49 min

When to Shine & When to Lay Low

Click Here to Listen on Your Favorite Podcast Player! In this week’s episode Kellie and Claire discuss a tension they regularly find themselves in as they move around. There is a fine line between utilizing and offering your gifts and expertise each time you enter a new professional, service, or relational situation and recognizing that a situation doesn’t warrant the help or is just fine without your insights for change. They share tips on how to do this tactfully while being true to themselves...

Oct 22, 2019•40 min

Are You Listening?

In this week’s episode Kellie and Claire discuss whether they are good or bad listeners. They share some real life instances when they could have listened better. They deep dive one particular active listening technique, Active Constructive Responding (ACR) and its framework as well as take a look at a listening assessment put out by Psychology Today. Advice Not Given Claire tells about a discussion where Ryan called her out on her poor listening strategy. He even went so far as to use some of h...

Oct 15, 2019•50 min

#SquadGoals

In this week’s episode, we break from traditional form and decide to take a little trip. We need a retreat and you probably do too! Time, childcare, and finances can often restrict us, but in this episode we say the sky is the limit and we create our dream get-away. Won’t you join us? Advice Not Given: Pick your setting. Mountains? Beach? Rustic? Luxe and lavish? International? You get to decide. Pick your activities. Do you prefer lots of group talk and sharing? Quiet and solitary reflection? D...

Oct 08, 2019•48 min

Imposter syndrome

Advice Not Given Do you suffer from Imposter Syndrome? Do you have this feeling that sneaks up on you and tells you that you don’t deserve something good in your life? This can happen in professional settings, but also in friend relationships, social settings, or even at a dinner party. Imposter Syndrome can make you feel insecure and like you don’t belong. Claire felt this deeply at last year’s Seed Spot Incubator Camp in D.C. and Kellie has felt it at a dinner party with a group of people wher...

Oct 01, 2019•48 min

Paychecks

You may be thinking this episode has everything to do with professional work and salaries and pay gaps. We touch a little on those things but the primary focus of episode 7 is deciding what, beyond monetary compensation, is a paycheck in our lives. We discuss intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation and share personally about the things in our own lives that bring great reward. Advice Not Given What motivates you in all of the different areas of your life? How do you find and measure success? How do y...

Sep 24, 2019•48 min

Social Media

How do you live mindfully with social media? What are your favorite apps? Which ones do you tend to avoid? How do these platforms benefit you? Have you taken notice of how social media negatively impacts you (mentally, physically, or emotionally)? How do you monitor your usage and input? Join us in Episode 006 as we try to untangle our own ideas about this powerful tool for connection and engagement. Advice Not Given: Can you identify your triggers on social media? What are they? Unfollow people...

Sep 17, 2019•48 min

Hello, Goodbye

This week Kellie and Claire discuss the idea of using the endings and beginnings of new seasons as an opportunity to reflect and learn. Join us in Episode 5 as we share our fun end of summer traditions that alert us to the changing seasons. We share about how NOT using these rhythmic opportunities of change can be a detriment to personal growth. Do you have any signifiers, rituals, or traditions that you use to help you usher in new seasons? Do you take time to reflect on the closing of certain ...

Sep 10, 2019•36 min

The Enneagram

This week Kellie and Claire give an overview of the Enneagram--and they are pretty proud they were able to wait until Episode 004 to break their silence. They share how they each first discovered it and how it made an immediate impact in their lives. There’s a quick rundown on some basic Enneagram history and a highlight of each of the nine types. Do you know yours? We caution against the over-simplification and reductiveness of how the Enneagram is portrayed on Instagram and its rise in popular...

Sep 03, 2019•47 min

Boundaries: No is a Complete Sentence

No. Did you know that these two letters and a period make a complete sentence? When setting boundaries you do not have to give explanations or apologies or consolation remarks. Join Kellie and Claire as they discuss the idea of boundaries. Does placing boundaries in your roles and relationships come easily to you? Or are you the kind of person who says, “What boundaries?” Do you tend to think of boundaries as something you set in place for yourself to protect your own time and energies? Or do yo...

Aug 27, 2019•39 min

Be Present Where You Are

What do you do when your present reality doesn’t necessarily align with where you imagined that your youthful hopes and dreams would take you? Did your college or vocational training set you up for what you are doing today? Have you gotten fixated on an ideal or expectation for what your life might look like or are you still looking for it? Do you ever find yourself more invested in the end goal or an achievement than you do the process or pursuit of it? Join Kellie and Claire as they discuss th...

Aug 20, 2019•40 min

The Midlife Hump

How in the world did we get here? How do you reconcile your identity with your various roles? How do you regain a sense of control when life feels like it is spinning? Do you recognize your coping mechanisms and patterns? Which ones are healthy? And which ones, not so much? Join Kellie and Claire as they hash out their thoughts and feelings about midlife and how to pursue your overall well-being and relationships with purpose and intentionality. Advice Not Given: Be observant of yourself. Find s...

Aug 06, 2019•41 min

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